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How To Write An Inspiring Tribute For Your Deceased Daughter

 

Have you lost your daughter? And are you looking for easy-to-follow tips and ideas to help you write a touching eulogy for your deceased daughter?

 

Just stay here for a little while and I will share with you…

• How to write a eulogy speech for your deceased daughter
• How to easily make use of eulogy for daughter speech examples to write a funeral speech that honors her even if you are not good with words
• How to find the right words and phrases that will not only honor her memory but also depict her legacy
• Plus, a whole lot more

Let’s start with this…

 

 

What Does A Mom Or Dad Say About Her Deceased Daughter?

 

I don’t know about you. But, in my culture, burying your daughter goes against the laws of nature. 

 

We believe that after you have cared for your daughter, you should live long enough to see her grow into a very old person before she gives you a befitting burial.

 

That sounds like a good plan. Sadly, however, life doesn’t always go as planned.  Nonetheless, I still believe that no mom or dad should bury their daughter because it’s one of life’s most painful experiences.

 

The pain cuts so deep when you reflect on the good and bad times you have had together. It seems like only yesterday she was born and the moment they placed her into your arms, your life was infused with a love beyond all measure and understanding.

 

You watched that baby girl grow into a little girl. In a flash, she grew into a sweet girl who bloomed with promise and purpose.

 

 

You constantly imagined who she would grow into and what kind of person she would marry and the grandchildren she would bear. You have had your share of disagreements and conflicts but the love for her was still deep because she was everything to you.

 

Before you knew it, her breath was snuffed out. Your precious baby girl, tower of strength, your confidant, best friend and angel has gained her wings. How on earth are you going to live without her?

 

Some Words Of Comfort

 

Whether you have lost your daughter to suicide, heart attack, cancer, car accident, a fall, killed by a crazy shooter, or even through natural causes, nothing can take away the pain of losing a precious daughter who was not only your joy and pride but also the sunshine of your life.

 

I know your heart is broken into a million pieces as your grief never seems to come to an end. May you find peace and comfort in the sweet memories you shared together.

 

Well, I would encourage you to read this touching poem aloud over and over again and it will give you some strength to cope with her loss.

 

Here it is:

 

A Mother's Grief

My heart is shattered into pieces,
Not a day goes by without seizures of weeping.
The emptiness consumes my being,
Darkness is all I see, your laughter no longer gleaming.

I long to hold you, feel your warm embrace,
But you've flown to Heaven, left this lonely place.
Not a second passes I don't say your name,
Wishing I could turn back time, erase all the pain.

In the night, I hear your sweet voice call,
A comforting song, easing my fall.
You tell me it's okay, to let go of the sorrow,
That you'll be in my heart each new tomorrow.

Our bond is unbroken, though Death parted our frames,
Your pure love and spirit, no time can ever tame.
So I'll cherish each memory with pride in my heart,
Knowing one day dear child, we forever won't part.

Until then my guiding light, you give me the will,
To pick up the pieces, and go on living still.
Your love sees me through, I cannot lose hope,
With you by my side sweet girl, I can cope.
-Unknown-

 

Well, if you need someone to talk to, just reach out to me and I will do my best to get back to you as soon as possible with some healing words.

 

 

How To Write An Amazing Eulogy For Your Daughter 

 

That being said, how do you go from staring at your blank computer screen to  to writing a very heartfelt eulogy for your deceased daughter?

 

It’s easy. You just have to follow these simple steps to get it done.

• Write down your writing goals 
• Decide on the length of your daughter’s tribute speech
• Find content ideas for your eulogy for daughter
• Find eulogy for daughter examples and figure out how to make the most of them
• Find out how to write a funeral speech for your daughter

 

OK, let’s see how you can take things one step at a time.

 

Writing your script can be a whole lot easier if you set meaningful writing goals to guide you every step of the way. That will also give you peace of mind, keep you focused and help you pick the right stories to share about her life.

 

With a pen in hand and sheet on paper, start by reflecting on these questions:

• What do I want to say about my deceased daughter?
• Should I write about her beautiful character traits and the joy she brought to your family and other people?
• Should I tell a story about how she was born, the good times we had together, her love for family and friends, or what made her a very special person?

 

I have a question for you: What would you like to focus on?

 

The next thing to consider is the duration of your funeral speech. How long do you want it to last? Do you want it to be short or long? How long or short you want your tribute for your dead daughter to last depends largely on these factors:

• How long have you been asked to speak? If you have been asked to speak for a few minutes, just stick to the time.
• How many speakers are delivering eulogies at her celebration of life? If several people are going to speak, then it’s best to stay within limits so others can equally eulogize her.

 

Here’s my take on this deeply sensitive issue: I have written very long speeches and others have been brief.

 

I remember writing a eulogy that lasted a little over six minutes for a distraught man who had lost her daughter. Another eulogy lasted well below that time and it still worked for my client.  

 

Here’s something to think about: Are you thinking of making your tribute very long, long or short? The ball is in your court.

 

With that said, let’s look at…

 

How To Get Content Ideas For Your Daughter's Tribute 

 

Here’s a mistake I see most parents make that heighten their stress levels and disturb their peace.

 

In order to reduce the stress from their loss, they comb through a few eulogy for daughter examples they find and make changes to suit their writing needs.

 

That’s not entirely wrong. However, this approach is quite ineffective because every eulogy is different no matter how similar they may be because everyone has a story and everyone’s life is a memorable story no matter how you see it. 

 

Let’s look at it this way. Suppose your daughter solved a specific problem whilst she was alive. People are battling with this problem and you have been told that you have to write a story about how she made it.

 

She wanted to do it before she passed on. But, asked you to do that on her death bed. How would you go about it?

You are most likely to gather some information from her journal, conduct some research, and interview other patients before sharing your thoughts with the world.

 

Similarly, you need to dive deep into your sub-conscious mind and recall stories about your daughter’s life before you write your funeral speech about your daughter’s life.

 

That should be a cinch if you have an amazing memory. If for some reason, you have forgotten about all those great moments, don’t despair because you can get them to come back to you by following this simple plan:

 

• Leaf through her journal and write down things you think you can add to your eulogy. For example, if her wish was to live until she was ninety years old, you may share this with the mourners.

• Scan through new and old family photos. Check her Facebook, Instagram, and other social media pages for her photos. As you do that, ask yourself what memory each picture brings to mind and write them down.

• Did she send you letters, messages, and cards on your special days like your birthdays, anniversaries, father’s day and on other important milestones?

• Have you made a slideshow about her yet? Watch it for more memories about her life.

• If can’t find all those stuff, then her mom, siblings,  and relatives can serve as reliable springboard for recapturing fond memories.

 

 

 

Now, let’s switch our focus to how to get eulogy ideas from  videos. The easiest way to get ideas to come to you is by watching eulogy for daughter videos on youtube.com

 

So go over to that video platform and input keywords like eulogy for daughter and its variants and wait for some video clips to pop out.

 

If you have some time, you may go through a lot of them. If you don’t, I have these really good video clips you can watch and profit from.

 

So, grab your pen and sheet of paper and write down ideas you think you can infuse into your script.

 

Here they are video clips:

 

Eulogy Speech For Daughter Video Examples #1

 

Tribute Speech For Daughter Video Templates #2

 

 

Both are touching eulogies examples for daughters. Don’t you think so?

 

How To Write Your Tribute For Your Daughter

 

As you know, grieving your daughter while writing down her tribute can be very overwhelming due to the intense emotions involved.

When you feel so sad and your can’t seem to collect your thoughts, you should always resort to eulogy for daughter speech examples and templates.

 

They are to a writer what road signs are to car drivers and road users. A well-crafted example can give you an idea of how to put your thoughts together in a very clear and concise manner.

 

It’s your helping hand if you don’t have much time on your hands or don’t know where to start.

 

Although it’s an indispensable writing tool, most grieving souls don’t use it so well as they just copy bits and pieces of it. That shouldn’t be the case, however.  You should use them from a standpoint of inspiration and guidance.

 

 

So, let’s start by looking at this eulogy for daughter templates/examples.

 

After that, we will analyze it so we can figure out how to use them to come up with a really good script. That way, you won’t have to struggle to write a touching eulogy that honors the memory and legacy of your daughter.

 

Here is it:

 

Eulogy Example For My Daughter

 

For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mike and I am the proud father of Alex Vantrot and always will be the proud father of Alex Vantrot.

 

On behalf of my entire family, I would like to thank you for coming today to say goodbye far too soon to a very lovely young woman who will always hold a very special place in our hearts. 

I want to get to some much deserved announcements to start with. I want to thank Alex’s Grandma Barbs, her Aunt Mary, Aunt Millicent, and Alex’s Aunt, Uncle and cousin’s the Zig & Ryan Zimmerman’s family for their support.

 

I don’t know what we would’ve done without your broad shoulders to cry on. My family loves you.  

Thank you to Nick , Todd, and Dan, for the beautiful video he posted within hours of all of us finding out about her passing.

Although, the tears flow while watching the video, it is a beautiful tribute. Thank you again and we love you for caring so much.

People always say that losing a child is an unnatural loss and I couldn’t agree more because we are not supposed to outlive our children. 

 

I think the reason for that is because when our children are born, we have 2 jobs that are given to us when that little life enters our world. 

 

The first is to teach them everything you know.  About life, about pain, about joy,  about love.  You teach your children because you have already done these things, and made a mess of it sometimes and succeeded other times. 

So you give them what wisdom you can, and you watch as they go out and make their own mistakes, and celebrate their own successes,  knowing that your lessons helped them along the way.

 

The second thing is to protect your kids from the meanness and badness of the world for as long as possible,  so that when it’s time for them to come face to face with it all they will have all the good things and love you provided to overcome the hardships.

 

But when a child has to face death unexpectedly, what is a parent supposed to do?

 

Well, you can only grieve while hoping that someday you will be reunited with your child.

 

I have never stopped thinking about my daughter and best friend, Alex since she unexpectedly waved me a sad goodbye before going home to be with the Lord. 

 

As her father, I was looking forward to being there when she achieved great things and celebrating her accomplishments, big and small.  

 

I never dreamed that I would instead be delivering her eulogy. This is a very heartbreaking final speech no father should ever have to give.

