Eulogy For Daughter From Dad Or Mom
How To Write An Inspiring Tribute For Your Deceased Daughter
Have you lost your daughter? And are you looking for easy-to-follow tips and ideas to help you write a touching eulogy for your deceased daughter?
Just stay here for a little while and I will share with you…
- How to write a eulogy speech for your deceased daughter
- How to easily make use of eulogy for daughter speech examples to write a funeral speech that honors her even if you are not good with words
- How to find the right words and phrases that will not only honor her memory but also depict her legacy
- Plus, a whole lot more
What Does A Mom Or Dad Say About Her Deceased Daughter?
I don’t know about you. But, in my culture, burying your daughter goes against the laws of nature.
We believe that after you have cared for your daughter, you should live long enough to see her grow into a very old person before she gives you a befitting burial.
That sounds like a good plan. Sadly, however, life doesn’t always go as planned. Nonetheless, I still believe that no mom or dad should bury their daughter because it’s one of life’s most painful experiences.
The pain cuts so deep when you reflect on the good and bad times you have had together. It seems like only yesterday she was born and the moment they placed her into your arms, your life was infused with a love beyond all measure and understanding.
You watched that baby girl grow into a little girl. In a flash, she grew into a sweet girl who bloomed with promise and purpose.
You constantly imagined who she would grow into and what kind of person she would marry and the grandchildren she would bear. You have had your share of disagreements and conflicts but the love for her was still deep because she was everything to you.
Before you knew it, her breath was snuffed out. Your precious baby girl, tower of strength, your confidant, best friend and angel has gained her wings. How on earth are you going to live without her?
Some Words Of Comfort
Whether you have lost your daughter to suicide, heart attack, cancer, car accident, a fall, killed by a crazy shooter, or even through natural causes, nothing can take away the pain of losing a precious daughter who was not only your joy and pride but also the sunshine of your life.
I know your heart is broken into a million pieces as your grief never seems to come to an end. May you find peace and comfort in the sweet memories you shared together.
Well, I would encourage you to read this touching poem aloud over and over again and it will give you some strength to cope with her loss.
Here it is:
My heart is shattered into pieces,
Not a day goes by without seizures of weeping.
The emptiness consumes my being,
Darkness is all I see, your laughter no longer gleaming.
I long to hold you, feel your warm embrace,
But you've flown to Heaven, left this lonely place.
Not a second passes I don't say your name,
Wishing I could turn back time, erase all the pain.
In the night, I hear your sweet voice call,
A comforting song, easing my fall.
You tell me it's okay, to let go of the sorrow,
That you'll be in my heart each new tomorrow.
Our bond is unbroken, though Death parted our frames,
Your pure love and spirit, no time can ever tame.
So I'll cherish each memory with pride in my heart,
Knowing one day dear child, we forever won't part.
Until then my guiding light, you give me the will,
To pick up the pieces, and go on living still.
Your love sees me through, I cannot lose hope,
With you by my side sweet girl, I can cope.
-Unknown-
Well, if you need someone to talk to, just reach out to me and I will do my best to get back to you as soon as possible with some healing words.
How To Write An Amazing Eulogy For Your Daughter
That being said, how do you go from staring at your blank computer screen to to writing a very heartfelt eulogy for your deceased daughter?
It’s easy. You just have to follow these simple steps to get it done.
- Write down your writing goals
- Decide on the length of your daughter’s tribute speech
- Find content ideas for your eulogy for daughter
- Find eulogy for daughter examples and figure out how to make the most of them
- Find out how to write a funeral speech for your daughter
OK, let’s see how you can take things one step at a time.
Writing your script can be a whole lot easier if you set meaningful writing goals to guide you every step of the way. That will also give you peace of mind, keep you focused and help you pick the right stories to share about her life.
With a pen in hand and sheet on paper, start by reflecting on these questions:
- What do I want to say about my deceased daughter?
- Should I write about her beautiful character traits and the joy she brought to your family and other people?
