Groomsman Speech: How to easily and quickly write a great groomsman speech in 7 easy steps
Looking for great ideas and tips to help you write a great groomsman wedding speech? Just stick with me for a while and I will share with you everything you need to know about…
- How to write a great groomsman speech even if you don’t have a way with words
- How to model your groomsman speech after groomsman speech examples or templates
- Plus so much more
If you have been asked by the groom to stand by his side on the most important day of his life, then you can be sure you are someone he really looks up to.
So, you have to do your very best to make sure his wedding day goes by without a hitch. When it comes to writing and delivering an amazing groomsman speech, most groomsmen fail to make the desired impression and they ended up making boring speeches.
Being a groomsman is as an exciting opportunity to tell a good story about your friend or brother and I am going to help you do just that in this piece. Before then, let’s first look at few things you need to know before we get off the ground.
If you have never made a groomsman wedding speech your whole life, then it makes sense that you first get a fair idea of how great wedding speeches are made. Guess what? The best place to look for ideas if you are new to the game is to watch a few videos on youtube.com
So This Is What I Recommend You Do: Grab your pen and notepad and watch these video clips. As you do, write down tips and ideas you think you can weave into your own presentation.
Here they are:
Groomsman speech Video Example
Video groomsmen speech examples or templates are not the only resources you can make the most of. Well-written groomsman speech examples or templates are another option that can help you come up with great tips because the really good ones contain so many great ideas you can adapt and work into your wedding speech for the groom and bride.
In the next few lines, I would like to share with you a funny groomsman speech example or template. After we have read through it, we break it down step by step so you can figure out how you too can make a memorable groomsman speech even if you don’t know what to say.
Here you go:
Groomsman Speech Example/Template
Hello my name's Steve and I'm Gavin's best man, although I'm sure Gavin will have a new name for me by the time I've finished this.
When Gavin asked me to be his best man I was initially thrilled at the prospect. Unfortunately it didn't take long for this feeling of wellbeing to dissolve into utter apprehension as I remembered the last time I had to stand up in a room full of people..… I was found guilty and fined £300. “Wait for laughs to finish”
I have known Gavin for over 10 long years now. When I first met him in college he was loud, aggressive, rude, abusive and swore a lot, but just look at the man he's become now…..nothing has changed. Whilst at college we discovered a local nightclub called Winkers. I would regularly witness Gavin's unique, raw, undiscovered style of dancing in Winkers that left the women speechless. By speechless I mean absolutely none of them would speak to him.
I'd like to mention Gavin's good points. Gavin is intelligent, caring, trusting and good look…look… (Look at Gavin) “I'm really sorry Gavin; I can't read your handwriting”
One of Gavin's strongest traits is loyalty; he is a Leeds United fan after all. A team that has done nothing except disappoint him and betray his hopes and dreams for the past 5 years. If that is anything to go by Sarah doesn't have to make any effort for the next 5 years, she can make him miserable, and break all her wedding vows and generally walk all over he……and he'll still feel that things will turn around come August.
Gavin used to a good runner as a young man. Unfortunately Steve soon convinced him that getting plastered in the Black Horse in Chorleywood was the way to go instead. It certainly was a shame to see such a promising athletic career go down the pan at the tender age of 12.
Many of you will be aware that Gavin and Sarah have recently purchased their first house together. This house does require a bit of DIY work, and anyone who knows Gavin will know that he is not exactly a DIY king. However, in order to get the house looking good he assures me that since moving in he and Sarah have been banging and screwing at every opportunity.
In the run-up to the wedding Gavin had something on his mind that was bothering him, so he decided to ask the Vicar about it. “Vicar” he said, “what do you think about sex before marriage?” “Well”, said the Vicar, “I'm absolutely fine with it as long as you still get here on time”.
Gavin is a generous man, and demonstrated this to all his friends during the stag weekend. I'm not talking about the champagne he bought for us all; I'm talking about our visit to the go-cart track. Whilst racing he consistently let everybody overtake him with absolutely no thought for himself. Talking of stag weekends, that brings me nicely onto the next subject.
The stag weekend
The stag weekend was difficult to organise, partly because I had to do it and partly because getting money out of some of our friends is harder than getting blood from a stone, Rawcliffe was out as we have been banned from most pubs there, therefore we decided that we had to go further afield, so a stag night was changed to a stag weekend.
