Brother Or Sister Of The Bride Wedding Speech: How To Comfortably Write A Funny and Heartfelt Wedding Toast For Your Sister
- Looking to write the best ever wedding speech or toast for your sister on her wedding day?
- Tongue-tied and wondering how to write a funny and heartfelt sister of the bride wedding speech toast?
Kiss your worries goodbye because I am going to show how to write a great brother or sister of the bride wedding speech that will make your big or small sister so proud of you.
It is funny how time flies by so quickly. It seems like only yesterday that you’ve pulled her hair, yanked her clothes, fought with her when she’s hogged the washroom, thwacked her on the head with pillows, stolen her clothes, made her cry to your parents on multiple occasions, argued with her till the break of dawn, robbed her of her secret chocolate stash, teased her with her high school crushes till she was red in the face.
All of this is literally just the tip of your’’ sibling-ship’’ iceberg. Now, your “snotty older sister” or “bratty younger sis” is all grown up and getting ready to marry the love of her life (or a hapless soul, as you’d call it) - however, all said and done, you know you’re incredibly thrilled for her deep, deep down.
As her younger or older brother or sister, you also have the distinction of delivering a funny and heartfelt wedding toast speech that your big or little sister really deserves.
A well-written sibling speech is also a great way to take the mickey out of your sister (in a nice way, of course) and you can have a LOT of fun writing it.
We are going to have a lot of fun as we look closely at how to write an amazing wedding speech for your sister.
Please Take Note Of This Before You Speak
But before we do, let’s look at a few things that stand in the way of most siblings when they try to put together their scrambled thoughts and ideas.
If you have ever given a wedding speech or any kind of speech, you will agree with me that pulling one-off successfully is not a walk in the park.
If you have ever goofed sometime in the past when you were asked to give a few remarks before a group of people, then you can be sure that memories of that unfortunate experience will cause you to lose your momentum and focus and you might even wonder if you are going to really make a difference at your sister’s wedding.
You don’t have to lose heart because you can turn the tide and make your sister proud with your words even if you have a poor track record of speaking in public.
This is how to make things work for you.
As you know, our minds control our lives and influence how we act in any given situation. So, you would do yourself a lot of good if you let go off the past and focus on this new task and believe down in your heart that you are going to leave everyone speechless.
You don’t have to doubt yourself bbecause you are created in the strikingly beautiful image of God and nothing can stop you!
The next thing you have to do is to get good ideas or content for your toast. There are two sources you can inspire you to come up with the right ideas.
Video speech examples on youtube are a goldmine of content that can help you come up with ideas for writing the best speech ever for your sister at her wedding reception or even at the rehearsal dinner night.
So, grab your pen and journal and put down thoughts that come to you as you watch these video clips.
Since this post is tailored for both the brother and sister of the bride, I will urge you to watch both video clips since they contain several nuggets of insights.
Sister of the bride speech video example
Brother of the bride speech video example
I hope you enjoyed watching both videos and learned a thing or two from those speech clips.
Now, let’s look at two short written examples that can help you piece your thoughts together. Again, I am going to share two examples with you and we will then break the second example down bit by bit so you can figure out how it was drafted.
Before we get into the process of constructing your speech, here’s a sample toast that is the perfect blend of sweet and sassy: Please note: you can read both or scroll down this page if you are the bride’s sister) I'd like to thank hitched.co.uk for this example.
Brother of The Bride Wedding Speech Example/Sample
Ladies and gentlemen, unfortunately, it is time for a select few of us to arise from our chairs and entertain you with witty banter and stories reflecting on the bride and groom. So whilst I am sure the remaining speakers are desperate to get up and give their respective speeches you will have to bear with me as I am first to step up to the plate.
As this is my first wedding let alone the first wedding speech I was given very specific instructions from those in greater authority as to what I am allowed to say. As such I did what any self-respecting human being would do… try to write my own speech… fail miserably then steal one from the internet. So welcome to Kim and Trevor's wedding.
For those who do not know me, I'm Graham, Pam's little brother and I've been given the great honour of giving my beautiful sister away to Scott. At this moment in time I am full of admiration and pride for the commitment they have both made today and one day hope to follow in the example they have set. Although when I get married I'll do it for one of the real reasons… pregnancy, for money.… or with a gun to my head.
Firstly I wish to convey my heartfelt thanks to everyone in attendance today particularly those who have travelled some distance to be with us on Pam and Scotts special day I know I speak for my entire family when I say thank you. Sadly there are those who cannot be with us on such a special day particularly Scott's parents who I know would have been the proudest people among us today witnessing their son marry my sister who makes him so happy. As such I would like everyone to raise a glass to our absent friends.
