Standing Ovation Speeches

Step father of the groom speech or toast: How to easily and quickly write a great step father of the groom wedding toast for your step-son and bride

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Please note: The ideas and tips can also help you write a great father of the groom speech even if you are not the groom’s real dad.

Has This Ever Happened to you?

Life can sometimes be so unfair. Just three years after Martha had gotten married; she lost his husband to cancer, leaving her to care for their one year old baby boy all by herself.

When her son Mark turned 7 years old, his mom started dating David and in about a year after meeting her, they got engaged to be married.

Two years after their engagement, they finally got married and were so excited to meld their lives together.

What was especially touching on their wedding day was when David said in his vows that he would love and take good care of Little Mark as his own.

Mark was true to his promises as he kept them in his heart and anyone could tell by the love and affection he showed his step- son that he had a very special place in his heart.

Once, the boy was so sick to the point of death that he quit his job to take care of the growing boy, leaving the mom as the sole bread winner of the family.

Her mom’s take-home pay was three times that of her husband’s. After helping him through school, Mark was about to get to university and the night before he left off for school; David looked him straight in the eye and said:

‘’ Mark, it’s a blessing to be in your life. You’ve always made us proud but you still have a lot to go for. Put in the work and the sky will actually be your starting point and not where you end’’

That wise counsel stayed with him and he worked so hard that he graduated with distinction and got a great job with great pay.

Three years after leaving school, he decided to get married to his college sweet heart and asked his dad to give a sweet father of the groom wedding speech or toast. What better way of letting his family, friends and loved ones know what the journey of life had been like for the three of them?

David was an accomplished public speaker and thought it would be a piece of cake. But he was so wrong.

He loved his son so much and wanted to make sure he left nothing to chance. So, he spent close to two months preparing for what he felt was the most important speech of his life.

He managed to come up with something but he felt he needed that extra touch to make it come fully alive.

He reached out to us and we co-wrote the father of the groom wedding speech below. Please read through it very carefully.

Step-Father of the Groom Speech or Toast Example

Hello, good evening and welcome everyone!

For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Stephen and I am Mark’s proud dad and best man.

It gives Barbara and me great joy to see the smiling faces of all the friends and family who have come from near and far to share Mark and Amanda's special day. Thank you all so much for coming.

When Mark asked me to be his best man, I felt surprised that he chose me because I thought that it could have been one of his friends.

But it’s been such fun to be the unofficial personal assistant of this handsome young man. I first saw Mark when his moved to my hometown from where she used to work. The first time I saw him, he was flying his kite and I remember saying to myself, his father must be a proud dad because of his good looks and infections personality.

As fate would have it, I ended up becoming his dad when he was nine years old.

Mark was always a very lively and kind child who really loved being with his big sisters. He looked out for them and was such a thorn in the flesh of boys who picked on his sisters.

Mark did play golf when he was about eleven years old. Once, I got a call at work from his mother frantically saying that he had been in the yard swinging his driver and his younger sister Amy accidentally walked into it and hit her in the nose.

I could hear the frantic feeling in my wife's voice and I could hear Amy crying in the background and I could hear Mark saying, ‘’Mom, it wasn't my driver, it was my Three-wood. ‘’

Well, Amy ended up with a slightly crooked nose that looks very cute to this day. Where’s my daughter? Yeah, just look at her nose if you doubt it. Sorry about that Amy!

Growing up, Mark was fun to be around and there was nothing quite like the time we spent together on the golf course.

Mark and I played together as a team in the father-son tournament and won our flight. He was just 13 years old, but he played very well and his dad played crappy, but we still won due to his impressive performance on the course. However, Mark couldn’t get out of bed for a week because he was so tired from carrying me for three days.

As he grew older, he never lost his passion for the game by working hard to improve every single part of it for the better and he made me so proud by graduating from the golf Academy and began his career in the golf industry!

Mark, we are so proud of you and how far you’ve come down the road of life. You’re one of our lives greatest gifts and I must say that being your parents has been without a doubt, a great source of pride, joy, and inspiration.

On this special day of your life, we want you to know how precious you’re to us and I want to let you that I will forever cherish all the great moments we’ve spent with you, (particularly our time on the golf course.)

