Brother or Sister Of The Groom Speech: How To Easily Write A Heartfelt Wedding Toast For Your Brother
Want to write the best ever brother or sister of the groom's speech toast for your brother? But can’t seem to get started?
Don’t worry because I am going to share with you proven tips, ideas, and examples to help you write the best speech or toast for your brother if you are the brother or sister of the groom.
First, a few things you have to know before we start.
I am sure you could hardly believe it when your younger or elder brother went down on one knee and came back up, with a freshly anointed fiancée.
If your first thought wasn’t joking, “I pity that poor, poor soul for saying yes”, you’ve had quite an unconventional (and civil) relationship with your sibling.
If you fall into the other category, we completely get you (speaking from personal experience).
And now, after years of fights, verbal showdowns, kicking, scratching, biting, practical pranks, tattling, shouts of “MOOOOOOM!”, general destruction to the house, rivalry, muddy sports sessions, broken bones, etc, the big day is finally here.
Your chief tormentor (aka your brother) is finally tying the knot! What a blessing it is to know that he has found the woman of her dreams.
If you are the older or younger sister of the groom, the sandwiched sibling, or the eldest sister or brother of the groom in the family, all three types automatically come with an advantage.
You have known your brother the longest, even more than his friends and you know every single detail about him.
So, if you have been entrusted with the responsibility of making a short speech at his wedding, make the most of this, because I can tell you that the payback is going to be sweet if you write a great brother or sister of the groom speech!
Granted, writing one is not an easy walk in the park. Most siblings don’t attach much importance to it and come out feeling humiliated that they didn’t do their brothers proud. Others simply wing it because they feel they can come up with a quick story about their brother in no time at all.
Whatever the case is, you don’t have to leave this honorable task to chance. Before you even jot down your ideas, there are a few processes you have to go through to get the right ideas.
If you do, your speech will be a hit even if you suck at public speaking or are not good with words.
The first process involves letting go of your past mistakes. You will naturally feel nervous when you envision what to say at your brother’s wedding and you will feel more intimidated if you imagine how the wedding guests, your family, and friends will receive your toast.
Well, if you are a shy or timid person or you goofed terribly when you were asked to give a speech at a wedding or birthday party, your mind will bring up dark memories of when you failed to impress your listeners.
If you dwell on that mental image for too long, fear will take a chokehold on you and you will have this crippling anxiety that you are going to fail this time around.
But you can make a difference this time around by believing in yourself no matter how you are feeling because a strong performance can become very evident if you shove aside your past errors and focus on the speech right ahead of you.
As you keep meditating on the expected results of your actions, you will be empowered from within to give your brother or sister of the groom speech at his wedding or rehearsal dinner.
The next step involves getting an idea of how wedding speeches are made. Guess what? Video speech examples can help you figure out what to say at your brother’s wedding and how best to say it.
Nonetheless, most siblings don’t seek out help there. The few who don’t actually know how to harvest the right ideas on that platform because they use them for entertainment purposes other than its educational value.
So, this is what I want to do now. Grab a pen and journal and write down ideas you think can help you to write your brother or sister of the groom wedding speech as you watch both videos.
Please note: Since this piece is geared for both the brother and sister of the groom, I am going to show you two video clips I got.
Don’t try skipping any of them because you never know which one might be helpful in the long run. Here you go: Please enjoy and learn a thing or two from each clip.
Brother of the groom speech video # 1
Sister of the groom speech video #2
If you like burying your head in a book, then I recommend that you study this short example carefully and see if there’s anything you can pick up from it.
Please note: A brother of the groom's speech sample comes after this one. But you are advised to read both since they are both tailored towards a male sibling and you can find useful ideas from both samples. So, you are reminded to read both.
Sister of The Groom Speech Toast Example
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Shelly and I am Dan’s only sister.
It gives me great joy to see the smiling faces of so many friends and family who have come from far and near to share in our joy and happiness.
I would like to use this moment to thank you all for coming. I must say standing here to tell everyone who Dan is to me is such a tremendous honor and privilege.
