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Dear Worried Wedding Speech giver,
''I am Adams from the United States. This happened to our family prior to my daughter’s wedding and it can happen to you too unless you…
Life isn't always fair-Is it?
Granny once said life was not fair. I found it hard to understand her words until tragedy struck our home. Words cannot adequately describe how I felt as my daughter’s wedding drew near.
Sadly,however,days before her big day, my wife’s brother was involved in a bloody road accident when returning home from work. His cherry-red Toyota Highlander ran into a truck. The vehicle was terribly mangled and three of his co-workers died on the spot.
When news of the disaster reached us, we were simply shocked and we couldn’t apply our minds to the wedding planning.
Our wedding plans grounded to a halt.
I wondered why that dark cloud over our roof at that crucial moment. Our hearts was in our mouth and we didn’t know what to do. We had to attend to him all the time and we lost touch with the wedding planning festivities.
We had wanted to cancel the marriage plans but we couldn’t because many of our guests had written or emailed to confirm that they were coming.
My daughter couldn’t take it . She feared her kind uncle might not been able to make it. Added to this was the fact everything had come to a halt.Sometimes, she did sob like a worried child on my wife’s shoulders but I kept reassuring her that all shall be well.
In less than two weeks to go, the doctor carried out a surgery on his right thigh. It took twelve hours for the doctors to correct a dislocated bone.
Despite the odds prevailing against us, we put our acts together to ensure nothing was left to chance. The wedding preparations resumed albeit on a rather low note.
An unusual miracle!
One sunny afternoon, something unusual occurred was awakened by the persistent cries of the home phone and so I quickly grabbed the receiver.
‘Is this Adam?’, the caller asked.
’Of course’,I countered.
‘’Michael is doing so well and we have agreed to discharged Monday afternoon.’’,she said reassuringly.
I broke the ‘’sweet’’ news of his recovery to the family and everyone was in joy. My wife knelt and raised both arms the way Holy fathers pray in a monastery. I broke down in tears of joy and tears dripped down my daughter’s soft cheeks.
It was unbelievable when we picked him up from the hospital. He didn’t suffer any bone damage.He wasn’t even hobbling.
He was the Mike we always knew! I never believed in miracles till that day I saw him walk out of the hospital with my naked eyes! Seeing the extent of damage of his auto, I thought he did come out paralyzed.
My wife came to my rescue
His remarkable recovery lifted our spirits and we worked around the clock to ensure things were properly fixed for our daughter's marriage. With less than three days to our daughter’s wedding, my wife asked, ‘’Honey, how can we make the day memorable?’’
Frankly, I couldn’t think of a neat idea. Hours later, she suggested a wedding speech. My face fell at her suggestion because I once embarrassed myself when asked to give a short speech at a family party.
‘’Emily, we better give her childhood scrapbook’’, I countered
‘’That’s OK for her but how about the guests? I read from somewhere that the giving of wedding speeches linger on their minds more than anything else. Please forget about your past public speaking failures and give it a try.’’ , She admonished
‘’OK my dear'', i replied
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I shared the story of my brother –in-law’s incredible recovery and the challenges that ensued. Mike, my brother-in-law, my wife and daughter and some guests had moist eyes. As I blurted on, they couldn’t fight back their tears any longer.
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Need ideas and tips to help you write a good eulogy for your husband and father of your children? If so, just bear with me for just a little while and I will share with you everything you need to know about writing the best eulogy ever for your dead husband.
Losing a very loving husband is one of the most painful moments in every woman’s life.
As a professional eulogy speech writer, I have helped several grieving wives put together very eloquent funeral tributes for the love of their lives and I know how hard it can be to put something meaningful together through the heartbreak and tears.
I want to help make this writing task simple and easy for you. Before we get into the details, I would like to use this opportunity to express my deepest sympathy on the loss of the love of your life.
When I imagine how far you both have come down the road, I come to the conclusion that life is just so unfair.
It seems like only yesterday you met him for the first time and you clicked right off the bat. You both were inseparable and decided to tie the knot because you were a perfect match.
Everything took off as planned after your wedding and you were blessed with wonderful kids who have grown into wonderful adults.
You loved each other to death and even after a few squabbles and fights; you still made up for your differences because you were determined to love each other until the end of time.
Sadly, death has severed the bonds of your love cruelly. And I am wondering how you are going to face this world alone without him in it?
But, one thing is certain. It’s the fact that love is stronger than death which is why your husband’s memories will be in your heart forever.
May you find comfort in the memories you made together. Well, if you are hurting and nothing seems to make sense to you, just click on this link and I will get back to you with some comforting words.
Again, you can read this poem aloud over and over again and you will feel much better.
You're gone, and all that's left is nothing but memories, Memories that lead me to silence and tears. I miss your arms that hold me tight, Your snore that fills our room at night.
You're gone, and I can no longer stare at you as you sleep, But thank God he lets me see you as I weep. In dreams we talk and laugh together. There I can say I love you more than ever.
You're gone, and I feel so weary when I'm alone. Wish you were here and would come back home. I'm hurting and longing for your touch. Why does parting have to hurt this much?
You're gone forever, and we are now apart. I'm filled with pain that breaks my heart. You used to playfully sneak behind the door. Those lovely eyes I see no more.
You're gone, and I terribly miss your voice, Your laughter that fills the house with noise. Your absence makes me feel so blue. My life is empty without you.
You're gone, but I know I shouldn't be so awful, For you left me a treasure to cherish and to nurture. Our precious little angel; she's all that I've got, A constant reminder that once I had your love.
How To Write A Eulogy For Your Husband
Here’s a mistake I see most grieving wives and moms make when they have to string their ideas together. They simply read through a few examples and templates and modify them to suit their writing needs.
I get it because it can be very overwhelming to compose your thoughts when you are mourning the loss of someone who meant the world to you. This is what I recommend you do to make the writing process quick and painless.
Everything hinges on having a solid writing plan. So, you need to put one on paper and stick to it.
Here’s a simple plan I recommend you follow.
Let’s first take a snapshot of it before we delve deep into them.
Figure out the kind of eulogy tribute you wish to make
Decide on the length of your tribute for your husband
Look for memories and stories to help you write your funeral speech
Now, let’s delve deeper into each point. Let’s start with the first:
Figure Out What Kind Of Eulogy You Wish To Make
You will be swayed in many different directions if you have no idea of what you want to accomplish with your speech. So, sit back and write down answers to the following questions:
Do you wish to write a touching or inspiring eulogy for your dead husband?
What do you wish to write about? Do you want to tell a story about how you met until he departed for eternity?
Do you want to showcase her impact on your life, her family, children, friends and everyone she ever met?
Would you like to do a funny eulogy for your husband? If he was fun to be around, then you might want to consider making it humorous.
Do you want to do a little bit of both? By this, I mean a mix of sentiments, her personal attributes, and his legacy?
I have this simple question: What do you have in mind? Please grab a pen and notepad or sheet of paper and write it down because it will determine how your story line goes.
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Decide On The Length Of Your Tribute For Your Husband
How long or short do you want your tribute for your husband to last? A few minutes? I have seen eulogies last anywhere from 2 minutes to 15 minutes.
A recent one I wrote was under 2 minutes even though the couple had been married for half a century.
Should you also settle for something brief? Yes and no to that because in certain situations, external factors may determine the overall length of your tribute.
I know you love your man and want to properly honor him with a very wonderful tribute that encapsulates who he was, who he was you and your family, culminating in something long.
Before you settle on anything, please speak to his family first or consult the program outline about its length.
All things considered, just follow the promptings of your heart if there are no time constraints. But, make sure you don’t end up writing a very long lamentation or something that doesn’t properly honor the memory of your beloved husband.
Let’s look at this next:
Look For Memories And Stories To Help You Write Your Funeral Speech
I once heard a wise man say that just about anyone can turn a boring talk into something interesting if there’s a story in there. I think he’s right because our lives are made up of a series of interconnected stories.
Regrettably, when we are mourning a loved one, our minds doesn’t seem to work well and it becomes a little hard to recall those memorable narratives.
If you are struggling to recollect those special moments, this simple pre-writing exercise can bring back memories of the good old times.
Here they are:
Flip through your photo album and write down the memories that come to your mind. Then, select the stories you wish to add to your husband’s eulogy.
If he (or you) loved to keep journals about your relationship and marriage, scroll through the pages and jot down stories that jump out at you.
Go find letters, messages, cards, and other gifts he sent to you on your birthday, anniversaries, and on very important dates and go through them.
For example, if your husband once wrote you a letter that he will love you until the end of time, you may end your speech with that.
Here’s an example:
I am going to miss Mark every day of my life. He promised to love me until the end of time. Time hasn’t ended but it feels like it has come to a screeching halt. And I wonder how the next chapter of my life would be like without him in it? Only God knows what’s in store for me and my two young children?
Have you seen how I inserted those lines from a letter her deceased husband sent her? The trick is to go through those messages and plug into your eulogy what really speaks to your heart.
A great way to make your eulogy for your deceased husband super memorable is by including a story or two about other people. It shouldn’t be all about you both.
For example, if you describe him as a kind and caring person, you may elaborate it with a story about how he gave generously to others other than his own family. It becomes particularly thoughtful when your chosen story is about his relationship with his own family.
This comes next: study this resource. What's it?
Eulogy For Husband Speech Template And Samples
Eulogy for husband speech template is a writing resource you can really depend on if you don’t know where to start. I will show you an example very soon.
Before I do that, I just wanted you to know that there are two kinds of templates:
Eulogy For Husband Video Examples
Written Eulogy For Husband Examples
They complement each other. Whereas video examples give you an idea of how to deliver your tribute before an audience, written examples provide insights, tips, and ideas that can help you write your tribute for your husband.
For example, if you have lost your husband to cancer or suicide and are looking for help crafting a speech about that, then you would better off with them than without them.
But here’s the thing. Just make sure you model your own script after any example you will find online. You don’t have to copy it verbatim else you risk sounding like everyone else.
Remember, everyone has a different story and your husband’s personality and spirit should be the overriding force in your tribute for such a loving man.
All that being said, here are two video examples you can watch and learn a thing or two from.
Here they are:
Eulogy For Husband Video Example #1
Eulogy For Husband Video Example # 2
Now, let’s look at this written example. Remember to use it as models of inspiration. Please read through it very carefully and jot down ideas you would like to add to your own speech.
Whether you have been married for a few years or a very long time, have lost your husband to cancer or suicide, through an accident, killed by a drunk driver or a mad man, or though natural causes, the following example can help you write a deeply meaningful eulogy for your late husband.
Are you ready? Ok, let’s look at the whole thing.
Short Eulogy For Husband Example
We are here today to celebrate the life and mourn the loss of Dennis Brown.
27 years ago, on a hot July night at the Britton Golf Club, we met at a dinner dance at the Tradition. We danced near the end of the evening, exchanged information, and throughout that first summer we played a few rounds of golf, and enjoyed some live music at local clubs. We both loved music, we both loved golf, but he had to learn to love the art of practicing.
Anyway, we dated for the next 7 years until he dragged me to the altar to exchange vows. We both were married before. We both had 2 children each, all were grown and gone by the time we got together. But he adored her kids, Jess and Dorothy.
Dennis loved people, he was very social. He also loved shoes, which is a whole other thing. He could spend money like no one I’ve ever met. Really though, he was the person who was always up for a game of cards, or a backyard fire with friends. I will miss going for walks, or rides, or spending time with the kids having dinner.
He changed me for the better; she taught me how to be brave in your darkest hours, how to live tenaciously seeking your best life, how to have a good time always, and how to love unconditionally.
I’m going to miss her every day for the rest of my life. But I also know that when I hear Janis Joplin belt out one of his tunes, Dennis will be there. When I’m walking along a green on a golf course, my love will be with me. When I’m sitting by a fire, Dennis will be there too.
His spirit will live on in all our hearts and minds until that day when it’s our turn to go across the veil to the other side, and he will be there waiting. Until then, my love. Please rest in eternal peace. I will love you always.
Wow! That’s a very short but touching tribute anyone would love to honor their dead husband with.
Nonetheless, it’s not very easy to put together something like that when you can’t think straight.
So, how do you go from looking up at the ceiling to writing an inspiring tribute that will honor and bless the memory of your husband?
It’s easier than you think. Ok, I will show you how to do just that.
Start by building a structure for your eulogy. If you go back to the eulogy for husband examples, you will realize that the whole thing is built on this structure:
A short self-introduction: For those of you don’t know me, I am Mike’s widow and his best friend of 50 years. I am Melissa. But, he used to call me My Avocado and I loved it. I know you are curious about that and there’s a little story to that but I won’t go into that now.
Did you notice how I made those initial remarks hilarious? You can do that too if you want to make your initial comments lighthearted. There’s nothing wrong with entertaining your friends and family at your husband’s service.
Thank everyone for coming: Here’s another example:
Thank you so much for coming out from near and far to support our family as we big a final goodbye to the love of my life.
Thank everyone for their love, support, and well-wishes This is another example:
The last few days have been incredibly difficult for me and our only son, Alexis. But your tremendous outpouring of love has lifted a heavy burden off our shoulders.
Many of you have called to check up on us and send several messages of support and encouragement. May God bless you abundantly. Only God knows where we would be with you.
That’s just a part of the introduction. There’s another part of it-the hook. The hook draws you into the tribute itself.
The hook should not only be captivating but also give a prelude of your love story. Below, I will share with you practical tips and ideas to make your hook very exciting and engaging.
First, start by mentioning how you feel about his departure as seen in this extract:
‘’I only had him for 15 years, but I wanted him for 50 more.
But Shawn would not want me to talk about how unfair it is that he was taken from me – and from all of us – far, far too soon. I know because that’s how he lived his life. Shawn was grateful for every single day he had on this planet. I know because he told me. Not just in the final days of his life but in every day before that. ‘’
Second, you can share what you looked forward to. This is particularly helpful if your husband died young:
Mark and I had always looked forward to building our lives together with our kids till we were wrinkled. That never came to pass. I only had him for only 13 months but he made the whole experience feel like we were together for 30 years.
Sometimes, it’s best to let your tears flow before you talk about how and where you met him. Imagine doing that before you utter these words.