 

It’s been sixty (60) days of my heart literally shattering at the thought of not ever seeing my daughter again.

Sixty (60) days I wake up just to miss my daughter all over again. Sixty (60) Days of our everyday routine being forever broken.

 

Sixty(60) days of not hearing Alex laugh. Sixty(60) days of not hearing Alex’s vivacious voice. Sixty (60) days of trying to just survive this nightmare.  My heart is broken into a million little pieces.

 

I will obviously die with a broken heart because she meant the world to us. I pray every day that the good Lord puts the pieces back together and bring comfort to me and the family.

 

For those of you who never met Alex or knew who she was, she was a very caring and compassionate person who was always had a helping hand to lend to anyone without reservation.

 

But I loved and admired her for her innate sweetness and sparkly smile that could melt a heart of stone and brighten your day.

 

She also was a very happy, fun and outgoing soul. Her friends loved her for that and loved to hang out with her. 

Alex could put on a dress and be Cinderella or a pair of waders and fish with the best of them. Typical Alabama Chic, which her friends in Ashley Beach,  found endearing.

 

Small wonder that her sudden passing affected not only my family but also her huge Alabama and Ashley Beach community of friends.

 

I know this because we literally had so many of her friends reach out to my family in our darkest period of grief.

 

Seeing so many friends here to say goodbye to Alex today, shows just how loved she was and how much she will be missed.

 

To Alex’s friends who are with us today as well as those who couldn’t make it here,  my heart breaks for you all because you’ve lost a true and treasured friend who was a shining light of goodness, inspiration, humor and love.

 

I am so grateful for the incredible love, outpouring of support and well wishes that have come our way since learning of our daughter’s passing.

 

I don’t want to forget to say how sorry I am for your loss too. I know that friends like Alex are unique and few.

 

There aren’t many people out there who you can count on the way you could with Alex.

 

It goes without saying that animals are a man’s best friend. Alex was very passionate about animals and she proved by her special love and attention for animals that they were her best friends.

From an early age, she had a deep love for animals and became so fond of our black labs who loved being at her side.

 

I can only imagine how they too are feeling at this moment in time as we say our final goodbyes to their friend and beloved companion.  I think they will miss her because she was all they had.

 

Alex was extremely dedicated to the family. The love of family flowed through veins as we were everything to her.

 

At parties and family gatherings, she was the life of the party and whenever we would all get together, there was so much laughter mainly brought on by her antics.

 

To call her the life of the party is a bit of an understatement. Usually, she was the party. She brought the party with the party with her and that’s something we will all miss her.

 

But whenever we gather as a family, we will know that Alex is with us in spirit.

 

She was very close to her cousin Melissa and a confidant of her 30 year old brother. For me, she was my best friend and muse.

 

She would call me often to check up on me and whenever my phone beeped with a text message from her, I knew that she was thinking about me.

 

That is the one thing I think I’ll miss the most. Texting or talking to her on the phone and just laughing out loud with my baby girl. No one could make me laugh the way she did.

 

Alex had an unbelievable zest for life. After a turbulent time in her life she was the ultimate comeback story and her life was becoming more amazing every day.

 

I can still remember her saying, ‘’I’m fine dad. Don’t worry about me.’’ No matter what was going on in Alex’s life, she always said “I’m fine dad, don’t worry about me.”  Of course, I worried about Alex every day.  I was Alex’s fixer, but I can’t fix this. I wish I could.

 

It’s strange how life sometimes throw all kinds of  curveballs at us. Guess what? Just when her life was getting better by the day and were looking forward to celebrating her birthday, we lost her just three days short of her 30^th birthday!

What a precious and promising gift of life cut short too soon.  The pain runs deep and it would be hard to forget about her.

 

As we as a family navigate our overwhelming grief, we may learn to accept Alex’s passing no matter how the pain in our hearts.

 

However, we must have faith that she is in a better place, and that she is looking down on us.

 

I hope that she knows how loved she is, and I hope that knowledge gives her peace.

 

Dear Alex,

I miss your smile. Those beautiful white teeth. I miss your sense of humor. I miss you calling me Papa Bear. I miss these traits, but I will never have to worry about forgetting those wonderful traits, because they will live on in her twin sister Morgan.  Alex, you will always live on in this family.


Alex would like each and everyone of you to “be like Alex” and always tell your loved ones and friends “ I love you” at the end of every discussion or encounter. You couldn’t honor her anymore by doing so.

 

I would like to end with an excerpt from a poem by Terry Gouveia

Dear God, please take care of my little girl, She was special, as you should know. I really didn't want to let her go.

She touched the hearts of everyone she knew.
Letting her go was so hard to do.
Her smile could brighten up the darkest room.
I wish you didn't have to take her so soon.

Tell her I promise to see her again someday.
When that will be, I really can't say.
I promise to make up for the time that's passed,
To hold her and comfort her in my arms at last.

Goodbye, Alex, Rest Well. We all love you. I will miss you more and more.

 

Did you wipe off a few tears from your eyes after reading that sample?  I don’t know about you. But, I felt so sad writing this eulogy for an adult daughter who passed away.

 

Let me ask you this: Can you write a heartfelt funeral speech like what you’ve just read?

 

I bet you can do that with ease if you follow this very simple process. To make things easier for you, start by dividing the above example into these parts:

• Introduction
• Body/ Outline
• Conclusion/Ending

 

How To Write An Introduction For Your Daughter’s Eulogy

 

At this moment, let’s look at the introduction and what goes into writing a captivating one.

Before we start, let’s look at this excerpt taken from the above example to help us gain clarity about it.

 

‘’ For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mike…

On behalf of my entire family, I would like to thank you for coming today to say goodbye far too soon…

I want to get to some much deserved announcements to start with. I want to thank Alex’s Grandma...’’

 

This is what I want you to do now. Grab that pen and notepad or sheet of paper and write down names of personalities you’d like to express gratitude.

 

People like:

• Her mom
• Your wife
• Her grandparents if they are still alive
• Her friends
• Her aunts and uncles
• Her spouse and kids (if any)
• Her friends
• Other folks

 

Second, share how you and the whole family have been impacted by her loss. Here’s an example I picked up from the above example:

 

I have never stopped thinking about my daughter and best friend, Alex since she unexpectedly waved…

I never dreamed that I would instead be delivering her eulogy. This is a very heartbreaking final speech…

 

Third, you can start with a poem, favorite saying or a scripture verse if you are religious.

 

Ok, watch me use this bible verse to start a short tribute for a dead daughter.

‘’ Proverbs 13:22 (NKJV): “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children ‘’

 

Scripture says that a good man leaves a goodly inheritance to his children’s children. I used to share this verse with my beloved daughter whenever we gathered for dinner and there was this time, she looked into my eye after a meal and asked, Dad, what does that really mean?

I held her hand and explained that we are to leave a good legacy for our children since they may be living messengers to a future we can’t see.

 

She was so contend. So, she hugged  me and said, Dad, I will definitely share this with your grandchildren I ever grow old like my grandma. Little did I know that she would be leaving us two weeks after that incident.

 

How To Write A Structure For Your Daughter's Eulogy

 

Let’s turn our attention to the next thing: the body or outline of your funeral speech for your late daughter.

 

It follows the opening lines and is often a continuation of ideas and thoughts expressed in the introductory remarks.

 

Writing the body should be easy-peasy. But, that’s not always the case because it gets so hard to distill years of memories and feelings about her life into very succinct and touching remarks about her life.

 

If you are fumbling for the right words or don’t even know where to start, then this simple exercise can help tidy up your thoughts. This will help you present your ideas more clearly and effectively. So, go back for that sheet of paper and write down answers to the following questions:

 

• What was your daughter like when she was a little girl?
• What was her impact on you and spouse?
• How about her siblings and other persons she came into contact with?
• What made her a unique person and lady?
• What legacy did she leave behind? It doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary. The small feats matter as well.
• What was she really passionate about?
• What are her beautiful character traits?
• What are the most memorable moments you had with her?
• What were your shared interests?
• Was she a person of faith? How did it make her a much better person?

 

Let me give you some clues: Your remembrance speech can be long and winding if you use all those stuff to compose your tribute. 

 

Here’s what I do all the time. I can go back to the above questionnaire and pick an angle for your dsughter'd tribute.

 

For example, you might want to talk about your time together, her impact on the family, and what made her life unique.

 

These can be the major highlights of your talk and not a complete run down of everything she did with her life.

 

So, what would you like the body to dwell on? Think deeply about this and back up your points with stories your family and friends can relate to.

There’s nothing comforting than watching a faint smile form on the faces of your relatives when you mention a story they can relate to.

 

How To End Your Daughter's Funeral Tribute

 

Your tribute should end with a memorable conclusion. Here are some practical ways of wrapping up on a good note.

 

You may conclude with a poem like this one by  Jamey Wysocki

I am learning how to live
In a new way
Since that day
You were taken away.

I am learning how to live
With the things left unsaid
Knowing I got to say them
With every tear that I shed.

I am learning how to live
By embracing the pain
Knowing that you live on
Through the memories that remain.

I am learning how to live
Knowing I will never again see your face
And I have peace knowing
Your in a better place.

I am learning how to live
Knowing your in God's care
It gives me the strength to move on
And makes the pain much easier to bear.

 

You may also share how and why you will miss her. For example...

When we travel to Africa for charity work next month, I will miss her most because she loved those field works. We shared wigs and I am going to miss her for that.

 

You can also thank everyone for coming. Here’s an example: 

And to everyone here, thank you for your

concern and the incredible support you’ve

provided during this difficult time. It means the

world to us. I am truly grateful for your

kindness and support. Your words and actions have been a great comfort. Thanks again for coming.

 

 

Can express your feelings about her through a song? If you have a good singing voice, then it would be a perfect opportunity to eulogize her and heal yourself because music is a potent force for good in the healing and grieving process.

 

This very emotional song and several others can move you and the mourners to tears in a way nothing else does if you end your tribute with it.

 

How To Write The Best Mother Of The Bride Speech Ever

 

Looking for tips and ideas to help you write the best mother of the bride speech ever for your beloved daughter and son-in-law?