- Should I tell a story about how she was born, the good times we had together, her love for family and friends, or what made her a very special person?
I have a question for you: What would you like to focus on?
The next thing to consider is the duration of your funeral speech. How long do you want it to last? Do you want it to be short or long? How long or short you want your tribute for your dead daughter to last depends largely on these factors:
- How long have you been asked to speak? If you have been asked to speak for a few minutes, just stick to the time.
- How many speakers are delivering eulogies at her celebration of life? If several people are going to speak, then it’s best to stay within limits so others can equally eulogize her.
Here’s my take on this deeply sensitive issue: I have written very long speeches and others have been brief.
I remember writing a eulogy that lasted a little over six minutes for a distraught man who had lost her daughter. Another eulogy lasted well below that time and it still worked for my client.
Here’s something to think about: Are you thinking of making your tribute very long, long or short? The ball is in your court.
With that said, let’s look at…
How To Get Content Ideas For Your Daughter's Tribute
Here’s a mistake I see most parents make that heighten their stress levels and disturb their peace.
In order to reduce the stress from their loss, they comb through a few eulogy for daughter examples they find and make changes to suit their writing needs.
That’s not entirely wrong. However, this approach is quite ineffective because every eulogy is different no matter how similar they may be because everyone has a story and everyone’s life is a memorable story no matter how you see it.
Let’s look at it this way. Suppose your daughter solved a specific problem whilst she was alive. People are battling with this problem and you have been told that you have to write a story about how she made it.
She wanted to do it before she passed on. But, asked you to do that on her death bed. How would you go about it?
You are most likely to gather some information from her journal, conduct some research, and interview other patients before sharing your thoughts with the world.
Similarly, you need to dive deep into your sub-conscious mind and recall stories about your daughter’s life before you write your funeral speech about your daughter’s life.
That should be a cinch if you have an amazing memory. If for some reason, you have forgotten about all those great moments, don’t despair because you can get them to come back to you by following this simple plan:
- Leaf through her journal and write down things you think you can add to your eulogy. For example, if her wish was to live until she was ninety years old, you may share this with the mourners.
- Scan through new and old family photos. Check her Facebook, Instagram, and other social media pages for her photos. As you do that, ask yourself what memory each picture brings to mind and write them down.
- Did she send you letters, messages, and cards on your special days like your birthdays, anniversaries, father’s day and on other important milestones?
- Have you made a slideshow about her yet? Watch it for more memories about her life.
- If can’t find all those stuff, then her mom, siblings, and relatives can serve as reliable springboard for recapturing fond memories.
Now, let’s switch our focus to how to get eulogy ideas from videos. The easiest way to get ideas to come to you is by watching eulogy for daughter videos on youtube.com
So go over to that video platform and input keywords like eulogy for daughter and its variants and wait for some video clips to pop out.
If you have some time, you may go through a lot of them. If you don’t, I have these really good video clips you can watch and profit from.
So, grab your pen and sheet of paper and write down ideas you think you can infuse into your script.
Here they are video clips:
Eulogy Speech For Daughter Video Examples #1
Tribute Speech For Daughter Video Templates #2
Both are touching eulogies examples for daughters. Don’t you think so?
How To Write Your Tribute For Your Daughter
As you know, grieving your daughter while writing down her tribute can be very overwhelming due to the intense emotions involved.
When you feel so sad and your can’t seem to collect your thoughts, you should always resort to eulogy for daughter speech examples and templates.
They are to a writer what road signs are to car drivers and road users. A well-crafted example can give you an idea of how to put your thoughts together in a very clear and concise manner.
It’s your helping hand if you don’t have much time on your hands or don’t know where to start.
Although it’s an indispensable writing tool, most grieving souls don’t use it so well as they just copy bits and pieces of it. That shouldn’t be the case, however. You should use them from a standpoint of inspiration and guidance.
So, let’s start by looking at this eulogy for daughter templates/examples.