We thought about Dublin, but it was no good, we had already been there and they hadn't forgotten. We tried Amsterdam, but were told politely not to bother by the Dutch authorities so in the end we settled on Newcastle. This town was a good choice for two reasons. Firstly, it was far enough away from home for none of us to be recognised and secondly it was far enough away from home to prevent Gavin from doing his usual Saturday night party trick of drinking like a fish for 2 hours, hurling abuse at his friends for being ‘lightweights’ and then hailing a taxi home at 8pm on his own in a drunken state.
Fortunately this didn't happen, not because Gavin wasn't drunk, it was simply because no Geordie taxi driver in their right mind would let a shaven haired Southern drunkard into their cab dressed in a French Maids outfit
Sarah
When I first met Sarah my impression was of a beautiful, witty, charming, clever, friendly and thoughtful person. But she soon ruined this by agreeing to marry Gavin.
Speaking of Sarah, I would like to say how beautiful she looks today in that fantastic dress … Gavin likes it too as he thinks it blends well with the rest of the kitchen.
Gavin truly is a lucky man today marrying Sarah; she is a wonderful lady who deserves a good husband … so I think Gavin has done a fantastic job at marrying her before she had a chance to find one.
Sarah has become a good friend since I have known her. She is kind, thoughtful and caring and I know her father pulled her to one side just before the wedding to give her some advice on three things to remember:
Aisle. As it is the longest walk you'll ever take
Altar. The place where 2 become 1
Hymn. This is where the congregation celebrate your coming together
Sarah certainly took this advice to heart; indeed I heard her muttering the three words under her breath as she walked down the aisle “AISLE ALTAR HYMN”, “AISLE ALTAR HYMN”,
Messages
In the days leading up to this marriage I thought it would be a good idea to seek out some wedding advice from our mutual friends so that Gavin and Sarah can benefit from their wisdom:
From Ben Lumley:
“Gavin, I muttered a few words in church and I was married. A year later, I muttered a few words in my sleep and I was nearly divorced”
From Derren Maggs:
“Gavin, marriage is a thing that puts a ring on a woman's finger and two under the man's eyes…”
From Dave Bevis:
“Gavin, getting married is like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, and when you see what the other fellow has, you wish you had ordered that instead”
Finish
Seriously though, it is traditional for the best man to slate the groom in this speech, but in Matt's case this has been difficult as he really is fine person who has always been loyal and supportive to his friends and family. I know that in Steph he has found his life partner and I know they will be truly happy together.
I'd also like to thank the bridesmaids and ushers today for their invaluable contribution to the wedding, I'm sure you'll all agree with me that they all look wonderful.
So, finally (get a glass in your hand):
Here's to love, laughter
And happily ever after.
As Matt and Steph start their new life
Please stand and toast the new husband and wife
Ladies and gentlemen……the Bride and Groom
If you go back to read the whole thing once more, you will realize that the whole speech evolved from this structure or outline:
- Greetings
- Short-self introduction
- The introductory remarks or how to start the groomsman speech
- Share memorable stories about the groom
- Share some good stories about the bride
- Share their beautiful qualities and how they complement each other
- Ending of the groomsman speech
Having seen these ideas, let’s take each point one step at a time.
This is our first idea:
- Greetings
I think you can write this without blinking an eye, right? Ok, this is how the writer captured it.
‘’ Hello my name's Steve and I'm Gavin's best man, although I'm sure Gavin will have a new name for me by the time I've finished this.
When Gavin asked me to be his best man I was initially thrilled at the prospect. Unfortunately it didn't take long for this feeling of wellbeing to dissolve into utter apprehension as I remembered the last time I had to stand up in a room full of people. I was found guilty and fined £300. ’’
Let’s look at the next idea:
- Short-self introduction
A lot of times most groomsmen begin their wedding speeches without letting everyone know who they are and their relationship with the bride and groom. That goes against wedding speech etiquette. It’s always a good idea to introduce yourself before you start your speech.
This cliché always work:
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Graham, proud brother of the groom.
To make it funnier, you can say it like this:
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Graham, proud brother of the groom. Of course, I am the wiser, more handsome, silly older brother of the groom. My friends here call me cucumber because it’s my other nickname. I actually have like two other nicknames….those sound weird.... So just for tonight, I would like you to call me Mr. Graham Cucumber!
Did you notice how I managed to make you smile with that little introduction? If you are the brother of the groom, you can humorously thank your mom and dad for their love and support.
