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Mother Of The Groom Speech: The Ultimate Guide To Writing A Great Mother Of The Groom Speech For Your Son And Daughter-In-Law

 

Writing a great mother of the groom speech is definitely a labor of love you shouldn’t take lightly. It sure can be disheartening if not downright scary when your beloved son calls you out of the blue and ask:

 

Mom, can you please do a lovely mother of the groom wedding speech on my big day? When most moms find themselves in such a desperate situation, their defenses kick in and they conclude that the best thing to do is to just say something about their sons; surmising that it’s better to say something than not say nothing at all. 

 

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You know what? Instead of feeling so anxious like a sailor caught up in a sudden storm, you have to breathe in and out to relax your whole body and then ask yourself this simple question:

What Should A Mother Of The Groom Say In Her Speech To Her Son And Daughter-In-Law?

 

Great question! As a mother of the groom wedding speech writer, I have seen how moms read a few mother of the groom speech examples and then hastily put their thoughts and emotions together without figuring out what goes into writing one.

 

 

This very act reminds of a story where two wood cutters were hired to cut down trees on a large farmland. Thinking he was good to go, he hurriedly set out to cut out those massive trees so he could collect his wages and go back home to be his family.

Mother of the groom wedding speech

The second wood chopper was about to start chopping down those trees when he remembered his grandfather’s advice to always sharpen his axe before he cut down any tree. So, he sharpened his tool for several hours on a sharpening stone and cleared the entire field before the other guy did.

 

The moral of the story: when you prepare and plan for anything, you can accomplish more in less time.

 

So, it is with writing a heartfelt mother of the groom wedding speech. You have to prepare and plan for your wedding speech and stick with that plan. That I would say is the secret recipe for success in the speechwriting world.  I am sure you might be wondering how you can do that. It’s simple.

 

Here’s what I recommend you do before you even think of writing your script. I always follow this proven plan when I need content ideas for a mother of the groom speech.

 

Before we dive deep into that, let’s look at one crippling thought that can stand in your way of success even if you feel what you have on paper is the best ever mother of the groom speech. Do you have any idea what that is? Hint: It starts with n and ends with s. If you mentioned, nervousness

Then, congratulations, you have been inducted into the mother of the groom speech club!

 

All joking asides, let’s look at…

 

How To Calm Your Nerves So You Can Deliver Your Mother Of The Groom Speech With Clarity and Confidence.

 

While it can be an unpleasant feeling, pre-performance nervousness is not a problem in and of itself. It shows that you’re only human and is a natural response to an impending situation that indicates an unhealthy mixture of excitement and dread.

To calm your nerves, you should first reflect on these questions:

 

  • Did I ever stumble over my words when I gave a speech?
  • Am I naturally confident person?
  • Do I lack writing skills?
  • Do I stutter when speaking before a small crowd of people?

 

If you’ve ever found yourself in any of these situations, then you have to put the past behind you and work at building your self-esteem and confidence.Here are practical ideas to boosting your self-confidence.

  • Get some sticky notes/post-it-notes and put these words on it:

   ''I would make my son proud with my mother of the groom speech''

 

Then, fix it on a prominent place in your home. This simple but proven goal-setting exercise is a as a constant reminder that you have an obligation to do your very best on his big day. Besides, it will help you overcome procrastination.

 

  • Learn to change your mindset. The difference between those whose excel behind the microphone and those who don’t has to do with perceptions and reality. The perception is that writing a mother of the groom speech is a hard thing to do and the reality that it’s indeed a very a hard thing to do if you don’t know how to get your idea off the ground.

 

  • Learn to be a self-confident person….I repeat….learn to be a self-confident person because it’s a learned skill. Before you throw a stone at me, let’s consider this scenario.

If you are comfortable behind a steering wheel, then you won’t feel nervous driving a car, right?  Likewise, you won’t feel jittery if you are a good cook in the kitchen.

 

It stands then to reason that you are on the edge because you don’t have excellent writing and speaking skills. Isn’t that the case? What that means is that you need to seek help. Once you seek help, you would be taking small but sure steps to becoming a good mother of the speech writer and speaker.

 

Ok…Let’s look at how to do just that. It all comes back to having a plan and following through on that plan. Your writing can be a breeze if you follow like this simple plan:

 

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First, start with the end in mind. What do I exactly mean by this? Start by looking up ideas about how to write a touching mother of the groom speech

 

Here are some cool ways to dig up the right facts. 

If you have ever delivered a mother of the groom speech before, then you can go back for it and read it slowly once more. That way, you can come with fresh, new ideas.

