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Thank you all -- for coming to commemorate my mother’s life.
Before I go on to celebrate my mother and what she stood for I must share with you the reality of what life was like for my mother and the family since she was first diagnosed with cancer in October.
Of course, nobody suffered more than my mother, but Dad you’re definitely second. We all shared my mother’s pain. It was like we were all on trial.
At any one point, as a family, we were in denial, we were angry, or we were depressed. And there was conflict. We disagreed with the doctor’s findings. We didn’t always agree with each other on a course of action. It was a confusing time.
In the end, I felt we all put up a good fight. We did what we could do.
I have to ask myself what my mother would want for us right now.
I think she’d want us to heal ourselves and move on. She’d want us to talk with our creator and deal with her death in our own way, but also put her death behind us and live a life that she would be proud of.
I would like to thank all of you for coming here today to help us, as a family, to heal, and to celebrate my mother’s life.
My mother was born to Albanie and Velma Bourque in a small French community called Scoudouc, just outside of Moncton, in 1937. Just to give you an example of what life was like back then, my mother didn’t live in a house with electricity until she was 15. Imagine that, if you will.
Imagine doing homework using a gas lantern. Despite this hardship, she did well in school.
In the early 50s, my grandfather had a tough choice to make. The government of New Brunswick said that they could get electricity, but only if they moved the house a mile from its current location.
So, he did. Things then started to pick up for my grandfather. He started to work for CN and could afford to send my mother to a business college. In true, Acadian French spirit, my mother excelled. She became the first French person to work at Eaton's in the accounting department.
This was a monumental achievement at the time. Today, in New Brunswick, you pretty much have to be bilingual to get a good job, but back then the English dominated the business and government world.
For a French person to be hired, they had to be top of their class. And my mother, as I understand it, was top of her class.
Before she started working at Eaton's, however, she went into Moncton to visit her cousin, and they went to a dance. The “Bunk House Boys” were playing. My dad must have been starstruck by her. Despite being a relatively shy young man around women, he got up the courage to ask my mother to dance. The song was “The Tennessee Waltz”.
A love was born.
My dad feared that once she went to work at Eaton's, that she would soon meet other men and that would be the end of it.
To make matters worse, my father was shipped overseas by the military for two years and their only means of communication was by mail.
Their love for each other endured this absence, however, and my father and mother were married two years later when he returned to Canada.
Dad also shared something with me last week that I never knew. My grandparents always had boarders to help pay the bills.
One of these boarders was a musician and taught my mother how to play the guitar and harmonica – at the same time – just like Bob Dylan does. I would have loved to have seen that.
I love to remember my mother when she was full of life, and taking risks. In the 60’s, of course, one of those risks was wearing a mini-dress.
I remember my mother getting the McCall’s pattern, and putting together that dress. She looked great. While I wouldn’t have wished the 60’s on any parent, my mom and dad made it through safely. It was around this time, that I remember hearing rock and roll records playing downstairs.
It was around this time that I remember my mother and father starting to go out regularly.
While they didn’t have a great deal of money, they seemed to have this intuitive sense that they needed to work at keeping their love alive, even while they had three kids. As a child, it was great for me to see my parents dating.
Like many mothers, my mother took special pride in giving us kids all she could at Christmas time. One of the things that I thought was unique to the Lannigan household, was our Christmas stockings.
While other kids may have had those wimpy stockings, maybe this high, or even this high, my mother would hang her nylon stockings for us. As a kid, I thought this was great. When I woke up Christmas morning, Santa Claus had filled it to the brim with goodies. Far more than any other kid got.
Another time my mother made herself stick out from the crowd was at one of Gerry’s hockey games. The most popular coach in Moncton, at the time, was Father Mike.
It seemed that some God-given divinity that allowed him to develop a winning team most every year. One year, when Gerry played for Father Mikes team, the final game was tied and went into overtime. There was a slapshot from the point and Gerry tipped it in for the winning goal. The crowd cheered.
The players all ganged up on top of Gerry in celebration. But wait. Who was this 98lb woman jumping over the boards to land on the pile. It was my mother!
…Dad, I can’t know what it’s like to lose someone you love that much. These days, however, all I know is that I feel she is watching over me.