 

If you are, just stick with me for a little while and I will share with you…

• Practical tips to help you write a heartfelt mother of the bride speech
• How to write a hilarious mother of the speech even if you as serious as a piece of rock
• What to say about your son-in-law…get this wrong and you will be regret giving this speech
• Plus, a whole lot more tips to help you become the best speaker of the night.

 

 

I know what you are thinking at this moment. This is it….

What Do I Say At My Daughter’s Wedding?

 

Ok….Let’s jump right in

 

Wouldn’t you feel great having your family and friends compliment you on how great your mother of the bride wedding speech is? I can see you nodding to that idea.

 

As a professional mother of the bride speech, I know for sure that the goal of every mother of the bride is to write and deliver the best mother of the bride wedding speech.

 

How do I know this? Whenever mothers of the bride ask for help with their speeches, the recurring request is:

‘’Dan, my daughter is getting married and I am at a complete loss as to what to say. Can you help make my speech very special and unique? ‘’

 

If that’s what you are thinking of , just pause for a moment and picture yourself delivering your mother of the bride speech with poise and confidence.

 

 

Again, close your eyes for a moment and imagine how happy you would be if you could easily write a very exceptional and unique mother of the bride speech.Those mental pictures can spur you to work harder for what you want.

 

This Can Help You Calm Nerves And Master Your Mother Of The Bride Speech

 

When a bride’s mom imagine saying a few remarks about her daughter and son-in-law nonetheless, her mental disposition looks fuzzy because somehow we have all grown up to believe we are not good enough to speak in public.

 

The truth is you are not. Guess what? Those beliefs are a result of past experiences. For example, if you goofed up back when you were asked to speak before a small group of people, your family and friends would probably conclude that you are not cut out to be a public speaker.

 

Based on their baseless feedback, you clung to this view that you are not good enough to speak in public. That explains why you keep messing up whenever you are asked to talk to even a small group of people.

 

This limiting belief has kept you from becoming the best version of yourself. So, you are not a terrible writer or speaker as you imagine yourself to be.

 

When you take practical steps to dismantle this mental shackle, you will be bracing yourself up for success. 

 

What use is it if you have written a great mother of the bride speech but don’t have the guts to deliver it well?

 

So, you have approach this with a renewed mindset as how we think, what we believe, and how we act, impact almost everything we sight our focus on.

 

That being said, let’s look at practical steps to calming your nerves and mastering your speech so you can deliver it with absolute flair and confidence.

• Envision yourself speaking confidently even if your mind starts to play silly tricks on you. As you keep your gaze on the positive outcome of your speech in spite of those nagging voices in your head, your fears will be kept at bay.
• Don’t be a prisoner of your past. Left go off past experiences and focus on this and you will have peace of mind. No one is going to judge you or rate your performance. They just want to listen to beautiful stories about your daughter and who she’s grown up to be.
• It is said that adequate preparation kills stress and anxiety. So, make sure you prepare and plan well ahead of time and you will succeed.

 

With that said, let’s look at how to plan and prepare for your mother of the bride speech.

 

How To Write The Best Mother Of The Bride Speech Ever

 

Speaking about planning for your toast, I am reminded of these thoughtful words by Jesus:

 

“Is there anyone here who, planning to build a new house, doesn’t first sit down and figure the cost so you’ll know if you can complete it? If you only get the foundation laid and then run out of money, you’re going to look pretty foolish. Everyone passing by will poke fun at you: ‘He started something he couldn’t finish.’’- Luke 14: 28-30

 

Before delivering your presentation, it is crucial to spend time thinking about it by first figuring out what your writing goals are.

 

The following questions can help you set your writing goals:

• Am I going to do this speech all by myself?
• Is it a wise idea to do a joint mother or parents of the bride speech with my husband? If you are thinking about that, this video example can help. 

• Do I want to make a very simple mother of the bride speech?
• Do I want to make a short mother of the bride speech?
• Do I want to make it hilarious? This is an example:
• How do I want to make my family and friends feel after hearing my speech? To make them laugh, cry or both? Here’s a funny mother of the bride speech video example if you have that in mind:

                             

• When and where will your mother of the bride speech be delivered? At the bridal shower? Wedding reception? At the rehearsal dinner?

 

Question: What are your writing goals for this wedding speech? Write it down on stick-it-notes and any other label and fix it to a prominent place in your home to remind you of the task ahead. That way, you won’t put it off until the last moment.

 

You might also want to consider the duration of your speech. The question most moms ponder is: how long should my mother of the bride speech be? If you ask me what the length of your mother of the bride speech should be, I would tell you to go with what you are comfortable with.

 

I have written both long and short speeches and in most cases, I made sure the storyline was interesting and exciting.

 

In the unlikely event that you are asked by the bride to speak for say (five minutes), then please respect her wishes.

 

You will only be forgiven if you delivered a truly touching mother of the bride toast.

 

From working with mothers on their speeches, I have come across some really sweet but long mother of the speeches. And I have also seen very short but engaging speeches.

 

What’s most important is to make sure your speech won’t bore the wedding guests to death.

 

There should be something in it to make your daughter feel special, loved, and thankful for having you in her life.

 

Let’s Look At This Next: Memories About Your Daughter

 

You have to look for fond memories about your daughter since they are like strands of golden threads that connect the past to current events.

 

So, start by writing down stories about the good and bad times and how much she means to you.

 

If for some reason, you are struggling to remember all those wonderful moments, then you can follow this route to get them back to your mind.

 

• Where is your family photo album? Go find it and flip through the pages. As you do, ask yourself these questions:
• What story does this picture remind me of? Put that memory down on paper
• What does each image tell you about her character traits?
• Do you still have letters and notes and cards she sent you on important days like your wedding anniversary, valentine day, birthday, mother’s day and so on. Go through them and see if you can find lines you can weave into your presentation
• Why don’t you speak with the bride’s father or your own parents and ask them to share some memories? Chances are that they have stories you may have forgotten. They say there’s no harm in asking, right?

 

 

Check Out Mother Of The Bride Speech Examples And Templates

 

This is what I think it’s the most powerful tool for easily and quickly writing mother of the bride speeches.

 

If you have no idea about what to say, have several ideas but don’t know where to start, how to put your stories together, then I recommend that you look for video and well-written mother of the bride speech examples and templates.

 

I would like to share these examples with you. The first is a video clip. Why should you watch it?

 

It’s because mother of the bride speech video examples complement written examples in the sense that you are able to learn how great speeches are actually delivered after it’s captured on paper.

Besides, you can borrow a few ideas from watching them and adapt it for your own script. Here’s a video example:

 

 

 

Of course, the other version of it is the written piece. I am going to share one with you. Afterwards, we will analyze it through the eyes of a mother of a bride speech writer so that you too can bring frame together beautiful stories about your daughter, using all those memories you have already written down. 

 

This is it:

 

A Short Mother Of The Bride Speech Example/Template

 

This is the speech journalist and presenter, Katie Anne Couric, gave at her daughter’s wedding.

 

 

“Welcome, everyone. Gosh, I haven’t spoken in front of this many people since I anchored the CBS Evening News! 

 

Given the challenges and sadness of the last year and a half, how lucky are we to be here? Together for a weekend of pure, unadulterated joy, and for some of you, a never-ending booze fest. And while I’m not going to get political here, I am going to quote Hillary Clinton — who famously said, ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’ Because our village is here tonight.

 

I could never name every person, every act of kindness and support so many people here have shown our family through the years because we’d never get back on the dance floor. But from Thanksgivings in Boston, Easters in Darien, countless playdates and dinners, birthdays remembered from near and far, beach barbecues, churros at Disneyland, swimming in the Caribbean, dancing in a restaurant in Serifos, Halloween, proms and parties, and navigating mean boys during those harrowing high school years, how incredibly lucky we’ve been to have all of you in our lives, in good times and in bad.

 

As many of you know, there’s no finer compliment than hearing you’ve done a good job raising your children. I can say with certainty I could not have done it without Lori Beth Meyer, who is here tonight. For 11 years, Lori Beth was my partner in almost every way. I will be forever grateful for her unwavering love, support, and patience and for bringing stability to our often wobbly three-legged stool.

 

As time marched on, Ellie’s village expanded. Roots and wings, my sister-in-law Clare used to say, that’s what you need to give your children. While many of you helped build a strong foundation, there are others here tonight who helped Ellie soar and come into her own.

 

Many of the amazing young women here (and a few good men) represent the deep and lasting friendships formed at Yale. And to see Ellie bond with such a fantastic, dynamic group of friends in Los Angeles is both thrilling and wonderfully comforting.

 

Meanwhile, the Molners have added such a rich, unexpected dimension to our lives. John’s love and devotion, wicked sense of humor, and exacting personality — well, Molner, you’ve got your hands full and I can’t imagine life without Henry, Allie, Tom, Andy, and David. And the fact that Herbie and Paula immediately treated Ellie and Carrie like their own grandchildren means the world to us.

 

Now you’re probably wondering, along with Mark, ‘When is she going to get to the groom?’ For the past 11 years, the center of Ellie’s universe has been Mark. Now, I have to be honest. Throughout her 20, I urged — OK begged Ellie to date around, play the field. God knows I did in my 20s. But Ellie wasn’t having it. She knew.

 

Ellie — this warm, kind, sensitive, sentimental, perceptive, empathetic, determined, spirited young woman just knew that she had already found the yin to her yang, the peanut butter to her jelly, the Jack to her Jill. Mark — she knew.

 

And now, this we all know: You are a treasure. My parents, adored by both Ellie and Carrie, would have called you a ‘fine person’ — the highest praise in our family. It’s been a privilege to get to know you and I feel even closer to you now, after hearing the reflections of your friends and family.

Your effortless talent, your humility, your loyalty, your steadiness, your patience. But most of all, we love you for loving Ellie with all your heart.

 

 

And now we have The Dobroskys!!! Mark, simply put, you have the greatest family. Granted, Loretta’s a little competitive, so I do foresee some tense salad bowl moments in our future, but seriously, what a terrific group of people! So warm and so fun.

 

I couldn’t be happier that our families are now connected. I hope this is the beginning of many holidays spent together…hopefully at the Dobrosky’s house, and I hope it’s OK if I bring some Molners and Monahans, and a few Batchelors and Courics and Wadlows. And don’t worry Loretta, I’ll bring my mom’s famous pear lime jello salad.