We are beyond ecstatic that you’ve found a truly beautiful woman to marry and we are very confident that she will help bring out the very best in you. When someone loves you, you can simply tell by the way they treat you right. From the time, we’ve known Amanda, we’ve seen in so many ways how she loves and looks out for Mark.

Amanda, I remember first meeting you when we went to dinner at the restaurant where you both were working and we knew you were so special to him when he introduced you to us. You simply have no idea of the immense joy in our hearts because our son has found you.

Mark and Amanda, I really love the fact you both shared values and interests (like your commitment to family traditions) because couples with shared values often flourish beautifully.

Nevertheless, you still have to be there for each other in good times and the bad. So, as you embark on this journey of love, always love, respect, support and put each other first in whatever you do and you will make memories every step of the way.

We love you both could not be more proud of your decision to build your lives together. You both have it takes and I do know for sure that the best years of your life together is yet to be. Let me assure you that you can always count on us for support in everything you do. God bless you both.

When Stephen’s speech was over, several people came up to congratulate him warmly for being a very loving father.

A visibly excited friend shook him and said

‘’ I never thought you could pull this one this well since you are known for corporate speeches!’’

I do know for sure that by now you might be wondering how you can write a heartfelt father of the groom wedding speech like he did.

This is How To Write Your Father of the Groom Wedding Speech

It’s as easy as watching your favorite TV program. Yet, the overwhelming majority of fathers really struggle to connect the dots together and their wedding speeches end up not being what they initially envisioned.

There are several reasons for this. You see, most fathers of grooms fail to put on a remarkable show on their son’s wedding day because they don’t put in their all effort and just go on with life as usual only to squeeze some time to cobble something together when time for the wedding is so, so close.

But that shouldn’t be the case at all if you want to make your son proud.

You will save yourself time and stress if you prepare and plan ahead of time, even if you have a few days to your son’s wedding day.

This Is What I Recommend That You Do Before You Even Jot Down Your Ideas.

First, you have to believe you are going to excel even if you are damn nervous about speaking in front of your family and friends or think you are not cut out for this public speaking thing which sometimes seem to terrify even the most experienced speakers.

As you do that, you will be building your self-esteem by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. That, in essence, is how to master your emotions and mentally prepare yourself for your father of the groom speech toast.

I have written extensively about how to calm your nerves here and there.

Second, you have to look for the right words and ideas to help you write your father’s wedding toast for your son.

You can get those ideas from two sources:

Father of the groom speech examples…as we have seen above

Videos about fathers giving speeches at their step-son’s wedding

Now, let us see how they complement each other.

To write the first (1), you have to watch a couple of videos to get a clear idea of what a father of the groom toast is like.

Action Tip: Go grab your pen and journal and jot down ideas you think you can use in your script as you watch these short video clips on YouTube.

Father of the groom speech toast: Video #1

Father of the groom wedding speech toast: Video # 2

I hope you enjoyed both videos and learned a thing or two from watching them. Now, watch me closely as I show you how you can use that written template above to help you write a sweet speech at your son’s wedding.

Are you ready to spring into action? If you are all set, I am going to break that example down bit by bit so you can get an idea of what goes into writing a memorable father of the groom wedding speech toast that will get you tons of compliments, days even after the wedding bells have stopped chiming.

First, let’s look at how to write a great introduction that will hook in your listeners. Let’s see this excerpted snippet to help us accomplish this task.

Here you go:

‘’ Hello, good evening and welcome everyone!

For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Stephen and I am Mark’s proud dad and best man.

It gives Barbara and me great joy to see the smiling faces of all the friends and family who have come from near and far to share Andrew and Amanda's special day. Thank you all so much for coming. When Austin asked me to be his best man…’’

My comments/suggestions: The introduction is the easiest part to write because it basically comprises of a short self-introduction and expression of gratitude to certain individuals like:

The mother of the groom. If she’s deceased, you may pay a special tribute to her if she played a key role in your son’s upbringing.

Your own relatives and loved ones

Your friends, neighbors, the groom’s siblings, etc.

Don’t forget to acknowledge the presence of the bride’s parents and say something sincere about them.