‘’I met Dave nearly 20 years ago when I first moved to LA. He became my best friend. He showed me the internet for the first time, planned fun outings, took me to temple for the Jewish holidays, introduced me to much cooler music than I had ever heard’’
How To Write The Outline Of Your Husband’s Tribute
The body follows the introduction and should be fairly easy to write. But that’s not the case for most folks as it gets overwhelming when you have to pick and weave years of memories into a heartfelt but succinct eulogy.
To overcome this challenge, you have to develop a simple questionnaire which you will use to provide a framework of your tribute.
With your pen and notepad in hand, write down your answers to the following questions.
When and how did you meet your husband?
What was so special about him back then?
Was it love at first sight or it blossomed from that initial encounter?
How did you feel when he got down on knee and asked you to marry him?
What was your wedding day like?
What were your collective dreams?
Did you achieve any of those goals?
How did you do it?
How did he make you a better person?
What kind of man was your late husband?
What kind of father was he?
What were your most memorable moments as a couple?
What were your collective achievements?
At this point, I would like to use your responses to craft a rough first draft. You can shelve it if you have a few days to your husband’s celebration of life service before you edit it. By this time, new ideas and insights will come to you.
If you are in a hurry, you can do that on a fly by letting another fresh pair of eyes (someone you can trust) look at it.
The conclusion of your speech is as important as your opening lines. So, you have to start and end well.
Here are practical and easy steps to ending on a memorable note.
First, share ways you will miss him. Here’s an example:
I’ll miss his smile, his touch. I’ll miss our chats about our next travel destinations; I’ll miss walking on a beach holding hands. I’ll miss having him around helping out anyway he could, weeding the garden and plant flowers.
Second, you thank everyone for coming.
Third, you can share what your husband told you by his bedside if you think it will have a profound impact on the funeral attendees.
My favorite way to close is to end with a poem or a favorite saying of the deceased.
Here’s an example:
In closing, my husband would not want you to be sad even though we are mourning his passing. He asked me to tell you eat well, sleep well, and rest so you can grow well. That’s what he asked me to tell you before he left us at 91 years old.
If you have lost your beloved mom and are looking for tips and ideas to help you write a heartfelt eulogy for your deceased mother, then you are at right place at the right time.
Just bear with me for just a little while and I will share with you…
Losing a mom really hurts no matter how long she has lived on this terrible planet because a mom’s love is undeniably the most potent force in the entire universe.
When a mom dies, it feels like her son’s or daughter’s world has come to a screeching halt as her death causes hearts to break into a million little pieces.
When your heart is broken into a million pieces and it can be very hard for you to write a great eulogy for your loving mom.
Before we look at how to start a eulogy your mom, let me take a moment to express my condolences on the passing of your dear mom.
I can’t just imagine what you’re going through at this very moment in your life.
I am sure your mom was your life’s greatest blessing and I know for sure losing such a precious woman is like losing your own soul.
Your mom is unique in her own right and no one can take her place. May you draw strength and comfort from the priceless memories you made and the legacy of love and compassion she left behind.
At this sad moment, inspiring music should be your abiding compassion as it can uplift your spirit and bring a smile to your face. The tune below can help you feel a lot better.
Once again, I am very sorry for your loss. If you need someone to talk, then don’t hesitate to send me a note here and I will get back to you.
How To Write A Great Eulogy For Mom
Now, let’s look at how you can write a great eulogy that honors your mom.
I like to compare writing a eulogy speech to ascending a flight of stairs to the top of an apartment.
You need to take one step at a time to get to your destination. That’s not how many writers see it, unfortunately. They dive right in without first figuring out the steps to get it done.
Grieving someone like a mom is already a difficult thing, so you need to simplify things so you are not stressed out.
To make the writing process a breeze, you need to go through these steps:
Jot down your goals for mom’s eulogy
Decide if you want a long or short tribute
Find out how to get content ideas for your message
Study eulogy for mom speech examples
Take inspiration from the examples to write your tribute for your late mom
Can we go through them together? Ok, let’s get started.
The first on the list is:
Write Down Your Goals For Mom’s Eulogy
I always find it shocking when folks pour out their thoughts on paper without actually figuring what they want to accomplish with their tributes.
Having written goals will provide you with a sense of direction and also help express yourself eloquently.
So, grab a pen and pen ask yourself these simple questions?
What aspect of mom’s life should I highlight?
Should I make my eulogy very inspiring or touching or even funny? For example, if your mom had a great sense of humor, you may write a funny eulogy for her. Again, if mom was a Christian, then you can make it a Christian eulogy for mom.
Who am I? And what am I known for? For example if you have a special ability to tell stories? Am I fun to be around?
It’s best to weave in bits and pieces of your own personality into your speech even though the mourners are not there because of you.
Just imagine how powerful your tribute would be if your good singing voice helps you end mom’s tribute with a song she loved to sing.
Also, consider how impactful your words would be if you are a poem guy and are able to somewhat add a very beautiful poem to your script.
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What Should Be The Length Of My Eulogy?
Most people are overly obsessed with what the ideal length of such speeches should be.
But, I think this obsession is needless. Here’s why: I have read long and short tributes before and what makes them super memorable were the stories behind them and how they are delivered.
As a professional eulogy speech writer, I have written both long and short eulogies for moms and I can tell you that not of that really matters.
Your ability to properly honor your deceased mom with the right words and stories in a way that brings comfort to her family and friends should always be given due prominence.
Nonetheless, a few factors might influence how long or short mom’s eulogy goes.
Here they are:
You should keep it short if lots of people want to eulogize your mom.
Your own family may ask you to keep it brief and concise and you have to respect their wishes.
When there are no such restrictions, you can do something long or short. Just make sure it’s not like a cross country road trip.
Let’s get to another thing:
Find Out How To Get Content Ideas For Your Mom’s Eulogy
I know when given the chance, you can talk about your mom for hours on end without blinking your eye.
But with a eulogy, you have to drill down and come up with really good stories your siblings and the entire family can relate to.
When piecing your story, the stories you choose shouldn’t be centered about your relationship with her alone.
Make it very inclusive by adding in memories she made with her whole family if you are the sole speaker at her funeral or memorial service.
If that’s not the case, however, you have to ask your siblings to share their favorite anecdotes with you.
You can also follow these steps to come up with right stories if you are not blessed with a magnetic memory.
Step #1: Flip through her photo album and write down what each photo represents or brings back to mind.
Step # 2: Talk to your uncles and aunts and ask them to share beautiful stories about her life and they would be happy to share their thoughts with you.
Step #3: Have you prepared mom’s memorial slideshow yet? Watch it, back to back if possible and see if it brings back really fond memories you can add to your mom’s tribute speech.
Step#4: Was she active on social media? If so, head over to her profile pages and look for photos and videos and read the comments below them for what others thought about her and possibly add the warm comments to your presentation.
Step# 5: Did mom love to keep journals or jot down stuff every now and then? If so, why not leaf through them and share her personal insights and experiences with the mourners.
By doing so, you can really honor the memory of your mother in a way that will inspire others to strive for the best in their personal lives.
Step# 6: Talk to dad or her husband if he’s still alive and well. He would regale you with beautiful stories about your mom and their relationship. As they say, good memories come straight from the horses own mouth.
That being said, this comes next:
Start by studying….
Eulogy For Mother Examples/Templates
Where can you find some really good ones? Online! I know you would be happy to see one. But, here’s a fair warning: Don’t copy any example you will ever find; even if it’s coming from me.
The reason being that lots of people will also be reading those examples and you don’t want to come across as that lazy bum who just copy ideas and phrases off the internet!
Well, I am going to share with you an example I wrote a while back. Afterwards, we will break it down bit by bit so you can figure out how to write one even if you have never written a eulogy your whole lifetime.
This is it…
Short Eulogy Example For Deceased Mother
Good Afternoon. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming from far and near as we mourn the passing of a great person who was not only my beloved mom but also the best friend of so many people in this room who are united in grief and love for an amazing woman whose true measure and value goes beyond words.
My mother, Mary Helen, did two things religiously, every day – She prayed and she helped people. Every single day; it was her calling, her purpose, and mission on earth.
Looking around this room, I can see many people who were recipients of her kindness; I see many eyes flooded with sadness at her loss and gratitude that she had been here. That’s because she helped so many of us here and many of us who are not.
If it weren’t for her body letting her down - when her soul was still so young and vibrant, determined and adventurous - she would still be here today, seeking out people who needed her assistance and giving her all to whoever she could help.
I was her only son and after I was born, along with me, she committed her time to helping other children. She fostered more than one-hundred-and-fifty children and teens in the Chicago area over the course of seventeen years.
There will be a lot of young people out there who would remember her with such fondness and love – for some it would have been a short space of a day where they were blessed with her as a safe haven during a transitional period, but for others, she was a solid and supportive part of their lives for five years.
My mother was used to being around a lot of children; she was one of seven siblings; sister to Alice, Josephine, Stella, Cesar, Carolyn, Lisa and Martha. One might suppose that was how she felt most comfortable – in a communal group; sharing and helping one another.
She was born in Sahuayo, Michoacan, Mexico and immigrated to the United States with her family at the age of 14, moving to Chicago in 1954. She served as a Nun for five years, as a Maryknoll Sister of St. Dominic in New York.
Due to a family tragedy, she had to leave, but then with a fundamental basis of caring and teaching others, she found her own way to a path that enlightened others and fulfilled her calling.
My mother was hungry for knowledge, travel, new experiences – she lived every moment of her life with such enthusiasm and vivacity.
She taught Confraternity of Christian Doctrine in the State of Illinois in schools and colleges and at the age of sixty, she completed her Master’s in Education at the Loyola University in Chicago.
As well as education and knowledge, she loved to try new food; she would eat sushi, octopus, squid and travelled to more than twenty-five different countries in her life, always eager to try their new delicacies.
She didn’t shy away from change. Each new experience was a new opportunity to learn something and make her life much better. She encouraged me always to try hard and learn more.
She lived by example; working several jobs while I was young, to ensure I never wanted for anything and she set such a work ethic in me so that during times in my life where I have had to deliver pizza and wash dishes to make ends meet, I did it because I knew she would have done it to help me.
My mother certainly used any opportunity she could to travel to a new country – when I was twenty and serving in the U.S Air Force, I was stationed in the United Kingdom and my Mother wanted to join me for my first legal drink.
She flew to England for two weeks to make sure she could be there for the occasion. During her trip, we watched all the James Bond movies together and – as a result – my first legal drink ended up being a Martini, shaken not stirred. I hated it. Though I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t have impacted her love of that trip
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People would laugh with Mary – mostly owing to the fact that she just made people smile. But additionally because she would often mix her Mexican Spanish words with her American words and they would sound so funny; luckily she was always happy to laugh at herself too.
She had an energy about her and was the soul of any party. She would walk into a room of one-hundred strangers and would leave with ninety-nine new friends. She would always say ‘You can’t be perfect, but you can try.’
My mother was entirely committed to her faith; the Roman Catholic Church and the service of others. She found joy and depth in praying – she would pray every day with her rosary because; whilst she recognised that we could commit our kindness and energy selflessly here one earth, she also trusted that there was a higher power capable of doing things we cannot.
She prayed for those she helped and gave so much of herself to her community. And I am hopeful that she’s now being rewarded by her maker for loving her neighbor as herself.
We were all so privileged to have had her in our lives; I feel so lucky to have been loved by her and I acknowledge that the frustration she felt with being stuck in a body that needed dialysis was not the way she chose to live – being stuck herself, she wasn’t free to help others and live her purpose. Now she is free – no longer constrained within her body, but in the loving energy we feel when we think of her.
Thank you to everybody who has attended today to pay your respects to my wonderful mother, Mary Helen, who I love and will miss forever and forever.
That is quite sentimental. Well, it’s not so hard to write something like that as you might imagine it to be.
To do that, you can start by spliting up the example above into three parts to make things a lot simpler. The three parts include:
The introduction
The body
The conclusion
The introduction sets the stage for your tribute and it has two main parts:
The opening remarks
The hook
The opening remarks comprise the following:
Greeetings: An example is:
Good morning. I am also grateful that this room is filled with so many people that knew and cared for my mom.
Thank you notes. Here you can thank the following personalities.
Your dad for loving her until the end
The medical staff for their help and support
Your siblings for their love and support
Your extended family
Question: Can you write down names of people you wish to express gratitude to? This basic writing exercise can put you in the mood for the right expression of your ideas.
The hook follows the introduction. It is that part of the intro that captures the attention of the mourners from the get go.
Here are some practical ways of doing just that.
Start off by sharing how you feel on such a sad day. Here’s an example:
I’ve struggled to understand and accept this situation. Losing your mom is a deeply painful experience. It comes with a hurricane of emotions, processing, and reflection. My mind wants to reject it all. But this is the reality. My mom is no longer with us in this world.
Share a little memory about your mom.
You can start with a poem about the loss of a mom if you wish to convey how you have been impacted by her loss.
The body follows the introduction. Now, let’s look at this:
How To Write The Content Of Body Of Your Mom’s Eulogy
The body is actually the outline of your entire presentation. To write the body of your eulogy, you should center your ideas on these themes:
Who was your mom?
What was her impact on your family and those she came into contact with?
What made her a very wonderful mom?
What was one striking thing about her personality?
This is what you can do with those questions. Write down your answers and try to use them to create a rough first draft.
Now, let’s look at the conclusion.
How To End A Eulogy For Mom
What you say as you wrap up is as important as how you start. Hence, you need to end well because most people will remember what you say at the tail end of it.
Below are a few tips to help you end your tribute for mom on a resounding note.
You can conclude by wiping off your own tears no matter how hurt you are. That, in itself can be very therapeutic.
You can end by thanking everyone for coming out to mom’s celebration of life.
You can honor mom’s memory by sharing her favorite verse or poem or how she ended a long talk.
When your close friend dies suddenly and you are asked to say a few remarks at the funeral or memorial service, it can get very intimidating if you are not good with words or hate being in the public eye.
And you have every right to feel nervous because you are expected to honor the memory of your dear friend in a very special way that highlights the depths of your friendship.
I know how it feels to lose a very precious friend to death. About 5 years ago, I lost a close friend to cancer and had to write a tribute for her.
