Mother of the groom speech or toast: How to easily and quickly write a heartfelt mother of the groom wedding speech for your son
Are you looking for easy-to-follow tips and ideas to help you write the best ever mother of the groom speech for your son and daughter-in-law?
If you are, then you are exactly where you need to be. Just bear with me for a little while and I will share with you…
- Tips and Ideas that can help you to easily and quickly write an amazing mother of the groom wedding toast
- What to include and what not to include in your mother of the groom wedding reception or rehearsal dinner speech
- How to use mother of the groom speech examples(the right way) to easily come up with a heartfelt and hilarious toast
- How to express your deepest sentiments about your daughter-in-law without offending her and her family...get it wrong and you will embarrass yourself and your son
- Plus several practical ideas you can weave into your own toast.
Are you ready for this? Now, this is what I want you to do now. Please put away every distraction and let’s get to work right away. Have you ever wondered why most mother of the groom speeches don’t pass muster while a few ones really hit the mark?
You see a lot of things come into play when you are planning to deliver a memorable mother of the groom wedding toast. You need excellent writing and presentation skills so your words can resonate with the wedding crowd. But, let’s face it. How many of us are blessed with those gifts?
Just a few I guess! Yet, in spite of your shortfalls, your son and your family will be counting on you to tell a memorable story about who your precious son is, how far he’s gotten in life, and what you look forward to as he starts the next chapter of his life with the bride.
That can be a little disheartening if you don’t know where to start or fear speaking before a small crowd. No matter how anxious you may be, this treasured tool can be your savior if you use it wisely. Can you guess what it is?
Mother of the groom speech examples! Mother of the groom speech templates because they have several ideas you can learn from and adapt for your own script even if you haven’t mastered the art of writing and speaking in public.
Well, in the next few lines, I am going to share with you a well-written mother of the groom wedding speech. Afterwards, we will break it down and analyze its components so you can figure out what goes into writing a unique and heartfelt mother of the groom wedding toast so you can have peace of mind. Please read through it carefully.
Here it is:
A Mother of the Groom Speech Example/Template
Hello everyone. I’m Amanda, Dan’s mom and I am so happy that we are finally here to celebrate with Dan and Stephanie and their true love story. We waited a year, but they finally got the wedding they deserve!
Dan has always been such a good heart. Even when I was pregnant with him, it was a dream pregnancy, so easy. Of course, the birth part was a bit less of a dream. 26 hours of labor.
Eric and I wore a path in that maternity ward, walking and walking all night long. Every time we’d pass the nursery we would stop and look at the babies. I couldn’t wait to finally meet him, but apparently you were just fine.
And your father with his camera! He took pictures of the whole thing to document my level of pain. But he stayed with me the entire time, and when the three of us could finally go home, he rented a limo to take us. Your first ride in a car was in a limo!
Dan was always very smart and basically a great kid. He did well in school, was loved by his teachers, had many friends, and he loved playing sports.
Dan was the best big brother in the world. Always looking out for his little brother, a great role model, very helpful, very supportive, they have a close relationship to this day, even though they are as different as night and day. That is always something that makes me so proud.
Growing up, Dan did not like riding on the horse, so we would always end up sitting on the bench. Going round and round sitting on a bench with a toddler.
One day when his grandparents were visiting, we went to the Fio Zoo. When Dan saw the elephant ride, he got excited and wanted to ride the elephant. There was a very long line and I thought , “oh great, we’re going to wait on this long line, I’m wearing a skirt and will have to straddle this elephant and I know he won’t go on.”
When we got to our turn sure enough, he jumped right up there and loved riding the elephant. He was afraid of the carousel horse; he had no problem riding the grand elephant. I think that says something about Dan.
He may be cautious when it comes to cheap thrills, but when it comes to something real? He embraces that part of life with everything he has.
In his teens, Dan played football and when they had to go for away games, he would just sit on the bus doing his homework. Dan was 1 of 10 valedictorians at his high school graduation.
Then he was off to college where he graduated in 4 years. I always thought he would make a great leader, like mother like son, right?
He is extremely passionate about what he does and his clients are full of praise for him. That’s why I could not imagine a more perfect partner for him than Stephanie . She’s also so hard- working and intelligent. And I’m still so glad that she’s actually family now.
You know, I started running in my 60’s and Stephanie and I completed our first half marathon together. She was a big support to me and always very encouraging.