He gave a sweet toast at my wedding 10 years ago and I have thought of giving a speech at his wedding too for a very long time.
So, when he asked me to give a speech, it was a dream come true and I saw it more as the perfect moment to tell everyone here with us tonight who much I cherish and adore my brother.
Let me begin by saying that one of life’s most beautiful blessings is when you have an angel who holds you tight in good and bad times.
An angel you can look up to for unconditional love and support when you feel down and out.
Prior to this beautiful day, I began to recall all the great moments of our everlasting bond of friendship and how much Dan has impacted my life greatly and I am proud to say that he is been my guardian angel all these years.
My parents used to tell me how happy he was when they brought me for the very first and he was so happy to have a new sister that he, unfortunately, hit his leg against the baby crib when he first saw me.
It didn’t end there. I was told that he got out of bed very early one morning to pick me up and almost let me fall down the stairs.
Growing up, I realized all those stories were true as I found out how much he loved and cared for me.
There are also happy memories of Dan helping me with work around the house, helping me with my homework, and teaching me how to drive in his old car that looked like a tired horse.
But I loved it so much when he surprised me with gifts and on special days, making me feel special and truly loved.
When I got to his teens, he kept an eye on me like a private detective and he was sometimes a real pain in the ass! Now that I have grown older, I know that he did that out of love.
Once, he saw me talking to a boy and smelling something fish, he chased him down the hallway and banged his head against a wall.
He picked him up off the floor and furiously warned him not to set foot there again.
Looking back, I must say he’s been my whole life’s brightest star who guided me every step of the way, loved me deeply, and protected me like a guardian angel.
Dan, through the good times and bad, you have stood by us and I remember how our hearts sank so low when our dad passed on and that made me feel like my tears were not going to dry anytime soon.
But, you stepped up to the plate and became my cheerleader and you really inspired me to work hard to achieve my goals and dreams.
Because of your abiding love, counsel, support, and kindness, I live more deeply and richly in those trying moments.
Your kindness and love are so inspiring and it comes as no surprise that you are so much admired and respected by everyone you come into contact with me.
Today, I feel so happy for you as you have crossed the oceans of time to find the one you truly love and cherish.
And I know for sure you’re your life will become more beautiful because sharing your life with someone you truly love with your whole heart gives real meaning to life.
You have loved me deeply and I know without a doubt that you will love Shelly even more.
Margaret, I am so excited to have you as my only sister and I know my brother will treat you with love and respect!
Dan and Margaret, I have been married for a decade and I know that there would be rough patches along the way. But let your love be the fuel that will light your path in your darkest moments.
So please treat each other with lots of love and kindness and always forgive as much as you so the flame of your love’s passion burn bright forever!
God bless you.
By the way, here’s a humorous example that was written by an older brother that can also inspire you to come up with one. Thanks to this website www. hitched.co.uk for letting us re-post it here.
We are going to break this one down after reading through it so you can get a perfect idea of what went into it.
Again, the lessons gleaned here can help you say whatever you have in mind even if you are not the brother of the groom.
Brother of The Groom Speech Toast Example
Good evening ladies and gentlemen.
My name is Andrew and I’m Jake’s older brother and best man. I’d first like to start off by saying thank you to Ed and Jolene Hardy for helping make this wedding possible.
I’d also like to thank all of you for coming tonight. Especially those of you that knew I’d be saying a few words. It’s touching that you still decided to come.
Jake and I have been brothers now for a little over 22 years. In the course of 22 years, you really get to know someone well. I’ve seen Jake go from an annoying little kid to the slightly less annoying guy you see today.
One of my earliest memories of Jake was him telling jokes that made absolutely no sense. Those of you who knew him as a kid may understand what I’m saying.
Those of you who don’t, let me give you a taste of one of his best jokes. “Why did the chicken cross the road? Because Indians don’t like ice cream.” FYI, Jake’s jokes today aren’t much funnier.
