Uncle Of The Bride Or Groom Wedding Speech: Wondering How To Write A Sweet Speech For Your Nephew Or Niece?
These Tips, Ideas, And Examples Can Help You Give A Heartwarming Uncle Of The Bride Or Groom Wedding Speech Easily And Quickly!
Once upon a time, I received an email from a certain man who had a simple request.
Wondering what that was? Jimmy (not his real name) asked:
''Dan, can you help me write a speech for my nephew?''
I mused over that for some hours before agreeing to help him out. Believe it or not, when he filled out a simple speech questionnaire, I wanted to change my mind but I did my best to work on his speech, and his feedback after the wedding came to an end was nothing short of amazing!
Before that request came in, I had never heard uncles give speeches at the bride or groom’s weddings and that came as a big surprise.
Maybe you are in a similar situation like Jimmy and you’re probably wondering how to write a very beautiful and special speech for your nephew or niece.
Don’t worry because I am going to show you how to easily get the good words for the bride or groom and how to string your thoughts together to form a meaningful speech.
Before we do that, let’s look at one crucial factor that prevents most uncles of the bride or groom from achieving goals and how you can take advantage of that to speak with power, poise, and clarity.
Does This Keep You Up At Night?
Let’s jump right in!
First, let me ask you these simple questions:
- Have you ever given a speech your whole life?
- Do you tremble anytime you have to address a small crowd?
- Do you really think you’re cut out for speaking in public?
These questions are not meant to scare the daylights out of you, but this is to remind you that there’s this little voice in our heads that triggers memories of our past failures and successes.
If you goofed big time when you were asked to say something before an audience, then it will tell you that you can’t make it.
That’s a big lie! Guess what? That happens to even experienced speakers and you’re bound to encounter that. Paying heed to it will kind of get you grounded. Here’s what I recommend you do if you feel the nerves.
You see, what you accept as real will ultimately influence your performance.
So, I always encourage a lot of wedding speakers to constantly focus on the bright side of things instead.
Holding a positive mental image no matter how you’re feeling will empower you from within and form the bedrock of your success.
Here's How To Get What I Talked About
Now, let’s see how to get good words. As you are well aware, you just can’t pack and go visit a foreign country as a tourist. Similarly, you just can put your ideas down on paper without some prior preparation.
So, this is what I will recommend you do right now.
First, put yourself in the mood for the clever expression of your ideas. How?
It’s simple. Go right now to any of the video-sharing websites like YouTube.
If you’re an uncle of the groom, then please input the search term: uncle of the groom speech or wedding speech for my nephew
If you’re the bride’s uncle, then your search term should be: uncle of the bride speech or wedding speech for my niece
Well, I want this whole exercise to be fairly easy for you. So, I scour the web and found these great videos.
If you’re the brides’ uncle, please click play to watch this short clip below to get inspired.
If you’re the groom’s uncle, please click play to watch this short clip below for the same reason above.
You can go back to watch whichever you prefer and put down ideas and phrases that made you laugh or moved you to tears and consider carefully if you can use that for your content.
By the way, this is a short written example for you. Let’s look at it and thereafter, we will analyze so you can see my commentary or insights can effortlessly write your speech for nephew or niece.
You Would Love This Short Example!
Here you go:
P.S: This is for a nephew but you can slightly modify it for your niece.
GREETINGS AND SHORT-SELF INTRODUCTION
Hello, good evening and welcome everyone! For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Dan.
I would like to say how happy and grateful we are to have you come and celebrate with both families. It feels like only yesterday, Mark came into our lives and his birth threw our entire family into a joyful celebration.
Now, here he is all grown up and about to start life with Amanda.
Growing up, Mark was a very determined person. I remember back when he was sent to the Middle East for peacekeeping missions, he went through struggles, difficulties, challenges, and several heartbreaking adversities and that was just enough to make him lose hope
But those experiences strengthened his resolve and brought out the best in him when the time was right. When he came back home, we could hardly recognize our son as he had visible scars all over his body and we thought we would never find true love.
I remember his mom saying to me when he was discharged from the hospital. Dan, do you ever think someone other us can love him the way we do. That broke my heart and all through the night, I wept like a little baby.
Though it was quite tough when he got back home, he believed that his future would be so bright!
Thanks to the loving support, care, and encouragement from family and friends, his faith in God, hard work, and determination, he got back on his feet much faster than we thought possible and he began to function as we knew him for.
Two years ago, we celebrated his birthday and after singing for him, he grabbed the microphone and exclaimed: Hello everyone, thank you for putting a smile on my face, but I have a surprise for you all.