As a professional eulogy speech writer, I found myself in a very tight corner even though I had helped several people with their eulogies.
But, writing this one was a bit hard for me due to the intense emotions that came with it. I finally got through it and felt so much relieved that I had properly honored my deceased friends with the right words.
But, let’s face it. Not everyone has a flair for words. So, how do you go from blinking helplessly at your note pad to cramming it full with very fond memories about your friendship? That’s the focus of the next chapter.
Before we jump right in, let me take a moment to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I once read a quote that says that some friends come into your life for a reason, others for a season and some others for a lifetime.
I know without a doubt that your friend came into your life for all those reasons above and losing him or her to death really hurts. It hurts so badly. May the memories you made together bring you comfort and peace in this very sad and difficult time.
I found this poem for you. Just read it out loud over and over again and you will find strength to carry on.
Here it is:
Gone Too Soon: A Poem To An Extraordinary Person By Stephanie Solis
Today is the day you will be laid to rest, But you know what they say, God only takes the best. Everything happens for a reason, Even if we may not agree.
Just promise to look after us, And if you can, Save a spot up there for me. The thought of never seeing you again brings tears to my eyes, And even more so, Because all of this was such a surprise. But we should never question what God has planned.
Sometimes it's not meant for us to understand. So as we sit here and mourn the loss of a beloved friend, We have to keep telling ourselves that we will meet again.
At this point, let’s look at how you can easily and quickly put your friend’s tribute together.
How To Write A Eulogy For Your Friend By Following These Simple Steps
When you are looking for tips and ideas to write an amazing eulogy, it can be very tempting to scan through a few examples and make slight changes to them and call it done. Unfortunately, that is not how it works.
But, like everything worthwhile in life, pouring your whole heart, mind, and soul onto that sheet of paper is a step by step process.
Now, let’s look at the easy-to-follow steps that can help you craft a very memorable eulogy for your dead male or female friend.
Here are the steps:
Choose a style/tone for your eulogy speech
What should be the length of your eulogy tribute?
How to get ideas and stories for your tribute
How to make the most of eulogy for friend speech examples
How to prepare your eulogy for friend using those examples
Now, let us get into each of the points in details. First, on the list is:
Choose A Style/Tone For Your Eulogy
The overall impact of your message depends on the style you choose for your friend’s tribute. Your choice of words depends on your personality, your friend’s personality, and what you would like to say about your late friend.
For example, if your friend was a funny or cheerful person, then your tribute might have some lighthearted stories.
If your close pal was a thoughtful person, you may share how his thoughts and guidance helped make you a better person.
The following questions can help you pick a tone for your friend’s eulogy.
Do you want to write a touching or heartfelt tribute for your close friend?
What was your late friend’s character disposition? Was he serious, cheerful, and fun to be around?
Is there a particular aspect of your friend’s character trait you would like to speak about or you just want to tell stories about your friendship?
Now, what aspect of your friend’s personality do you wish to highlight?
Let’s look at the next thing:
Should This Be The Length Of Your Tribute For Your Friend?
As a professional eulogy speech writer, I can tell you from experience that the length of your speech doesn’t really matter. What matters most is what you say about your friend at his funeral service or celebration of life.
However, a few factors may influence how long it lasts. For example, the deceased’s family may ask you to speak for a certain amount of time.
What’s more, if so many people are going to speak at the funeral service, it’s best to stick to the allotted time.
If none of those limitations exist, speak from your heart without focusing too much on the agreed time. Just make sure it’s not as long as a mile.
This comes next:
How To Get Content Ideas And Stories For Your Friend’s Tribute
Stories are the lifeblood of every eulogy. But, as we grow, our memories become like a sieve because we tend to forget things easily.
Whether you have a razor-sharp memory or not, the following ideas can help you think of all those fond memories so you can put together a heartfelt and inspiring eulogy for your friend.
Here they are:
Have you prepared a memorial tribute slideshow about the deceased? You can watch it and see if you can find great pictures that will spark your memory. Here’s an example to help you remember the finer details of your friendship:
Go find your friend’s social media profiles and look for your photos and write down what they remind you about.
Look through your photo archives or album and find your photos. As you do that, ask yourself what each photo represents?
Why not speak to your friends if you don’t have photos of the deceased? They can bring back stories that might have slipped through the cracks. You may ask questions like:
Can you share a memory or two about your friend with Mark (replace with name of your friend)?
Do you remember when we went on the African safari (substitute it by asking about a memorable vacation getaway or any event)?
Let’s move on to this:
Eulogy For Friend Examples And How To Make The Most Of Them
Regardless of what your writing skills are, eulogy for friend samples can help you put together your scattered thoughts and ideas into a very moving tribute.
For example, if your friend was killed by cancer, finding a eulogy example about that disease will make the writing a breeze because you can model your eulogy after that template.
In the next chapter, I am going to share with you a eulogy for friend example I wrote a while back.
After we have reviewed it, we will analyze it with the right examples so you can figure out how to use our findings to write a touching eulogy for your friend.
Before we do that, let’s look at this example.
Short Eulogy For Friend Example
For those of you who do not know me, my name is Jose Cardona. Roland was a really good friend.
When a close friend or a loved one we adore with our whole hearts unexpectedly leaves us, a
piece of our heart is forever broken and we often find ourselves wondering what really went wrong.
However, this is a profound question no mortal alive can answer.
As sad and tragic Ronald’s passing is, let’s use this very sad moment to honor the life of Roland or Roli as most of us knew him.
Though we worked together for 20 years, I never got to know his family. But I feel much honored that they asked me to pay tribute to a very special friend who was one of the greatest gifts in my life.
I’m standing here today to let each of you know that I grieve with you, I’m praying for you, and I will be here if you need anything.
I hope and pray that these few words bring you some peace and comfort in this sad moment.
Roli was a great guy. He was a quiet person who stayed out of the spotlight. But was a hard worker and would do anything for a friend.
From the time we met at Price Waterhouse, our careers followed one another and we became more than co-workers.
We became friends. Every morning he would make sure to come say Good Morning and ask about how I was doing.
Every evening he would approach to say goodnight. Even if we had disagreed on something work-related earlier, he would never leave angry.
He was a bit of a gear head, as am I. So we went to auto shows together and spent hours discussing the latest car models.
He was very smart about stocks and he was a day trader. I would always go to him for advice.
Roli had his issues, and ultimately it was those issues that overcame him and end his life. But I don’t want to remember him for his weaknesses, because he had so many strengths.
He was motivated, and intelligent, and an incredibly good person. I remember once mentioning in a conversation that my parents needed a new air conditioner and he immediately said “I have an extra one.”
He was thoughtful and dedicated and generous. He was proud of his service to his country as an Army Veteran, and he loved what he did for a living.
These past few months have been difficult for everyone. The lockdowns and the layoffs have been hard on all of us. I think it was especially hard for Roli.
One thing that I have learned from this experience is that I can never take anyone for granted in my life, because they can be gone so very quickly, and tragically.
Roli, I hope you that you are at peace, and that you are surrounded by loving friends and family who have gone ahead of us.
I miss you more than words can say. You will always hold a special place in my heart, and my love for you will never, ever part. I look forward to the time I will get to see you again. Thank you, brother for everything.
Did you learn a thing or two from reading that template? I hope so.
I promised to show you how to write something like that, if not better. So, let’s get into the details.
If you want the writing process to be really easy, you have to grab a sheet of paper and split up the speech into three parts and label it like this: introduction, body, and conclusion.
Let’s look at this first: the introduction
How To Write The Introduction For Your Eulogy
It comprises of these elements:
Greetings: Here’s an example:
Wow… I never thought I would see so many of you here this blistery afternoon as we mourn the passing of my beloved friend, Mark. Thank you so much for coming for coming from far and near. None of us really want to be here. But you came because you know the deep love I had for a friend whom many said was my older brother.
A Short-Self Introduction
Most folks in the audience might probably not know who you are. Here’s an example: For those of you who might not know me, I am Dan, Mark’s best friend of the last 30 years.
Expression of gratitude
You have to thank a few people when you are asked to deliver a few remarks about your best friend.
First and foremost, thank the family of the deceased for asking you or allowing to say something about your best friend.
Here’s an example culled from the above example:
I feel much honored that they asked me to pay tribute to a very special friend who was one of the greatest gifts in my life. I’m standing here today to let each of you know that I grieve with you, I’m praying for you, and I will be here if you need anything.
Here are some other personalities you can express gratitude to:
The friends of your friend for their support and encouragement
Your friends’ spouse and children for standing by your friend
His family for help and support
The doctors and nurses for their medical help
Here’s a little homework assignment to help you write your thank you notes:
Can you write a short note thanking your friend’s family for allowing you to speak at the memorial service? Ok, I am so happy you can do that.
Next, do a little brainstorming and write down names of people you would like to express gratitude to.
Below is a funny eulogy for friend example:
My friend won’t have lived this long if it were not for the tireless sacrifices of the medical staff- doctors and nurses. I used to visit him when he was on hospice and I was overwhelmed by the amount of love and support they showed him.
Sandra’s went above and beyond to ensure he was well-cared for that at some point a patient jokingly said he was her side sick. Sandra was unbelievably kind and I am so grateful that she travelled from the East Coast to be with us this morning. Sandra, thank you so much for your generous love and support for my wonderful friend.
Do you see how humorous the last line is? If there’s an element of humor to your friendship, please bring it on and the family will appreciate that you made me smile through the tears.
There is, of course, another portion of the introduction called the hook or what is known as starting on a strong note. After you have incorporated the above elements into your script, you then start to write the hook which is that part of your speech that depicts how and where you met your friend as well as how your friendship took off.
Here are few ways of starting on a strong note.
First, you can begin by sharing how you met your friend. Here’s another example:
I first met Cassandra in a place that tends to stoke one’s passions for social and economic justice — the financial aid line at law school. (Laughter.) We were just entering Harvard Law. We happened to be next to each other in line, I think it was in Pound Hall, and we were furiously filling out our financial aid forms. I have no doubt I was doing something wrong.
She may have looked over my shoulder and said, “I think that’s wrong.” (Laughter.) And we were inching forward each time the registrar shouted, “Next!” We introduced ourselves to each other, and we bonded over the fact that we were signing our lives away to Harvard, fully aware of how long it would take us to pay off that debt that we were about to accrue.
Second, you may write down how you felt when you heard the news of the passing of your dear friend. Again, this is an example to buttress this point.
‘’ Ever since I heard the news on Saturday morning, I find that several times during the day, I stop and shake my head in disbelief. How could it be that Donna — this vibrant, radiant light — is gone? Somehow the shock of it all has inured us from the deep grief and heartache that we know will only intensify in the days, weeks, months, even years to come. ‘’
Third, you can start with any of these quotes to make your eulogy very thoughtful and emotional:
Quotes For Eulogy For Your Friend
The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one” ~ Seneca
"You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can't forget. Those are your friends." ~ Mark Twain
"He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man." ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry.
“Even the best of friends cannot attend each other’s funeral” ~ Kehlog Albran
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” ~ Flavia Weedn
How do you use quotes to write a killer hook? I am going to use Mark Twains’ words.
I once read a quote by Mark Twain that says You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those you can’t forget. Those are your friends.
Donna was my most loyal friend I can’t ever forget. She was the very essence of love, life, and inspiration. She was unbelievably special to me in every way. When I fell off the stairs last year, she was there. When my husband died a few years back, she was there to comfort and console and lend a helping hand.
The body comes after the introduction. So, let’s look at it.
How To Write The Body or Outline Of Your Friend’s Eulogy
Let’s now write down simple answers to the questions below:
What were your shared interests or passions?
What was your friend’s influence on your life?
What were your most memorable moments?
What were your friend’s admirable qualities?
What made your friend a very exceptional person?
This is what I want you to do right now if you have written answers to the above questions. Just write down a rough first draft. Never mind how it looks like on paper because you can always go back to it and get rid of the excesses till it looks great.
The conclusion comes last.
Now,…let’s look at
How To Write The Ending Of Your Eulogy For Your Friend
Here are ways of ending on a memorable note.
First, if you have nothing to say, just end by sobbing into a tissue This, will at least give some closure to your friendship.
Second, you can share why and how you will miss your dead friend.
Third, you can end with your personal wish or prayer for the departed soul and family.
‘’We pray that the Lord grants our sister, Cassandra, eternal peace. May He bless her memory. May he bless her family, and the lives of everyone that she touched.’’
Fourth, end with the legacy your friend left behind.
‘’ I guess in a way, Donna left us a blueprint for a life well lived. To always make time. To remember what’s important. To be present. To cherish the ones we love. God, we will miss you. Thank you, Donna. How incredibly lucky we were. ‘’
Please read on and you will find proven, easy-to-follow tips and ideas to help you write an amazing eulogy for your wonderful father-in-law even if you are not good with words or absolutely hate speaking in public.
It is said that people come into our lives at different times for different reasons.
Once upon a time, your father-in-law came into your life. Sadly, he’s no longer around and you have asked to deliver a touching tribute that honors his legacy in a very special way.
How do you do that through tears? Whether you have known him decades or not, you can simply follow the ideas I am going to share with you because these are the same ideas the best eulogies are modeled after.
But, before we get into that, let me take a moment to express my deepest condolences to you and the entire family on the loss of this wonderful man.
Not sure if you are his son-in-law or daughter-in-law. But, I am sure your father-in-law impacted your life so much and I can’t imagine what you and your spouse are going through at this moment.
If you feeling so down and overwhelmed by his loss, Diana Blokzyi’s poem ‘’ Gone Away’’ can be a great source of comfort in this very difficult time.
Here it is:
An Angel whispered, "Take my hand and come with me; your work here is done."
I went away to a place where there's no tears nor sorrow, only laughter and smiles. There will always be a tomorrow.
As I move amongst the clouds. I'll look down and smile upon you, while the angels sing a heavenly song.
I am not alone. All who went before are here; they awaited my return.
I know you'll grieve and wish I was still here. I am here in the memories you hold dear.
Remember how much I love you, and know I took your love with me.
I did not wish for you to cry nor feel sad. My pain is gone and I am free!
Soon you'll come to me. Until then, God will be with you Just as He's with me.