Today has been an absolutely fantastic day and all the credit in the world goes to the happy couple for putting in so much hard work into making today a success. I would also like to thank the photographer, the humanist minister, all of the musicians involved, the drivers and all the staff here at Rufflets who have made the day a success, especially the bar staff who I will personally ensure remain busy for the majority of the evening.
Pam and I have always shared a close relationship. I can think back and remember some of the great memories we've shared. From the times she used to tie me to the bed with dressing gown ropes and leave me for hours or the times where she would cake me in make up and make me wander round the house in women's clothing… and look as us now! Gathered here in a room full of our closest friends and family…
One of us holding a microphone and having spoken to all of her friends… unknowingly discussing everything she's ever drunkenly done. *smile wickedly*. But I still love her. She's my gorgeous big sister who I hold in such high regard and every day I try to be a little bit more like her. I wish I could match her ambition and her commitment to everything she has achieved; from graduating, getting back her health and of course today.
I believe Oscar Wilde said “we are all lying in the gutter… but some of us are looking at the stars” and I hope you will continue to reach for the reach for not only the stars… but another Bacardi.
To Scott. Where do I begin? I am delighted Pam has picked you to be the one she spends her life with. From the first time I met you I believed you would be a special person in Pam's life. You're kind, funny, tall, good looking, have all 10 fingers, charming and well mannered.
Yet in spite of all these facts you still claim to be an Aberdeen fan. I am proud to welcome you into our family and I couldn't be happier to be able to call you my brother, truth be told if I could have chosen anyone to be my sisters spouse I would've chosen you. And that's not just because I can claim all your old clothes and borrow your awesome CD collection.
So ladies and gentlemen I would like you all to raise a glass to toast the happy couple. Two of the finest people in all of our lives. Let's hope they have a long and happy marriage and may one day be blessed with a family of their own. Cheers.
Sister Of The Bride Wedding Speech Sample/Example
Good evening! For those of you who don’t know me, I am Katie, the very proud little sister of our glamorous bride. I want to start by congratulating the bride and groom and thanking all of you for making the journey here today.
When Margaret first asked me to be her bridesmaid I felt very delighted, but as the big day approached I was informed that I would be doing a speech. Being the shy one and absolutely hate talking in front of a group of people, I was trying to think of ways of getting out of it. But have any of you tried saying no to Maggie?
So I started thinking and thinking…and thinking…about what to talk about and the only thing I could think about was how much we fought growing up! I mean, we had to share a room for like 12 years, our mom dressed us in the same clothes every chance she got until we were old enough to say no.
We had to share toys, I always got her hand me downs. I was forced to follow every rule Mom and Dad made because she had to follow them. I always thought I was the cuter one because I had curly hair and she was slightly overweight because she loved her Little Debbie snack cakes!! …Now look at us, it’s almost the opposite! And I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything.
To this day, Maggie is the only person I know that can make me laugh so hard it hurts. And I can honestly say I wouldn’t be half the person I am today if I didn’t have a big sister like her to look up to and I’m proud to call you my big sister.
As for Jonathan, I never knew him before he dated my sister, so I can’t tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister! I’ve heard that girls tend to look for someone like their father, and I think Maggie has done the perfect job.
Jon is very laid back, easy to talk to, and he has a great sense of humor and likes to pick on Maggie. We are very happy to welcome him into our family. We know he’s made for us, and I hope we’re made for him! I’m excited to have another brother, but I hope Jon is mentally, physically…and emotionally prepared to have a new sister.
As I was thinking some more I thought about the words of advice that I’d like to give the newlyweds…
– Jon, don’t ever judge the choices that Maggie makes, because you are one of them.
– Set the ground rules immediately and then do everything Maggie says.
-If Maggie ever asks if she looks fat in something, I recommend falling to the floor in a mock coma.
– Men usually want either food or sex, so learn to cook and keep your pantry stocked if you want to get anything done.
– Two secrets of a long-lasting and happy marriage are a good sense of humour and a short memory.
Separately, you are two special and remarkable people, but together you are complete. As you sit side by side through this roller coaster of life, remember to scream from the peaks, hold hands through the dips, laugh through the loops, and enjoy every twist and turn; For the ride is much better when you share it together.
