Standing Ovation Speeches

Eulogy Tribute For Husband: Proven Tips And Ideas

 

Need ideas and tips to help you write a good eulogy for your husband and father of your children? If so, just bear with me for just a little while and I will share with you everything you need to know about writing the best eulogy ever for your dead husband.

 

Losing a very loving husband is one of the most painful moments in every woman’s life.

 

As a professional eulogy speech writer, I have helped several grieving wives put together very eloquent funeral tributes for the love of their lives and I know how hard it can be to put something meaningful together through the heartbreak and tears.

 

I want to help make this writing task simple and easy for you. Before we get into the details, I would like to use this opportunity to express my deepest sympathy on the loss of the love of your life.

 

 

When I imagine how far you both have come down the road, I come to the conclusion that life is just so unfair.

 

It seems like only yesterday you met him for the first time and you clicked right off the bat. You both were inseparable and decided to tie the knot because you were a perfect match.

 

Everything took off as planned after your wedding and you were blessed with wonderful kids who have grown into wonderful adults.

 

You loved each other to death and even after a few squabbles and fights; you still made up for your differences because you were determined to love each other until the end of time.

 

Sadly, death has severed the bonds of your love cruelly. And I am wondering how you are going to face this world alone without him in it?

 

But, one thing is certain. It’s the fact that love is stronger than death which is why your husband’s memories will be in your heart forever.

 

May you find comfort in the memories you made together. Well, if you are hurting and nothing seems to make sense to you, just click on this link and I will get back to you with some comforting words.

 

Again, you can read this poem aloud over and over again and you will feel much better.

 

Here it is:

 

A Eulogy Poem For Your Husband by Roselyn Dj Sarmiento

Now That You're Gone

You're gone, and all that's left is nothing but memories,
Memories that lead me to silence and tears.
I miss your arms that hold me tight,
Your snore that fills our room at night.

You're gone, and I can no longer stare at you as you sleep,
But thank God he lets me see you as I weep.
In dreams we talk and laugh together.
There I can say I love you more than ever.

You're gone, and I feel so weary when I'm alone.
Wish you were here and would come back home.
I'm hurting and longing for your touch.
Why does parting have to hurt this much?

You're gone forever, and we are now apart.
I'm filled with pain that breaks my heart.
You used to playfully sneak behind the door.
Those lovely eyes I see no more.

You're gone, and I terribly miss your voice,
Your laughter that fills the house with noise.
Your absence makes me feel so blue.
My life is empty without you.

You're gone, but I know I shouldn't be so awful,
For you left me a treasure to cherish and to nurture.
Our precious little angel; she's all that I've got,
A constant reminder that once I had your love.

How To Write A Eulogy For Your Husband

 

Here’s a mistake I see most grieving wives and moms make when they have to string their ideas together. They simply read through a few examples and templates and modify them to suit their writing needs.

 

I get it because it can be very overwhelming to compose your thoughts when you are mourning the loss of someone who meant the world to you. This is what I recommend you do to make the writing process quick and painless.

 

Everything hinges on having a solid writing plan. So, you need to put one on paper and stick to it.

 

Here’s a simple plan I recommend you follow.

Let’s first take a snapshot of it before we delve deep into them.

• Figure out the kind of eulogy tribute you wish to make
• Decide on the length of your tribute for your husband
• Look for memories and stories to help you write your funeral speech
• Study well-crafted eulogy for husband examples and make the most of them
• Write your eulogy for husband

 

Now, let’s delve deeper into each point. Let’s start with the first:

 

Figure Out What Kind Of Eulogy You Wish To Make

 

You will be swayed in many different directions if you have no idea of what you want to accomplish with your speech. So, sit back and write down answers to the following questions:

 

• Do you wish to write a touching or inspiring eulogy for your dead husband?
• What do you wish to write about? Do you want to tell a story about how you met until he departed for eternity?
• Do you want to showcase her impact on your life, her family, children, friends and everyone she ever met?
• Would you like to do a funny eulogy for your husband? If he was fun to be around, then you might want to consider making it humorous.
• If she was religious, you could do a Christian eulogy for your late husband.
• Do you want to do a little bit of both? By this, I mean a mix of sentiments, her personal attributes, and his legacy?

 

I have this simple question: What do you have in mind? Please grab a pen and notepad or sheet of paper and write it down because it will determine how your story line goes.

 

This comes next:

 

• Decide On The Length Of Your Tribute For Your Husband

 

How long or short do you want your tribute for your husband to last? A few minutes? I have seen eulogies last anywhere from 2 minutes to 15 minutes.

 

A recent one I wrote was under 2 minutes even though the couple had been married for half a century.

 

Should you also settle for something brief? Yes and no to that because in certain situations, external factors may determine the overall length of your tribute. 

 

I know you love your man and want to properly honor him with a very wonderful tribute that encapsulates who he was, who he was you and your family, culminating in something long.

 

Before you settle on anything, please speak to his family first or consult the program outline about its length.

 

All things considered, just follow the promptings of your heart if there are no time constraints. But, make sure you don’t end up writing a very long lamentation or something that doesn’t properly honor the memory of your beloved husband.