 

 

I wouldn’t be honest if I didn’t tell you that for many years I’d been dreading this day — because of the people who are not here. Ellie’s maternal and paternal grandparents. Mark’s maternal and paternal grandparents, although Whitey almost made it. Ellie’s aunt Marilyn.

 

My oldest sister Emily who adored Ellie. But most of all, the father of the bride, Jay Monahan. Jay would be so proud of you both and so thrilled that Ellie married a lacrosse player. And a terrific guy.

 

When Jay was in the throes of cancer and it seemed as if the end of his life might be near, he looked at me and said, ‘You know, nothing really matters except your friends and family.‘ When everything else was stripped away, Jay understood what was essential to a meaningful life. Ellie, he would be beaming to witness the woman you’ve become…and somehow, some way, I hope he is.

 

My mom used to say, ‘Into everyone’s life a little rain must fall.’ Life, in fact, is a strange alchemy of joy and sorrow, hope and despair, triumphs and disappointments.

 

But in the immortal words of Carrie’s favorite, Kacey Musgraves, ‘Hold tight to your umbrella, cause darling I’m just trying to tell you that there’s always been a rainbow hanging over your head.’ Hold tight to your umbrella, and to each other.

 

Many of us who are on the ‘back nine,’ as John would say, want you to cherish this very special chapter in your life. Enjoy every single minute…it goes by in an instant, and soon enough you may be giving a toast at your daughter’s wedding. (Don’t worry, I’m not pushing…take your time).

 

Here’s to Mark and Ellie — I wish you sunny skies and the fortitude to get through stormy weather. But most of all, I wish you a life bursting with love, light, and laughter. Cheers!”

 

If you muttered to yourself that this is something you can easily come up with while looking that example over, you really deserve a huge pat on the back.

 

But, with so many things to do to make sure that your daughter’s wedding is a blast, writing a sweet mother of the bride speech like that one can be a real struggle considering that you might not have sufficient time and peace of mind to collect your thoughts.

 

I have seen this happen to so many moms who cranked out scrappy notes about their daughter’s life in just a few days to the wedding.

 

 

Things can be fairly easy for you when you plan out your writing.  When you spend more time planning what to say, you will spend less time on the writing process.

 

What’s more, it helps you to organize your thoughts, find the best stories to support your ideas, and gives your writing a cohesive, logical flow and structure.

 

The best way to do this is to develop a structure for your mother of the bride speech. If you study the above template or any other example you will find this structure:

• Introductory remarks
• Body or outline
• Conclusion

 

 Every introduction has these features:

Greetings/Salutation and short-self introduction: Here’s an example:

Hello everyone. I’m Margaret and I’m Marc’s mother. On behalf of our entire family, I’d like to thank all of you from coming from far and near to join us in this very special celebration.

 

• Thank your family and friends for their help and support

You simply write down names of friends and family who played a key role in your daughter’s life. This example can give you a perfect idea:

 

I’d like to thank my grandmother Dix, my mother and father, my brother and sister-in-law Dan and Frank, my sister and brother-in-law Zion and Jim, Aunt Theres and Uncle Joe, Aunt Sussie, and Ken for your unconditional love, time, laughter, wisdom, advice, babysitting, encouragement, generosity, and sense of family continuity.

 

We are forever grateful and have been incredibly lucky and blessed to have all of you in our lives, in good times and in bad.

 

Then, there’s another aspect of the intro called the hook. This illustration can help you understand it better.

 

Suppose you have been asked to deliver a keynote speech at a very important function. How would you start your address? You are most likely to start on a positive note that will make a great first impression.

 

Similarly, your hook should be very engaging and make your audience think that this is going to be the best mother of the bride wedding speech ever.

 

If you start off on a wrong note, people would form a bad impression of you and conclude that your presentation will sound like a stale joke.

 

That shouldn’t be your lot. It should be like the words your spouse said on your first date: sweet and concise. Do you still remember it?

 

 

Here Are A Few Very Effective Ways To Write A Sensational Hook

 

• You can share a story about what happened before or after her birth. I still remember how a mom shared a funny story about the arrival of their new bundle of blessings. The visibly excited new dad and husband was so overjoyed that he lost control of the steering wheel and ended up in a dump unharmed.  Do you have such stories to back up your speech? Put them down and share it with the wedding guests.

 

• Any funny memory from her childhood? Did she wear your wig and use your lipstick? Was she fun to be around?  Anna told me when we worked on her speech that her little girl got lost on a park and her blood pressure shot through the roof that someone thought she needed a defibrillator.

 

• To make your introduction heart touching, you can incorporate one liners, quotes, and wise sayings to enhance your delivery. Here are some love quotes you may use. Kindly take note of the underlined sections because we will be using it for another purpose.

 

• A daughter is just a little girl who grows up to be your best friend.”

— Unknown

 

• “To my beautiful daughter. If I could only give you one thing in this life, I would give you the ability to see yourself how I see you every single day. Your beauty, your kindness, how happy you make me and how proud I am of you. Perhaps then you would be able to understand just how special you are to me.”

— Dave Hedges

 

• “I will let my daughter do whatever her heart wants. I will support her and guide her and give her all the knowledge that I have because I want her to succeed in whatever she loves.”- The Miz

 

• “A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart.” – Unknown

 

• Our daughters are the most precious of our treasures, the dearest possessions of our homes, and the objects of our most watchful love. – Margaret Elizabeth Sangster

 

Can you use any of those quotes to write something engaging? Ok, I am going to use the underlined words from the above quotes.

 

Here they are:

 

If I could only give you one thing in this life, I would give you the ability to see yourself how I see you every single day.

 

I will support her and guide her and give her all the knowledge that I have because I want her to succeed in whatever she loves.”- The Miz

“A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart

 

 

Now, this is a short mother of the bride speech example I wrote with the highlighted words.

 

My mom used to say that daughters are the most precious treasures of every woman. I understood that better when Karen came into my life one a blistery winter night. I still  remember it as if it only yesterday when they handed her to me and I could tell by that special look in her eyes she was my life’s most precious treasure.

 

On that day, I was overwhelmed with a deep sense of love, joy, and gratitude.  She was a truly beautiful gift. That night, I looked into her smiling eyes and promised myself to support and guide her so she grows to be the best version of herself.

 

Years have flown by and she’s grown into the woman of my dreams. Karen, you have grown into a beautiful woman inside out, but you will never outgrow my heart.

 

That’s exactly how to make the most of the quotes!

 

The body follows the introduction. The body is also known as the speech outline. With a lot of memories floating in your brain, it can be hard to distill years of memories into a succinct presentation.

 

I have been lucky to review several drafts which were not only difficult to follow but also had rich ideas scattered all over the place.

 

In view of this, almost every mom who’s creating a speech outline feels overwhelmed by questions like…

 

• What should I say about my daughter?
• What should I say about the groom?
• How do I piece my story together and make it flow from start to end?

 

These questions can leave you feeling anxious, worried, and confused.  But, this simple trick can help make you feel better and make your ideas flow.

 

Here’s what to do.

Step 1. Draw a line straight down the middle of a piece of paper so that you have two columns.

Step 2. At the top of the left column, write “Body of my speech(bride)”. At the top of the right column write “Body of my speech(groom)”.

Step 3. In the left column for the bride, start putting down answers to the following questions:

• What was she like when she was a little girl?
• How did she make my life much better? How about her siblings?
• What are some fond memories you recall?
• What were her positive character traits growing up?
• What are your most proud moments as a mom?

 

This happens next: Narrow down the ideas you would really like to use for the content of your mother of the bride speech.

 

Then, you may go back to read a great example like this one or the one above for clarity and inspiration before writing a rough draft.

 

This is equally the case when crating short notes about your new son-in-law. But, in this case, you should reflect on these questions:

 

• What are the positive attributes of the man my daughter is getting married to?
• What impression did he leave on you when you first met or got to know him?
• In what ways does he make your daughter a happy person?
• How does he balance her out?
• Do you have some really fond memories about the groom?

 

 

Now, let’s look at this:

 

How To Write A Conclusion For Your Mother Of The Bride Speech

 

Can you write one without trying so hard? If you ever write an example like this one (see below) then you are good to go because that’s what we hear at most weddings.

 

‘’ Here’s to Dan and Melissa — I wish you the best in everything you do now, tomorrow and forever. Cheers!’’

 

But, did you know you can make it more fun, memorable and exciting? Imagine ending your toast with these lines culled from the above sample:

Enjoy every single minute…it goes by in an instant, and soon enough you may be giving a toast at your daughter’s wedding. (Don’t worry, I’m not pushing…take your time).

 

How about ending with this song before proposing your toast to happy couple? But, you need a good voice to make this possible. Can you do that?

 

This third approach never fails. Pick what makes a marriage work and speak about it. You can share practical tips about communicating, dealing with resentment and anger, coping with the high and lows moments, keeping the romance and spark in marriage, managing your finances and so on. You may share a little bit of each.

 

If you have been in a very loving relationship for many years, you may share your personal secrets to marriage longevity. Here’s an example:

Eulogy For Wife By Husband: How To Write A Heartfelt Tribute

 

Have you lost your wife  and are looking for tips and ideas to help you write a touching eulogy for your wife?

 

The thought of giving one can be very overwhelming in this very difficult time. So, just stick with me for a little while and I will share with you everything you need about…

• Writing a amazing eulogy for wife
• How to make the most of eulogy for wife examples 
• How to get ideas for your tribute for your wife and mother of your children
• How to make your eulogy for your wife funny, heartfelt, and inspiring.
• How to end a eulogy for your wife
• Plus, so much more

 

The first question on the mind of every man who has lost his spouse is:

 

What Should I Say At My Wife’s Funeral?

 

Let me start by saying there’s nothing more beautiful than spending the rest of your life with someone you love and truly care for.  

 

It’s interesting how and where many find the love of their lives. Some find true love on a bus. Others find it on a vacation get away and some others find it in school.

 

Where did you find the love of your life? Was it love at first sight?  Did it blossom over time?

 

I don’t know you met each other. But, I can only imagine how you felt when you first met the love of your life.  Before you knew it, you started dating and realized that you were so much into each other.