After that, we will analyze it so we can figure out how to use them to come up with a really good script. That way, you won’t have to struggle to write a touching eulogy that honors the memory and legacy of your daughter.
Here is it:
Eulogy Example For My Daughter
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mike and I am the proud father of Alex Vantrot and always will be the proud father of Alex Vantrot.
On behalf of my entire family, I would like to thank you for coming today to say goodbye far too soon to a very lovely young woman who will always hold a very special place in our hearts.
I want to get to some much deserved announcements to start with. I want to thank Alex’s Grandma Barbs, her Aunt Mary, Aunt Millicent, and Alex’s Aunt, Uncle and cousin’s the Zig & Ryan Zimmerman’s family for their support.
I don’t know what we would’ve done without your broad shoulders to cry on. My family loves you.
Thank you to Nick , Todd, and Dan, for the beautiful video he posted within hours of all of us finding out about her passing.
Although, the tears flow while watching the video, it is a beautiful tribute. Thank you again and we love you for caring so much.
People always say that losing a child is an unnatural loss and I couldn’t agree more because we are not supposed to outlive our children.
I think the reason for that is because when our children are born, we have 2 jobs that are given to us when that little life enters our world.
The first is to teach them everything you know. About life, about pain, about joy, about love. You teach your children because you have already done these things, and made a mess of it sometimes and succeeded other times.
So you give them what wisdom you can, and you watch as they go out and make their own mistakes, and celebrate their own successes, knowing that your lessons helped them along the way.
The second thing is to protect your kids from the meanness and badness of the world for as long as possible, so that when it’s time for them to come face to face with it all they will have all the good things and love you provided to overcome the hardships.
But when a child has to face death unexpectedly, what is a parent supposed to do?
Well, you can only grieve while hoping that someday you will be reunited with your child.
I have never stopped thinking about my daughter and best friend, Alex since she unexpectedly waved me a sad goodbye before going home to be with the Lord.
As her father, I was looking forward to being there when she achieved great things and celebrating her accomplishments, big and small.
I never dreamed that I would instead be delivering her eulogy. This is a very heartbreaking final speech no father should ever have to give.
It’s been sixty (60) days of my heart literally shattering at the thought of not ever seeing my daughter again.
Sixty (60) days I wake up just to miss my daughter all over again. Sixty (60) Days of our everyday routine being forever broken.
Sixty(60) days of not hearing Alex laugh. Sixty(60) days of not hearing Alex’s vivacious voice. Sixty (60) days of trying to just survive this nightmare. My heart is broken into a million little pieces.
I will obviously die with a broken heart because she meant the world to us. I pray every day that the good Lord puts the pieces back together and bring comfort to me and the family.
For those of you who never met Alex or knew who she was, she was a very caring and compassionate person who was always had a helping hand to lend to anyone without reservation.
But I loved and admired her for her innate sweetness and sparkly smile that could melt a heart of stone and brighten your day.
She also was a very happy, fun and outgoing soul. Her friends loved her for that and loved to hang out with her.
Alex could put on a dress and be Cinderella or a pair of waders and fish with the best of them. Typical Alabama Chic, which her friends in Ashley Beach, found endearing.
Small wonder that her sudden passing affected not only my family but also her huge Alabama and Ashley Beach community of friends.
I know this because we literally had so many of her friends reach out to my family in our darkest period of grief.
Seeing so many friends here to say goodbye to Alex today, shows just how loved she was and how much she will be missed.
To Alex’s friends who are with us today as well as those who couldn’t make it here, my heart breaks for you all because you’ve lost a true and treasured friend who was a shining light of goodness, inspiration, humor and love.
I am so grateful for the incredible love, outpouring of support and well wishes that have come our way since learning of our daughter’s passing.
I don’t want to forget to say how sorry I am for your loss too. I know that friends like Alex are unique and few.
There aren’t many people out there who you can count on the way you could with Alex.
It goes without saying that animals are a man’s best friend. Alex was very passionate about animals and she proved by her special love and attention for animals that they were her best friends.