My greatest wishes for Maggie and Jon are that they have a continued loving friendship and partnership; that they enjoy success and laughter; that they are blessed with children, or not and that they always see and talk with their hearts.
Please raise your glass while I toast my sister and new brother-in-law.
Take each day and cherish your time together. Love one another and stand together. Take time to talk to one another. Put your love and family first, your job and hobbies second. May your love be like the wind—strong enough to move the clouds, soft enough to never hurt, but always never-ending. So here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever after. Cheers!
While that speech was sentimental in all the right places, it also had its fair share of lighthearted moments, which is essentially the foundation of a typical sibling speech for your sister.
However, since every sibling equation is different from the other, it must be noted that you don’t need to use every bit - you can utilize the parts that particularly apply to your sister and you. Without further ado, let’s get down to deconstructing the above!
You can still apply the lessons you learned even if you are the bride’s brother. So, let’s go on with this.
Step 1: How To Write The Introductory Remarks For Your Wedding Toast For Your Sister
While most of the wedding party members will be known people to you, there is a likelihood that you may not know or recognize some folks from the other partner’s side, for instance.
So it’s always a best practice tip to start off by introducing yourself, stating your relationship to the bride, and continuing in that vein.
A solid introduction also sets the precedent for the rest of the speech - if you’re comfortable with public speaking, you can make your introduction a solid attention-grabber by either launching into a funny anecdote or cracking a good-natured joke about your sister or brother.
If you’re a little more reserved or shy, a straightforward introduction will establish your role in the evening as well as serve as a great way to calm any nerves you might be having.
At all points, the key is to simply do what comes to you, naturally as Katie did below:
“Good evening! For those of you who don’t know me, I am Katie, the very proud little sister of our glamorous bride. I want to start by congratulating the bride and groom and thanking all of you for making the journey here today.
When Margaret first asked me to be her bridesmaid I felt very delighted, but as the big day approached I was informed that I would be doing a speech. Being the shy one and absolutely hate talking in front of a group of people, I was trying to think of ways of getting out of it. But have any of you tried saying no to Maggie?!”
Did you see how the sister of the bride started her speech? Apart from expressing gratitude to the guests, your opening remarks should capture the attention of the wedding guests. There are some proven ways you can kick start your speech.
First, you can open it with love or marriage quotes. Here are actually a few quotes or lines you may use.
- ''Siblings are put on this Earth to love, to entertain, and to annoy each other. It's part of their job requirements.''-Unknown
- Sharing, I mean stealing, each other's things is the best part about having a brother (sister)-Unknown
- "Siblings know your greatest faults, yet still love you and come to your defense." - Sally Painter
- What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life - to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories." - George Eliot
- Children of the same family, the same blood, with the same first associations and habits, have some means of enjoyment in their power, which no subsequent connections can supply. – Jane Austen
Second, you may start by singing a nice tune if you want your speech to be unique and memorable. Here's an example:
Third, you can simply share how you feel about saying something brief remarks about your sister. This can break the ice if you are really nervous. It was captured in the introductory example we saw earlier.
‘’… I was trying to think of ways of getting out of it.’’
Step 2: How To Write The Content Or Outline Of Your Wedding Toast For Your Sister
Since you’ve spent a good chunk of your life growing up with your sister, it’s safe to say that you know her inside out and all the stuff she’s done.
So, this part of the speech will definitely be the biggest section of them all. This is where you recount notable incidents in your lives, the fails, the fun, and all the theatrics you both got up to when you were kids or teenagers or adults.
However, it’s important to exercise ample discretion when picking out these instances - make sure that the events that you choose to share are fine from the event’s standpoint.
For instance, if you’re unsure about narrating a particular incident in front of your family and friend, stay on the safe side and don’t do it. The last thing you want to be doing is dampening the mood of the celebrations.
Here are some kick-starter questions to get you going:
- How was it like when you were growing up with your sister?
If she’s your big sister, you can share her influence on you growing up.
If she’s your younger sister, you can share your impact on her life.
If you are twins, share your impact on each other's life.
- What were your favorite pastimes?
- What did you both usually fight over?
- What are some funny incidents that both your sister and you look back at now and laugh over?
- How is your sister as a person?
- What are her best or positive attributes?
- What do you love about your sister?
- What does having her in your life mean to you?
Answers to the above questions were very helpful when Katie had to construct this short example about her sister.
“So I started thinking and thinking…and thinking…about what to talk about and the only thing I could think about was how much we fought growing up! I mean, we had to share a room for like 12 years…We had to share toys, I always got her hand me downs.