 

Let’s look at this next:

 

• Look For Memories And Stories To Help You Write Your Funeral Speech

 

I once heard a wise man say that just about anyone can turn a boring talk into something interesting if there’s a story in there. I think he’s right because our lives are made up of a series of interconnected stories.

 

Your eulogy tribute for your deceased husband should be embellished with stories friends and family can relate to.

Regrettably, when we are mourning a loved one, our minds doesn’t seem to work well and it becomes a little hard to recall those memorable narratives.

 

If you are struggling to recollect those special moments, this simple pre-writing exercise can bring back memories of the good old times.

 

Here they are:

• Flip through your photo album and write down the memories that come to your mind. Then, select the stories you wish to add to your husband’s eulogy.
• If he (or you) loved to keep journals about your relationship and marriage, scroll through the pages and jot down stories that jump out at you.
• Go find letters, messages, cards, and other gifts he sent to you on your birthday, anniversaries, and on very important dates and go through them.

 

For example, if your husband once wrote you a letter that he will love you until the end of time, you may end your speech with that.

 

Here’s an example:

I am going to miss Mark every day of my life. He promised to love me until the end of time. Time hasn’t ended but it feels like it has come to a screeching halt. And I wonder how the next chapter of my life would be like without him in it? Only God knows what’s in store for me and my two young children?

 

Have you seen how I inserted those lines from a letter her deceased husband sent her? The trick is to go through those messages and plug into your eulogy what really speaks to your heart.

 

A great way to make your eulogy for your deceased husband super memorable is by including a story or two about other people. It shouldn’t be all about you both.

 

 

For example, if you describe him as a kind and caring person, you may elaborate it with a story about how he gave generously to others other than his own family.  It becomes particularly thoughtful when your chosen story is about his relationship with his own family.

 

This comes next: study this resource. What's it?

 

Eulogy For Husband Speech Template And Samples

 

Eulogy for husband speech template is a writing resource you can really depend on if you don’t know where to start. I will show you an example very soon.

 

Before I do that, I just wanted you to know that there are two kinds of templates:

 

• Eulogy For Husband Video Examples
• Written Eulogy For Husband Examples

 

They complement each other. Whereas video examples give you an idea of how to deliver your tribute before an audience, written examples provide insights, tips, and ideas that can help you write your tribute for your husband.

 

For example, if you have lost your husband to cancer or suicide and are looking for help crafting a speech about that, then you would better off with them than without them.

 

But here’s the thing. Just make sure you model your own script after any example you will find online. You don’t have to copy it verbatim else you risk sounding like everyone else.

 

Remember, everyone has a different story and your husband’s personality and spirit should be the overriding force in your tribute for such a loving man.

All that being said, here are two video examples you can watch and learn a thing or two from.

 

Here they are:

Eulogy For Husband Video Example #1

 

 

Eulogy For Husband Video Example # 2

 

 

Now, let’s look at this written example. Remember to use it as models of inspiration. Please read through it very carefully and jot down ideas you would like to add to your own speech.

 

Whether you have been married for a few years or a very long time, have lost your husband to cancer or suicide, through an accident, killed by a drunk driver or a mad man, or though natural causes, the following example can help you write a deeply meaningful eulogy for your late husband.

 

Are you ready? Ok, let’s look at the whole thing.

 

Short Eulogy For Husband Example

 

We are here today to celebrate the life and mourn the loss of Dennis Brown.

27 years ago, on a hot July night at the Britton Golf Club, we met at a dinner dance at the Tradition. We danced near the end of the evening, exchanged information, and throughout that first summer we played a few rounds of golf, and enjoyed some live music at local clubs. We both loved music, we both loved golf, but he had to learn to love the art of practicing.

 

Anyway, we dated for the next 7 years until he dragged me to the altar to exchange vows. We both were married before. We both had 2 children each, all were grown and gone by the time we got together. But he adored her kids, Jess and Dorothy.

 

Dennis loved people, he was very social. He also loved shoes, which is a whole other thing. He could spend money like no one I’ve ever met. Really though, he was the person who was always up for a game of cards, or a backyard fire with friends. I will miss going for walks, or rides, or spending time with the kids having dinner.

 

He changed me for the better; she taught me how to be brave in your darkest hours, how to live tenaciously seeking your best life, how to have a good time always, and how to love unconditionally.

 

I’m going to miss her every day for the rest of my life. But I also know that when I hear Janis Joplin belt out one of his tunes, Dennis will be there. When I’m walking along a green on a golf course, my love will be with me. When I’m sitting by a fire, Dennis will be there too.

 

His spirit will live on in all our hearts and minds until that day when it’s our turn to go across the veil to the other side, and he will be there waiting. Until then, my love. Please rest in eternal peace. I will love you always.

 

Wow! That’s a very short but touching tribute anyone would love to honor their dead husband with.

 

Nonetheless, it’s not very easy to put together something like that when you can’t think straight.

 

So, how do you go from looking up at the ceiling to writing an inspiring tribute that will honor and bless the memory of your husband?

 

It’s easier than you think. Ok, I will show you how to do just that.