From an early age, she had a deep love for animals and became so fond of our black labs who loved being at her side.
I can only imagine how they too are feeling at this moment in time as we say our final goodbyes to their friend and beloved companion. I think they will miss her because she was all they had.
Alex was extremely dedicated to the family. The love of family flowed through veins as we were everything to her.
At parties and family gatherings, she was the life of the party and whenever we would all get together, there was so much laughter mainly brought on by her antics.
To call her the life of the party is a bit of an understatement. Usually, she was the party. She brought the party with the party with her and that’s something we will all miss her.
But whenever we gather as a family, we will know that Alex is with us in spirit.
She was very close to her cousin Melissa and a confidant of her 30 year old brother. For me, she was my best friend and muse.
She would call me often to check up on me and whenever my phone beeped with a text message from her, I knew that she was thinking about me.
That is the one thing I think I’ll miss the most. Texting or talking to her on the phone and just laughing out loud with my baby girl. No one could make me laugh the way she did.
Alex had an unbelievable zest for life. After a turbulent time in her life she was the ultimate comeback story and her life was becoming more amazing every day.
I can still remember her saying, ‘’I’m fine dad. Don’t worry about me.’’ No matter what was going on in Alex’s life, she always said “I’m fine dad, don’t worry about me.” Of course, I worried about Alex every day. I was Alex’s fixer, but I can’t fix this. I wish I could.
It’s strange how life sometimes throw all kinds of curveballs at us. Guess what? Just when her life was getting better by the day and were looking forward to celebrating her birthday, we lost her just three days short of her 30th birthday!
What a precious and promising gift of life cut short too soon. The pain runs deep and it would be hard to forget about her.
As we as a family navigate our overwhelming grief, we may learn to accept Alex’s passing no matter how the pain in our hearts.
However, we must have faith that she is in a better place, and that she is looking down on us.
I hope that she knows how loved she is, and I hope that knowledge gives her peace.
Dear Alex,
I miss your smile. Those beautiful white teeth. I miss your sense of humor. I miss you calling me Papa Bear. I miss these traits, but I will never have to worry about forgetting those wonderful traits, because they will live on in her twin sister Morgan. Alex, you will always live on in this family.
Alex would like each and everyone of you to “be like Alex” and always tell your loved ones and friends “ I love you” at the end of every discussion or encounter. You couldn’t honor her anymore by doing so.
I would like to end with an excerpt from a poem by Terry Gouveia
Dear God, please take care of my little girl, She was special, as you should know. I really didn't want to let her go.
She touched the hearts of everyone she knew.
Letting her go was so hard to do.
Her smile could brighten up the darkest room.
I wish you didn't have to take her so soon.
Tell her I promise to see her again someday.
When that will be, I really can't say.
I promise to make up for the time that's passed,
To hold her and comfort her in my arms at last.
Goodbye, Alex, Rest Well. We all love you. I will miss you more and more.
Did you wipe off a few tears from your eyes after reading that sample? I don’t know about you. But, I felt so sad writing this eulogy for an adult daughter who passed away.
Let me ask you this: Can you write a heartfelt funeral speech like what you’ve just read?
I bet you can do that with ease if you follow this very simple process. To make things easier for you, start by dividing the above example into these parts:
- Introduction
- Body/ Outline
- Conclusion/Ending
How To Write An Introduction For Your Daughter’s Eulogy
At this moment, let’s look at the introduction and what goes into writing a captivating one.
Before we start, let’s look at this excerpt taken from the above example to help us gain clarity about it.
‘’ For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mike…
On behalf of my entire family, I would like to thank you for coming today to say goodbye far too soon…
I want to get to some much deserved announcements to start with. I want to thank Alex’s Grandma...’’
This is what I want you to do now. Grab that pen and notepad or sheet of paper and write down names of personalities you’d like to express gratitude.