When I’m at work and there is some V.P. trying to lure me into something I don’t believe in, I hear Mom telling me to be true to my own character and values. And thus, my mother will live on within me, and through me, for the rest of my life.
I’d like to leave you all with this quote, by Helen Keller. She said, “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart”
IF, by the end of her life, my mother ended up touching all of your hearts ----then I ask you, what else can anyone ask for in this world, but to touch people’s hearts. Thank you, Mom.
That was a great piece! Now, let’s review what went into writing it.
First off, let’s recap the intro:
''Thank you all -- for coming to commemorate my mother’s life…''
How To Get The Audience To Love Your Words
This is by far one of the best ways to start a eulogy on a very positive note; I feel the writer should have mentioned his name.
By the way, the introduction like the rest of a eulogy for mom is very crucial to grabbing the attention of the audience from the very beginning. So, you need to spend a great deal of time and effort into crafting one.
Sadly, however, most sons and daughters don’t really know how to write something that captivates the attention of the audience from the onset.
Let me use this opportunity to share with you proven ways of doing just that.
Ready? Let’s jump right in.
· You can start with a poem about mothers
· You can begin with a question…
For example…How would you feel if someone you truly love and cherish suddenly dies? This past Tuesday my mom, the love of my life passed away….
Now, wait a minute…Don’t you think everyone would be moved by that question?
· You can relate a quote about mothers and use one or two to personalize your intro
Here are some quotes:
''All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.''- Abraham Lincoln
''Mama was my greatest teacher, a teacher of compassion, love, and fearlessness. If love is sweet as a flower, then my mother is that sweet flower of love.''-Stevie Wonder
''No man succeeds without a good woman behind him. Wife or mother, if it is both, he is twice blessed indeed''- Godfrey Winn
Can you use any of these quotes to engage your listeners?
How so? Ok, let me illustrate with Steve Wonder’s quote: ''…If love is sweet as a flower, then my mother is that sweet flower of love.''
My mom was a sweet flower of love and it comes as no surprise that her costly fragrance of love has drawn amazing people like you from far and near to celebrate the legacy of this rare gem….
Did you notice how I did just that? Yes, you can too.
Now, let’s go over to the body. Again, here are excerpts: My mother was born to Albanie and Velma Bourque in a small French community…
This is What Your Family and Friends Want You To Talk About
The body of your eulogy speech for mom is usually the narration of your mom’s life.
To make things fairly easy, you can simply do a narration of your mom’s life as our example depicts. But that approach is not engaging enough except your stories are very memorable.
To make your presentation stand out, you can single out the most admirable quality about your mom and support it with stories.
Alternatively, you can share how he made a difference in your life.
Now, I want you to create a rough outline for your loving mom as that will be the basis for your write-up.
So, please go grab your pen and paper and answer the following questions:
· How did she play her role as a mom?
· What are the lessons she taught you?
· How those did lessons impact your life or helped make you a much better person?
· Can you recount memories that are hilarious?
· Any anecdote that will inspire the listeners?
Using answers to those questions, please write a very rough of your speech.
Don’t worry about how messy it looks like on paper because you can always go back to review your speech until you’re happy with it.
How To Close Your Speech On A Memorable Note
Finally, let’s look at how to write the ending of a moving tribute that will praise, bless and honor your mom.
Once the body of the eulogy has been drafted, it needs a conclusion to provide a sense of closure and emotional release.
Believe it or not, the closing remark of your delivery is as important as the intro because those last lines will stay with your sympathizers for a very long time.
Winging it won’t do you any good. If you are wondering about how best to close on a memorable note, then these tips can help you out.
1. You can thank your family, siblings, and friends and loved ones for their love, kindness, message, and support.
2. Sometimes, you don’t have to say anything but let the tears flow because it will bring complete healing and refreshment.
3. You can encourage people to emulate your mom’s great attributes.
4. If you’re Christian or a very religious person, you can end with a prayer and a few words of encouragement.
For example, you can say…My mom is no longer with us but I look forward to that beautiful morning when I will be reunited with her in heaven. God bless her so much.
P.S This is how to give the best eulogy ever for your mom...have you ever considered it? Most sons and daughters use this and you should too!
Dear Loving Son Or Daughter,
Let’s face it…Putting together your thoughts and emotions into a very beautiful tribute without letting the tears flow isn’t an easy thing and I experienced that recently when I wrote a eulogy for someone who was very dear to my heart.