Start by building a structure for your eulogy.  If you go back to the eulogy for husband examples, you will realize that the whole thing is built on this structure:

• The introductory remarks
• The body
• The conclusion or ending

 

Let’s start with the introduction or opening lines.  Your opening address includes these features:

• A short self-introduction: For those of you don’t know me, I am Mike’s widow and his best friend of 50 years.  I am Melissa. But, he used to call me My Avocado and I loved it. I know you are curious about that and there’s a little story to that but I won’t go into that now.

 

Did you notice how I made those initial remarks hilarious? You can do that too if you want to make your initial comments lighthearted. There’s nothing wrong with entertaining your friends and family at your husband’s service.

 

 

• Thank everyone for coming: Here’s another example:

Thank you so much for coming out from near and far to support our family as we big a final goodbye to the love of my life.

 

• Thank everyone for their love, support, and well-wishes This is another example:

 

The last few days have been incredibly difficult for me and our only son, Alexis. But your tremendous outpouring of love has lifted a heavy burden off our shoulders.

 

Many of you have called to check up on us and send several messages of support and encouragement. May God bless you abundantly. Only God knows where we would be with you.

 

That’s just a part of the introduction. There’s another part of it-the hook. The hook draws you into the tribute itself.

 

 

The hook should not only be captivating but also give a prelude of your love story. Below, I will share with you practical tips and ideas to make your hook very exciting and engaging.

 

 

First, start by mentioning how you feel about his departure as seen in this extract: 

‘’I only had him for 15 years, but I wanted him for 50 more.

But Shawn would not want me to talk about how unfair it is that he was taken from me – and from all of us – far, far too soon. I know because that’s how he lived his life. Shawn was grateful for every single day he had on this planet. I know because he told me. Not just in the final days of his life but in every day before that. ‘’

 

Second, you can share what you looked forward to. This is particularly helpful if your husband died young:

 

Mark and I had always looked forward to building our lives together with our kids till we were wrinkled.  That never came to pass. I only had him for only 13 months but he made the whole experience feel like we were together for 30 years.

 

Sometimes, it’s best to let your tears flow before you talk about how and where you met him. Imagine doing that before you utter these words.

 

‘’I met Dave nearly 20 years ago when I first moved to LA. He became my best friend. He showed me the internet for the first time, planned fun outings, took me to temple for the Jewish holidays, introduced me to much cooler music than I had ever heard’’

How To Write The Outline Of Your Husband’s Tribute

 

The body follows the introduction and should be fairly easy to write. But that’s not the case for most folks as it gets overwhelming when you have to pick and weave years of memories into a heartfelt but succinct eulogy.

 

To overcome this challenge, you have to develop a simple questionnaire which you will use to provide a framework of your tribute.

 

With your pen and notepad in hand, write down your answers to the following questions.

• When and how did you meet your husband?
• What was so special about him back then?
• Was it love at first sight or it blossomed from that initial encounter?
• How did you feel when he got down on knee and asked you to marry him?
• What was your wedding day like?
• What were your collective dreams?
• Did you achieve any of those goals?
• How did you do it?
• How did he make you a better person?
• What kind of man was your late husband?
• What kind of father was he?
• What were your most memorable moments as a couple?
• What were your collective achievements?

 

At this point, I would like to use your responses to craft a rough first draft. You can shelve it if you have a few days to your husband’s celebration of life service before you edit it. By this time, new ideas and insights will come to you.

 

 

If you are in a hurry, you can do that on a fly by letting another fresh pair of eyes (someone you can trust) look at it.

 

Your conclusion ends it. That takes us to this:

 

How To End A Eulogy For Your Mom

 

The conclusion of your speech is as important as your opening lines. So, you have to start and end well. 

 

Here are practical and easy steps to ending on a memorable note.

 

First, share ways you will miss him.  Here’s an example:

I’ll miss his smile, his touch. I’ll miss our chats about our next travel destinations; I’ll miss walking on a beach holding hands. I’ll miss having him around helping out anyway he could, weeding the garden and plant flowers.

 

Second, you thank everyone for coming.

 

Third, you can share what your husband told you by his bedside if you think it will have a profound impact on the funeral attendees.

 

My favorite way to close is to end with a poem or a favorite saying of the deceased.

 

Here’s an example:

In closing, my husband would not want you to be sad even though we are mourning his passing. He asked me to tell you eat well, sleep well, and rest so you can grow well. That’s what he asked me to tell you before he left us at 91 years old.

Eulogy For Mom By Son Or Daughter: What To Say

 

If you have lost your beloved mom and are looking for tips and ideas to help you write a heartfelt eulogy for your deceased mother, then you are at right place at the right time.

 

Just bear with me for just a little while and I will share with you…

• How to write a funny eulogy for your mom
• How to start a eulogy for your mom
• How to make use of eulogy for mom speech examples and templates
• How to write the best eulogy for your mom

 

Losing a mom really hurts no matter how long she has lived on this terrible planet because a mom’s love is undeniably the most potent force in the entire universe.

 

 

When a mom dies, it feels like her son’s or daughter’s world has come to a screeching halt as her death causes hearts to break into a million little pieces.

 

When your heart is broken into a million pieces and it can be very hard for you to write a great eulogy for your loving mom.

 

Before we look at how to start a eulogy your mom, let me take a moment to express my condolences on the passing of your dear mom.

 

I can’t just imagine what you’re going through at this very moment in your life.