You also have to thank the wedding guests for coming from far and near to grace the occasion.

Action Tip: Using that sample as a guide, jot down the names of people you would like to mention and state why you are thanking them.

Have you done just that? Ok, we still have some rivers to cross so to speak. Your introductory remarks should capture the attention of the wedding guests from the very beginning and put them in the mood for the remainder of your presentation.

There are several ways of going about this and I want to share with you some proven tips to help you write a very engaging intro so you can win the love and admiration of your audience.

First, if you are lucky to be your son’s best man, then you can proudly let everyone know about this and how you felt when he asked you to be his right hand man as you saw at the start of the speech we looked at earlier.

Second, if the wedding party attendees don’t know you are the groom’s step father, you might want to keep it a secret if you are a big loving family. However, if there are no skeletons in your closet, you can share how you felt when your step son first came into your life. Stories can help you do justice to this.

Here’s a very short example

Dan, being a military brat, was in Hawaii until he was three years old. So, I didn’t get to meet him until then. I was able to lay eyes on him when he showed up in Arkansas with my wife with a pacifier in his mouth.

When I saw him, he was the most adorable little boy I had ever seen and more than anything, I wanted to snatch him up and give him the biggest hug ever.

But he wanted absolutely nothing to do with me because he was so scared of strangers, particularly bald old men like yours truly.

So, I came up with a plan to win the attention and trust of my new friend. Guess what I found? To my delight, I discovered that he loved to drink milk every night before he dozed off.

On his fourth birthday, I promised him that I was going to stock the refrigerator with every kind of milk he had in mind if he could spell his own name in under a minute which he obliged….

Did you notice how I weaved in that story? Don’t you think this hilarious anecdote will perk up the ears of everyone at the wedding reception or rehearsal dinner night? You be the judge.

Third, if you want to strike a sentimental tone, you can kick off with a love or marriage quote. Here are some good ones you can spiff up your wedding speech with.

Nothing compares with joy of finding true love because once you do, your heart is complete.

We don’t marry the person we can live with. But rather the person we can’t live without.

A man becomes his best self when he starts the next chapter of his life with the lady his hearts truly beats for

Love is not something you find. Love is something that finds you- Tony Robbins

The greatest happiness in life is to love and be loved in return

Can you use any of those lines to come up with a very engaging introduction or you still need my help?

Ok, I am going to use quote c to illustrate. Again, let’s see how we can make the best out of it.

A very wise man once said that a man becomes his best self when he starts the next chapter of his life with the lady his hearts truly beats for. That’s so true because I have never seen my son this happy. If you have any doubts, just look at the radiant joy in his eyes.

Ok, let’s move on to second part of our analysis:

How To Write Your Wedding Speech For Your Son and Bride

Let’s get started by looking at parts of the content of that example briefly so we can steer ‘’the ship to safe waters. ‘’

Here you go:

‘’ In a flash, our bundle of blessings grew up into a very lively and kind child who really loved being with his big sisters and looked out for them because he was such a thorn in the flesh of boys who picked on his sisters.

Once, I got a call at work from his mother frantically saying that he had been in the yard swinging his driver and his younger sister Amy…‘’

It’s fairly easy to write the body of the speech. But what I have observed is that most fathers really struggle when it comes to distilling years of memories into a very short story and often end up writing stuff that shouldn’t have been said at all in the first place.

To make this aspect of the writing process a breeze, there are a couple of ideas you can employ to get it right.

First, you have to decide what speech style and tone you want to dwell on. So, please write down the effect you want your speech to achieve. Do you want to sound funny, sentimental or mushy, a narrative, rhythmic or even poetic?

I must emphasize that it is possible to combine two or more speech styles if you are truly gifted with words.

Second, you also have to decide on a story line. Starting from when your son first came into your life, please do a little brainstorming and come up with stories you think can help you put your step father of the groom speech toast together in a chronological order.

Questions like these can prove useful:

What was he like when he was a very little boy?

What was he like when he was growing up?

What behavior did he exhibit when he got to his teens? Please comment about his good side and never bring up the bad ones unless it has a funny twist to it or it ultimately helped him learn a valuable lesson that made him a much better person

You can also write about his accomplishments in school and beyond if has some connection with who he is and what he brings to the marriage.