I really feel sorry for you at this very painful time and I think you shouldn’t struggle to come up with a very beautiful tribute your family, brothers, and sisters, and loved ones will never, ever forget.
Granted, writing a unique, memorable, and inspiring eulogy for your mom is not an easy thing at all at this painful time even if you’re a very gifted writer.
I want to take his very heavy burden off your shoulder by helping you come up with a funny, inspiring, and memorable eulogy that truly captures your mom’s life.
This is a letter someone sent to us after we've helped her with her tribute(You can click on the image to read it)
Just imagine how great it would feel when you give your speech with such ease and grace and your family comes to hug and compliment you on a great job done.
Yes, that can be possible when you let me help you out.
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Ok, Is This Offer For Me?
- Yes, if you want to feel a great sense of warmth and relief without the pressure and stress of coming up with something at this incredibly difficult time of your life.
- Yes, if you’re simply overwhelmed with grief… and you have less than 24 hours to the funeral and have suddenly realized that you don’t have written anything about your mom
- Yes, if your dad died under circumstances like suicide, drug abuse, murder, etc...didn’t do anything with his life and you really can’t seem to put pen to paper because of the emotions involved.
- Yes, if you are expecting nothing less than a very special, beautiful, unique and a memorable eulogy speech that will bless, praise and honor the memory of your precious mom
- Yes, if you want to take the heavy burden of expectation off your shoulders so you can give a meaningful, uplifting and heartwarming speech that will warm hearts and bring your mom’s admirable personality alive
- Yes, if you don’t have much time to write a perfect speech because of the stress of preparing so many things for your mom’s funeral arrangement so you can have your peace of mind
- Yes, if you’re overwhelmed with work demands and other pressures of life.
Then, let’s take care of it and the guests will definitely sing your praises.
This is a letter someone sent to us after we've helped her with her tribute(You can click on the image to read it)
- Yes, if you want your family, to shower you with very sincere compliments…just imagine how you will feel…
- Yes, if you are not good with words and you feel you’re not a natural writer and you are struggling to find the right words but still want to give a great eulogy speech for your mom
- Yes, if you get so scared anytime you’re asked to say something before an audience and you really want to save yourself from any form of embarrassment at your mom’s funeral…Remember, you can’t wing it
- Yes, if you are not too eloquent or not too sure if you are on the right track and take out the guesswork…Remember, what you say will speak volumes about your love for your mom
- Yes, if you absolutely hate speaking in public or feel this is not your thing but you want to make your mom feel so proud of you
- Yes, if you have less than 24 hours to the funeral and you are really stressed out and scared you might make some horrible mistakes
- Yes, if you are a good speaker but you still want someone to look over or review what you've come up with!
Just imagine leaving your entire presentation in the hands of skilled speech consultants who will take away your pain of spending hours thinking hard and long about what to say and what not to say.
Also, envision being patiently guided to say something your family and mourners will never ever forget
And also imagine the peace of mind you will have when you relax and sleep well knowing full well that you have someone to hold your back so you can make your mom feel so proud
Won’t you love that? I hope you will...
Funeral not too far away? Or happening in less than 24 hours? Trust me, we can deliver! it doesn’t matter if your speech is today or tomorrow we can make things work for you
This is a letter someone sent to us after we've helped her with her tribute
Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?
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Why? As you know, the current health crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, a very loving child like you has to speak at the burial service.
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Oh Ok, How Then Do I Get Started Since I Want To Get On Board Right Away? Ok, here’s how it works
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So,
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- After that, we will send you a very short questionnaire to fill out via email! You only have to check your email just a few hours after you have made your request.
- Then, you fill out the questionnaire sent through your email and please have it sent back to us…
- We will confirm receipt of it…If something is not too clear, we will ask you to clarify….
- If not, we will send you a wonderful draft in a couple of hours
- Then, you look it over and tell us if you are okay with it or you want to amend or revise it till you are happy with it--although we always get it right even with the first draft.
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Just a reminder of what our offer entails
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? As you know, the current health crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, a very loving child like you has to speak at the burial service.
Nonetheless, not everyone could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your family and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
So, please take advantage of it now by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.
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