I am sure your mom was your life’s greatest blessing and I know for sure losing such a precious woman is like losing your own soul.

 

Your mom is unique in her own right and no one can take her place. May you draw strength and comfort from the priceless memories you made and the legacy of love and compassion she left behind.

 

At this sad moment, inspiring music should be your abiding compassion as it can uplift your spirit and bring a smile to your face. The tune below can help you feel a lot better.

 

 

 

Once again, I am very sorry for your loss. If you need someone to talk, then don’t hesitate to send me a note here and I will get back to you.

 

How To Write A Great Eulogy For Mom

 

Now, let’s look at how you can write a great eulogy that honors your mom.

I like to compare writing a eulogy speech to ascending a flight of stairs to the top of an apartment.

You need to take one step at a time to get to your destination.  That’s not how many writers see it, unfortunately. They dive right in without first figuring out the steps to get it done.

 

Grieving someone like a mom is already a difficult thing, so you need to simplify things so you are not stressed out.

 

To make the writing process a breeze, you need to go through these steps:

• Jot down your goals for mom’s eulogy
• Decide if you want a long or short tribute
• Find out how to get content ideas for your message
• Study eulogy for mom speech examples
• Take inspiration from the examples to write your tribute for your late mom

Can we go through them together? Ok, let’s get started.

 

The first on the list is:

Write Down Your Goals For Mom’s Eulogy

I always find it shocking when folks pour out their thoughts on paper without actually figuring what they want to accomplish with their tributes.

 

Having written goals will provide you with a sense of direction and also help express yourself eloquently.

So, grab a pen and pen ask yourself these simple questions?

• What aspect of mom’s life should I highlight?

• Should I make my eulogy very inspiring or touching or even funny? For example, if your mom had a great sense of humor, you may write a funny eulogy for her. Again, if mom was a Christian, then you can make it a Christian eulogy for mom.

• Who am I? And what am I known for? For example if you have a special ability to tell stories? Am I fun to be around?

 

It’s best to weave in bits and pieces of your own personality into your speech even though the mourners are not there because of you.

 

Just imagine how powerful your tribute would be if your good singing voice helps you end mom’s tribute with a song she loved to sing.

 

Also, consider how impactful your words would be if you are a poem guy and are able to somewhat add a very beautiful poem to your script.

 

This comes next:

What Should Be The Length Of My Eulogy?

 

Most people are overly obsessed with what the ideal length of such speeches should be.

 

But, I think this obsession is needless. Here’s why: I have read long and short tributes before and what makes them super memorable were the stories behind them and how they are delivered.

 

As a professional eulogy speech writer, I have written both long and short eulogies for moms and I can tell you that not of that really matters.

 

Your ability to properly honor your deceased mom with the right words and stories in a way that brings comfort to her family and friends should always be given due prominence.

 

Nonetheless, a few factors might influence how long or short mom’s eulogy goes.

 

Here they are:

 

• You should keep it short if lots of people want to eulogize your mom.
• Your own family may ask you to keep it brief and concise and you have to respect their wishes.

 

When there are no such restrictions, you can do something long or short. Just make sure it’s not like a cross country road trip. 

 

 

Let’s get to another thing:

Find Out How To Get Content Ideas For Your Mom’s Eulogy

 

I know when given the chance, you can talk about your mom for hours on end without blinking your eye.

But with a eulogy, you have to drill down and come up with really good stories your siblings and the entire family can relate to. 

 

When piecing your story, the stories you choose shouldn’t be centered about your relationship with her alone.

 

Make it very inclusive by adding in memories she made with her whole family if you are the sole speaker at her funeral or memorial service.

 

If that’s not the case, however, you have to ask your siblings to share their favorite anecdotes with you.

You can also follow these steps to come up with right stories if you are not blessed with a magnetic memory.

 

Step #1: Flip through her photo album and write down what each photo represents or brings back to mind.

Step # 2: Talk to your uncles and aunts and ask them to share beautiful stories about her life and they would be happy to share their thoughts with you.

Step #3: Have you prepared mom’s memorial slideshow yet? Watch it, back to back if possible and see if it brings back really fond memories you can add to your mom’s tribute speech.

Step#4: Was she active on social media? If so, head over to her profile pages and look for photos and videos and read the comments below them for what others thought about her and possibly add the warm comments to your presentation.

Step# 5: Did mom love to keep journals or jot down stuff every now and then?  If so, why not leaf through them and share her personal insights and experiences with the mourners.

 

By doing so, you can really honor the memory of your mother in a way that will inspire others to strive for the best in their personal lives.

 

Step# 6: Talk to dad or her husband if he’s still alive and well. He would regale you with beautiful stories about your mom and their relationship. As they say, good memories come straight from the horses own mouth.

 

That being said, this comes next:

Start by studying….

 

Eulogy For Mother Examples/Templates

 

Where can you find some really good ones? Online! I know you would be happy to see one. But, here’s a fair warning: Don’t copy any example you will ever find; even if it’s coming from me.

 

The reason being that lots of people will also be reading those examples and you don’t want to come across as that lazy bum who just copy ideas and phrases off the internet!

 

Well, I am going to share with you an example I wrote a while back. Afterwards, we will break it down bit by bit so you can figure out how to write one even if you have never written a eulogy your whole lifetime.