 

Moreover, you can ask for help from friends and family. Memories are the foundation of all great wedding speeches.

 

So, speak to your husband or the groom’s dad, your own parents and other relatives about speech and you will be amazed to know that some of them can help you out as they have good writing skills.

 

Third, this is what I recommend you do if you want come up with ideas so quickly. Just head over to your preferred video sharing platform or search engines and look for mother of the groom speech videos.

 

Youtube.com is my favorite platform because it has so many excellent as well as horrible videos you can watch and learn. Here’s a snapshot of mother of the groom speech videos you will find on that space.

How to write a mother of the groom speech

 

Looking through those results, I saw these excellent clips you can model your speech after it you want to. Please note: As you watch these moms give account of their son’s life, ask yourself these basic questions:

  • Does it align with my goals and vision for my mother of the groom?
  • Can I use bits and pieces of the story line?
  • Do I find them entertaining and useful? And are these ideas I can use for my script?

 

Ok…Now, let’s look at both video samples.

Mother Of The Groom Speech Video Sample # 1

Mother Of The Groom Speech Video Example #2

 

I hope you got some inspiration from watching both short films. Well, I got these ideas from watching them over and over again.

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The fourth item on the list is my favorite resource of all my time. It’s a goldmine for tongue-tied mothers who are really struggling to come up with their own toasts.

Ok…wait a minute…Do you have any idea what I am making reference to? I am sure you know what I am referring to: expertly crafted mother of the groom speech examples.

 

Here’s Why You Should Use Well-Written Mother Of The Groom Speech Examples/Templates

  • You can modify one and adapt it for your personal use
  • You can borrow aspects of it to enrich your mother of the groom speech. Just imagine how memorable your wedding speech would be if you end with this piece of advice I culled from another example:

My wish for the two of you of you is that your
love grows deeper with each passing day. And by this, I am reminded of the quote from the movie: The Notebook. It says that the best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.

It's my hope and prayer that you experience this kind of love.That
you have a family, and also tons of adventures.
That you get through the storms, and enjoy
every sunny day. And that you have a wonderful
life together!

 

  • Not only does tapping into them give you peace of mind but it’s also a creative outlet for inspiration.

 

For example, if you can’t seem to get started, you may read through this example slowly. Afterward, we will break it down and analyze it so you can figure out how to map out a vision for your mother of the groom speech.

 

Here it is:

 

Mother Of The Groom Wedding Speech Example/Template

 

Hello everyone! For those of you who don’t me, I am Lucille, very proud mom of the groom. I want to thank each and every one of you for joining us all today to celebrate this wonderful couple and their true love story. Today would have been beautiful regardless, but it wouldn’t have been as lovely without you.

And to Mark and Christie – it’s finally official!! We are now one great big family! Welcome to our crazy clan, and thank you for making Jimmy as well all of us Swains feel welcome into your family too! I look forward to many family celebrations and milestones with the two of you.

Okay, as the mother of the groom, I get to exercise my right to embarrass the groom just a bit. So here goes…

 

Jimmy was a happy baby, and a good toddler. He started walking when he was 8 months old! And when Michael was born, he wanted to carry him. I got lucky.

 

However, When Jimmy was 2 years old, his Uncle put his beer down and Stephen decided he was going to drink it. Suffice it to say, it did not agree with him. I’d love to say that he never picked up another beer for the rest of his life, but that is stretching it. I will say that he waited a long time before he tried it a second time!

 

When he was 6 or 7, he came home telling me that he was this lady’s hero because she had locked her keys in her car and his arms were small enough to reach inside through the crack she’s left in the window and get the door open. That amazed me that he was able to realize that there was an adult who needed assistance, and that he could provide that assistance even though he was a child. That desire to help others never left him.

Mother of the groom speech samples

Once when we were camping, a friend of ours brought a wig. It was a huge afro. Jimmy got up one morning, put on that wig, and went fishing on the other side of the lake. He did it just so that he’d know that as we were looking across the lake at him, all of us were giggling at his enormous hair!

 

When he decided to join the marines, he was 13 years old. I remember asking him why and his answer was that he wanted to protect his country. He signed up for the delayed entry program at 17. He went into the marines at 18, 3 months after graduating high school.

 

He served for 6 years and came home a disabled veteran. But that didn’t stop him. He went on to become the first person in our family to graduate from college, and he did that with honors. He continued his education by getting his masters degree in Geographic Information Science. He made us very proud.

 

There’s a story that I won’t tell in complete detail, but it has to do with Jimmy coming to my rescue and a tenant at a Hotel where I used to work. He protected both of us from a not so nice man who was being very rude to me and very abusive to my tenant.