Well, if you need someone to talk to, you can write to me here and I will send you some comforting verses.
How To Write A Touching Eulogy For Your Father-In-Law
Here’s what most folks do when asked to write a tribute. Out of frustration and ignorance, they scan through some examples online and make a few edits here and there and call it done. That helps to an extent if you don’t know where and how to start.
In order to effectively express your ideas passionately and coherently, you should simply follow these steps.
Here they are:
Pick a tone for your eulogy
Decide on the ideal length of your eulogy
How and where to get stories for your tribute
Make the most of eulogy for father-in-law examples
Write your father-in-law tribute like a pro
This comes first….
Pick A Tone For Your Father-In-Law’s Eulogy
Your own writing style as well as your late father-in-law’s character and personality would ultimately influence the tone of your message.
For example, if your father-in-law was fun to be around, you can regale the mourners with funny memories about him.
If he had a very thoughtful personality, then, of course, you can make your script very touching and inspiring.
Again, if he was a very spiritual person, then subtle hints of that aspect of his life should be felt in his funeral speech.
You got it?
That brings us to the next step:
What Should Be The Ideal Length Of Your Father-In- Law’s Eulogy?
As a professional eulogy speech writer, I have heard and read both short and long tributes. Nonetheless, the decision to deliver something short or long depends on these factors:
The amount of time his family has asked you to speak
The number of speakers delivering eulogies
If none of that exists, then do what you are comfortable with but don’t go overboard with a very long eulogy that would bore the audience to death.
On the whole, make sure you honor his memory with the right words no matter how long or short your tribute is.
This comes next:
Where And How To Find The Right Anecdotes
Human beings have loved listening stories since ancient times. So, who said the weeping mourners wouldn’t want to hear great stories about the deceased?
Now, this is how to remember the good old times if you don’t a fantastic memory or simply want to come up with the best stories for your father-in-law’s eulogy.
Speak to your significant other and ask probing questions about the dead man. Questions like…Babe, do you remember the first time I met your dad? One question can lead to the other and before you know it, you have tons of memories to choose from.
Flip through your photo album and look for pictures of him and ask yourself what each picture brings back to mind?
Watching a memorial slideshow about his life can also bring back very warm memories. So, go watch it if there’s one available. Here's a video example to remind you about your friendship with your father-in-law:
Action Tip: Have you put down memories about him yet? Do that now and you would thank me later.
Let’s now…look at
How To Make The Most Of Father-In-Law Tribute Samples And Examples
Paul immigrated to the United States in 1951, where he received his Master’s degree in engineering from the University of Michigan and his PhD from Columbia University.
He was a devoted husband, and was married to my mother-in-law for 50 years before her passing 4 years ago. Not only was he an extremely intelligent man, but one of the dearest, most loving men I have ever known.
I first met Paul 30 years ago when I first started dating my husband. He reminded me so much of my maternal grandfather, so sweet, gentle, and humble, and always the perfect gentleman. In all the years I’ve known him, I cannot recall a single moment where he raised his voice or complained about anything.
From the beginning when I met him, he took me in as his own daughter and made me feel part of his family without any thought. I can still remember him dancing up such a storm at my wedding that I was scared he might have a heart attack (obviously, he had a lot more stamina than I realized!!).
My father-in-law (and mother-in-law) moved in with my family 8 years ago, following a hospitalization after which we realized he could no longer live on his own. Paul had Parkinson’s disease, a degenerative disease of the central nervous system, that can be slowed down with medication, but not stopped.
At the time my in-laws moved in with my family, I was completely overwhelmed as I had just given birth to my youngest son, with 7-year old twins and a 9-year old son. Selfishly, I wanted time to just be with my family, as I had finally made the decision to stay home with my children after 15 years in the financial services industry.
Although there were definitely many tense and trying periods over the past 8 years as I adjusted to the additional responsibilities of taking care of my husband’s aging parents and the shift in family dynamics, I can say without any regret now that the past 8 years have been a treasured time in my life, my husband’s life, and my children’s lives.
My mother-in-law passed away over 4 years ago, and we were so fortunate to have my father-in-law for another 4 years.
As a mother of 4 boys, ages 8 to 18, my father-in-law has touched each of their lives in ways that can not be expressed with words. Through his living example, he has taught them what it means to be a man of humility, honor, grace and faith.
We have so many wonderful memories with him that we will treasure for the years to come, all of them happy and joyful. Not only has he been an amazing father to my husband, but also an incredible role model to my sons.
With my father-in-law’s Parkinson’s Disease progressing over the years and his health failing, it has been difficult to watch. However, it has also brought our family closer together, and my boys will have beautiful memories of their grandfather for the rest of their lives.
I have been able to witness my dear sweet husband in another light, as a devoted, faithful and loving son to whom his father is his biggest hero. In fact, two years ago, he wrote a beautiful blog post dedicated to his dad, An Ode To Dad, long before I even knew what a blog was.
My four sweet boys have grown up with a super star model grandfather, living a life of humility, faith and love, and are blessed to have a father, as my husband did, who has followed in his father’s footsteps. We will miss my father-in-law dearly, but I am confident that his legacy will live on in my husband, my sons, and future generations.
We have been so blessed to have my dear sister-in-law and brother-in-law who have been able to provide medical advice and hands on care whenever needed (an incredibly good reason to have a doctor in your family).
We have also shared many special moments with my two nieces, especially during my mother-in-law and father-in-law’s illnesses, which have brought our families closer.
Although the circumstances under which our children drew closer might not seem ideal, the bond they have developed as a result of these shared experiences is inseparable.
And what about me? Although in some ways I feel like my life has been on hold for a while, I have learned to be more patient, to take one day at a time, and to be more compassionate.
I have grown to understand that the past 8 years have not been a burden at all; in fact, it has been a true blessing for all of us. Yes, the past several months have been chaotic, stressful and exhausting; however, as I think about what it will be like next week when my husband returns to work, the kids are back in school, and I am left alone at home, I’m not sure how I will feel. The house will be so quiet, too quiet.
Although this is an incredibly difficult time for my family and a tough post to write, I feel it is so important for me to share what I have learned for those of you who might find yourself in a similar situation or know of someone who is, and I hope you will pass this along.
As my father-in-law’s Parkinson’s Disease progressed over the years, we had to adjust the foods that he was able to eat. Parkinson’s can affect a person’s ability to chew and swallow.
As a result, as his Parkinson’s Disease started to affect his ability to chew and swallow, my father-in-law’s wonderful caregiver and I experimented with foods that he was able to enjoy and kept him healthy.
Here are some of the foods we prepared for my father-in-law as his chewing and swallowing became increasingly challenging. These are foods that can be enjoyed by anyone on a soft food diet.
Now, let’s figure out how the entire sample was written.
To make things fairly easy, you should first divide the above example into these parts:
Introduction
Body or Content Outline
Conclusion or ending
The introduction has two main components:
Greetings and expression of gratitude
The hook
Let’s get into the first part: Greetings and expression of gratitude
Greetings (Here’s an example)
Thank you so much for coming from far and near as we mourn the loss and celebrate the life of my beloved father-in-law, Jack Michaels, who was our family’s guiding light.
Self-Introduction(Here’s another example)
For those of you who might know me, my name is Angelina, Mark’s daughter-in-law for the last 25 years!
Expression of gratitude
Start by thanking the deceased’s family for asking you to speak.
Next, thank other personalities who have been a tremendous blessing in your father-in-law’s life. The gratitude list may include the following persons:
The surviving spouse
His children
Doctors and medical staff for their assistance
Here’s my homework assignment: Jot down the names of individuals you would like to say thank you to and add why they deserve your words of gratitude.
The hook comes next. Its purpose is to Now, capture the attention of the mourners from the get go. Here are some simple ways to start on a strong note.
First, start on a funny note. Here’s how a grieving son-in-law began his tribute.
Today, we are gathered here to mourn the passing of a great man who was like a second father to me. Most of you used to call him Peter The Rock. But, I used to call him Mr. Watermelon and there’s a nice little story about that which I would tell you about later on in my speech!
What, do you think made that short example hilarious? His Nickname!
Did he have one? Share it! Did he like to tease you? Share it and your family will thank you for giving them something to smile about on such a sad day.
Why not sound a little more thoughtful by using witty lines and quotes? Just imagine how impactful your opening lines would be if you start off with any of these eulogy quotes. Please take note of the underlined words and phrases.
“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.”- Vicky Harrison
“The greatest gift I ever had came from God, I call him Dad.”- Unknown
"Let me tell you, he is the hole in my heart. His loss is my scar. But let me tell you something, his memory drives me forward every single day of my life."-Michelle Obama
“No matter how old we are, we still need our dads, and wonder how we’ll get by without them.”- Jennifer Williamson
“Whenever I am missing you, I also remember how fortunate I was that you were in my life. I wouldn’t trade those moments for the world.”- Cindy Adkins
God has been gracious to me and given me great gifts my whole life and that’s something I am eternally thankful for. But, Dean was the greatest gift of my life and we forged such a strong friendship that most people thought he was my real dad. His passionate love made me feel like he was my flesh and bone.
Now, he is gone and his loss is a deep scar in my heart. But, I also remember how fortunate I was that he was in my life and his memory drives me forward every single day of my life.
Did you notice how I fused those bolded words into the speech? That’s exactly how it is done.
Again, you can start with a touching poem or the favorite saying of the deceased.
Now, let us look at this…
How To Write The Content Of Your Father-In-Law’s Eulogy
Writing the body of your father-in-law’s eulogy is certainly not an easy task because it can quite frustrating to distill years of memories into a very short tribute speech when you are asked to make your eulogy succinct.
Here’s what I think it’s a perfect way of wrapping your head around this simple yet profound exercise. So grab your pen and sheet of paper and note pad and write down answers to the following questions.
Do you remember how you felt when you first met your father-in-law? Write down that memory.
How did he welcome you into his family and make you feel a part of it?
What were your shared passions and interests?
What was his influence on you and your whole family?
Did you make many memories together? Do you recall any of them?
What were his personal attributes or character traits? Write at least two or three of them and back them up with a few anecdotes.
Got a few ideas on paper? Ok. Good. The trick here is to try to cobble your responses together into a rough draft which you can always go back to polish up. And have you done that with the answers to those questions?
Don’t belittle yourself because you can! Just start with the ideas on this page.
Finally, let’s look at the conclusion.
The conclusion can take one or more of these several forms.
First, thank everyone for coming to comfort the family.
Second, conclude by sharing how you will always remember him. This example can be a source of inspiration.
‘’I never realized that day that I would never get to have another phone conversation with David, or that it was the last time I would tell him goodbye, but it was. David knew that life was short, and that’s why he took the time to celebrate life, spending every minute that he could with people that he loved. He was a wonderful man with a gentle spirit, and he will be missed. ‘’
Third, you can end with a song he used to sing if it’s somewhat related to your tribute. I did this once at my grandmas’ funeral and everyone loved it.
Were you by your father-in-law’s side when he died? What were his last words? For example, if he told you to take care of his wife. Then, you can render those words like this:
Mom, Dean carried your love with him to the grave. Before he passed he said to me, Martha, can you do me a quick favor?
He used to tell me that and I thought he was going to make fun of me. Instead, he said, Martha, I will be counting on you to stand by my wife until she joins me and before I knew it he was gone. Mom, I will do just as dad said. I promise.
How To Write An Inspiring Tribute For Your Deceased Daughter
Have you lost your daughter? And are you looking for easy-to-follow tips and ideas to help you write a touching eulogy for your deceased daughter?
Just stay here for a little while and I will share with you…
How to write a eulogy speech for your deceased daughter
How to easily make use of eulogy for daughter speech examples to write a funeral speech that honors her even if you are not good with words
How to find the right words and phrases that will not only honor her memory but also depict her legacy
Plus, a whole lot more
Let’s start with this…
What Does A Mom Or Dad Say About Her Deceased Daughter?
I don’t know about you. But, in my culture, burying your daughter goes against the laws of nature.
We believe that after you have cared for your daughter, you should live long enough to see her grow into a very old person before she gives you a befitting burial.
That sounds like a good plan. Sadly, however, life doesn’t always go as planned. Nonetheless, I still believe that no mom or dad should bury their daughter because it’s one of life’s most painful experiences.
The pain cuts so deep when you reflect on the good and bad times you have had together. It seems like only yesterday she was born and the moment they placed her into your arms, your life was infused with a love beyond all measure and understanding.
You watched that baby girl grow into a little girl. In a flash, she grew into a sweet girl who bloomed with promise and purpose.
You constantly imagined who she would grow into and what kind of person she would marry and the grandchildren she would bear. You have had your share of disagreements and conflicts but the love for her was still deep because she was everything to you.
Before you knew it, her breath was snuffed out. Your precious baby girl, tower of strength, your confidant, best friend and angel has gained her wings. How on earth are you going to live without her?
Some Words Of Comfort
Whether you have lost your daughter to suicide, heart attack, cancer, car accident, a fall, killed by a crazy shooter, or even through natural causes, nothing can take away the pain of losing a precious daughter who was not only your joy and pride but also the sunshine of your life.
I know your heart is broken into a million pieces as your grief never seems to come to an end. May you find peace and comfort in the sweet memories you shared together.
Well, I would encourage you to read this touching poem aloud over and over again and it will give you some strength to cope with her loss.
My heart is shattered into pieces, Not a day goes by without seizures of weeping. The emptiness consumes my being, Darkness is all I see, your laughter no longer gleaming.
I long to hold you, feel your warm embrace, But you've flown to Heaven, left this lonely place. Not a second passes I don't say your name, Wishing I could turn back time, erase all the pain.
In the night, I hear your sweet voice call, A comforting song, easing my fall. You tell me it's okay, to let go of the sorrow, That you'll be in my heart each new tomorrow.
Our bond is unbroken, though Death parted our frames, Your pure love and spirit, no time can ever tame. So I'll cherish each memory with pride in my heart, Knowing one day dear child, we forever won't part.
Until then my guiding light, you give me the will, To pick up the pieces, and go on living still. Your love sees me through, I cannot lose hope, With you by my side sweet girl, I can cope. -Unknown-
Well, if you need someone to talk to, just reach out to me and I will do my best to get back to you as soon as possible with some healing words.