 

This is it…

 

Short Eulogy Example For Deceased Mother

 

Good Afternoon. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming from far and near as we mourn the passing of a great person who was not only my beloved mom but also the best friend of so many people in this room who are united in grief and love for an amazing woman whose true measure and value goes beyond words.

 

My mother, Mary Helen, did two things religiously, every day – She prayed and she helped people. Every single day; it was her calling, her purpose, and mission on earth.

 

Looking around this room, I can see many people who were recipients of her kindness; I see many eyes flooded with sadness at her loss and gratitude that she had been here. That’s because she helped so many of us here and many of us who are not.

 

If it weren’t for her body letting her down - when her soul was still so young and vibrant, determined and adventurous - she would still be here today, seeking out people who needed her assistance and giving her all to whoever she could help.

 

I was her only son and after I was born, along with me, she committed her time to helping other children. She fostered more than one-hundred-and-fifty children and teens in the Chicago area over the course of seventeen years.

 

There will be a lot of young people out there who would remember her with such fondness and love – for some it would have been a short space of a day where they were blessed with her as a safe haven during a transitional period, but for others, she was a solid and supportive part of their lives for five years.

 

My mother was used to being around a lot of children; she was one of seven siblings; sister to Alice, Josephine, Stella, Cesar, Carolyn, Lisa and Martha. One might suppose that was how she felt most comfortable – in a communal group; sharing and helping one another.

 

She was born in Sahuayo, Michoacan, Mexico and immigrated to the United States with her family at the age of 14, moving to Chicago in 1954. She served as a Nun for five years, as a Maryknoll Sister of St. Dominic in New York.

 

Due to a family tragedy, she had to leave, but then with a fundamental basis of caring and teaching others, she found her own way to a path that enlightened others and fulfilled her calling.

 

My mother was hungry for knowledge, travel, new experiences – she lived every moment of her life with such enthusiasm and vivacity.

 

She taught Confraternity of Christian Doctrine in the State of Illinois in schools and colleges and at the age of sixty, she completed her Master’s in Education at the Loyola University in Chicago.

 

As well as education and knowledge, she loved to try new food; she would eat sushi, octopus, squid and travelled to more than twenty-five different countries in her life, always eager to try their new delicacies.

 

She didn’t shy away from change. Each new experience was a new opportunity to learn something and make her life much better. She encouraged me always to try hard and learn more.

 

She lived by example; working several jobs while I was young, to ensure I never wanted for anything and she set such a work ethic in me so that during times in my life where I have had to deliver pizza and wash dishes to make ends meet, I did it because I knew she would have done it to help me.

 

My mother certainly used any opportunity she could to travel to a new country – when I was twenty and serving in the U.S Air Force, I was stationed in the United Kingdom and my Mother wanted to join me for my first legal drink. 

 

She flew to England for two weeks to make sure she could be there for the occasion. During her trip, we watched all the James Bond movies together and – as a result – my first legal drink ended up being a Martini, shaken not stirred. I hated it. Though I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t have impacted her love of that trip

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People would laugh with Mary – mostly owing to the fact that she just made people smile. But additionally because she would often mix her Mexican Spanish words with her American words and they would sound so funny; luckily she was always happy to laugh at herself too.

 

She had an energy about her and was the soul of any party. She would walk into a room of one-hundred strangers and would leave with ninety-nine new friends. She would always say ‘You can’t be perfect, but you can try.’

 

My mother was entirely committed to her faith; the Roman Catholic Church and the service of others. She found joy and depth in praying – she would pray every day with her rosary because; whilst she recognised that we could commit our kindness and energy selflessly here one earth, she also trusted that there was a higher power capable of doing things we cannot.

 

She prayed for those she helped and gave so much of herself to her community. And I am hopeful that she’s now being rewarded by her maker for loving her neighbor as herself.

 

We were all so privileged to have had her in our lives; I feel so lucky to have been loved by her and I acknowledge that the frustration she felt with being stuck in a body that needed dialysis was not the way she chose to live – being stuck herself, she wasn’t free to help others and live her purpose. Now she is free – no longer constrained within her body, but in the loving energy we feel when we think of her.

 

Thank you to everybody who has attended today to pay your respects to my wonderful mother, Mary Helen, who I love and will miss forever and forever.

 

That is quite sentimental. Well, it’s not so hard to write something like that as you might imagine it to be.

 

To do that, you can start by spliting up the example above into three parts to make things a lot simpler. The three parts include:

• The introduction
• The body
• The conclusion

 

The introduction sets the stage for your tribute and it has two main parts:

• The opening remarks
• The hook

 

The opening remarks comprise the following:

• Greeetings: An example is:

Good morning. I am also grateful that this room is filled with so many people that knew and cared for my mom.

 

• Thank you notes. Here you can thank the following personalities.

1. Your dad for loving her until the end
2. The medical staff for their help and support
3. Your siblings for their love and support
4. Your extended family

 

Question: Can you write down names of people you wish to express gratitude to? This basic writing exercise can put you in the mood for the right expression of your ideas.

 

The hook follows the introduction. It is that part of the intro that captures the attention of the mourners from the get go. 

 

Here are some practical ways of doing just that.