 

When it eventually dawned on you that she fits you like a glove, you went down on knee and asked her to marry you.

 

You exchanged vows. You had your wedding dance. You were blessed with kids. Life took off as expected. You promised to love and stand by each other until the end of time.

 

When you least expected it, she died; leaving you to face this cruel world alone with no one to hold your back.  Your inspirer, muse, friend, confidant, rock, your babe is gone. Who do you turn to now for help, support, advice and reassurance? Only God knows.

 

Well, I don’t know how long you were together. If you just got married, been together for a just year, a quarter or half of a century and death have robbed you of the love of your life, I can feel your pain because it really hurts.

 

I feel deeply sorry for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you in this very difficult time.

 

By this, I am reminded of the lyrics of Bill Withers classic: Lean On Me.  Part of the lyrics says that sometimes in our lives, we all have pain. We all have sorrows. Lean on me when you are strong. Just call on me brother when you need a hand.

 

If you need someone to talk to or send you some comforting words, don’t hesitate to send me a message and I would do my very best to get back to you with healing words.

 

You can also take comfort from reading this beautiful poem. Just keep reading it through the tears and you will feel a lot better.

 

Here it is:

Those We Love- Arthur Unknown

Those we love don’t go away

They walk beside us every day.

Unseen, unheard but always near.

Still loved,, still missed and very dear.

 

 

Steps To Write A Eulogy For Your Deceased Wife

 

First and foremost, you should set your writing goals and stick with them to make the writing process much easier as it can be very challenging to think straight when you are grieving your loved one.

 

So, start by defining the kind of triubte you would like to deliver. To do that, ask yourself these basic questions:

 

• Do you simply want to tell a story of how you met your wife?
• Do you wish to highlight what made her a very special wife and mom?
• Would you like to make a very heartfelt eulogy speech that encompasses your love story and her remarkable attributes as a person, wife and mom of your children?

 

In my opinion, it’s best to stick with the last speaking style because that's the most impactful.

 

 

What you might also want to consider next is the length of your wife’s eulogy speech. With that in mind, you might want to ask yourself this question : how long should my eulogy tribute for my wife be?

 

 

Well, that depends on these factors:

• How long you have been asked to speak; stick to the time and don’t go overboard because it’s a very sensitive time for her family.

• How long you wish to speak; don’t make it very long unless you are the only speaking at her funeral or memorial service.

 

A note about the duration of your eulogy: I have written both short and long tributes before and both worked for my clients.

 

Once, I wrote a eulogy for a man who had been married for 50 years.

I thought he wanted to deliver a long tribute considering how long they had been married. But, he asked me to condense his funeral tribute to just two pages.

 

Another person had been married for only a few years, but gave me lots of details which resulted in a very long presentation.  

 

Did you notice the difference? 

 

On the whole, you should write your eulogy in a way that properly honors your precious wife in a very special way.

 

Now, would you like to do a short or long tribute? You have to decide on that. Don’t go with the flow. Be the flow.

 

Having said that, let’s look at how to put your thoughts and ideas together to form a deeply meaningful eulogy speech for your wife that will honor and bless the memory of your life.

 

This is….

 

How To Write A Eulogy For Your Wife

 

Most husbands have amazing stories about their wives. But, they start on a wrong note and it makes the writing process even more stressful.

 

Here’s the biggest mistake I see people make all the time. They have several memories of what to say and what not to say. But they find it so difficult to distill a lifetime of memories and shared experiences into a very moving piece.

 

Not sure where to start or what to do next, they look up some eulogy speech for wife examples online and just modify it a bit to suit their writing needs.

 

Writing a heartfelt tribute for your wife is not like a homework assignment. It rather involves pouring your whole heart, mind, and soul into creating a story that will bless and honor the memory of your wife.

 

In addition to that, it forms an integral part of the grieving and healing process and should be treated as such.

 

So, before you even think of writing your eulogy speech for your beloved wife and mother of the children, you should start with the end in mind.

 

What do you mean by that?  Let me put it this way. Memories are the heart and soul of great eulogies. Hence, you have to take a deep breath and sit back in your chair. Then, recollect all those great moments you have spent together.

 

As you do that, just put down the good and bad (challenging) memories and let your sad tears stream down your checks.

 

If you are struggling to recollect all those fine moments, then I recommend you do this to come up with all those great memories.

 

• Scan through her old and new photos. Look for photos of you and your wife and the children. As you pore over those pictures, ask yourself these simple questions:

(a)What does each picture bring to mind? Write down every memory you can think and pick your favorite anecdotes.

(b) Does this picture depict her character traits? If so, what aspect of her character does it portray?

• Why not talk to others who know a little bit about your spouse? For example, your own children can tell you great stories about their mom.

 

If for some reason, you didn’t have children of your own, you may ask her family to share happy memories. The memories you highlight in your tribute doesn’t always have to be your own love stories.

 

For instance, if you are mentioning how kind she was, you can include a story or two about how she left her job to care for her sick mom who had cancer.

 

Don’t you think her mom (if alive) would thank you for mentioning this in your tribute?

• Do you have a journal that chronicled your relationship with her? Leaf through that diary and put down very fond memories about when you met, how you met, when you got married, the high and low moments, wedding anniversaries, birthday celebrations, and so on.

 

• Letters and love notes exchanged, birthday and valentine day cards you received from each other can be a treasure chest of memories. So, look for those materials and read through them once more and write down any stuff you think you can weave into your funeral tribute for your beloved wife.

 

• Have you, her family or friends created her memorial tribute slideshow yet? Go get it and watch it a couple of times to help you recall some really wonderful, positive memories about your spouse and your time together.

 

Here’s something to get things going: Have you put down a few memories about her? What really stood out for you? Do those anecdotes capture her true spirit and personality?

 

Ok….we will be using those anecdotes when we get to the part about putting your stories together beautiful. We will get to that in a moment.

 

It can be very tempting to try to put those thoughts together after collecting all those precious memories. Unless you are a very skilled wordsmith, you are going to struggle to make sense of it all.

 

To make sure your story comes together perfectly, you first have to get a fair idea of how funeral tributes are delivered.

 

This is what you can do about this now. Go to youtube.com and insert your preferred keyword. In this case, it would be eulogy speech for wife, funeral speech for wife, and so on.

 

When you do that, video clips like those below would pop up. You may watch a couple of them and write down ideas you think can help make your tribute for your wife very touching and inspiring.

 

Eulogy Speech For Wife Video Examples#1

 

Eulogy Speech For Wife Video Samples#2

 

Have you noticed how I have been laying the groundwork for the actual writing all this while?  That’s how it should be but not the other way around.

 

Do you remember that I talked about the power of eulogy speech templates at the outset?

Such examples can easily and quickly write a eulogy speech tribute for your wife.  

 

Now, I want us to study this example together. As we do, write down ideas and tips you think can help honor and bless the memory of your wife.

 

Afterwards, we will analyze the whole thing so you can figure out how to put those wonderful memories together to form a very beautiful tribute that honors the life and legacy of your wife.

 

Eulogy For Friend Example

 

Thank you so much for coming to celebrate the life and mourn the loss of my precious wife, Melissa.

 

I once read this beautiful quote about the beauty of love in all its forms. It says that the greatest thing in life is to love and be loved in return. That applies to the intense love Melissa and I had for each other. She made me feel loved, safe and taken care of through thick and thin.

 

Although death has put out that bright light in her heart and I have to face this word without her by side, the memories we’ve made is a priceless treasure that will always be tucked safely in my heart because her love is stronger than death.

No matter how hard death tries, it still can’t stop me from loving her. Melissa was my partner in life for 39 years. She was my best friend, my cheerleader, my advisor, my one true love, and my other half.

 

For those of you who don’t know, I met her a year after my divorce, we were both at a high school football game. Who would have thought that my soul mate would be sitting on the bleachers that night?

 

Our first date was at a burger king. We sat in a corner booth and talked and talked. The hours flew by and I knew something special was happening, as did she.

 

After that we were pretty inseparable. We saw each other daily and still had more to say so we talked on the phone. I couldn’t get enough of her. People used to say that we wouldn’t last. But we proved them wrong.

 

Melissa was not a person to shrug off a challenge, and I wanted to prove to the world that our love was real and true and would stand up to the test of time. I guess I can stand here today and say Mission Accomplished, but I still don’t want to believe that she’s gone. I feel this huge crater in my chest where my heart used to be.

 

 

Melissa took it with her to Heaven, and one day when we meet again, she will give it back to me.

 

We took care of each other. She was amazing when I had 6 surgeries starting in August of 2015. She was always there for me, never saying “wait, I didn’t sign up for this!”

 

And when I was first invited to share my PhD argument at Harvard, she was so excited for me, and remained so every semester when they invited me back.

 

The funny thing is, I couldn’t have gotten that achievement at the ripe old age of 63 without her support, her sacrifice, and her commitment. Everything I’ve done is because of her, and for her.

 

 

Then, when it was her turn, we took on her 12- month battle together. I was her caregiver and never missed a single day spending time with her, taking her to her labs, watching her ring the bell after she went into remission in February of 2020, and the following May when we were told

it was back, we held one another and cried together.

 

 

She was so brave and had to endure so much. If I could have taken that cancer away, I would have died in her place with a smile, knowing I was leaving behind a better world because it still had her in it. Her determination for that entire time cemented her as my hero.

 

She was an absolutely remarkable woman who never had to put on airs or pretend to be anything but herself. She didn’t require, nor did she want diamonds, furs, elaborate gifts or trips.

 

 

She loved our simple life, sitting on a park bench holding hands, or going to subway or an Italian restaurant for dinner. All she wanted, all she required was my time. I was amazed by her, and still think that she was perfect in every way.

 

 

She was my queen, and I treated her as such. I cherished each and every day that God gifted me with her.

 

She was also an amazing mom. I can’t even imagine what Alden, Naomi, and Mike are going through. I know how heartbroken and devastated I feel, but for them…they have so many milestones ahead in their lives that they have to celebrate now without Mom.

 

Alden, won’t have her to mentor her throughout her life’s journey. Naomi will no longer be able cozy up with her on the couch.