I was sitting close to his mom and he held my hands and quizzed: My son loves you just like his dad and tells you the deep secrets of his heart. Do you have a clue? No, I said. But she still didn’t believe me.
Well, Dan asked us to close our eyes and when we opened them, we saw him sitting next to this beautiful lady. Then, he added: Can you thank this precious lady for me everybody? She was my backbone when I went through all that? I am sure God has brought us together for a purpose.
At that moment, his mom and dad broke down in tears of joy, thankful that their son had found the love of their life and I almost fell of my chair. It felt like a dream.
Looking back, I can confidently say we’re so proud of him and thus far he’s come. God’s amazing grace and blessing have brought him thus far. As his uncle, he continually inspires me with his strong work ethic and quiet perseverance.
Mark, Amanda loves you just as we do and we are sure she will stand by you all the days of your life. Your life has become so beautiful ever since she walked into your life.
Amanda, thanks for loving him through thick and thin and I must say you are the best gift of his life and ours as well. He’s our only son and we know you will take good care of him well since you’re a very loving person. You’re honest, god-fearing, loving, caring, a good cook and we are confident that you’ll be a good wife and mom!
Mark and Amanda, choosing to build your lives together is the wisest decision any young people can make.
But as you know, true love becomes a reality after you both have walked through the fires of life and have come out still holding each other’s hand tenderly. So, always love one another no matter what happens. God bless you.
Want to know more about how to come up with something sweet like you just read? Not as hard as you think.
Let’s take each part of that uncle of the groom or bride speech one step at a time.
First, the introduction. Below is a recap.
Hello, good evening and welcome everyone!
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Dan.
I would like to say how happy and grateful we are to have you come and celebrate with both families.
The opening line of any presentation is very crucial. While this is a brilliant job his opening lines didn’t do its work as expected.
Here’s what I think this kind uncle could have done to make it memorable.
Since he’s not the real parent of the groom or bride, he should have at least made us aware of why he’s speaking instead of the parents.
Again, he should have thanked those who came from far and near to grace the occasion.
To excite the wedding guests, he could have begun this way:
When two young people are in love, the whole world seems to center around them. Today, Mark and Sherrie are surrounded by love…..
Don’t you think starting with that statement would rouse the attention of the wedding guests?
Well, you can begin your intro with a story, song, or any other quotes on love but make sure what you go for is always in sync with your theme.
Let’s look at the body at this point. Here are some excerpts so you can follow the story.
Growing up, Mark was a very determined person.
I remember back ……Dan, do you ever think someone other us… Two years ago, we celebrated his birthday and after singing for him, he grabbed the microphone and exclaimed: Hello everyone, thank you for putting a smile on my face…At that moment, his mom and dad broke down in tears of joy, thankful that their son had found the love of their life…
The body is the heart of your storyline and it usually comprises these elements:
- How you or the family felt when your nephew or niece was born
- By bringing back warm memories using anecdotes as we saw in that example
- Then, you express how proud you are of him or her and how happy that he or she has found that special one
- Afterward, you can talk about their choice of spouse and welcome him or her into your family...don't forget to thank the bride or groom’s family for their love and support
Don’t Take This For Granted
Many speakers don’t end well and that breaks my heart. If we go back to our example, we’d find this:
Mark and Amanda, choosing to build your lives together is the wisest decision any young people can make.
But as you know, true love becomes a reality after you both have walked through the fires of life and have come out still holding each other’s hand tenderly.
So, always love one another no matter what happens. God bless you.
I know you might want to know if there’s something wrong with that….far from it but there are other clever ways of making your concluding remarks memorable….How?
- What if you could sing to the beat of a well-known song?
- What if you end with a proverb on love?
As an example, let’s look closely at these proverbs on love….
- There is no cure for love other than marriage." —Irish proverb
- Nothing is impossible for a willing heart." —French proverb
- Love has to be shown by deeds, not words." —Swahili proverb
- "It is love that makes the impossible, possible." —Indian proverb
- Lover's hearts are linked together and always beat as one." —Chinese proverb
- The heart that loves is always young." —Greek proverb
I love examples because they make our lives much easier and I’d like to show you how you can use at least one of those proverbs to conclude your speech
This touched my heart so I am going for it: "It is love that makes the impossible, possible." —Indian proverb
Ready? Ok, let’s get things underway
Mark and Lisa, you gave got the greatest gift in your life and that’s your love. It’s your seed…so cherish and nourish and as the years go by, you will realize that your love for each other will make what you felt was impossible very possible…
Got that? That’s it.