• Start off by sharing how you feel on such a sad day. Here’s an example:

I’ve struggled to understand and accept this situation. Losing your mom is a deeply painful experience. It comes with a hurricane of emotions, processing, and reflection.  My mind wants to reject it all. But this is the reality. My mom is no longer with us in this world.

 

• Share a little memory about your mom.
• You can start with a poem about the loss of a mom if you wish to convey how you have been impacted by her loss.

 

The body follows the introduction. Now, let’s look at this:

 

How To Write The Content Of Body Of Your Mom’s Eulogy

The body is actually the outline of your entire presentation. To write the body of your eulogy, you should center your ideas on these themes:

• Who was your mom?
• What was her impact on your family and those she came into contact with?
• What made her a very wonderful mom?
• What was one striking thing about her personality?

 

This is what you can do with those questions. Write down your answers and try to use them to create a rough first draft.

Now, let’s look at the conclusion.

 

 

How To End A Eulogy For Mom

 

What you say as you wrap up is as important as how you start. Hence, you need to end well because most people will remember what you say at the tail end of it.

 

Below are a few tips to help you end your tribute for mom on a resounding note.

• You can conclude by wiping off your own tears no matter how hurt you are. That, in itself can be very therapeutic.
• You can end by thanking everyone for coming out to mom’s celebration of life.
• You can honor mom’s memory by sharing her favorite verse or poem or how she ended a long talk.

 

Eulogy Tribute For Best Friend: Tips And Examples

 

Have you lost your best friend and are looking for tips and ideas to help you prepare a touching eulogy for your dead friend?

 

Just stick with me and you will find the exact words and examples to help you write the best eulogy ever for your friend.

 

Let’s start by asking ourselves this question:

How Do You Start A Eulogy For Your Friend?

 

When your close friend dies suddenly and you are asked to say a few remarks at the funeral or memorial service, it can get very intimidating if you are not good with words or hate being in the public eye.

 

And you have every right to feel nervous because you are expected to honor the memory of your dear friend in a very special way that highlights the depths of your friendship.

I know how it feels to lose a very precious friend to death. About 5 years ago, I lost a close friend to cancer and had to write a tribute for her.

 

As a professional eulogy speech writer, I found myself in a very tight corner even though I had helped several people with their eulogies.

 

But, writing this one was a bit hard for me due to the intense emotions that came with it. I finally got through it and felt so much relieved that I had properly honored my deceased friends with the right words.

 

But, let’s face it. Not everyone has a flair for words. So, how do you go from blinking helplessly at your note pad to cramming it full with very fond memories about your friendship? That’s the focus of the next chapter.

 

Before we jump right in, let me take a moment to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I once read a quote that says that some friends come into your life for a reason, others for a season and some others for a lifetime.

 

I know without a doubt that your friend came into your life for all those reasons above and losing him or her to death really hurts. It hurts so badly. May the memories you made together bring you comfort and peace in this very sad and difficult time.

 

I found this poem for you. Just read it out loud over and over again and you will find strength to carry on.

 

Here it is:

Gone Too Soon: A Poem To An Extraordinary Person By Stephanie Solis

Today is the day you will be laid to rest,
But you know what they say,
God only takes the best.
Everything happens for a reason,
Even if we may not agree.

Just promise to look after us,
And if you can,
Save a spot up there for me.
The thought of never seeing you again brings tears to my eyes,
And even more so,
Because all of this was such a surprise.
But we should never question what God has planned.

Sometimes it's not meant for us to understand.
So as we sit here and mourn the loss of a beloved friend,
We have to keep telling ourselves that we will meet again.

 

At this point, let’s look at how you can easily and quickly put your friend’s tribute together.

 

How To Write A Eulogy For Your Friend By Following These Simple Steps

 

When you are looking for tips and ideas to write an amazing eulogy, it can be very tempting to scan through a few examples and make slight changes to them and call it done. Unfortunately, that is not how it works.

 

But, like everything worthwhile in life, pouring your whole heart, mind, and soul onto that sheet of paper is a step by step process.

 

Now, let’s look at the easy-to-follow steps that can help you craft a very memorable eulogy for your dead male or female friend.

 

Here are the steps:

• Choose a style/tone for your eulogy speech
• What should be the length of your eulogy tribute?
• How to get ideas and stories for your tribute
• How to make the most of eulogy for friend speech examples
• How to prepare your eulogy for friend using those examples

 

Now, let us get into each of the points in details. First, on the list is:

 

Choose A Style/Tone For Your Eulogy

 

The overall impact of your message depends on the style you choose for your friend’s tribute. Your choice of words depends on your personality, your friend’s personality, and what you would like to say about your late friend.

 

For example, if your friend was a funny or cheerful person, then your tribute might have some lighthearted stories.

 

If your close pal was a thoughtful person, you may share how his thoughts and guidance helped make you a better person.

 

The following questions can help you pick a tone for your friend’s eulogy.

 

• Do you want to write a touching or heartfelt tribute for your close friend?
• What was your late friend’s character disposition? Was he serious, cheerful, and fun to be around?
• Is there a particular aspect of your friend’s character trait you would like to speak about or you just want to tell stories about your friendship?

 

Now, what aspect of your friend’s personality do you wish to highlight?