You can mention how you felt when he introduced his bride to you.

Talk about the bride and say sincerely why you think she’s going to be an amazing wife and mom

Third, create an outline or structure for your father of the groom speech toast so you can figure out the most essential parts of your story outline or wedding speech. For example, you can use the structure below to simply fill in the gaps and put your thoughts together.

Intro of your speech---fill in with the details we saw earlier about writing a great introduction

Body of your speech---fill in with ideas above

Conclusion of your father of the groom speech---we are going to discuss that in the final chapter of this post. So, stay tuned.

Fourth, you can start writing by picking a story or two from the ideas you have developed above and just create a sketch for what you want to say about your son and new daughter-in-law.

Fifth, just put anything that comes to mind down on paper and keep editing it until you are completely happy with your final script.

Slowly but surely, we are getting to the final chapter of this post and I want us to quickly look at…

How To End Your Wedding Toast For Your Son With A Bang!

Again, let us cull a few lines from the template we are studying so we can dissect it and write a great conclusion that will make your speech one to remember.

Here you go, my friend!

‘’ Andrew and Amanda, I really love the fact you both shared values and interests (like your commitment to family traditions) because couples with shared values often flourish beautifully.

Nevertheless, you still have to be there for each other in good times and the bad ‘’

If you ask me which component of any speech is likely to stick in the minds of the listeners for a very long time, I would tell you that a well written conclusion can make all the difference if you want your voice to echo through the sands of time.

I often get feedback from my clients telling me how enthused people were with their wedding toasts that they asked for copies of it. That often compels me to re-look at it and it always amazes me to know that their closing remarks were very well thought out.

You might not have what it takes to do that. So this morning I am going to share with you some helpful pointers and easy-to-follow tips and advice for finishing your father of the groom speech on a very memorable note.

First, share your own experience if you are married. That always works if you have been married for a very long time.

Second, if you are a deeply religious person or a bible-believing Christian, you can simply come up with a faith based message or advice.

Verses from the bible or from sermons you have heard can help you add a touch of spirituality if the audience is mostly church people.

Here’s one great piece of advice I got from the website: What Christians Want to Know

A Covenant Not A Contract

A contract is written to say, “if you will do this, I will do that.” Or, “if you don’t do this, then the consequences are …” In a contract what you do is dependent on the other person. However, a covenant is a promise: a one-sided promise that says you will do (or refrain from doing) certain things because you choose to do so. In marriage the covenant is made because of love. It is a promise from you to your spouse regardless of what they do or how they act.

Your marriage is a covenant with them. It completely depends on your decisions. Marriage is not a contract that is dependent on the actions of the other person.

Marriage is Never 50-50

Along the lines of your marriage not being a contract you should not see your responsibility as 50% of the responsibility. Or, another way to put it is saying that he is responsible for 50% of the marriage and she the other 50%. Doing so causes you to base your response on the actions of another—just like a contract. Each of you should feel like 100% of the success of the marriage rests on your own shoulders.

Third, if you have a good singing voice, just croon it to the beat of a well-known song and the guests will love every bit of it.

For example, you may use John Legend’s ‘’Stay With You’’ to accomplish his notable goal.

Lyrics

We've been together for a while now
We're growing stronger everyday now
It feels so good and there is no doubt
I will stay with you as each morning brings sunrise

And the flowers bloom in springtime
On my love you can rely
And I'll stay with you

Oh I will stay with you through the ups and the downs
Oh I will stay with you when no one else is around
And when the dark clouds arrive
I will stay by your side
I know we'll be alright
I will stay with you
Ooooh, ooooh

Though relationships can get old
They have the tendency to grow cold
We have something like a miracle
Yeah, and I'll stay with you

Oh I will stay with you through the ups and the downs
Yes I will stay with you when no one else is around

And when the dark clouds arrive
I will stay by your side
And I know we'll be alright
I will stay with you

Now, what if we change parts and pieces of this beautiful song and render it like this:

Now you start life together

It feels so good and there’s no doubt

The years ahead seems so bright

You promised to stay by each other’s side

But relationships can get old

They have the tendency to grow cold

But when you stay with each other through the ups and downs, I know you will be alright!