Then, you should thank everyone for coming out from far and near to support the couple.
We are not done yet. Let’s look at the third idea:
- The introductory remarks or how to start the groomsman speech
Your opening remarks is undoubtedly the most important part of your groomsman speech but most wedding speakers don’t it so well because the vast majority of them are accustomed to starting with remarks they have heard at weddings.
This is how it was exhibited in the above example
‘’ Hello my name's Steve and I'm Gavin's best man, although I'm sure Gavin will have a new name for me by the time I've finished this. ‘’
As you can see, those opening lines are not so impressive. I know it can sound cliché for most groomsmen to say that but that’s always on the lips of those speakers.
Having said that; I am going to share with you ideas about how to make your introductory remarks very unique and special.
First, you can start with a nice song everyone can sing along to and your speech will be a hit. You can get an idea from this talented guy.
Second, you can start with a joke. It could be an inside joke, a joke about your friendship, or you can even start with a funny story about what happened before your brother was born or any hilarious anecdote that occurred during your childhood.
What you can do now: Sit back and reflect and write down happy memories you’ve had with the groom and bride.
Third, you can simply make your speech rhyme. Just look at this example…
Ok…here are a short poem you can modify too for your groomsman speech
Today, my brother has taken the most important step in his life
He has chosen to marry a special woman on the most important day of his life
There’s no greater joy for a man to find that she’s found a woman to love his whole life
What a perfect way to start life with someone you love
And when life gets tough, he can find someone to hold and to love
Love is sweet when you share with someone you love . So love one another and you will find that love is the best gift there is.
Let’s get on to the next point:
- Share memorable stories about the groom
You’ll agree with me that there are so many stories you can share about the groom. But it gets hard to know which stories to choose from; especially if you have had several wonderful moments with your best friend or friend.
So, it makes sense that you winnow down the stories and pick at least two great stories you would like to go with.
This simple mental exercise can help you do that. Put on your thinking cap and write down answers next to each question:
- When did you meet him?
- What drew him to your side?
- What do you really admire about him?
- What memorable stories would you like to share with the wedding guests(write several of them down and pick two or three from the pool)
- How has he become a better person over the years?
Action tip: Write down answers to those questions and use them to write a rough draft which you can always go back to trim down and refine.
The game is still on…let’s look at the next idea:
- Share some good stories about the bride
If you have known the bride for a very long time, just write down many stories about her and just use what you are comfortable with.
Please note: If you don’t know her too well, just say this: ‘’ you are happy that the groom has found someone to spend the next chapter of his life with ‘’
In that same vein, you can humorously comment on how they complement each other or look good together.
Finally, let’s look at…
- How to write the ending of the groomsman speech
I love this quote by Maya Angelou that says that people will forget what you said; people will forget what you did but will never forget how you made them feel.
That is to say that if you conclude with some memorable lines, people will never forget how you made them feel. So, have to do your best to end on a strong note.
If you have nothing to say, you can end with this:
‘’ Seriously though, it is traditional for the best man to slate the groom in this speech, but in Matt's case this has been difficult as he really is fine person who has always been loyal and supportive to his friends and family. I know that in Steph he has found his life partner and I know they will be truly happy together.
I'd also like to thank the bridesmaids and ushers today for their invaluable contribution to the wedding, I'm sure you'll all agree with me that they all look wonderful.
So, finally (get a glass in your hand):
Here's to love, laughter …’’
Besides that, you can end your groomsman speech with one or more of these proven ideas.
First, if you or the couple is rooted in faith, you can end with a prayer or this bible verse.
‘’ 1 Corinthians 16:14. ."Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love..."
Second, if you are musically gifted, you can modify the lyrics of this song and wrap up with it.
Third, you can end with a good quote about marriage or love, even if you are not married. Here are some examples to help you end on a strong note.
- “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” – Mignon McLaughlin
- “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” – Dave Meurer
- “Never marry the one you can live with, marry the one you cannot live without.” – Unknown
- “A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” – Pearl S. Buck
- “Experts on romance say for a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love. For a lasting union, they insist, there must be a genuine liking for each other. Which, in my book, is a good definition for friendship.” – Marilyn Monroe
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You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis have caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, some grooms are still getting married and their family and friends have to say something about them.
Nonetheless, not everyone could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now even if the wedding day is in the future.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video, and your friend or brother, family and friends, and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
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All the best,
Matt''
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