 

Let’s look at the next thing:

 

Should This Be The Length Of Your Tribute For Your Friend?

 

As a professional eulogy speech writer, I can tell you from experience that the length of your speech doesn’t really matter. What matters most is what you say about your friend at his funeral service or celebration of life.

 

However, a few factors may influence how long it lasts. For example, the deceased’s family may ask you to speak for a certain amount of time.

 

What’s more, if so many people are going to speak at the funeral service, it’s best to stick to the allotted time.

 

If none of those limitations exist, speak from your heart without focusing too much on the agreed time. Just make sure it’s not as long as a mile.

This comes next:

How To Get Content Ideas And Stories For Your Friend’s Tribute

 

Stories are the lifeblood of every eulogy. But, as we grow, our memories become like a sieve because we tend to forget things easily.

 

Whether you have a razor-sharp memory or not, the following ideas can help you think of all those fond memories so you can put together a heartfelt and inspiring eulogy for your friend.

 

Here they are:

• Have you prepared a memorial tribute slideshow about the deceased? You can watch it and see if you can find great pictures that will spark your memory. Here’s an example to help you remember the finer details of your friendship:

 

• Go find your friend’s social media profiles and look for your photos and write down what they remind you about.

• Look through your photo archives or album and find your photos. As you do that, ask yourself what each photo represents?

• Why not speak to your friends if you don’t have photos of the deceased? They can bring back stories that might have slipped through the cracks. You may ask questions like:

1. Can you share a memory or two about your friend with Mark (replace with name of your friend)?
2. Do you remember when we went on the African safari (substitute it by asking about a memorable vacation getaway or any event)?

 

Let’s move on to this:

 

Eulogy For Friend Examples And How To Make The Most Of Them

 

Regardless of what your writing skills are, eulogy for friend samples can help you put together your scattered thoughts and ideas into a very moving tribute.

 

For example, if your friend was killed by cancer, finding a eulogy example about that disease will make the writing a breeze because you can model your eulogy after that template.

 

In the next chapter, I am going to share with you a eulogy for friend example I wrote a while back.

 

After we have reviewed it, we will analyze it with the right examples so you can figure out how to use our findings to write a touching eulogy for your friend.

 

Before we do that, let’s look at this example.

 

Short Eulogy For Friend Example

 

For those of you who do not know me, my name is Jose Cardona. Roland was a really good friend.

 

When a close friend or a loved one we adore with our whole hearts unexpectedly leaves us, a

piece of our heart is forever broken and we often find ourselves wondering what really went wrong.

 

However, this is a profound question no mortal alive can answer.

 

As sad and tragic Ronald’s passing is, let’s use this very sad moment to honor the life of Roland or Roli as most of us knew him.

 

Though we worked together for 20 years, I never got to know his family. But I feel much honored that they asked me to pay tribute to a very special friend who was one of the greatest gifts in my life.

 

 

I’m standing here today to let each of you know that I grieve with you, I’m praying for you, and I will be here if you need anything.

 

I hope and pray that these few words bring you some peace and comfort in this sad moment.

 

Roli was a great guy. He was a quiet person who stayed out of the spotlight. But was a hard worker and would do anything for a friend.

 

From the time we met at Price Waterhouse, our careers followed one another and we became more than co-workers.

 

We became friends. Every morning he would make sure to come say Good Morning and ask about how I was doing.

 

Every evening he would approach to say goodnight. Even if we had disagreed on something work-related earlier, he would never leave angry.

 

He was a bit of a gear head, as am I. So we went to auto shows together and spent hours discussing the latest car models.

 

He was very smart about stocks  and he was a day trader. I would always go to him for advice.

 

Roli had his issues, and ultimately it was those issues that overcame him and end his life. But I don’t want to remember him for his weaknesses, because he had so many strengths.

 

He was motivated, and intelligent, and an incredibly good person. I remember once mentioning in a conversation that my parents needed a new air conditioner and he immediately said “I have an extra one.”

 

He was thoughtful and dedicated and generous. He was proud of his service to his country as an Army Veteran, and he loved what he did for a living.

 

 These past few months have been difficult for everyone. The lockdowns and the layoffs have been hard on all of us. I think it was especially hard for Roli.

 

One thing that I have learned  from this experience is that I can never take anyone for granted in my life, because they can be gone so very quickly, and tragically.

 

Roli, I hope you that you are at peace, and that you are surrounded by loving friends and family who have gone ahead of us.

 

I miss you more than words can say. You will always hold a special place in my heart, and my love for you will never, ever part. I look forward to the time I will get to see you again. Thank you, brother for everything.

 

 

Did you learn a thing or two from reading that template? I hope so.

 

I promised to show you how to write something like that, if not better. So, let’s get into the details.

 

If you want the writing process to be really easy, you have to grab a sheet of paper and split up the speech into three parts and label it like this: introduction, body, and conclusion.

 

Let’s look at this first: the introduction

 

How To Write The Introduction For Your Eulogy

It comprises of these elements:

• Greetings: Here’s an example:

 

Wow… I never thought I would see so many of you here this blistery afternoon as we mourn the passing of my beloved friend, Mark.  Thank you so much for coming for coming from far and near. None of us really want to be here. But you came because you know the deep love I had for a friend whom many said was my older brother.