 

Jimmy just came out and started barking order, and when the man decided he didn’t want to listen…Jimmy threw him through a window to get his attention!

 

When the police arrived, they listened to Jimmy, and told the other guy to shut up and sit on the curb. One of the policemen was also a marine. Jimmy looked at him and said Family First, to which the officer replied “Exactly, Family First!” That was the first time I heard Jimmy say that, but I guessed that the Marines had taught him that phrase. It meant a lot to me.

 

Jimmy has grown to be a smart, generous, compassionate, and thoughtful man. So of course, I was very pleased when he found a loving, kind, respectful, honest and loyal woman like Marina. I’ve waited for 10 years for this day, and I couldn’t be happier!

 

I knew the first time I met her and she would smile every time she talked about Jimmy that she was the one. And today, she is my daughter!

 

My hope for the two of you is that you will continue to grow together, that you will always bring out the best in one another, and that together you will make all your dreams come true. My advice for the two of you is always listen to what the other person is saying. Never take cheap shots during a fight, you know – name calling or bringing up the past.

 

Words can hurt, so be careful with them. But also, don’t keep things bottled up. Just communicate. Tell each other what you are thinking, and how you are feeling. And always say I love you. You can never say that too much.

Okay, with that I will ask everyone to raise their glasses to Jimmy and Marina! May you both live happily ever after!

 

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I am sure you enjoyed reading that example, right? This is an excellent example of a touching mother of the groom speech. Well, anyone can look it over and figure that they can do better than that. But, it is easier than done because a lot goes into writing such a sample.

 

As a mother of the groom speech writer, I have had the opportunity to review some mother of the groom speech draft example and a mistake I see most make is to read through an example and then proceed to write their own.

 

That is not a great way of getting things done, unfortunately. They say behind every great script is a good story. A story about how it was written so you fully grasp the concept behind the write-up.

 

Before you start putting your stories together, you first have to pause and consider a few things like:

  • The kind of wedding speech you would like to make
  • The length/duration of your mother of the groom wedding speech
  • When and where your toast will be delivered

 

Let’s look at each point briefly before we figure out how to easily and quickly write the content of your mother of the groom speech itself.

 

First,

  • The kind of wedding speech you wish to make

From personal observation and analyses, I have come to the conclusion that there are eight kind of mother of the groom speeches.

They include the following:

  • Touching/Emotional mother of the groom speech
  • Dramatic mother of the groom speech: Here’s an example:

  • Poetic mother of the groom speech
  • Joint parents (father and mother) of the groom speech
  • Music/Rap mother of the groom wedding speech: Here’s another example

  • Religious/Christian mother of the groom speech
  • Combo approach: This is really helpful if you really want your presentation to stand out.

 

My homework assignment: Reflect for a moment and ask what kind of toast you would like to make.

 

Second, look at…

  • The duration or length of your mother of the groom speech.

If you ask me what how long or short your mother of the groom speech should be, I will say that the content trumps everything else.

 

I have written long mother of the groom speeches that became a hit and I have also written short ones as well. So, it doesn’t really matter how long or short is. You just have to do a great job and no one would be too bothered about the length of your wedding speech.

 

However, if you have asked to speak for a certain number of minutes, then you have to be a good time keeper.

 

Let’s look at the third idea:

When and Where Will You Be Making Your Speech?

  • At your son’s engagement party?
  • At his rehearsal dinner?
  • At the wedding reception?

 

Having done all that work, you should proceed to create an outline for your mother of the groom speech. 

 

By developing a clear layout for your ideas, you will save yourself from the mental torture of not knowing where to start and how to piece your storyline together.

 

How can you do that? I created this simple outline below from the mother of the groom speech example above.

Mother of the groom speech tips and ideas

Let’s see how it all unfolds.

  • Start with a greeting
  • Mention your name and state your relationship with the bride and groom
  • Thank the wedding guests for coming
  • Start with a hook
  • Talk about your son
  • Talk about your daughter-in-law
  • Share some marriage advice/Share your best wishes
  • Father of the groom toasts to his son and daughter-in-law

 

This is what you have to do next after creating an outline for your speech. Just pick an idea and back it up with some supporting material as you see below.

  • Start with a greeting

Here’s an example:

Hello everyone! For those of you who don’t me, I am Cathy, very proud mom of the groom. I want to thank each and every one of you for joining us all today to celebrate this wonderful couple and their true love story. Today would have been beautiful regardless, but it wouldn’t have been as lovely without you.

 

I think anyone can write this aspect of the speech so let’s move on to something else.