Wouldn’t your family and friends loved every bit of that remix? Just think about it.

Fourth, you can end with a witty poem about marriage.

P.S: Most dads do this...Have you considered it? Want to write and give a great wedding speech like the one above but can't seem to get started because you don't know the exact words to use?

Or not too sure if what you intend writing will be well received by the guests?

Let's help you make your son, wife, and family proud, and let the wedding guests say great things about your speech.

Here’s what one nervous and skeptical dad called Glen sent over after the wedding was over

Hey Dan, I just wanted to thank you once again for the speech you wrote with me. My goal was met afterward, I was told by many "what a beautiful speech" and received a standing ovation. I couldn't have done this without you. God Bless Dan!- Glen, U.S.A

Want to know how he did just that? He got on board our wedding speech program and one of our talented speech consultants helped him out.

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This is letter a dad sent to us after we helped him deliver his speech(Please click on it to enlarge if you can't see it)

Ok, Is This Offer For Me?

Yes, if you are expecting nothing less than a very special, beautiful, unique and memorable speech.

Yes, if you are overwhelmed by the pressures of work and don’t have the time to put together a very meaningful speech, so you can have peace of mind

Yes, if you want your family, children, friends, and wedding guests to shower you with very sincere compliments…just imagine how you will feel

Yes, if you are not good with words and you feel you’re not a natural writer and you are struggling to find the right words but still want to give a great speech.

Yes, you get so scared anytime you’re asked to say something before an audience and you really want to save yourself from any form of embarrassment on your son’s big day.

Yes, if you are not too eloquent or not too sure if you are on the right track.

Yes, if you absolutely hate speaking in public or feel this is not your thing but you want to make your son feel very proud

Yes, if you have a day or less to the wedding and you are worried that you might make some horrible mistakes

Yes, if you are a good speaker but you still want someone to look over or review what you've come up with!

Wedding not too far away? Or happening in less than 24 hours? Trust me, we can deliver! it doesn’t matter if your speech is today, tomorrow, next week, next month ,next year,... we can make things work for you

Just imagine leaving your entire presentation in the hands of skilled wedding speech consultants who will take away your pain of spending hours thinking hard and long about what to say and what not to say.

Also, envision being patiently guided to say something that will leave a favorable impression on the mind of your listeners.

And also imagine the thrill and feeling of excitement and pride you’re going to experience when the audience leap onto their feet and scream and shouts and even sing your praises.

Won’t you love that? I hope you do...

Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?

You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.

Why? As you know, the current health crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.

Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.

Yet, some sons are still getting married and asking their fathers to give speeches.

Nonetheless, not every father could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.

So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.

Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.

So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.

Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your son and daughter-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.

So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.

This is another letter a dad sent to us after we helped him deliver his speech(Please click on it to enlarge if you can't see it)

Oh Ok, How Then Do I Get Started Since I Want To Get On Board Right Away?

Ok, here’s how it works

All you have to do RIGHT NOW is to click on this link to receive an easy-to-fill-in questionnaire via email. Check your email a few hours after you’ve submitted your request for your questionnaire.

So,

1)CLICK HERE NOW TO GET STARTED NOW TO GET YOUR GREAT SPEECH NOW BY FILLING OUT THIS QUESTIONNAIRE---you only pay after your beautiful speech has been delivered. So, you can have peace of mind!

After that, we will send you a very short questionnaire to fill out via email! You only have to check your email a few hours after you have made your request.

Then, you fill out the questionnaire sent through your email and please have it sent back to us…

We will confirm receipt of it…If something is not too clear, we will ask you to clarify….
If not, we will send you a wonderful draft in a couple of hours if this on very short notice….If not, after a few days
Then, you look it over and tell us if you are okay with it or you want to amend or revise it till you are happy with it--although we always get it right even with the first draft
Then, we ask you to pay for it

Please note: The information collected through the questionnaire is only for the purpose of writing your speech. I wouldn’t even need it if I could read your mind. So, your information is very confidential and no one will know about it.

Just a reminder of what you pay after it’s duly completed.