I was even there when Jake discovered his first armpit hair on our trip to Michigan. David and Steve, I know you guys are out there somewhere. Remember this eventful memory? And so as not to forget it, Jake even circled it with a permanent marker and I found out on my trip to Steve’s house this year, we still have the pictures to prove it.
I don’t think that being born into the same family makes people brothers; it may make them siblings, but brotherhood is something that you have to work at.
One of the greatest joys in my life has been watching my brothers grow up and after years of fighting, finally becoming friends. As I was thinking about what I wanted to say tonight, I started thinking about brothers.
What is a brother? Brothers have a keen understanding as to who each other is. Gained by years of experience, seeing each other at our highs and at our lows. Brothers share inside jokes.
Brothers remember staying up late with dad and then rushing to bed when mom comes home. Brothers understand that what mom doesn’t know won’t hurt her and that nobody likes a tattletale.
Brothers understand that farting at the dinner table will earn you dish duty but then if you make it silent you can blame it on someone else. Though if you blame it on mom, that will definitely earn you dish duty. Brothers share childhood memories and grown-up dreams.
As we are here tonight, commemorating Jake moving on to the next stage of his life, I want to let you know that I am proud of you and the guy you’ve become. You are one of the best guys that I know and one of the clearest ways that you’ve shown your character is in the woman you’ve chosen for your wife.
Annie, you look absolutely beautiful tonight. I can think of no one else that I’d rather have to join our family or who would be a better wife to Jake than you. You are generous, selfless, loving, and kind.
So to my brother, my friend, and his new wife, my new sister, let’s raise our glasses to love, laughter, and happily ever after. Now for my final words - I’m starving, let’s eat.
So, the above was a great example of sass combined with sentimentality (which is pretty much the definition of any siblingship).
If you had a good time reading that and it brought a smile to your face, the good news is that we can help you write a speech that has the same effect on your brother’s face!
He may even give you a gruff hug and wipe away a threatening tear at the end of it, who knows?
Before we start seeing what went into this speech, please get out a notebook, a pen, and a basketful of memories, and let’s start at the top.
Part 1: How To Write A Great Introduction For Your Brother or Sister Of The Groom Wedding Speech
A memorable beginning is a perfect way to break the ice. It’s also a great way to get some laughs all around, and an even better way to quell your nerves (if public speaking isn’t your forte).
Before you start, make sure you introduce yourself and thank the necessary folks for putting together the event.
Even though you are the sibling of the groom, it is possible that some people from your sister-in-law’s side may not know who you are.
Once you’re done thanking everyone for the evening (your parents, your sister-in-law parents, siblings, important relatives), you can start with a joke to lighten the mood.
For example, For those of you who don’t know, I am Shelly. Dan was actually my first and last boyfriend. I actually met him 26 years ago when he was…umm…born
Do you see how we threw in the element of suspense ? Don’t you think the wedding guests will laugh when the speaker says: ‘’ he was…umm…born ‘’.
They sure will. Can you find a way to make your opening remarks a little bit different? Don’t worry if you aren’t comfortable with speaking to big crowds or making jokes. All you need to do is speak the truth, and say it from the heart. You can always skip the jokes if it doesn’t work for you.
Now, let us see…
Part 2: How To Write The Content Or Structure Of Your Wedding Speech For Your Brother
This is one of the meatiest parts of the speech.
This is where you elucidate, in great detail, about everything that your brother has done, either by himself or to you.
Here you talk about him as a kid, evidence his mischievous ways, speak about how he has driven you up the wall, his embarrassing moments, the more the merrier!
However, do keep the nature of the event in mind as you write down points for this part.
You don’t have to narrate any incident that could ruin the flow of the special day. Steer clear of exes, controversial topics, or anything debaucherous. All those mentions should definitely NOT be a part of your speech.
Here are some pointers to help you come up with the right ideas for your storyline.
- What was it like growing up with your brother?
- What was your brother like when he was a little boy?
- Can you narrate a few, cute embarrassing moments or incidents?
- What are your favorite childhood memories with him?
- What are your brother’s positive attributes?
- What do you like the most about him?
- What was your brother like as a middle schooler or teenager?