When I ran the Boston Marathon she and the rest of my family was there to cheer me on. The reason I’m telling you this is it is a good example of something my husband always makes a point of saying.
He says that our “family’s vein” which did mean the four of us, and now that means the five of us. Me, my husband, Dan, his sister Mark and now Stephanie. We always stick together. I know that someday our family tree will be even bigger when Dan and Stephanie have beautiful babies.
We are always going to be here for the two of you as you go on this great marathon we call life. Don’t ever forget that.
And I hope that your home is always filled with love and laughter. To Dan and Stephanie!
Did that make your day? I enjoyed reading this short example. Guess what? This short template has several ideas you can model your speech after. We are going to dive right in by looking at how you can make the most out of that example.
But first, let’s take note of a few things that prevents wedding speech givers from delivering great speeches and how to make sure you don’t make those same classic mistakes.
I love this verse of scripture (Proverbs 23:7) that says that as a man thinks so he is. That scriptural verse reminds of a thoughtful little poem that reads like a wise father’s advice to his son.
It goes like this:
Watch your thoughts
For they become your words
Watch your words
For they become your actions
Watch your actions
For they become your habits
Watch your habits
For they become your character
Watch your character
For it becomes your destiny
When it comes to writing a mother of the groom speech, we can render it like this:
Watch your thoughts
For they can make you anxious
Watch the anxiety
For it can make you a poor speaker!
I brought this up because panic attacks or nervousness might actually stop you from stepping up to the plate even if you feel you are up to the task.
Having worked with wedding speakers the world over, I have realized that there’s no such thing as a terrible speaker. But, what sets great orators apart has to do with their mindsets.
If you consciously cultivate a positive mindset about speaking in public, you will gradually be shattering those widely-held limiting beliefs that hold most moms back from putting their best foot forward.
Limiting beliefs like:
- I am not a natural speaker
- I failed to impress last time…so, I am probably not going to live up to expectation…Such wrong thinking can ruin your performance…so, please leave the past in the past
- I would probably not do too well this time…but I will try anyway
- It goes on and on
Well, you can turn the tide around if you take control of the situation by preparing well ahead of time.
By the way, if stage fright makes you sick to death, then I would recommend that first watch this video.
It can be tempting to start jotting your thoughts down if you feel that you have some great memories about the groom. You can do that if your head is brimming with useful ideas and have a fair idea of how to start.
But, if you are still wondering how, then, it makes sense to cool down and watch a few mother of the groom speech videos so you can figure how it is done.
This is what I would like you to do now. Just watch these videos…say once or twice and write down ideas you think you can slot into your own mother of the groom wedding speech.
Here you go:
Mother of the groom speech sample (video#1)
Mother of the groom speech example (video#2)
I hope you enjoyed watching both clips. Now, let’s see how we can come up with our ideas using those visual and written resources.
To make things much easier, you first have to create an outline for your mother of the groom wedding toast. By studing the above example, we can deduce that the structure is built on these bullet points:
- Greetings
- Short self-introduction
- Thank your guests and other personalities
- Start your speech
- Talk about your son
- Talk about your daughter-in-law
- Talk about the bride and groom
- End with a bit of marriage advice or best wishes
- End with a toast
Most wedding speeches follow this format. You can simply follow that too if you want to stay in your comfort zone. If not, you are free to think outside the box if God gave you a creative mind before you landed on planet earth.
My drama professor used to say that it’s always best to know the rules before you think of breaking them. So I think we should stick to the above plan for the sake of convenience.
- Let’s start with the first idea on the list: greetings
That’s the easiest part of the speech to write, right? This is how it’s captured in the above example.
''Hello everyone. I’m Sandra, Dan’s mom and I am so happy that we are finally here to celebrate with Dick and Stephanie and their true love story. We waited a year, but they finally got the wedding they deserve!''
- Let’s look at the next item on the list: Short-Self Introduction
Here are a few examples:
- For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mary.
- I am the proud mother of the groom and right by side is my side chick of the last 40 years! I call him 50 cents…there’s a reason for that and I will get to that in my speech
- Most of you know as the mother of the groom with a nice nose….Well, I am actually his best friend and our friendship started from birth…
I could go on …But did you notice how I made the second and third points quite hilarious? Yeah….Most self-intros are boring but yours can pack a punch if you make it a little bit different. So, why not give it a try? Just make sure it’s not over the top .