It’s easy. You just have to follow these simple steps to get it done.
Write down your writing goals
Decide on the length of your daughter’s tribute speech
Find content ideas for your eulogy for daughter
Find eulogy for daughter examples and figure out how to make the most of them
Find out how to write a funeral speech for your daughter
OK, let’s see how you can take things one step at a time.
Writing your script can be a whole lot easier if you set meaningful writing goals to guide you every step of the way. That will also give you peace of mind, keep you focused and help you pick the right stories to share about her life.
With a pen in hand and sheet on paper, start by reflecting on these questions:
What do I want to say about my deceased daughter?
Should I write about her beautiful character traits and the joy she brought to your family and other people?
Should I tell a story about how she was born, the good times we had together, her love for family and friends, or what made her a very special person?
I have a question for you: What would you like to focus on?
The next thing to consider is the duration of your funeral speech. How long do you want it to last? Do you want it to be short or long? How long or short you want your tribute for your dead daughter to last depends largely on these factors:
How long have you been asked to speak? If you have been asked to speak for a few minutes, just stick to the time.
How many speakers are delivering eulogies at her celebration of life? If several people are going to speak, then it’s best to stay within limits so others can equally eulogize her.
Here’s my take on this deeply sensitive issue: I have written very long speeches and others have been brief.
I remember writing a eulogy that lasted a little over six minutes for a distraught man who had lost her daughter. Another eulogy lasted well below that time and it still worked for my client.
Here’s something to think about: Are you thinking of making your tribute very long, long or short? The ball is in your court.
With that said, let’s look at…
How To Get Content Ideas For Your Daughter's Tribute
Here’s a mistake I see most parents make that heighten their stress levels and disturb their peace.
In order to reduce the stress from their loss, they comb through a few eulogy for daughter examples they find and make changes to suit their writing needs.
That’s not entirely wrong. However, this approach is quite ineffective because every eulogy is different no matter how similar they may be because everyone has a story and everyone’s life is a memorable story no matter how you see it.
Let’s look at it this way. Suppose your daughter solved a specific problem whilst she was alive. People are battling with this problem and you have been told that you have to write a story about how she made it.
She wanted to do it before she passed on. But, asked you to do that on her death bed. How would you go about it?
You are most likely to gather some information from her journal, conduct some research, and interview other patients before sharing your thoughts with the world.
Similarly, you need to dive deep into your sub-conscious mind and recall stories about your daughter’s life before you write your funeral speech about your daughter’s life.
That should be a cinch if you have an amazing memory. If for some reason, you have forgotten about all those great moments, don’t despair because you can get them to come back to you by following this simple plan:
Leaf through her journal and write down things you think you can add to your eulogy. For example, if her wish was to live until she was ninety years old, you may share this with the mourners.
Scan through new and old family photos. Check her Facebook, Instagram, and other social media pages for her photos. As you do that, ask yourself what memory each picture brings to mind and write them down.
Did she send you letters, messages, and cards on your special days like your birthdays, anniversaries, father’s day and on other important milestones?
Have you made a slideshow about her yet? Watch it for more memories about her life.
If can’t find all those stuff, then her mom, siblings, and relatives can serve as reliable springboard for recapturing fond memories.
Now, let’s switch our focus to how to get eulogy ideas from videos. The easiest way to get ideas to come to you is by watching eulogy for daughter videos on youtube.com
So go over to that video platform and input keywords like eulogy for daughter and its variants and wait for some video clips to pop out.
If you have some time, you may go through a lot of them. If you don’t, I have these really good video clips you can watch and profit from.
So, grab your pen and sheet of paper and write down ideas you think you can infuse into your script.
Here they are video clips:
Eulogy Speech For Daughter Video Examples #1
Tribute Speech For Daughter Video Templates #2
Both are touching eulogies examples for daughters. Don’t you think so?
How To Write Your Tribute For Your Daughter
As you know, grieving your daughter while writing down her tribute can be very overwhelming due to the intense emotions involved.
They are to a writer what road signs are to car drivers and road users. A well-crafted example can give you an idea of how to put your thoughts together in a very clear and concise manner.
It’s your helping hand if you don’t have much time on your hands or don’t know where to start.
Although it’s an indispensable writing tool, most grieving souls don’t use it so well as they just copy bits and pieces of it. That shouldn’t be the case, however. You should use them from a standpoint of inspiration and guidance.
So, let’s start by looking at this eulogy for daughter templates/examples.
After that, we will analyze it so we can figure out how to use them to come up with a really good script. That way, you won’t have to struggle to write a touching eulogy that honors the memory and legacy of your daughter.
Here is it:
Eulogy Example For My Daughter
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mike and I am the proud father of Alex Vantrot and always will be the proud father of Alex Vantrot.
On behalf of my entire family, I would like to thank you for coming today to say goodbye far too soon to a very lovely young woman who will always hold a very special place in our hearts.
I want to get to some much deserved announcements to start with. I want to thank Alex’s Grandma Barbs, her Aunt Mary, Aunt Millicent, and Alex’s Aunt, Uncle and cousin’s the Zig & Ryan Zimmerman’s family for their support.
I don’t know what we would’ve done without your broad shoulders to cry on. My family loves you.
Thank you to Nick , Todd, and Dan, for the beautiful video he posted within hours of all of us finding out about her passing.
Although, the tears flow while watching the video, it is a beautiful tribute. Thank you again and we love you for caring so much.
People always say that losing a child is an unnatural loss and I couldn’t agree more because we are not supposed to outlive our children.
I think the reason for that is because when our children are born, we have 2 jobs that are given to us when that little life enters our world.
The first is to teach them everything you know. About life, about pain, about joy, about love. You teach your children because you have already done these things, and made a mess of it sometimes and succeeded other times.
So you give them what wisdom you can, and you watch as they go out and make their own mistakes, and celebrate their own successes, knowing that your lessons helped them along the way.
The second thing is to protect your kids from the meanness and badness of the world for as long as possible, so that when it’s time for them to come face to face with it all they will have all the good things and love you provided to overcome the hardships.
But when a child has to face death unexpectedly, what is a parent supposed to do?
Well, you can only grieve while hoping that someday you will be reunited with your child.
I have never stopped thinking about my daughter and best friend, Alex since she unexpectedly waved me a sad goodbye before going home to be with the Lord.
As her father, I was looking forward to being there when she achieved great things and celebrating her accomplishments, big and small.
I never dreamed that I would instead be delivering her eulogy. This is a very heartbreaking final speech no father should ever have to give.
It’s been sixty (60) days of my heart literally shattering at the thought of not ever seeing my daughter again.
Sixty (60) days I wake up just to miss my daughter all over again. Sixty (60) Days of our everyday routine being forever broken.
Sixty(60) days of not hearing Alex laugh. Sixty(60) days of not hearing Alex’s vivacious voice. Sixty (60) days of trying to just survive this nightmare. My heart is broken into a million little pieces.
I will obviously die with a broken heart because she meant the world to us. I pray every day that the good Lord puts the pieces back together and bring comfort to me and the family.
For those of you who never met Alex or knew who she was, she was a very caring and compassionate person who was always had a helping hand to lend to anyone without reservation.
But I loved and admired her for her innate sweetness and sparkly smile that could melt a heart of stone and brighten your day.
She also was a very happy, fun and outgoing soul. Her friends loved her for that and loved to hang out with her.
Alex could put on a dress and be Cinderella or a pair of waders and fish with the best of them. Typical Alabama Chic, which her friends in Ashley Beach, found endearing.
Small wonder that her sudden passing affected not only my family but also her huge Alabama and Ashley Beach community of friends.
I know this because we literally had so many of her friends reach out to my family in our darkest period of grief.
Seeing so many friends here to say goodbye to Alex today, shows just how loved she was and how much she will be missed.
To Alex’s friends who are with us today as well as those who couldn’t make it here, my heart breaks for you all because you’ve lost a true and treasured friend who was a shining light of goodness, inspiration, humor and love.
I am so grateful for the incredible love, outpouring of support and well wishes that have come our way since learning of our daughter’s passing.
I don’t want to forget to say how sorry I am for your loss too. I know that friends like Alex are unique and few.
There aren’t many people out there who you can count on the way you could with Alex.
It goes without saying that animals are a man’s best friend. Alex was very passionate about animals and she proved by her special love and attention for animals that they were her best friends.
From an early age, she had a deep love for animals and became so fond of our black labs who loved being at her side.
I can only imagine how they too are feeling at this moment in time as we say our final goodbyes to their friend and beloved companion. I think they will miss her because she was all they had.
Alex was extremely dedicated to the family. The love of family flowed through veins as we were everything to her.
At parties and family gatherings, she was the life of the party and whenever we would all get together, there was so much laughter mainly brought on by her antics.
To call her the life of the party is a bit of an understatement. Usually, she was the party. She brought the party with the party with her and that’s something we will all miss her.
But whenever we gather as a family, we will know that Alex is with us in spirit.
She was very close to her cousin Melissa and a confidant of her 30 year old brother. For me, she was my best friend and muse.
She would call me often to check up on me and whenever my phone beeped with a text message from her, I knew that she was thinking about me.
That is the one thing I think I’ll miss the most. Texting or talking to her on the phone and just laughing out loud with my baby girl. No one could make me laugh the way she did.
Alex had an unbelievable zest for life. After a turbulent time in her life she was the ultimate comeback story and her life was becoming more amazing every day.
I can still remember her saying, ‘’I’m fine dad. Don’t worry about me.’’ No matter what was going on in Alex’s life, she always said “I’m fine dad, don’t worry about me.” Of course, I worried about Alex every day. I was Alex’s fixer, but I can’t fix this. I wish I could.
It’s strange how life sometimes throw all kinds of curveballs at us. Guess what? Just when her life was getting better by the day and were looking forward to celebrating her birthday, we lost her just three days short of her 30th birthday!
What a precious and promising gift of life cut short too soon. The pain runs deep and it would be hard to forget about her.
As we as a family navigate our overwhelming grief, we may learn to accept Alex’s passing no matter how the pain in our hearts.
However, we must have faith that she is in a better place, and that she is looking down on us.
I hope that she knows how loved she is, and I hope that knowledge gives her peace.
Dear Alex,
I miss your smile. Those beautiful white teeth. I miss your sense of humor. I miss you calling me Papa Bear. I miss these traits, but I will never have to worry about forgetting those wonderful traits, because they will live on in her twin sister Morgan. Alex, you will always live on in this family.
Alex would like each and everyone of you to “be like Alex” and always tell your loved ones and friends “ I love you” at the end of every discussion or encounter. You couldn’t honor her anymore by doing so.
Dear God, please take care of my little girl, She was special, as you should know. I really didn't want to let her go.
She touched the hearts of everyone she knew. Letting her go was so hard to do. Her smile could brighten up the darkest room. I wish you didn't have to take her so soon.
Tell her I promise to see her again someday. When that will be, I really can't say. I promise to make up for the time that's passed, To hold her and comfort her in my arms at last.
Goodbye, Alex, Rest Well. We all love you. I will miss you more and more.
Did you wipe off a few tears from your eyes after reading that sample? I don’t know about you. But, I felt so sad writing this eulogy for an adult daughter who passed away.
Let me ask you this: Can you write a heartfelt funeral speech like what you’ve just read?
I bet you can do that with ease if you follow this very simple process. To make things easier for you, start by dividing the above example into these parts:
Introduction
Body/ Outline
Conclusion/Ending
How To Write An Introduction For Your Daughter’s Eulogy
At this moment, let’s look at the introduction and what goes into writing a captivating one.
Before we start, let’s look at this excerpt taken from the above example to help us gain clarity about it.
‘’ For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mike…
On behalf of my entire family, I would like to thank you for coming today to say goodbye far too soon…
I want to get to some much deserved announcements to start with. I want to thank Alex’s Grandma...’’
This is what I want you to do now. Grab that pen and notepad or sheet of paper and write down names of personalities you’d like to express gratitude.
People like:
Her mom
Your wife
Her grandparents if they are still alive
Her friends
Her aunts and uncles
Her spouse and kids (if any)
Her friends
Other folks
Second, share how you and the whole family have been impacted by her loss. Here’s an example I picked up from the above example:
I have never stopped thinking about my daughter and best friend, Alex since she unexpectedly waved…
I never dreamed that I would instead be delivering her eulogy. This is a very heartbreaking final speech…
Third, you can start with a poem, favorite saying or a scripture verse if you are religious.
Ok, watch me use this bible verse to start a short tribute for a dead daughter.
‘’ Proverbs 13:22 (NKJV): “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children ‘’
Scripture says that a good man leaves a goodly inheritance to his children’s children. I used to share this verse with my beloved daughter whenever we gathered for dinner and there was this time, she looked into my eye after a meal and asked, Dad, what does that really mean?
I held her hand and explained that we are to leave a good legacy for our children since they may be living messengers to a future we can’t see.
She was so contend. So, she hugged me and said, Dad, I will definitely share this with your grandchildren I ever grow old like my grandma. Little did I know that she would be leaving us two weeks after that incident.
How To Write A Structure For Your Daughter's Eulogy
Let’s turn our attention to the next thing: the body or outline of your funeral speech for your late daughter.
It follows the opening lines and is often a continuation of ideas and thoughts expressed in the introductory remarks.
Writing the body should be easy-peasy. But, that’s not always the case because it gets so hard to distill years of memories and feelings about her life into very succinct and touching remarks about her life.
If you are fumbling for the right words or don’t even know where to start, then this simple exercise can help tidy up your thoughts. This will help you present your ideas more clearly and effectively. So, go back for that sheet of paper and write down answers to the following questions:
What was your daughter like when she was a little girl?
What was her impact on you and spouse?
How about her siblings and other persons she came into contact with?
What made her a unique person and lady?
What legacy did she leave behind? It doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary. The small feats matter as well.
What was she really passionate about?
What are her beautiful character traits?
What are the most memorable moments you had with her?
What were your shared interests?
Was she a person of faith? How did it make her a much better person?
Let me give you some clues: Your remembrance speech can be long and winding if you use all those stuff to compose your tribute.
Here’s what I do all the time. I can go back to the above questionnaire and pick an angle for your dsughter'd tribute.