- How is your brother now as an adult?
Since you grew up alongside him, you have access to some of the best instances that have taken place. Write them all down, and then through a process of thorough elimination, choose which ones you would like to narrate on the big day as you can from the extracted example below!
“Jake and I have been brothers now for a little over 22 years. In the course of 22 years, you really get to know someone well. I’ve seen Jake go from an annoying little kid to the slightly less annoying guy you see today.
One of my earliest memories of Jake was him telling jokes that made absolutely no sense …Why did the chicken cross the road? Because Indians don’t like ice cream.” FYI, Jake’s jokes today aren’t much funnier.
I was even there when Jake discovered his first armpit hair on our trip to Michigan. David and Steve, I know you guys are out there somewhere…”
Part 3: Talk About The Benefits Of Having A Brother
This is the stuff that you have always kept close to yourself, and thoughts that you would never, ever admit to your brother.
However, since it’s his wedding day, it’s a day you can afford to be nice to him.
Talk about how your brother has changed you, how he is helped you, the difference he is made to your life, how he is a positive influence in your life, what you admire about him, and any other aspect that you would like to tell him.
Part 4: What To Say About Your New Sister-In-Law
No sibling speech is complete without a mention of their sister-in-law.
Your brother isn’t just getting married, you are also gaining a new sister-in-law, someone that your brother can’t wait to spend the rest of his life with.
Naturally, your speech will also have to include a mention for them. Siblings can approach this in two ways - if you have known your brother’s fiancée for a long time and are very comfortable with them, you can address them exactly like how you would address your sibling.
If you haven’t known them for too long, you won’t go wrong with a sweet yet formal paragraph that welcomes them into your family.
But either way, give them a shout out because they are going to be a permanent fixture in your life from now on!
You may take cues from this extracted sample.
“Annie, you look absolutely beautiful tonight. I can think of no one else that I’d rather have to join our family or who would be a better wife to Jake than you. You are generous, selfless, loving, and kind.”
Part 5: Here Is How To End Your Speech With A Bang
The ending is as important, if not more, than the introduction. These are the words that your brother, your new sister- in-you’re your sister-in-law’s parents, your family members, and so on, are going to remember for a long time to come.
So if you don’t want to do a typical toast, you can always experiment and change it up as per your preferences.
If you hail from a musical family, rope in your mom, dad, another sibling if you have one, and break into a song. Nothing like a musical number to get the smiles growing wider and the feet tapping!
If music isn’t your thing, you can share some marriage advice if you are married. Well, you can still say something if you are not married. How so? By using love quotes from movies and many other places.
Below are some touching quotes you may use.
- “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.” ~ Moulin Rouge
- “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” ~ When Harry Met Sally
- “To me, you are perfect” ~ Love Actually
- “I vow to fiercely love you in all your forms, now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love.” ~ The Vow
- “They say when you meet the love of your life, time stops, and that’s true.” ~ Big Fish
Try to stay away from typical, run-off-the-mill sexist jokes, recite a poem, or even read a passage from your favorite book.
If you or your brother is a deeply religious person or a Christian, then, you can write a faith-based conclusion with your preferred bible verse or with one of these scriptures.
Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Ephesians 5:22-26 (NIV) 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word
Ephesians 5:25-34 (NIV) 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church- 30 for we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32 This is a profound mystery but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
However, if you are truly a thrillseeker, you can also end with a joke (just like how you started with one). If you can pull that off, rest assured that your speech will be the highlight of that evening.
“So to my brother, my friend and his new wife, my new sister, let’s raise our glasses to love, laughter, and happily ever after. Now for my final words - I’m starving, let’s eat.”
P.S: Most siblings do this...Have you considered it? Want to write and give a great wedding speech like the ones above but can't seem to get started because you don't know the exact words to use?
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Yet, some couples are still getting married and asking their siblings to give speeches.
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Why? As you know, the current health crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, some couples are still getting married and asking their siblings to give speeches.
Nonetheless, not everyone could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your brother’s big day is in the future.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your brother and sister -in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
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