- Let’s now consider the third idea on the list: Thank your guests and other personalities
You certainly can’t take the credit alone for where your son is now. This reminds me of the popular African proverb that says it takes a village to raise a child. It certainly has taken the positive influence of so many loving and caring family and friends to help raise him so well and you can’t let his big day slip away without acknowledging them.
Here’s an example:
To Lori and Pat, I’d like to thank you for raising
such an amazing lady. She’s an absolute credit to you both.
This is a mother thanking the parents of the bride. There are obviously many other persons she could have expressed appreciation to. Can you write down a few names you wish to give a shout out to?
Ok…l am going to list a few below.
- Your mom (the groom’s grandmom)
- Your dad(the groom’s grandma)….if they are both deceased, you can simply say they are looking down at him with pride
If they played an integral role in molding him, you can mention that briefly without casting a sad shadow over the event.
- Your husband or the father of the groom. If you are divorced or a single parent, you need not mention it. It would make sense if you forgive him. If you do that from a very sincere heart, your story might go viral and you will be admired for that. Remember, life is too short to keep a bitter record of one’s wrongs and rights.
Action Tip: Think for a moment, persons you wish to express gratitude to. Put down their names and indicate why you are referencing them in your speech.
- Having seen that, let’s move on to the fourth item on our list: Start your speech and talk about your son
This is the part most folks call the opening remarks or introductory address. This is how it’s captured in the mother of the groom speech template we saw at the onset.
‘’ Dan has always been such a good heart. Even when I was pregnant with him, it was a dream pregnancy, so easy. Of course, the birth part was a bit less of a dream. 26 hours of labor. Chris and I wore a path in that maternity ward…’’
If you read that extract a second and probably a third time, you will realize that it starts with a story and that’s what the wedding crowd love most. Stories are the heartbeat of all great wedding toasts. So, please start with one if you can think of a very good one.
Of course, there are many other interesting ways to start your mother of the groom speech and get everyone involved from the start to the end. I would like to share with you a few ways of opening with a bang.
- First, you can begin on a happy note by rendering it like a song as seen in this video.
- If your son’s birthday falls on the same day as his wedding date, you can mention this and humbly ask everyone to join you in singing a happy a birthday song before you deliver your speech.
- If you have a little story to share, that would be great. It could be a beautiful story about when you were pregnant with him, a story about what happened on his due date or another nice story about how events unfolded when you brought him home.
I once reviewed a speech of a mom who said that when her child was born, her husband was so excited that he drove her to a dump! Can you imagine that? You just have to reflect on the good and bad times and you will come up with some really good stories.
If you can’t remember the exact details, then I have this question for you.
- Do you remember how you felt when you brought your son home from the hospital? If you do, then, please write it down.
This is what a new mom said about her first few days with her cute baby boy.
Mike was born one sunny morning when we were living in Florida. On that day, I was overcome with joy, pride and a deep sense of love and belonging when he was placed into my arms. He was a beautiful gift and when I saw him, it was love at first sight, at second sight, and at every sight. I still remember how several times at night, I’d look into his beautiful, smiling eyes and be completely overwhelmed with a sense of joy and pride. There and then, I closed my eyes and imagined what the future held for both mom and son.
Now, here he is a perfect picture of a mom’s dream come true and I couldn’t be more proud that he starts the next chapter of his life with someone he loves with this whole heart.
- Now, let’s look at the next item we are going to look at: Talk about your son and daughter-in-law and how they complement each other
With so many stories about your son to choose from, you can be end up writing what sounds like a biography. But that shouldn’t be the case at all.
This is what I want you to do now. Starting from when he came into your life, write down series of stories about his life. Allow it to sink in for a day or two and then choose from the pool of events, stories you would like to share with your family and friends.
After writing down a few words about him, you should jot down a few words about your daughter-in-law even if you think she’s not a great match for your son or you don’t really know her.
I know you are thinking, Dan, what am I going to write about someone I don’t really know? Great question and I am glad you asked it. This example can free your mind from this mental stress.
It’s obvious that you both love each other and I hope that your love continue to burn brighter forever.
- Finally, Let’s look at the last item on the list: end with nuggets of advice about marriage
The last item on the list or your closing remarks are equally as important as the introductory remarks because when all is said and done, the wedding attendees will remember how your closing thoughts made them feel. You may wrap up with any of these cool ideas.