For example, you might want to talk about your time together, her impact on the family, and what made her life unique.
These can be the major highlights of your talk and not a complete run down of everything she did with her life.
So, what would you like the body to dwell on? Think deeply about this and back up your points with stories your family and friends can relate to.
There’s nothing comforting than watching a faint smile form on the faces of your relatives when you mention a story they can relate to.
How To End Your Daughter's Funeral Tribute
Your tribute should end with a memorable conclusion. Here are some practical ways of wrapping up on a good note.
I am learning how to live In a new way Since that day You were taken away.
I am learning how to live With the things left unsaid Knowing I got to say them With every tear that I shed.
I am learning how to live By embracing the pain Knowing that you live on Through the memories that remain.
I am learning how to live Knowing I will never again see your face And I have peace knowing Your in a better place.
I am learning how to live Knowing your in God's care It gives me the strength to move on And makes the pain much easier to bear.
You may also share how and why you will miss her. For example...
When we travel to Africa for charity work next month, I will miss her most because she loved those field works. We shared wigs and I am going to miss her for that.
You can also thank everyone for coming. Here’s an example:
And to everyone here, thank you for your
concern and the incredible support you’ve
provided during this difficult time. It means the
world to us. I am truly grateful for your
kindness and support. Your words and actions have been a great comfort. Thanks again for coming.
Can express your feelings about her through a song? If you have a good singing voice, then it would be a perfect opportunity to eulogize her and heal yourself because music is a potent force for good in the healing and grieving process.
This very emotional song and several others can move you and the mourners to tears in a way nothing else does if you end your tribute with it.
If you are, just stick with me for a little while and I will share with you…
Practical tips to help you write a heartfelt mother of the bride speech
How to write a hilarious mother of the speech even if you as serious as a piece of rock
What to say about your son-in-law…get this wrong and you will be regret giving this speech
Plus, a whole lot more tips to help you become the best speaker of the night.
I know what you are thinking at this moment. This is it….
What Do I Say At My Daughter’s Wedding?
Ok….Let’s jump right in
Wouldn’t you feel great having your family and friends compliment you on how great your mother of the bride wedding speech is? I can see you nodding to that idea.
How do I know this? Whenever mothers of the bride ask for help with their speeches, the recurring request is:
‘’Dan, my daughter is getting married and I am at a complete loss as to what to say. Can you help make my speech very special and unique? ‘’
If that’s what you are thinking of , just pause for a moment and picture yourself delivering your mother of the bride speech with poise and confidence.
Again, close your eyes for a moment and imagine how happy you would be if you could easily write a very exceptional and unique mother of the bride speech.Those mental pictures can spur you to work harder for what you want.
This Can Help You Calm Nerves And Master Your Mother Of The Bride Speech
When a bride’s mom imagine saying a few remarks about her daughter and son-in-law nonetheless, her mental disposition looks fuzzy because somehow we have all grown up to believe we are not good enough to speak in public.
The truth is you are not. Guess what? Those beliefs are a result of past experiences. For example, if you goofed up back when you were asked to speak before a small group of people, your family and friends would probably conclude that you are not cut out to be a public speaker.
Based on their baseless feedback, you clung to this view that you are not good enough to speak in public. That explains why you keep messing up whenever you are asked to talk to even a small group of people.
This limiting belief has kept you from becoming the best version of yourself. So, you are not a terrible writer or speaker as you imagine yourself to be.
When you take practical steps to dismantle this mental shackle, you will be bracing yourself up for success.
So, you have approach this with a renewed mindset as how we think, what we believe, and how we act, impact almost everything we sight our focus on.
That being said, let’s look at practical steps to calming your nerves and mastering your speech so you can deliver it with absolute flair and confidence.
Envision yourself speaking confidently even if your mind starts to play silly tricks on you. As you keep your gaze on the positive outcome of your speech in spite of those nagging voices in your head, your fears will be kept at bay.
Don’t be a prisoner of your past. Left go off past experiences and focus on this and you will have peace of mind. No one is going to judge you or rate your performance. They just want to listen to beautiful stories about your daughter and who she’s grown up to be.
It is said that adequate preparation kills stress and anxiety. So, make sure you prepare and plan well ahead of time and you will succeed.
With that said, let’s look at how to plan and prepare for your mother of the bride speech.
Steps To Writing Your Mother Of The Bride Speech
Speaking about planning for your toast, I am reminded of these thoughtful words by Jesus:
“Is there anyone here who, planning to build a new house, doesn’t first sit down and figure the cost so you’ll know if you can complete it? If you only get the foundation laid and then run out of money, you’re going to look pretty foolish. Everyone passing by will poke fun at you: ‘He started something he couldn’t finish.’’- Luke 14: 28-30
Before delivering your presentation, it is crucial to spend time thinking about it by first figuring out what your writing goals are.
The following questions can help you set your writing goals:
Am I going to do this speech all by myself?
Is it a wise idea to do a joint mother or parents of the bride speech with my husband? If you are thinking about that, this video example can help.
Do I want to make a very simple mother of the bride speech?
Do I want to make a short mother of the bride speech?
Do I want to make it hilarious? This is an example:
How do I want to make my family and friends feel after hearing my speech? To make them laugh, cry or both? Here’s a funny mother of the bride speech video example if you have that in mind:
When and where will your mother of the bride speech be delivered? At the bridal shower? Wedding reception? At the rehearsal dinner?
Question: What are your writing goals for this wedding speech? Write it down on stick-it-notes and any other label and fix it to a prominent place in your home to remind you of the task ahead. That way, you won’t put it off until the last moment.
You might also want to consider the duration of your speech. The question most moms ponder is: how long should my mother of the bride speech be? If you ask me what the length of your mother of the bride speech should be, I would tell you to go with what you are comfortable with.
I have written both long and short speeches and in most cases, I made sure the storyline was interesting and exciting.
In the unlikely event that you are asked by the bride to speak for say (five minutes), then please respect her wishes.
You will only be forgiven if you delivered a truly touching mother of the bride toast.
From working with mothers on their speeches, I have come across some really sweet but long mother of the speeches. And I have also seen very short but engaging speeches.
What’s most important is to make sure your speech won’t bore the wedding guests to death.
There should be something in it to make your daughter feel special, loved, and thankful for having you in her life.
Let’s Look At This Next: Memories About Your Daughter
You have to look for fond memories about your daughter since they are like strands of golden threads that connect the past to current events.
So, start by writing down stories about the good and bad times and how much she means to you.
If for some reason, you are struggling to remember all those wonderful moments, then you can follow this route to get them back to your mind.
Where is your family photo album? Go find it and flip through the pages. As you do, ask yourself these questions:
What story does this picture remind me of? Put that memory down on paper
What does each image tell you about her character traits?
Do you still have letters and notes and cards she sent you on important days like your wedding anniversary, valentine day, birthday, mother’s day and so on. Go through them and see if you can find lines you can weave into your presentation
Why don’t you speak with the bride’s father or your own parents and ask them to share some memories? Chances are that they have stories you may have forgotten. They say there’s no harm in asking, right?
Check Out Mother Of The Bride Speech Examples And Templates
This is what I think it’s the most powerful tool for easily and quickly writing mother of the bride speeches.
If you have no idea about what to say, have several ideas but don’t know where to start, how to put your stories together, then I recommend that you look for video and well-written mother of the bride speech examples and templates.
I would like to share these examples with you. The first is a video clip. Why should you watch it?
It’s because mother of the bride speech video examples complement written examples in the sense that you are able to learn how great speeches are actually delivered after it’s captured on paper.
Besides, you can borrow a few ideas from watching them and adapt it for your own script. Here’s a video example:
Of course, the other version of it is the written piece.
I am going to share one with you. Afterwards, we will analyze it through the eyes of a mother of a bride speech writer so that you too can bring frame together beautiful stories about your daughter, using all those memories you have already written down.
This is it:
A Short Mother Of The Bride Speech Example/Template
This is the speech journalist and presenter,Katie Anne Couric, gave at her daughter’s wedding.
“Welcome, everyone. Gosh, I haven’t spoken in front of this many people since I anchored the CBS Evening News!
Given the challenges and sadness of the last year and a half, how lucky are we to be here? Together for a weekend of pure, unadulterated joy, and for some of you, a never-ending booze fest. And while I’m not going to get political here, I am going to quote Hillary Clinton — who famously said, ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’ Because our village is here tonight.
I could never name every person, every act of kindness and support so many people here have shown our family through the years because we’d never get back on the dance floor. But from Thanksgivings in Boston, Easters in Darien, countless playdates and dinners, birthdays remembered from near and far, beachbarbecues, churros at Disneyland, swimming in the Caribbean, dancing in a restaurant in Serifos, Halloween, proms and parties, and navigating mean boys during those harrowing high school years, how incredibly lucky we’ve been to have all of you in our lives, in good times and in bad.
As many of you know, there’s no finer compliment than hearing you’ve done a good job raising your children. I can say with certainty I could not have done it without Lori Beth Meyer, who is here tonight. For 11 years, Lori Beth was my partner in almost every way. I will be forever grateful for her unwavering love, support, and patience and for bringing stability to our often wobbly three-legged stool.
As time marched on, Ellie’s village expanded. Roots and wings, my sister-in-law Clare used to say, that’s what you need to give your children. While many of you helped build a strong foundation, there are others here tonight who helped Ellie soar and come into her own.
Many of the amazing young women here (and a few good men) represent the deep and lasting friendships formed at Yale. And to see Ellie bond with such a fantastic, dynamic group of friends in Los Angeles is both thrilling and wonderfully comforting.
Meanwhile, the Molners have added such a rich, unexpected dimension to our lives. John’s love and devotion, wicked sense of humor, and exacting personality — well, Molner, you’ve got your hands full and I can’t imagine life without Henry, Allie, Tom, Andy, and David. And the fact that Herbie and Paula immediately treated Ellie and Carrie like their own grandchildren means the world to us.
Now you’re probably wondering, along with Mark, ‘When is she going to get to the groom?’ For the past 11 years, the center of Ellie’s universe has been Mark. Now, I have to be honest. Throughout her 20, I urged — OK begged Ellie to date around, play the field. God knows I did in my 20s. But Ellie wasn’t having it. She knew.
Ellie — this warm, kind, sensitive, sentimental, perceptive, empathetic, determined, spirited young woman just knew that she had already found the yin to her yang, the peanut butter to her jelly, the Jack to her Jill. Mark — she knew.
And now, this we all know: You are a treasure. My parents, adored by both Ellie and Carrie, would have called you a ‘fine person’ — the highest praise in our family. It’s been a privilege to get to know you and I feel even closer to you now, after hearing the reflections of your friends and family.
Your effortless talent, your humility, your loyalty, your steadiness, your patience. But most of all, we love you for loving Ellie with all your heart.
And now we have The Dobroskys!!! Mark, simply put, you have the greatest family. Granted, Loretta’s a little competitive, so I do foresee some tense salad bowl moments in our future, but seriously, what a terrific group of people! So warm and so fun.
I couldn’t be happier that our families are now connected. I hope this is the beginning of many holidays spent together…hopefully at the Dobrosky’s house, and I hope it’s OK if I bring some Molners and Monahans, and a few Batchelors and Courics and Wadlows. And don’t worry Loretta, I’ll bring my mom’s famous pear lime jello salad.
I wouldn’t be honest if I didn’t tell you that for many years I’d been dreading this day — because of the people who are not here. Ellie’s maternal and paternal grandparents. Mark’s maternal and paternal grandparents, although Whitey almost made it. Ellie’s aunt Marilyn.
My oldest sister Emily who adored Ellie. But most of all, the father of the bride, Jay Monahan. Jay would be so proud of you both and so thrilled that Ellie married a lacrosse player. And a terrific guy.
When Jay was in the throes of cancer and it seemed as if the end of his life might be near, he looked at me and said, ‘You know, nothing really matters except your friends and family.‘ When everything else was stripped away, Jay understood what was essential to a meaningful life. Ellie, he would be beaming to witness the woman you’ve become…and somehow, some way, I hope he is.
My mom used to say, ‘Into everyone’s life a little rain must fall.’ Life, in fact, is a strange alchemy of joy and sorrow, hope and despair, triumphs and disappointments.
But in the immortal words of Carrie’s favorite, Kacey Musgraves, ‘Hold tight to your umbrella, cause darling I’m just trying to tell you that there’s always been a rainbow hanging over your head.’ Hold tight to your umbrella, and to each other.
Many of us who are on the ‘back nine,’ as John would say, want you to cherish this very special chapter in your life. Enjoy every single minute…it goes by in an instant, and soon enough you may be giving a toast at your daughter’s wedding. (Don’t worry, I’m not pushing…take your time).
Here’s to Mark and Ellie — I wish you sunny skies and the fortitude to get through stormy weather. But most of all, I wish you a life bursting with love, light, and laughter. Cheers!”
If you muttered to yourself that this is something you can easily come up with while looking that example over, you really deserve a huge pat on the back.
But, with so many things to do to make sure that your daughter’s wedding is a blast, writing a sweet mother of the bride speech like that one can be a real struggle considering that you might not have sufficient time and peace of mind to collect your thoughts.
I have seen this happen to so many moms who cranked out scrappy notes about their daughter’s life in just a few days to the wedding.
Things can be fairly easy for you when you plan out your writing. When you spend more time planning what to say, you will spend less time on the writing process.
What’s more, it helps you to organize your thoughts, find the best stories to support your ideas, and gives your writing a cohesive, logical flow and structure.
The best way to do this is to develop a structure for your mother of the bride speech. If you study the above template or any other example you will find this structure:
Introductory remarks
Body or outline
Conclusion
Every introduction has these features:
Greetings/Salutation and short-self introduction: Here’s an example:
Hello everyone. I’m Margaret and I’m Marc’s mother. On behalf of our entire family, I’d like to thank all of you from coming from far and near to join us in this very special celebration.
Thank your family and friends for their help and support
You simply write down names of friends and family who played a key role in your daughter’s life. This example can give you a perfect idea:
I’d like to thank my grandmother Dix, my mother and father, my brother and sister-in-law Dan and Frank, my sister and brother-in-law Zion and Jim, Aunt Theres and Uncle Joe, Aunt Sussie, and Ken for your unconditional love, time, laughter, wisdom, advice, babysitting, encouragement, generosity, and sense of family continuity.