 

And Mike will miss her always being there whenever he calls or texts, faithfully. But I’m sure she’ll be watching her “Listle B” which is what she called Adam,

“Peanut” which was Mike’s nickname, and her precious “Squash” or Alden  from above and celebrating every moment of their lives.

 

Alden, Naomi, and Mike, you are not alone. Mom’s guiding presence will always be with us. Never, ever forget that.

 

Melissa was a hard worker who was very loyal to her employer. She was also devoted to Christ and often on breaks she would take her Bible out to her car or in the breakroom and sit and read it.

 

I’m very grateful that we were both saved. She loved to journal, do calligraphy, and create her arts and crafts.

 

Most importantly, she loved spending time with me and our kids. She enjoyed taking us and touring all over the state of NC and participating in festivals, gold/jewel mining, trying new foods, visiting parks, and places of interest such as a Whipple wheel exhibit in Wilson NC.

 

She also enjoyed riding her motorcycle while listening to her worship music and riding the scenic Blue Ridge Parkway or the back roads of NC/VA.

 

Melissa was also one of those people that attracted others to her. She drew them in, and once they became her friend, she was a friend for life. She exuded honor, faithfulness, integrity, and trustworthiness.

 

In case I haven’t made it clear yet, I loved being married to Melissa. She brought joy to my life.

 

She completed me. She accepted me as I was, and that was enough for her. I will spend the rest of my days thanking God for every minute I had her, and waiting for the day I will see her again.

 

You know, right before they took her out of the home to respite care in August, she told me that a few days before, she awoke and Jesus was standing at her feet with His hands down by his side.

 

She said He didn’t say a word nor made any motions. He simply stared at her and she said He faded away like the fog burning off in the morning sun.

 

I told her that I thought He was coming to take her home. Sure enough, about 4 weeks later, The Lord did just that. Without a doubt she is in the arms of her Lord today and that’s our consolation.

 

I would like to end with a verse of scripture.

The Bible says in Genesis 2:24 ‘’Therefore a

man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh

 

That is so true for Melissa and I. Our love story was like playing a beautiful symphony. We were a perfect duet. Our family chain is currently broken, but soon, it will be linked again. Someday, on golden shores where we would shed no tears about the loss of our loved ones. I will run to her and she will smile at me.

 

We will once again be together, but this time for eternity. Until that day my love, dance with angels, walk with the Lord, and rest in perfect peace.

 

That is a touching tribute for a religious woman and Christian by a loving father and husband.

 

Did that move you to tears? Imagine writing something like that for your wife? Your family and hers will be grateful for honoring her in such a befitting manner.

 

But, how do you go from staring aimlessly at the computer screen to filling it with powerful words that honor the memory of your wife in a very special way?

 

Start by breaking down any eulogy speech examples into three main parts:

• Introduction
• Body or content
• Conclusion

 

Once you have created that structure for your eulogy, the writing process will be a lot more easier.

 

 

Let’s Look At How To Write The Introduction

 

To give you an idea, this is an excerpt of the above introduction to help us find the right words.

‘’ Thank you so much for coming to celebrate the life and mourn the loss of my precious wife, Melissa. ‘’

 

Your introductory remarks are the most essential part of your tribute, so you have to start well.

How do you start well?  Here are five practical steps to start on a very impactful note. Let’s see exactly how it works.

 

First, start by thanking everyone for coming. You may take it a step further by thanking certain personalities. People like:

• The deceased’s mom and dad and her entire family for their help and support in this very difficult time
• Your own family
• Her friends and yours
• Her doctor and other medical staff

 

 

Question: Who would like to express gratitude to ?  Do a little brainstorming and write down names of individuals who have been of tremendous help to your dead wife.  

 

That simple writing task can get your creative juices flowing.

 

Second, you can start off by sharing how you feel about her loss.

Here’s an example for a young couple (from a man to a dead wife):

 

 

Ever since we got married five (5) years ago, I have always dreamed of spending the rest of my life through thick and thin.

 

But, my heart is broken into a million pieces and it still feels like she carried my body, soul, and spirit with her into the grave because love was meant to be forever.  

 

How do you heal a broken heart? I need my wife to tell me. We were totally inseparable and family and friends noticed this and called us ‘’two bars of chocolate stuck in the mouth...''

 

 

Third, start with a touching quote, poem, wise saying, her favorite saying, or bible verse if you are a Christian. Let’s use this quote to come up with our opening lines.

 

“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return”

― Moulin Rouge

 

Here you go:

I once read a quote that says that the greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return. Well, Margaret was the best thing to have ever happened to me and I found my life’s greatest gift in her.

 

Isn’t that sweet and powerful? Do you want to start your introduction with a quote?

 

Fourth, it takes a strong man to start his funeral tribute with a song. But, if you can do it, please do that by all means if you really want it to be the best eulogy tribute ever.

You may take inspiration from Whitney Houston’s: ‘’Where Do Broken Hearts  Go? ''

 

 

Imagine how deeply meaningful and eloquent your speech will be if you make it a parody of that popular song. You may re-write aspects of it this way and sing it this way:

 

I know it's been some time
But there's something on my mind

You see, I haven't been the same
Since that cold November(change it to the day she died) day
You said goodbye to me unexpectedly
But all I found was an empty place in my heart
And the only things I learned
Is that I need you desperately

 

So here I am
And can you please tell me, oh

 

Where do broken hearts go?
Can they find their way home
Back to the open arms of my
Of a love that's waiting at the other side?

 

How would you feel if you heard someone begin their tribute with those lyrics?Let’s move to another thing.

 

Fifth, you can simply start with a story of how and when you met your departed wife.  That’s so easy to do, right? If you need an example, here’s one:

 

I met Heather in 1962 at a Catholic church

dance. It was a barn dance, and it was a roaring

20’s theme. I was there with a group of Navy

men and we were sitting on one side of the barn

while the ladies all sat on the other. No one was

actually dancing yet….

 

 

How To Write The Body Or Speech Outline Of Your Eulogy

 

 

The second part of the presentation is the body or content structure of your speech. It comes after the introduction and is a continuation of the ideas raised in the introduction.

 

With so many happy and sad memories tucked in your mind, it can be pretty hard to know where to start.

 

If you are caught in this dilemma, you can follow this simple plan so you can easily organize your thoughts.

 

This is what I want you to do now. Grab a sheet of paper and provide answers to the following questions:

• What were the early years of your marriage like?
• What were your collective achievements ?
• How did she impact your life and the family and others she ever met?
• How did she make your house a home?
• What are the most memorable moments you have had together?
• What are her personal attributes? Was she giving? Loving? Caring? Do you have an anecdote that highlights those character traits?

 

 

Question: What you written down answers to those questions. You may go back to read the example above and let it inspire you to piece together a beautiful story about your wife. 

 

The first draft can be a real mess. So don’t be discouraged if your first attempt doesn’t look great. Get back to it another time and get rid of the excesses until your writing sparkles.

 

How To End Your Eulogy For Your Wife

 

The conclusion comes after the body.  Let’s look at a few ways of bringing closure to your tribute.

 

You can end by sharing her wishes with the mourners. I once wrote a tribute where the deceased remarked that she didn’t want everyone to be sad when she passed. Here’s how I captured her last wishes.

 

While we mourning her loss, let us be thankful for her presence in our lives. Before she passed, she told me to tell you not to be too sad because that’s not what she wants. She said we should laugh at her jokes and share good stories about all those wonderful moments.

 

 

Is that something you would like to do? If so, your answer should be based on your wife’s last wishes.

 

You may conclude with a poem by Ryann. Here’s a perfect example:

 

When I try to take a break
and relax in my busy life,
my heart, it does ache,
and all I think is how I miss my wife.

It hurts me so bad,
all this pain inside,
thinking of the love we had
and the tears I have cried.

I think of the places that we went to,
how I love you with all my heart
and all the things we didn't get to do,
but most of all how we have been torn apart.

I miss you so
and love you still.
I did not want to let you go,
but I tell myself it was God's will.

Every day I see things you've done.
It is lonely without you here.
I try to be strong for our wonderful son,

 

If you have nothing to say, just thank everyone for coming and reassure your children that you will stand by them at all times.

 

Share with your family and friends how and why you will miss her. 

Best Mother Of The Groom Speech

 

Writing and delivering a mother of the groom speech that honors your son and daughter-in-law at the wedding reception or rehearsal dinner is a huge responsibility you shouldn’t take lightly.

 

Well, if you are looking for tips and ideas about what to say and what not to say and have no clue, have no fear because I am here to help.

 

 

In this complete guide, I will share with you:

• Proven tips and ideas to help you write a funny and sentimental mother of the groom speech
• How and where to get great ideas for your wedding speech for your son
• How to make the most of mother of the groom speech examples
• What to say about your new daughter-in-law
• How to calm your nerves and speak with poise and clarity
• How to start and end your mother of the groom speech
• Plus a whole lot more

 

Ok, let’s get down to business.

 

What Should A Mother Of The Groom Say In Her Speech?

 

When the groom’s mom imagine making a mother of the groom’s speech, she has just one goal, And that’s doing everything she can to make her son proud with her speech.

As a professional mother of the groom speech writer, I know this because several moms ask me for help with their wedding speeches.

 

Six years ago, Bum set her sights on delivering the best mother of the groom speech ever when her only child and son was getting married to a very wonderful lady.

 

When she reached out for help, I was a little hesitant because I was inundated with work.  I asked to take care of it since she is a writer. She sure was good with words. But, she was freaking out as she had no experience with writing wedding speeches.

 

 

So, I ended up helping her out.  Well, you might be probably thinking that if a writer like her couldn’t put her story together beautifully, then you stand no chance of success.

 

You don’t have to throw your hands up in despair yet. Neither should you feel sorry for yourself that you don’t have what it takes to make a very lovely and heartfelt mother of the groom speech.

 

Believe it or not, you can! You don’t actually have to be a writing genius or even a talented speaker to pour your heart and soul into writing an amazing mother of the groom speech for your son and daughter-in-law.

 

Just take a moment to imagine how you would you feel if you pluck up the courage and speak with confidence and poise?

 

Again, picture yourself being showered with very sincere praises and compliments from family and friends for being the best speaker of the night. Wouldn’t you like it?