  • Mention your name and state your relationship with the bride and groom

 

This is an example to support it: Hello everyone! For those of you who don’t me, I am Cathy, very proud mom of the groom.

 

  • Thank the wedding guests for coming

Again, here’s an example: I want to thank each and every one of you for joining us all today to celebrate this wonderful couple and their true love story. Today would have been beautiful regardless, but it wouldn’t have been as lovely without you.

 

  • Start off with a hook

The hook of your speech is your gateway to your speech’s universe, and a well-crafted one that can make the difference between a great speech and one that falls flat.  It reels the listener in and makes them want to hear more of what you have to say.  

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The hook or opening lines can be a joke, a funny story about your son’s birth, a personal story, a story about the bride and groom, use mother of the groom speech quotes , sing a well-known love song or share how it feels like giving a speech on your son’s  big day..

Below are two examples:

First, share a mother of the groom joke:

Second, share how you feel about giving your speech:

It’s probably no secret that I have been thinking about my speech

practically since the moment Laura and Bill got engaged last

November. For some moms it’s the dress, but for me….it’s the words.

I’ve been writing in my head jotting down notes on my phone while

staring at the roasted chickens at Costco (truly).

 

Afterwards, you have to do this:

  • Talk about your son

Here, you can share a few memories from when he was born to when he first told you about the bride. If you don’t know where to start, just write down several stories and pick from the pool.

 

From personal observation, most mothers center their anecdotes on these themes:

  • Anecdotes of your son from when he was a little boy so you can create a short mother of the groom speech from those memories.

 

  • Stories that define your bonds
  • ''Proud moments'' stories: Here, you mention why you are so proud of him and back it up with a story or two from his life.

 

A mom once said that her proudest moment was when his son doused out the flames on her barn.

 

Question: What are your most proud moments as a mom? Write them down and figure one which ones you want to use for your mother of the groom speech.

 

That brings us to the next point:

  • Talk briefly about your daughter-in-law

 

Main ideas to consider:

  • Talk about who she is to you and your son
  • Your impressions when your son first brought her home
  • Mention her beautiful traits
  • You may share how she brings out the best in your son

 

That takes us to this:

Culled from the sample are these words:

‘’  My advice for the two of you is always listen to what the other person is saying. Never take cheap shots during a fight, you know – name calling or bringing up the past. Words can hurt, so be careful with them. But also, don’t keep things bottled up. Just communicate. Tell each other what you are thinking, and how you are feeling. And always say I love you. You can never say that too much. ‘’

 

Before you go back to your seat…Just ask everyone to raise their glasses and toast to the bride and groom.

Templates for mother of the groom speech

 

Well, you may end your mother of the groom speech by toasting to the bride and groom. To make it super memorable, you can use add one of these tips.

  • Frame your speech if it’s really good and gift it to the bride and groom
  • Give a thoughtful gift to the bride and groom
  • You may conclude with a poem

Now, I want to ask you this simple question.  Can you really write a very lovely mother of the groom speech with the tips and ideas I have shared on this page?

If you are not too sure  what to do next, then please fill out this very short form and we will help you out even if public speaking is not your thing. 

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  • If you are not good with words and you feel you’re not a natural writer and you are struggling to find the right words but still want to give a great speech.
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Just imagine leaving your entire presentation in the hands of skilled wedding speech consultants who will take away your pain of spending hours thinking hard and long about what to say and what not to say.

Also, envision being patiently guided to say something that will leave a favorable impression on the mind of your listeners.


And also imagine the thrill and feeling of excitement and pride you’re going to experience when the audience leaps onto their feet and scream and shouts and even sing your praises.


Won’t you love that? I hope you do...

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Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.

Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.

Yet, some sons are still getting married and asking their moms to give speeches.

''It was perfect Dan.  I changed a few things in the speech. And I had several people come up and tell me how well done it was. I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for your help''- Marilyn, Canada

Nonetheless, not every mother could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.

So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.

Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.

So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.

Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your son and daughter-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.  

So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.

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Mother of the groom wedding speeches

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Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?

You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.

Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis has caused severe hardships for most people. Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.

Yet, some sons are still getting married and asking their moms to give speeches.

''It was perfect Dan.  I changed a few things in the speech. And I had several people come up and tell me how well done it was. I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for your help''- Marilyn, Canada

Nonetheless, not every mother could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.

So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.

Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.

So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.

Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your son and daughter-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.   

So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.   

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''Hi Dan,

The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice).  Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.

All the best,

Matt''

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Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!

''Hi Dan,

The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice).  Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.

All the best,

Matt''

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