First, just share some fundamental truths about what makes a marriage tick. Here’s an example.
Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage. There are no shortcuts. Building a strong marriage takes time.
Second, if you are a spiritual person, you can end with a prayer or even use a few words from the scriptures. My favorite is from I Corinthians 13.
Third, you can end with a thoughtful poem like this one.
A marriage works on give and take
And learning how to share
Always thinking of your loved one
And to show how much you care
To trust each other always
And to forgive when there’s a need
To say how much you love them
Is a wonderful thing indeed
Your love upon your wedding day
Will grow throughout your life
And build upon that moment
When you became husband and wife
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Claire was quite skeptical when she came to us but we kept assuring what she will make her son and family proud-and this is what she sent over after the wedding was over
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This is letter a mom sent to us after we helped her deliver her speech(Please click on it to enlarge if you can't see it)
Ok, Is This Offer For Me?
- Yes, if you are expecting nothing less than a very special, beautiful, unique, and memorable speech.
- Don’t have much time to write a perfect speech just as you want it because of work demands and other life's pressure or even sick? Then, let’s take care of it and the guests will definitely sing your praises--we have done it for so many others and it's your turn now!
- Yes, if you are overwhelmed by the pressures of work and don’t have the time to put together a very meaningful speech, so you can have your peace of mind
- Yes, if you want your family, your son, friends, and wedding guests to shower you with very sincere compliments…just imagine how you will feel
- Yes, if you are not good with words and you feel you’re not a natural writer and you are struggling to find the right words but still want to give a great speech.
- Yes, you get so scared anytime you’re asked to say something before an audience and you really want to save yourself from any form of embarrassment on your son's big day.
- Yes, if you are not too eloquent or not too sure if you are on the right track.
- Yes, if you absolutely hate speaking in public or feel this is not your thing but you want to make your son feel very proud
- Yes, if you have a day or less to the wedding and you are worried that you might make some horrible mistakes
- Yes, if you are a good speaker but you still want someone to look over or review what you've come up with!
Just imagine leaving your entire presentation in the hands of skilled wedding speech consultants who will take away your pain of spending hours thinking hard and long about what to say and what not to say.
Also, envision being patiently guided to say something that will leave a favorable impression on the mind of your listeners.
And also imagine the thrill and feeling of excitement and pride you’re going to experience when the audience leaps onto their feet and scream and shouts and even sing your praises.
Won’t you love that? I hope you do...
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Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, some sons are still getting married and asking their moms to give speeches.
''It was perfect Dan. I changed a few things in the speech. And I had several people come up and tell me how well done it was. I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for your help''- Marilyn, Canada
Nonetheless, not every mother could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your son and daughter-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.
This is another letter a mom sent to us after we helped her deliver her speech(Please click on it to enlarge if you can't see it)
Oh Ok, How Then Do I Get Started Since I Want To Get On Board Right Away?
Ok, here’s how it works
All you have to do RIGHT NOW is to click on this link to receive an easy-to-fill-in questionnaire via email. Check your email a few hours after you’ve submitted your request.
So,
- After that, we will send you a very short questionnaire to fill out via email! You only have to check your email a few hours after you have made your request
- Then, you fill out the questionnaire sent through your email, and please have it sent back to us…
- We will confirm receipt of it…If something is not too clear, we will ask you to clarify….
- If not, we will send you a wonderful draft in a couple of hours if this on very short notice….If not, after a few days
- Then, you look it over and tell us if you are okay with it or you want to amend or revise it till you are happy with it--although we always get it right even with the first draft.
- Then, we ask you to pay for it.
Please note: The information collected through the questionnaire is only for the purpose of writing your speech. I wouldn’t even need it if I could read your mind. So, your information is very confidential and no one will know about it.
Just a reminder of what you pay after it’s duly completed.
Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis has caused severe hardships for most people. Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, some sons are still getting married and asking their moms to give speeches.
''It was perfect Dan. I changed a few things in the speech. And I had several people come up and tell me how well done it was. I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for your help''- Marilyn, Canada
Nonetheless, not every mother could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your son and daughter-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.
Please note: Your speech draft comes with a proven and simple tip to master your speech or remember your speech just as you want it without carrying a paper with you.
Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!
''Hi Dan,
The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice). Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.
All the best,
Matt''
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Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!
''Hi Dan,
The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice). Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.
All the best,
Matt''
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