 

Also, envision being hugged and kissed by your son for having made him proud with your mother of the groom speech.  Wouldn’t that leave you with a great feeling of joy, pride, and excitement? It sure will and you will thank me if you ever get back to me when the wedding bells stop ringing.

 

All these and more are the possibilities a really good mother of the groom wedding speech gives.  

 

What I am going to share with you isn’t some theory stuff or something I came up with on the fly.

 

It’s based on my personal working experience as a mother of the groom speech wedding speech writer.

 

So, please grab your pen, journal, notepad or open up your word document and put away anything that will most likely interfere with doing things right.

 

This Can Help You Deliver Your Mother Of The Groom Speech With Ease

Before I let you in on all the tips and examples, there’s one thing I would like bring to your attention as it can hinder you from achieving your wedding speaking dreams.

 

I will talk about it in the next chapter and outline steps to deal with it so you can string your thoughts together beautifully and deliver your speech with ease.

 

What I am talking about is something that happens to everyone, including the best public speakers out there. 

 

Do you feel a bit faint when imagine how your mother of the groom speech will go? It’s perfectly normal to feel that way prior to doing anything in life. So, don’t be alarmed if you start to panic.

 

This illustration can clear things up for you. Let’s say you are still learning how to drive a car. Your spouse thinking you have mastered turning the wheel asks if it would be possible to take the family out on a road trip.

 

Wanting to show off your newly-acquired driving skills, you agree to do that.  As the day draws closer and close, you start to feel a little nervous and anxious as you are not too sure how it will go. I am sure you won’t have very sound sleep if you are a very confident driver.

 

Does that have any correlation to your mother of the groom speech? Yes and yes to that.

 

Here’s the thing about public speaking anxiety: We always get a little timid if we have little or no experience in whatever we set our focus on.  Nonetheless, everyone has to start from somewhere to get to somewhere.

 

By this, I am reminded of the Chinese proverb that says that the journey of a thousand miles begin with a single step.  Similarly, writing your mother of the groom should start with a single step. Unfortunately, most mothers ended up taking triple steps by quickly putting their thoughts together after leafing through couple of mother of the groom speech templates.

 

The end result is a horrible patchwork of disjointed ideas which makes them vulnerable to apprehension. Thus, concluding that it’s better to say something than not to say anything at all.

 

When it comes to writing a lovely mother of the groom speech, that journey of a thousand mile starts from the mind and ends in the mind since it’s the battlefield of life.

 

Let me ask you these simple questions (just be truthful with yourself):

 

• How did you feel when your son called out of the blue and asked you to deliver your mother of the groom speech? Did you feel jittery? I attribute this mood to the fear of failure. Most moms are so afraid of the unknown and so afraid of failing at things in which they have limited or no expertise, which is why you feel a bit frazzled. Don’t worry; I am going to help you overcome this soon.

 

• Are you a naturally confident person? The tips I will be outlining shortly can help boost your self-confidence.

 

• Do you have past public speaking failures?

 

• Have you ever found yourself writing a speech only to run of ideas?

 

These and other issues are the underlying causes of your nervousness. Feeling nervousness is not always a bad thing. It happens to everyone.

I remember like it was yesterday when my heart thumped with fear when I was asked to deliver a tribute at grandma’s funeral. But, I felt a bit better once I started speaking.

 

So, you don’t have to feel down or low about those feeling of uneasiness.  Your nerves can rather help you meet this challenge and motivate you to reach your speaking goals.

 

But, how?  Let go off the past and keep imagining your family and friends smiling and applauding you for a great done as you deliver your wedding tribute for your son. 

 

As you keep imagining this positive outcome in your head, it will keep fears at bay and help build up your self-esteem and confidence.

 

 

This is what I want you to do right now to calm your nerves: Take lots of deep breaths and let out a huge sigh to relax your body and mind.  Then, start to imagine good things happening to you as you deliver your mother of the groom speech for your son and daughter before your family and friends.

 

 

Don’t do it once. Practice this daily until it gets into your sub-consciousness so that it will be your potent defense mechanism when your mind starts to play tricks on you.

 

Do This And You Will Succeed

 

Do you remember the old saying that if you are not planning to succeed, you are planning to fail?  To succeed at this, you first have to dream it, and then plan it out to make your vision a reality.

 

Having a solid plan in place helps you streamline your thoughts in a coherent manner.  It also helps you craft a structure for your mother of the groom speech.

 

To make ideas flow in logical step, you may follow this simple plan. Start by creating a vision board for your mother of the groom speech.

 

A vision board is simply a projected outcome of how you want your speech to go. For example, you can write any of these words or phrases on your vision board:

 

• I want my mother of the groom wedding speech to be funny, emotional, and inspirational.
• I want to simply share stories about my son
• I want to leave them with moist eyes
• How do I start and end my mother of the groom speech?

 

Without a clear vision on your speech vision board, it would hard to direct your efforts in ways that satisfy your writing needs. Got the picture? Ok, let’s go on.

 

Those words (your vision for the speech) can be on a poster board, stick-it- notes, a plain paper like an A4 sheet, or on any other material.

 

Then, fasten your vision board to a prominent place in your home.  Not only will this prevent procrastination but also ensure that you work hard to achieve your goals.

 

 

Now, let’s look at …

 

How And Where To Get Ideas For Your Mother Of The Groom Speech

 

A lot of times, good ideas mostly come to the curious mind and the best way to spark your curiosity is by getting your feet wet.

 

You can get your feet by first watching mother of the groom speech video clips. There are so many (best and worst) of such examples out there that it becomes pretty hard to figure out the right videos to watch for guidance and inspiration.

 

To give you a proof, you will find so many videos if you go to youtube.com and insert this broad keyword (mother of the groom speech) into the search box. These results will pop out:

 

 

I guess you can’t watch all of that due to time constraints.  Hence, you should look for simpler and easier ways of getting great videos (like the one below) you can watch and profit them.

 

To save time and energy, you should look for videos that align with your vision for your mother of the groom speech.

 

For example, if you are thinking of doing a funny mother of the groom speech, you should insert the keyword’’ hilarious mother of the groom speech’’ and you will find a video like this:  

 

 

Again, if you are thinking of doing a sentimental/touching mother of the groom speech, you may use that keyword and its variants. You can watch and learn from this example:

 

 

 

If you want to make your mother of the groom speech fun, engaging and entertaining, this should be your keyword: mother of the groom speech song/rap.  Digging a little deeper, I found this video example:

 

 

 

Do you see where this is going? Watching those videos give you an idea of how mother of the groom speeches are made.

 

Let me add that you can watch the worst videos if you have some time so you don’t repeat the mistakes those speakers made.

 

Let me ask you this:

• Did you really watch any of those videos?
• And did you learn a thing or two?
• Is there anything in those video clips that struck a chord with you?
• Would you like to model your mother of the groom speech after those videos?

 

If you just watched them for pleasure, then you go back and re-watch one or two and jot down ideas you feel might be very helpful for your writing needs.

 

Writing A Lovely Mother Of The Groom Speech Starts Right Here

 

Wouldn’t it be great if you could write your mother of the groom speech at this point? I wish we could do that. But, you have to go back in time to recall all those great moments you have had with your son and the whole family. This would make the writing process a breeze.

 

You see, memories are the heartbeat of all memorable speeches. Unfortunately, as we grow and age, we often forget about all those precious memories.

 

Sometimes, they are just lying dormant in your mind and you only need something to prop them up to the surface.

 

Since a good speech is a collection of happy memories, I want us to get as many memories as possible down on paper using these well-known methods:

1. Flip through your old journal/diary (if you have them) and write down his life’s events you would like to use for your mother of the groom speech.

2. Pore through old family photos and videos and other mementos to rekindle lost memories. As you go through those beloved belongingness and keepsakes, write down what each photo brings to mind and the memory they convey.

 

As an example, you can flip through his childhood photos and ask yourself what they remind you of? You can also scan photos of his teenage years and so on.

 

3. You don’t have to worry if for some reason, you can’t find his photos or you are really struggling to remember specific details.  Your family members can be a source of tremendous help here.

 

Just talk to his dad, his brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, grandpa and grandma, and they will be happy to share some really fond memories that can embellish your words beautifully.

 

4. Family scrapbooks come in handy if you want to recollect very warm memories. So, can letters, notes and cards he sent you on important days like on your birthday, mother’s day, wedding anniversary, and so on.

 

Once, a mom asked to work on her mother of the groom speech. Whilst reviewing her information, I found a very touching letter her son sent when he was on the war front. I felt it might make her mother of the groom speech very heartfelt and I ended up infusing its contents into my draft which made her cry.

 

Here’s an excerpt of it:

 ‘’Fourteen years ago, you sent me heartfelt note. In that poem, you spoke so lovingly of the love we have for each other, the great sacrifices I have made for you and our shared ordeals on the battlefield of life. It really touched my heart and soul. I nearly drowned in my own tears.

 

We have been through thick and thick, but you’ve always stood by me and cared for me. You have been my love, inspiration, cheerleader, and rock. 

All I can say is that you’re an amazing wonder and blessing to all who know you, and many who don’t. Thanks for always making my day bright. Only God knows where I would be with you . I love you so much ’’

 

That can easily pass for a sentimental mother of the groom speech, right? Your guess is as good as mine.

 

 

Here’s a hint for you: After you have captured all those memories on paper, you will find yourself wondering which memory to use and what to discard and that can make the whole experience quite hectic.

 

To make things fairly easy, you can grab a sheet of paper and put down something like this:

1. Childhood memories---fill in the blanks with the correct info or family photos
2. Teenage memories---fill in the gaps with the right info or family photos

• Landmark moments/memories(eg. high school and college graduation, ---fill in the blanks with the right info or family photos

It’s not finished yet. There’s more help on the way…

 

 

Mother Of The Groom Speech Examples And How To Use Them The Right Way

 

If you ask me or any mother of the groom wedding speech writer what the easiest way to get your ideas onto paper is, they are likely to respond with this definitive word:  mother of the groom speech examples/templates.

 

The reason being that well-written mother of the groom speech examples and samples have so many ideas, words and phrases you can borrow and add to yours.  

 

In addition to that, they may be used as models for guidance and inspiration.

 

That being said, I would like us to review this mother of the groom speech example.