 

• A Short-Self Introduction

Most folks in the audience might probably not know who you are. Here’s an example: For those of you who might not know me, I am Dan, Mark’s best friend of the last 30 years.

 

• Expression of gratitude

You have to thank a few people when you are asked to deliver a few remarks about your best friend.

First and foremost, thank the family of the deceased for asking you or allowing to say something about your best friend.

 

Here’s an example culled from the above example:

I feel much honored that they asked me to pay tribute to a very special friend who was one of the greatest gifts in my life. I’m standing here today to let each of you know that I grieve with you, I’m praying for you, and I will be here if you need anything.

 

Here are some other personalities you can express gratitude to:

• The friends of your friend for their support and encouragement
• Your friends’ spouse and children for standing by your friend
• His family for help and support
• The doctors and nurses for their medical help

 

Here’s a little homework assignment to help you write your thank you notes:

Can you write a short note thanking your friend’s family for allowing you to speak at the memorial service? Ok, I am so happy you can do that.

Next, do a little brainstorming and write down names of people you would like to express gratitude to.

 

Below is a funny eulogy for friend example:

My friend won’t have lived this long if it were not for the tireless sacrifices of the medical staff- doctors and nurses. I used to visit him when he was on hospice and I was overwhelmed by the amount of love and support they showed him.

 

Sandra’s went above and beyond to ensure he was well-cared for that at some point a patient jokingly said he was her side sick. Sandra was unbelievably kind and I am so grateful that she travelled from the East Coast to be with us this morning. Sandra, thank you so much for your generous love and support for my wonderful friend.

 

Do you see how humorous the last line is? If there’s an element of humor to your friendship, please bring it on and the family will appreciate that you made me smile through the tears.

 

There is, of course, another portion of the introduction called the hook or what is known as starting on a strong note. After you have incorporated the above elements into your script, you then start to write the hook which is that part of your speech that depicts how and where you met your friend as well as how your friendship took off.

 

Here are few ways of starting on a strong note.

 

First, you can begin by sharing how you met your friend. Here’s another example:

 

I first met Cassandra in a place that tends to stoke one’s passions for social and economic justice — the financial aid line at law school. (Laughter.) We were just entering Harvard Law. We happened to be next to each other in line, I think it was in Pound Hall, and we were furiously filling out our financial aid forms. I have no doubt I was doing something wrong.

 

She may have looked over my shoulder and said, “I think that’s wrong.” (Laughter.) And we were inching forward each time the registrar shouted, “Next!” We introduced ourselves to each other, and we bonded over the fact that we were signing our lives away to Harvard, fully aware of how long it would take us to pay off that debt that we were about to accrue.

 

Second, you may write down how you felt when you heard the news of the passing of your dear friend. Again, this is an example to buttress this point.

 

‘’ Ever since I heard the news on Saturday morning, I find that several times during the day, I stop and shake my head in disbelief. How could it be that Donna — this vibrant, radiant light — is gone? Somehow the shock of it all has inured us from the deep grief and heartache that we know will only intensify in the days, weeks, months, even years to come. ‘’

 

Third, you can start with any of these quotes to make your eulogy very thoughtful and emotional:

 

Quotes For Eulogy For Your Friend

 

The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one” ~ Seneca

"You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can't forget. Those are your friends." ~ Mark Twain

"He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man." ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry.

“Even the best of friends cannot attend each other’s funeral” ~ Kehlog Albran

“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” ~ Flavia Weedn

 

How do you use quotes to write a killer hook? I am going to use Mark Twains’ words.

 

I once read a quote by Mark Twain that says You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those you can’t forget. Those are your friends.

 

Donna was my most loyal friend I can’t ever forget. She was the very essence of love, life, and inspiration. She was unbelievably special to me in every way. When I fell off the stairs last year, she was there. When my husband died a few years back, she was there to comfort and console and lend a helping hand.

 

The body comes after the introduction. So, let’s look at it.

How To Write The Body or Outline Of Your Friend’s Eulogy

 

Let’s now write down simple answers to the questions below:

• What were your shared interests or passions?
• What was your friend’s influence on your life?
• What were your most memorable moments?
• What were your friend’s admirable qualities?
• What made your friend a very exceptional person?

 

This is what I want you to do right now if you have written answers to the above questions. Just write down a rough first draft. Never mind how it looks like on paper because you can always go back to it and get rid of the excesses till it looks great.

 

The conclusion comes last.

Now,…let’s look at

How To Write The Ending Of Your Eulogy For Your Friend

 

Here are ways of ending on a memorable note.

First, if you have nothing to say, just end by sobbing into a tissue This, will at least give some closure to your friendship.

 

Second, you can share why and how you will miss your dead friend.

 

Third, you can end with your personal wish or prayer for the departed soul and family.

‘’We pray that the Lord grants our sister, Cassandra, eternal peace. May He bless her memory. May he bless her family, and the lives of everyone that she touched.’’

 

Fourth, end with the legacy your friend left behind.

‘’ I guess in a way, Donna left us a blueprint for a life well lived. To always make time. To remember what’s important. To be present. To cherish the ones we love. God, we will miss you.  Thank you, Donna. How incredibly lucky we were. ‘’