We are forever grateful and have been incredibly lucky and blessed to have all of you in our lives, in good times and in bad.
Then, there’s another aspect of the intro called the hook. This illustration can help you understand it better.
Suppose you have been asked to deliver a keynote speech at a very important function. How would you start your address? You are most likely to start on a positive note that will make a great first impression.
If you start off on a wrong note, people would form a bad impression of you and conclude that your presentation will sound like a stale joke.
That shouldn’t be your lot. It should be like the words your spouse said on your first date: sweet and concise. Do you still remember it?
Here Are A Few Very Effective Ways To Write A Sensational Hook
You can share a story about what happened before or after her birth. I still remember how a mom shared a funny story about the arrival of their new bundle of blessings. The visibly excited new dad and husband was so overjoyed that he lost control of the steering wheel and ended up in a dump unharmed. Do you have such stories to back up your speech? Put them down and share it with the wedding guests.
Any funny memory from her childhood? Did she wear your wig and use your lipstick? Was she fun to be around? Anna told me when we worked on her speech that her little girl got lost on a park and her blood pressure shot through the roof that someone thought she needed a defibrillator.
To make your introduction heart touching, you can incorporate one liners, quotes, and wise sayings to enhance your delivery. Here are some love quotes you may use. Kindly take note of the underlined sections because we will be using it for another purpose.
A daughter is just a little girl who grows up to be your best friend.”
— Unknown
“To my beautiful daughter. If I could only give you one thing in this life, I would give you the ability to see yourself how I see you every single day. Your beauty, your kindness, how happy you make me and how proud I am of you. Perhaps then you would be able to understand just how special you are to me.”
— Dave Hedges
“I will let my daughter do whatever her heart wants. I will support her and guide her and give her all the knowledge that I have because I want her to succeed in whatever she loves.”- The Miz
“A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart.” – Unknown
Our daughters are the most precious of our treasures, the dearest possessions of our homes, and the objects of our most watchful love. – Margaret Elizabeth Sangster
Can you use any of those quotes to write something engaging? Ok, I am going to use the underlined words from the above quotes.
Here they are:
If I could only give you one thing in this life, I would give you the ability to see yourself how I see you every single day.
I will support her and guide her and give her all the knowledge that I have because I want her to succeed in whatever she loves.”- The Miz
“A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart
My mom used to say that daughters are the most precious treasures of every woman. I understood that better when Karen came into my life one a blistery winter night. I still remember it as if it only yesterday when they handed her to me and I could tell by that special look in her eyes she was my life’s most precious treasure.
On that day, I was overwhelmed with a deep sense of love, joy, and gratitude. She was a truly beautiful gift. That night, I looked into her smiling eyes and promised myself to support and guide herso she grows to be the best version of herself.
Years have flown by and she’s grown into the woman of my dreams. Karen, you have grown into a beautiful woman inside out, but you will never outgrow my heart.
That’s exactly how to make the most of the quotes!
The body follows the introduction. The body is also known as the speech outline. With a lot of memories floating in your brain, it can be hard to distill years of memories into a succinct presentation.
I have been lucky to review several drafts which were not only difficult to follow but also had rich ideas scattered all over the place.
In view of this, almost every mom who’s creating a speech outline feels overwhelmed by questions like…
What should I say about my daughter?
What should I say about the groom?
How do I piece my story together and make it flow from start to end?
These questions can leave you feeling anxious, worried, and confused. But, this simple trick can help make you feel better and make your ideas flow.
Here’s what to do.
Step 1. Draw a line straight down the middle of a piece of paper so that you have two columns.
Step 2. At the top of the left column, write “Body of my speech(bride)”. At the top of the right column write “Body of my speech(groom)”.
Step 3. In the left column for the bride, start putting down answers to the following questions:
What was she like when she was a little girl?
How did she make my life much better? How about her siblings?
What are some fond memories you recall?
What were her positive character traits growing up?
What are your most proud moments as a mom?
This happens next: Narrow down the ideas you would really like to use for the content of your mother of the bride speech.
Then, you may go back to read a great example like this one or the one above for clarity and inspiration before writing a rough draft.
This is equally the case when crating short notes about your new son-in-law. But, in this case, you should reflect on these questions:
What are the positive attributes of the man my daughter is getting married to?
What impression did he leave on you when you first met or got to know him?
In what ways does he make your daughter a happy person?
How does he balance her out?
Do you have some really fond memories about the groom?
Now, let’s look at this:
How To Write A Conclusion For Your Mother Of The Bride Speech
Can you write one without trying so hard? If you ever write an example like this one (see below) then you are good to go because that’s what we hear at most weddings.
‘’ Here’s to Dan and Melissa — I wish you the best in everything you do now, tomorrow and forever. Cheers!’’
But, did you know you can make it more fun, memorable and exciting? Imagine ending your toast with these lines culled from the above sample:
Enjoy every single minute…it goes by in an instant, and soon enough you may be giving a toast at your daughter’s wedding. (Don’t worry, I’m not pushing…take your time).
How about ending with this song before proposing your toast to happy couple? But, you need a good voice to make this possible. Can you do that?
This third approach never fails. Pick what makes a marriage work and speak about it. You can share practical tips about communicating, dealing with resentment and anger, coping with the high and lows moments, keeping the romance and spark in marriage, managing your finances and so on. You may share a little bit of each.
If you have been in a very loving relationship for many years, you may share your personal secrets to marriage longevity. Here’s an example:
Have you lost your wife and are looking for tips and ideas to help you write a touching eulogy for your wife?
The thought of giving one can be very overwhelming in this very difficult time. So, just stick with me for a little while and I will share with you everything you need about…
Writing a amazing eulogy for wife
How to make the most of eulogy for wife examples
How to get ideas for your tribute for your wife and mother of your children
How to make your eulogy for your wife funny, heartfelt, and inspiring.
How to end a eulogy for your wife
Plus, so much more
The first question on the mind of every man who has lost his spouse is:
What Should I Say At My Wife’s Funeral?
Let me start by saying there’s nothing more beautiful than spending the rest of your life with someone you love and truly care for.
It’s interesting how and where many find the love of their lives. Some find true love on a bus. Others find it on a vacation get away and some others find it in school.
I don’t know you met each other. But, I can only imagine how you felt when you first met the love of your life. Before you knew it, you started dating and realized that you were so much into each other.
When it eventually dawned on you that she fits you like a glove, you went down on knee and asked her to marry you.
You exchanged vows. You had your wedding dance. You were blessed with kids. Life took off as expected. You promised to love and stand by each other until the end of time.
When you least expected it, she died; leaving you to face this cruel world alone with no one to hold your back. Your inspirer, muse, friend, confidant, rock, your babe is gone. Who do you turn to now for help, support, advice and reassurance? Only God knows.
Well, I don’t know how long you were together. If you just got married, been together for a just year, a quarter or half of a century and death have robbed you of the love of your life, I can feel your pain because it really hurts.
I feel deeply sorry for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you in this very difficult time.
By this, I am reminded of the lyrics of Bill Withers classic: Lean On Me. Part of the lyrics says that sometimes in our lives, we all have pain. We all have sorrows. Lean on me when you are strong. Just call on me brother when you need a hand.
If you need someone to talk to or send you some comforting words, don’t hesitate to send me a message and I would do my very best to get back to you with healing words.
You can also take comfort from reading this beautiful poem. Just keep reading it through the tears and you will feel a lot better.
Here it is:
Those We Love- Arthur Unknown
Those we love don’t go away
They walk beside us every day.
Unseen, unheard but always near.
Still loved,, still missed and very dear.
Steps To Write A Eulogy For Your Deceased Wife
First and foremost, you should set your writing goals and stick with them to make the writing process much easier as it can be very challenging to think straight when you are grieving your loved one.
So, start by defining the kind of triubte you would like to deliver. To do that, ask yourself these basic questions:
Do you simply want to tell a story of how you met your wife?
Do you wish to highlight what made her a very special wife and mom?
Would you like to make a very heartfelt eulogy speech that encompasses your love story and her remarkable attributes as a person, wife and mom of your children?
In my opinion, it’s best to stick with the last speaking style because that's the most impactful.
What you might also want to consider next is the length of your wife’s eulogy speech. With that in mind, you might want to ask yourself this question : how long should my eulogy tribute for my wife be?
Well, that depends on these factors:
How long you have been asked to speak; stick to the time and don’t go overboard because it’s a very sensitive time for her family.
How long you wish to speak; don’t make it very long unless you are the only speaking at her funeral or memorial service.
A note about the duration of your eulogy: I have written both short and long tributes before and both worked for my clients.
Once, I wrote a eulogy for a man who had been married for 50 years.
I thought he wanted to deliver a long tribute considering how long they had been married. But, he asked me to condense his funeral tribute to just two pages.
Another person had been married for only a few years, but gave me lots of details which resulted in a very long presentation.
Did you notice the difference?
On the whole, you should write your eulogy in a way that properly honors your precious wife in a very special way.
Now, would you like to do a short or long tribute? You have to decide on that. Don’t go with the flow. Be the flow.
Having said that, let’s look at how to put your thoughts and ideas together to form a deeply meaningful eulogy speech for your wife that will honor and bless the memory of your life.
This is….
How To Write A Eulogy For Your Wife
Most husbands have amazing stories about their wives. But, they start on a wrong note and it makes the writing process even more stressful.
Here’s the biggest mistake I see people make all the time. They have several memories of what to say and what not to say. But they find it so difficult to distill a lifetime of memories and shared experiences into a very moving piece.
Not sure where to start or what to do next, they look up some eulogy speech for wife examples online and just modify it a bit to suit their writing needs.
Writing a heartfelt tribute for your wife is not like a homework assignment. It rather involves pouring your whole heart, mind, and soul into creating a story that will bless and honor the memory of your wife.
In addition to that, it forms an integral part of the grieving and healing process and should be treated as such.
So, before you even think of writing your eulogy speech for your beloved wife and mother of the children, you should start with the end in mind.
What do you mean by that? Let me put it this way. Memories are the heart and soul of great eulogies. Hence, you have to take a deep breath and sit back in your chair. Then, recollect all those great moments you have spent together.
As you do that, just put down the good and bad (challenging) memories and let your sad tears stream down your checks.
If you are struggling to recollect all those fine moments, then I recommend you do this to come up with all those great memories.
Scan through her old and new photos. Look for photos of you and your wife and the children. As you pore over those pictures, ask yourself these simple questions:
(a)What does each picture bring to mind? Write down every memory you can think and pick your favorite anecdotes.
(b) Does this picture depict her character traits? If so, what aspect of her character does it portray?
Why not talk to others who know a little bit about your spouse? For example, your own children can tell you great stories about their mom.
If for some reason, you didn’t have children of your own, you may ask her family to share happy memories. The memories you highlight in your tribute doesn’t always have to be your own love stories.
For instance, if you are mentioning how kind she was, you can include a story or two about how she left her job to care for her sick mom who had cancer.
Don’t you think her mom (if alive) would thank you for mentioning this in your tribute?
Do you have a journal that chronicled your relationship with her? Leaf through that diary and put down very fond memories about when you met, how you met, when you got married, the high and low moments, wedding anniversaries, birthday celebrations, and so on.
Letters and love notes exchanged, birthday and valentine day cards you received from each other can be a treasure chest of memories. So, look for those materials and read through them once more and write down any stuff you think you can weave into your funeral tribute for your beloved wife.
Have you, her family or friends created her memorial tribute slideshow yet? Go get it and watch it a couple of times to help you recall some really wonderful, positive memories about your spouse and your time together.
Here’s something to get things going: Have you put down a few memories about her? What really stood out for you? Do those anecdotes capture her true spirit and personality?
Ok….we will be using those anecdotes when we get to the part about putting your stories together beautiful. We will get to that in a moment.
It can be very tempting to try to put those thoughts together after collecting all those precious memories. Unless you are a very skilled wordsmith, you are going to struggle to make sense of it all.
To make sure your story comes together perfectly, you first have to get a fair idea of how funeral tributes are delivered.
This is what you can do about this now. Go to youtube.com and insert your preferred keyword. In this case, it would be eulogy speech for wife, funeral speech for wife, and so on.
When you do that, video clips like those below would pop up. You may watch a couple of them and write down ideas you think can help make your tribute for your wife very touching and inspiring.
Eulogy Speech For Wife Video Examples#1
Eulogy Speech For Wife Video Samples#2
Have you noticed how I have been laying the groundwork for the actual writing all this while? That’s how it should be but not the other way around.
Do you remember that I talked about the power of eulogy speech templates at the outset?
Such examples can easily and quickly write a eulogy speech tribute for your wife.
Now, I want us to study this example together. As we do, write down ideas and tips you think can help honor and bless the memory of your wife.
Afterwards, we will analyze the whole thing so you can figure out how to put those wonderful memories together to form a very beautiful tribute that honors the life and legacy of your wife.
Eulogy For Friend Example
Thank you so much for coming to celebrate the life and mourn the loss of my precious wife, Melissa.
I once read this beautiful quote about the beauty of love in all its forms. It says that the greatest thing in life is to love and be loved in return. That applies to the intense love Melissa and I had for each other. She made me feel loved, safe and taken care of through thick and thin.
Although death has put out that bright light in her heart and I have to face this word without her by side, the memories we’ve made is a priceless treasure that will always be tucked safely in my heart because her love is stronger than death.
No matter how hard death tries, it still can’t stop me from loving her. Melissa was my partner in life for 39 years. She was my best friend, my cheerleader, my advisor, my one true love, and my other half.
For those of you who don’t know, I met her a year after my divorce, we were both at a high school football game. Who would have thought that my soul mate would be sitting on the bleachers that night?
Our first date was at a burger king. We sat in a corner booth and talked and talked. The hours flew by and I knew something special was happening, as did she.
After that we were pretty inseparable. We saw each other daily and still had more to say so we talked on the phone. I couldn’t get enough of her. People used to say that we wouldn’t last. But we proved them wrong.
Melissa was not a person to shrug off a challenge, and I wanted to prove to the world that our love was real and true and would stand up to the test of time. I guess I can stand here today and say Mission Accomplished, but I still don’t want to believe that she’s gone. I feel this huge crater in my chest where my heart used to be.