 

After that, we will analyze it so that you can figure out how such examples can help you come up with the best mother of the groom speech ever.

 

The first thing to do is to pour heart and mind into reading the example I will be sharing shortly.

 

After that, please grab a pen and notepad and put down anything you wish to add to your presentation. Not verbatim though

Third, this should a word of caution:

Don’t copy it word for word because hundreds of eyeballs are glancing through this example this very minute and you risk being called a copycat if you do.

 

I remember years ago, someone asked me to edit his wedding speech. This person basically copied my examples word for word without even tweaking it a little bit. I think that’s so wrong and you shouldn’t do that.

 

Well, I can’t lay the blame on anyone considering that the overwhelming majority of mothers of the grooms find this rather lazy approach as the easy way out.

 

But, you don’t have to. You don’t want anyone to tell you to the face that you copied that example from the internet. Do you?

 

Just use it to create an original speech that’s entertaining and rich with his personal details.

 

Let’s look at this:

 

Mother Of The Groom Speech Example/ Template

 

Thank you all for joining us today to celebrate the union of two amazing souls, my son Jim and his beautiful bride, Janice.

For those of you who don’t know me, I am Esmile, proud mom of the groom.

 

Today is a day filled with joy, love, and a touch of nostalgia as I look back on the journey that brought us to this moment.

 

It feels like just yesterday that I was in the labor room during the Daytona 500 – yes, you heard that right! I couldn’t have chosen a more thrilling time to go into labor, and your dad, Dan, couldn’t have chosen a more exciting event to want to finish watching before we headed to the hospital.

‘’One more lap’’, he said, and I’m grateful we made it in time to welcome our little racer into the world.

 

From the very beginning, Jim was always an eager and adventurous child. At just 8 months old, he took his first steps, ready to explore the world and conquer it. I can’t tell you how many times he climbed out of his crib, always keeping me on my toes.

 

But those moments were precious, as I saw in him a determination that would shape his future endeavors.

 

Jim had a vivid imagination as a child, and he dreamed of becoming a firefighter or a Ghostbuster – a hero who could save the day.

 

While the Ghostbuster dream might have been a bit creepy, I’m glad he chose the path of a firefighter, selflessly serving his community and protecting others.

 

And let’s not forget his love for the drums – he could really make some noise, but hey, practice makes perfect, right?

 

One thing I always enjoyed was watching Jim play hockey – he had such passion and dedication on the ice. And when he wasn’t playing, I must admit, I couldn’t resist taking his Monte Carlo SS for a spin. It’s a mother’s prerogative, isn’t it?

 

 

Of course, Jim’s love for the water was undeniable, as evidenced by his boat ‘’Spot On.’’

 

He earned his captain’s license and became part of the Sea Tow team, making waves in his life and career. But life wasn’t just about boats and hockey for Jim – he had a big heart for his four-legged friends too.

 

 

His Dalmatian, Cash, was like his own child, and their bond was truly heartwarming. I like to believe that Cash is up there with your dad, looking down upon us today with pride and joy as they witness the love you share.

 

 

And speaking of adorable creatures, there was that Houdini-like hamster who managed to escape from its cage time and again.

 

It’s amazing how you both had similar experiences with your loved hamsters, Jenny.

 

Perhaps it was a sign of the adventures you’d share together. Janice, my dear, you have brought so much joy and love into Jim’s life, and I couldn’t be happier that he found someone as special as you.

 

When Jim missed the cutoff date for the fire department test, I was amazed by his determination to pursue his dreams regardless.

 

He became a paramedic and continued to make a difference in people’s lives, just as he will in yours, Janice.

 

I’ve seen the love you both share, and it reminds me of Jim’s favorite movie, Forest Gump. He always says you two are like peas and carrots – a perfect blend of unique personalities.

 

And let’s not forget the adorable mugshot story – a funny reminder of your wilder days, Janice.

 

But hey, we all have our youthful adventures, right?

 

And as a reminder, Jim uses that mug shot as his screensaver. I may have stumbled with a certain text message, but true love like yours can withstand any miscommunication.

 

As you take each step in this new chapter of

your life, I want to leave you with a few words of wisdom. May you continue to communicate openly, supporting each other unselfishly, and always standing side by side, hand in hand.

 

May your love grow deeper with every passing day, and may you find happiness in the little things.

 

So, let’s raise our glasses to Jim and Janice, two remarkable souls embarking on the adventure of a lifetime. May your love be eternal, your hearts full of joy, and your lives filled with beautiful memories. Cheers!

 

 

 

I hope you took away some great ideas from that example. I did. But, I want us to look at the structure of the mother of the groom speech since every word you will ever write center around it. Besides, it will help keep your thoughts on track.

 

If you did analyze the speech carefully, you will realize that the mother of the groom speech is organized around these bullet points:

 

• Introduction
• Body
• Conclusion

 

First, let’s look at the first bullet point: introduction or what is usually referred to as the opening remarks. 

 

It’s like the hook and bait of on a fishing rod. I am saying this because its job is to grab the attention of your family and friends and to draw them in to the body of your speech.

 

These are the core components of the introduction:

 

Greetings: Here’s an example:

I want to begin by saying what an incredible honor it is to stand before you all as the mother of the groom. Today is a day that has been long awaited, not just by my son Colin and his beautiful bride Nataly, but by our entire family. Your presence is deeply appreciated.

 

• Short-self introductory remarks

This is another example:  For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mitchelle, proud mom of the groom.

 

• Thank the guests for coming

Here, you can thank the guests, the bride’s parents, your siblings, and your mom and dad for helping you take care of your son.

 

Please grab your notes and provide a list of people you want to express gratitude to and mention why you are thanking them.  This example can give you clearer idea:

‘’ Mom was like a second mom to Mark. She helped me with everything. She did everything in her power to make life easier for me and reduce my stress during my tough times. She would keep him at her house when I was sick, while also making meals for me. She would feed him his favorite meals, brush his hair, read to him,  and plant a flower garden with him. Her love was unconditional and absolute. ‘’

 

The other aspect of the introduction is the hook. The hook is that part of your speech that gives the wedding attendees a compelling reason to listen to you.

 

If you don’t do it well, they will conclude that your mother of the groom speech is going to be as boring as spending a very long time in quarantine.  

 

 

Here are a few ways to make yours one to remember.

• You can start with a little story about how and when he was born if it has a dramatic twist. To illustrate, Michelle was expecting to have a daughter and the doctors said she was carrying her boy.

 

As it turned out, she got a girl when her water broke.  Such stories make really good mother of the groom speeches what they are. What’s your own unique story? Please write it down and share with the wedding guests.

 

• Start by sharing a small story about who your son was when he was just a little boy. To show what I mean, this is how one person did it.

 

‘’I was always very thankful that I could be there for my son. My own father passed away when I was just six(6) years old, and that was difficult. So, when her mom was pregnant…’’

 

Don’t you think that would make everyone pay attention? You bet.

 

• To strike the right emotional tone, you can use mother of the groom speech quotes or one-liners. The following mother-son quotes can help you do just that.
• Sons are the anchors of a mother’s life.” – Sophocles, Greek playwright
• Sons are the anchors of a mother’s life.” – Sophocles, Greek playwright
• “There is an enduring tenderness in the love of a mother to a son that transcends all other affections of the heart.” – Washington Irving, author
• Be strong out there, my son. Look for the love and kindness in others. Forgive yourself when you make mistakes, and enjoy the journey.” – Kirsten Wreggitt, author
• “To be a mother of a son is one of the most important things you can do to change the world. Raise them to respect women, raise them to stand up for others, raise them to be kind.” – Shannon L. Alder, author

 

Let’s move on to the next pillar: the body

 

The body is the outline of the speech. It’s the flesh and bone of your mother of the groom speech.

 

But, here’s what I found quite disturbing. The overwhelming majority have beautiful stories about their sons, but miss the mark when condensing years of memories to crafting mother of the groom speeches.

 

The logical step is to write down the really good memories you would like to use. So, let’s down to it by first answering these questions:

 

• What was it like when your son was growing up?
• What are his great attributes or character traits? Is he very loving and giving?
• When did he first mention the bride?
• How has he become a better person since meeting the bride?

 

Here’s a little assignment to help you script the body.

Do you have answers to those questions? Ok…Read through the example once again for inspiration and use those answers to write a first draft. You may not like it on your first try.

 

 

But take comfort in Ernest Hemmingway’s quote: ‘’ The first draft of anything is shit’’

 

All you have to do is to go back and refine that messy draft until you say to yourself ‘’it looks great. I think I am good to go!’’

 

Do this before you think of popping the champagne. Let's look at this next thing:

What You Should Say About Your Daughter-In-Law

 

Don’t forget to write a few things about the bride. Here are some ideas to help you write something about her.

 

• Write down how you felt when you first met her…don’t comment negatively even if you don’t like her
• Mention how she complements your son or why they are a perfect match.
• Mention how their relationship has blossomed over the years. For instance:

‘’They were both building and taking on challenges for something great, and I watched as they formed a friendship and love for each other that mothers always want to see for their sons. I appreciate you for handling my Rob like gold.’’

 

 

Now, you can pop your champagne.

 

Let’s look at the conclusion: Here’s an excerpt from the above template

‘’ May your love grow deeper with every passing day, and may you find happiness in the little things. So, let’s raise our glasses to Jim and Janice, two remarkable souls embarking on the adventure of a lifetime. Cheers! ‘’

 

On the face of it, this looks like something anyone can do with remarkable ease. It’s a rather ordinary way of wrapping up because we are used to hearing that said over and over again.

 

But, you can do much more than that with these tried and tested methods:

• You can conclude with a rhyming mother of the groom speech like this:

 

The Best Is Yet To Be

On your joyful wedding day,
You begin a brand new life.


You'll share life's joy and pleasure;
You'll have plenty of that, it's true.

But love is the real treasure
For you both .

And if life hands you challenges,
As it does to one and all,
Your love will hold you steady
And never let you fall.

Your wedding day is full of joy;
Tomorrow you cannot see.
But one thing's sure for the two of you:
The best is yet to be.

By Joanna Fuchs

 

• What about presenting a very lovely and meaningful gift to the bride and groom? Just imagine framing their vows and giving it as a gift. Have you ever thought about that?