I was forced to follow every rule Mom and Dad made because she had to follow them. I always thought I was the cuter one because I had curly hair and she was slightly overweight because she loved her Little Debbie snack cakes!! …Now look at us, it’s almost the opposite! And I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything……..”
You can do likewise by putting your thoughts and emotions to the questions above and stringing together a wedding speech about your sister even if you don’t have a way with words. You may go back to re-read those templates for inspiration and just try to write a rough draft. Remember, you can always go back to fix it.
Step 3: Don’t Forget To Say Something About Your New Brother-In-Law Too
Once you’re done recounting your sister’s escapades, it’s time to move on to the newest member of your family, your new brother-in-law.
As the sibling of the bride, your speech will also serve as a warm introduction or welcome to them.
Here, you can take an approach that you deem fit, based on your comfort level with them.
Some siblings have known their brother-in-law for years (in case their sister has been in a long term relationship with them prior to tying the knot), so the communication will flow naturally.
If you’ve traveled with your sister and her then-fiancé, now-life partner before, you can reference certain memories or recount particular experiences.
You can also talk about how it was to meet them for the first time and how it is now, having them in your life.
A great way to appreciate them is to compliment them on how happy they make your sister, and how grateful you are for their presence in your lives.
However, if you don’t share a deep connection with them, it’s fine - you can stick to the conventional way of welcoming them into the family. But make sure that your speech includes them; they are going to be your new sibling after all!
“As for Jonathan, I never knew him before he dated my sister, so I can’t tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my sister! I’ve heard that girls tend to look for someone like their father, and I think Maggie has done the perfect job.
Jon is very laid back, easy to talk to, and he has a great sense of humor and likes to pick on Maggie. We are very happy to welcome him into our family. We know he’s made for us, and I hope we’re made for him! I’m excited to have another brother, but I hope Jon is mentally, physically…and emotionally prepared to have a new sister.”
Step 4: How To End Your Wedding Speech For Your Sister
Like the introduction, the ending is equally important. These are your final words to your sister and her new partner, so make them count.
While most parents of the groom or bride's speeches are rife with life advice, it’s not necessary that you have to go down that same road.
Even if you want to give your sister and her new partner some handy hints about marriage and merriment, you can phrase it in a way that’s more casual and colloquial, basically an approach that represents your relationship in a far more fitting way. It helps to send the message across sans the heavy wording as you can see below:
“As I was thinking some more I thought about the words of advice that I’d like to give the newlyweds…
– Jon, don’t ever judge the choices that Maggie makes, because you are one of them.
– Set the ground rules immediately and then do everything Maggie says.
-If Maggie ever asks if she looks fat in something, I recommend falling to the floor in a mock coma.
– Men usually want either food or sex, so learn to cook and keep your pantry stocked if you want to get anything done.
– Two secrets of a long-lasting and happy marriage are a good sense of humor and a short memory.”
Well, you can share some practical pieces of advice if you are already married and the bride will appreciate it so much.
Some religious or Christian siblings too end with bible verses or simply make their speeches faith-based. If you want to follow that, you can use any of these bible quotes:
Psalm 128 1
Blessed are all who fear the LORD, who walk in his ways. You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your sons will be like olive shoots around your table. Thus is the man blessed who fears the LORD.
James 1:17
17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.
No one is expecting you to whip out the Bible and quote a serious passage, so take the opportunity to get as creative as possible.
If you’re musical, there’s nothing sweeter than singing your sister one of her favorite songs (one that you swore you’d never, ever sing to her).
Or if you’re a talented lyricist, you can even recite a poem you’ve written for her. The possibilities are endless!
“Separately, you are two special and remarkable people, but together you are complete. As you sit side by side through this roller coaster of life, remember to scream from the peaks, hold hands through the dips, laugh through the loops, and enjoy every twist and turn; For the ride is much better when you share it together.”
You can also use a few of these best wishes
- Congratulations on your wedding, sister. I wish you and your husband all the best as you begin your new life. I know that you two will be happy together and prosper together no matter what life throws at you because you both have what it takes to accomplish your dreams.
- Congratulations to a lovely couple. I wish you both every blessing as you start on the road ahead with your new husband. I love you both very much.
- Congratulations to the newlyweds! you two couldn’t be more perfect for one another and I am very confident that you will build an amazing life together”
There you have it, folks - a solid sibling of the bride's speech. Don’t let your imagination be restricted to a few options; do whatever feels right by you and we promise you that your sister will love every second of it!
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