People like:
- Her mom
- Your wife
- Her grandparents if they are still alive
- Her friends
- Her aunts and uncles
- Her spouse and kids (if any)
- Her friends
- Other folks
Second, share how you and the whole family have been impacted by her loss. Here’s an example I picked up from the above example:
I have never stopped thinking about my daughter and best friend, Alex since she unexpectedly waved…
I never dreamed that I would instead be delivering her eulogy. This is a very heartbreaking final speech…
Third, you can start with a poem, favorite saying or a scripture verse if you are religious.
Ok, watch me use this bible verse to start a short tribute for a dead daughter.
‘’ Proverbs 13:22 (NKJV): “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children ‘’
Scripture says that a good man leaves a goodly inheritance to his children’s children. I used to share this verse with my beloved daughter whenever we gathered for dinner and there was this time, she looked into my eye after a meal and asked, Dad, what does that really mean?
I held her hand and explained that we are to leave a good legacy for our children since they may be living messengers to a future we can’t see.
She was so contend. So, she hugged me and said, Dad, I will definitely share this with your grandchildren I ever grow old like my grandma. Little did I know that she would be leaving us two weeks after that incident.
How To Write A Structure For Your Daughter's Eulogy
Let’s turn our attention to the next thing: the body or outline of your funeral speech for your late daughter.
It follows the opening lines and is often a continuation of ideas and thoughts expressed in the introductory remarks.
Writing the body should be easy-peasy. But, that’s not always the case because it gets so hard to distill years of memories and feelings about her life into very succinct and touching remarks about her life.
If you are fumbling for the right words or don’t even know where to start, then this simple exercise can help tidy up your thoughts. This will help you present your ideas more clearly and effectively. So, go back for that sheet of paper and write down answers to the following questions:
- What was your daughter like when she was a little girl?
- What was her impact on you and spouse?
- How about her siblings and other persons she came into contact with?
- What made her a unique person and lady?
- What legacy did she leave behind? It doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary. The small feats matter as well.
- What was she really passionate about?
- What are her beautiful character traits?
- What are the most memorable moments you had with her?
- What were your shared interests?
- Was she a person of faith? How did it make her a much better person?
Let me give you some clues: Your remembrance speech can be long and winding if you use all those stuff to compose your tribute.
Here’s what I do all the time. I can go back to the above questionnaire and pick an angle for your dsughter'd tribute.
For example, you might want to talk about your time together, her impact on the family, and what made her life unique.
These can be the major highlights of your talk and not a complete run down of everything she did with her life.
So, what would you like the body to dwell on? Think deeply about this and back up your points with stories your family and friends can relate to.
There’s nothing comforting than watching a faint smile form on the faces of your relatives when you mention a story they can relate to.
How To End Your Daughter's Funeral Tribute
Your tribute should end with a memorable conclusion. Here are some practical ways of wrapping up on a good note.
You may conclude with a poem like this one by Jamey Wysocki
I am learning how to live
In a new way
Since that day
You were taken away.
I am learning how to live
With the things left unsaid
Knowing I got to say them
With every tear that I shed.
I am learning how to live
By embracing the pain
Knowing that you live on
Through the memories that remain.
I am learning how to live
Knowing I will never again see your face
And I have peace knowing
Your in a better place.
I am learning how to live
Knowing your in God's care
It gives me the strength to move on
And makes the pain much easier to bear.
You may also share how and why you will miss her. For example...
When we travel to Africa for charity work next month, I will miss her most because she loved those field works. We shared wigs and I am going to miss her for that.
You can also thank everyone for coming. Here’s an example:
And to everyone here, thank you for your
concern and the incredible support you’ve
provided during this difficult time. It means the
world to us. I am truly grateful for your
kindness and support. Your words and actions have been a great comfort. Thanks again for coming.
Can express your feelings about her through a song? If you have a good singing voice, then it would be a perfect opportunity to eulogize her and heal yourself because music is a potent force for good in the healing and grieving process.
This very emotional song and several others can move you and the mourners to tears in a way nothing else does if you end your tribute with it.