Melissa took it with her to Heaven, and one day when we meet again, she will give it back to me.
We took care of each other. She was amazing when I had 6 surgeries starting in August of 2015. She was always there for me, never saying “wait, I didn’t sign up for this!”
And when I was first invited to share my PhD argument at Harvard, she was so excited for me, and remained so every semester when they invited me back.
The funny thing is, I couldn’t have gotten that achievement at the ripe old age of 63 without her support, her sacrifice, and her commitment. Everything I’ve done is because of her, and for her.
Then, when it was her turn, we took on her 12- month battle together. I was her caregiver and never missed a single day spending time with her, taking her to her labs, watching her ring the bell after she went into remission in February of 2020, and the following May when we were told
it was back, we held one another and cried together.
She was so brave and had to endure so much. If I could have taken that cancer away, I would have died in her place with a smile, knowing I was leaving behind a better world because it still had her in it. Her determination for that entire time cemented her as my hero.
She was an absolutely remarkable woman who never had to put on airs or pretend to be anything but herself. She didn’t require, nor did she want diamonds, furs, elaborate gifts or trips.
She loved our simple life, sitting on a park bench holding hands, or going to subway or an Italian restaurant for dinner. All she wanted, all she required was my time. I was amazed by her, and still think that she was perfect in every way.
She was my queen, and I treated her as such. I cherished each and every day that God gifted me with her.
She was also an amazing mom. I can’t even imagine what Alden, Naomi, and Mike are going through. I know how heartbroken and devastated I feel, but for them…they have so many milestones ahead in their lives that they have to celebrate now without Mom.
Alden, won’t have her to mentor her throughout her life’s journey. Naomi will no longer be able cozy up with her on the couch.
And Mike will miss her always being there whenever he calls or texts, faithfully. But I’m sure she’ll be watching her “Listle B” which is what she called Adam,
“Peanut” which was Mike’s nickname, and her precious “Squash” or Alden from above and celebrating every moment of their lives.
Alden, Naomi, and Mike, you are not alone. Mom’s guiding presence will always be with us. Never, ever forget that.
Melissa was a hard worker who was very loyal to her employer. She was also devoted to Christ and often on breaks she would take her Bible out to her car or in the breakroom and sit and read it.
I’m very grateful that we were both saved. She loved to journal, do calligraphy, and create her arts and crafts.
Most importantly, she loved spending time with me and our kids. She enjoyed taking us and touring all over the state of NC and participating in festivals, gold/jewel mining, trying new foods, visiting parks, and places of interest such as a Whipple wheel exhibit in Wilson NC.
She also enjoyed riding her motorcycle while listening to her worship music and riding the scenic Blue Ridge Parkway or the back roads of NC/VA.
Melissa was also one of those people that attracted others to her. She drew them in, and once they became her friend, she was a friend for life. She exuded honor, faithfulness, integrity, and trustworthiness.
In case I haven’t made it clear yet, I loved being married to Melissa. She brought joy to my life.
She completed me. She accepted me as I was, and that was enough for her. I will spend the rest of my days thanking God for every minute I had her, and waiting for the day I will see her again.
You know, right before they took her out of the home to respite care in August, she told me that a few days before, she awoke and Jesus was standing at her feet with His hands down by his side.
She said He didn’t say a word nor made any motions. He simply stared at her and she said He faded away like the fog burning off in the morning sun.
I told her that I thought He was coming to take her home. Sure enough, about 4 weeks later, The Lord did just that. Without a doubt she is in the arms of her Lord today and that’s our consolation.
I would like to end with a verse of scripture.
The Bible says in Genesis 2:24 ‘’Therefore a
man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh
That is so true for Melissa and I. Our love story was like playing a beautiful symphony. We were a perfect duet. Our family chain is currently broken, but soon, it will be linked again. Someday, on golden shores where we would shed no tears about the loss of our loved ones. I will run to her and she will smile at me.
We will once again be together, but this time for eternity. Until that day my love, dance with angels, walk with the Lord, and rest in perfect peace.
That is a touching tribute for a religious woman and Christian by a loving father and husband.
Did that move you to tears? Imagine writing something like that for your wife? Your family and hers will be grateful for honoring her in such a befitting manner.
But, how do you go from staring aimlessly at the computer screen to filling it with powerful words that honor the memory of your wife in a very special way?
Start by breaking down any eulogy speech examples into three main parts:
Introduction
Body or content
Conclusion
Once you have created that structure for your eulogy, the writing process will be a lot more easier.
Let’s Look At How To Write The Introduction
To give you an idea, this is an excerpt of the above introduction to help us find the right words.
‘’ Thank you so much for coming to celebrate the life and mourn the loss of my precious wife, Melissa. ‘’
Your introductory remarks are the most essential part of your tribute, so you have to start well.
How do you start well? Here are five practical steps to start on a very impactful note. Let’s see exactly how it works.
First, start by thanking everyone for coming. You may take it a step further by thanking certain personalities. People like:
The deceased’s mom and dad and her entire family for their help and support in this very difficult time
Your own family
Her friends and yours
Her doctor and other medical staff
Question: Who would like to express gratitude to ? Do a little brainstorming and write down names of individuals who have been of tremendous help to your dead wife.
That simple writing task can get your creative juices flowing.
Second, you can start off by sharing how you feel about her loss.
Here’s an example for a young couple (from a man to a dead wife):
Ever since we got married five (5) years ago, I have always dreamed of spending the rest of my life through thick and thin.
But, my heart is broken into a million pieces and it still feels like she carried my body, soul, and spirit with her into the grave because love was meant to be forever.
How do you heal a broken heart? I need my wife to tell me. We were totally inseparable and family and friends noticed this and called us ‘’two bars of chocolate stuck in the mouth...''
Third, start with a touching quote, poem, wise saying, her favorite saying, or bible verse if you are a Christian. Let’s use this quote to come up with our opening lines.
“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return”
― Moulin Rouge
Here you go:
I once read a quote that says that the greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return. Well, Margaret was the best thing to have ever happened to me and I found my life’s greatest gift in her.
Isn’t that sweet and powerful? Do you want to start your introduction with a quote?
Fourth, it takes a strong man to start his funeral tribute with a song. But, if you can do it, please do that by all means if you really want it to be the best eulogy tribute ever.
You may take inspiration from Whitney Houston’s: ‘’Where Do Broken Hearts Go? ''
Imagine how deeply meaningful and eloquent your speech will be if you make it a parody of that popular song. You may re-write aspects of it this way and sing it this way:
I know it's been some time But there's something on my mind
You see, I haven't been the same Since that cold November(change it to the day she died) day You said goodbye to me unexpectedly But all I found was an empty place in my heart And the only things I learned Is that I need you desperately
So here I am And can you please tell me, oh
Where do broken hearts go? Can they find their way home Back to the open arms of my Of a love that's waiting at the other side?
How would you feel if you heard someone begin their tribute with those lyrics?Let’s move to another thing.
Fifth, you can simply start with a story of how and when you met your departed wife. That’s so easy to do, right? If you need an example, here’s one:
I met Heather in 1962 at a Catholic church
dance. It was a barn dance, and it was a roaring
20’s theme. I was there with a group of Navy
men and we were sitting on one side of the barn
while the ladies all sat on the other. No one was
actually dancing yet….
How To Write The Body Or Speech Outline Of Your Eulogy
The second part of the presentation is the body or content structure of your speech. It comes after the introduction and is a continuation of the ideas raised in the introduction.
With so many happy and sad memories tucked in your mind, it can be pretty hard to know where to start.
If you are caught in this dilemma, you can follow this simple plan so you can easily organize your thoughts.
This is what I want you to do now. Grab a sheet of paper and provide answers to the following questions:
What were the early years of your marriage like?
What were your collective achievements ?
How did she impact your life and the family and others she ever met?
How did she make your house a home?
What are the most memorable moments you have had together?
What are her personal attributes? Was she giving? Loving? Caring? Do you have an anecdote that highlights those character traits?
Question: What you written down answers to those questions. You may go back to read the example above and let it inspire you to piece together a beautiful story about your wife.
The first draft can be a real mess. So don’t be discouraged if your first attempt doesn’t look great. Get back to it another time and get rid of the excesses until your writing sparkles.
How To End Your Eulogy For Your Wife
The conclusion comes after the body. Let’s look at a few ways of bringing closure to your tribute.
You can end by sharing her wishes with the mourners. I once wrote a tribute where the deceased remarked that she didn’t want everyone to be sad when she passed. Here’s how I captured her last wishes.
While we mourning her loss, let us be thankful for her presence in our lives. Before she passed, she told me to tell you not to be too sad because that’s not what she wants. She said we should laugh at her jokes and share good stories about all those wonderful moments.
Is that something you would like to do? If so, your answer should be based on your wife’s last wishes.
You may conclude with a poem by Ryann. Here’s a perfect example:
When I try to take a break and relax in my busy life, my heart, it does ache, and all I think is how I miss my wife.
It hurts me so bad, all this pain inside, thinking of the love we had and the tears I have cried.
I think of the places that we went to, how I love you with all my heart and all the things we didn't get to do, but most of all how we have been torn apart.
I miss you so and love you still. I did not want to let you go, but I tell myself it was God's will.
Every day I see things you've done. It is lonely without you here. I try to be strong for our wonderful son,
If you have nothing to say, just thank everyone for coming and reassure your children that you will stand by them at all times.
Share with your family and friends how and why you will miss her.
Writing and delivering a mother of the groom speech that honors your son and daughter-in-law at the wedding reception or rehearsal dinner is a huge responsibility you shouldn’t take lightly.
Well, if you are looking for tips and ideas about what to say and what not to say and have no clue, have no fear because I am here to help.
In this complete guide, I will share with you:
Proven tips and ideas to help you write a funny and sentimental mother of the groom speech
How and where to get great ideas for your wedding speech for your son
How to make the most of mother of the groom speech examples
What to say about your new daughter-in-law
How to calm your nerves and speak with poise and clarity
How to start and end your mother of the groom speech
Plus a whole lot more
Ok, let’s get down to business.
What Should A Mother Of The Groom Say In Her Speech?
When the groom’s mom imagine making a mother of the groom’s speech, she has just one goal, And that’s doing everything she can to make her son proud with her speech.
Six years ago, Bum set her sights on delivering the best mother of the groom speech ever when her only child and son was getting married to a very wonderful lady.
When she reached out for help, I was a little hesitant because I was inundated with work. I asked to take care of it since she is a writer. She sure was good with words. But, she was freaking out as she had no experience with writing wedding speeches.
So, I ended up helping her out. Well, you might be probably thinking that if a writer like her couldn’t put her story together beautifully, then you stand no chance of success.
Just take a moment to imagine how you would you feel if you pluck up the courage and speak with confidence and poise?
Again, picture yourself being showered with very sincere praises and compliments from family and friends for being the best speaker of the night. Wouldn’t you like it?
Also, envision being hugged and kissed by your son for having made him proud with your mother of the groom speech. Wouldn’t that leave you with a great feeling of joy, pride, and excitement? It sure will and you will thank me if you ever get back to me when the wedding bells stop ringing.
All these and more are the possibilities a really good mother of the groom wedding speech gives.
What I am going to share with you isn’t some theory stuff or something I came up with on the fly.
It’s based on my personal working experience as a mother of the groom speech wedding speech writer.
So, please grab your pen, journal, notepad or open up your word document and put away anything that will most likely interfere with doing things right.
This Can Help You Deliver Your Mother Of The Groom Speech With Ease
Before I let you in on all the tips and examples, there’s one thing I would like bring to your attention as it can hinder you from achieving your wedding speaking dreams.
I will talk about it in the next chapter and outline steps to deal with it so you can string your thoughts together beautifully and deliver your speech with ease.
What I am talking about is something that happens to everyone, including the best public speakers out there.
Do you feel a bit faint when imagine how your mother of the groom speech will go? It’s perfectly normal to feel that way prior to doing anything in life. So, don’t be alarmed if you start to panic.
This illustration can clear things up for you. Let’s say you are still learning how to drive a car. Your spouse thinking you have mastered turning the wheel asks if it would be possible to take the family out on a road trip.
Wanting to show off your newly-acquired driving skills, you agree to do that. As the day draws closer and close, you start to feel a little nervous and anxious as you are not too sure how it will go. I am sure you won’t have very sound sleep if you are a very confident driver.
Here’s the thing about public speaking anxiety: We always get a little timid if we have little or no experience in whatever we set our focus on. Nonetheless, everyone has to start from somewhere to get to somewhere.
By this, I am reminded of the Chinese proverb that says that the journey of a thousand miles begin with a single step. Similarly, writing your mother of the groom should start with a single step. Unfortunately, most mothers ended up taking triple steps by quickly putting their thoughts together after leafing through couple of mother of the groom speech templates.
The end result is a horrible patchwork of disjointed ideas which makes them vulnerable to apprehension. Thus, concluding that it’s better to say something than not to say anything at all.
Let me ask you these simple questions (just be truthful with yourself):
How did you feel when your son called out of the blue and asked you to deliver your mother of the groom speech? Did you feel jittery? I attribute this mood to the fear of failure. Most moms are so afraid of the unknown and so afraid of failing at things in which they have limited or no expertise, which is why you feel a bit frazzled. Don’t worry; I am going to help you overcome this soon.
Are you a naturally confident person? The tips I will be outlining shortly can help boost your self-confidence.
Do you have past public speaking failures?
Have you ever found yourself writing a speech only to run of ideas?
These and other issues are the underlying causes of your nervousness. Feeling nervousness is not always a bad thing. It happens to everyone.
I remember like it was yesterday when my heart thumped with fear when I was asked to deliver a tribute at grandma’s funeral. But, I felt a bit better once I started speaking.
So, you don’t have to feel down or low about those feeling of uneasiness. Your nerves can rather help you meet this challenge and motivate you to reach your speaking goals.
But, how? Let go off the past and keep imagining your family and friends smiling and applauding you for a great done as you deliver your wedding tribute for your son.
As you keep imagining this positive outcome in your head, it will keep fears at bay and help build up your self-esteem and confidence.
This is what I want you to do right now to calm your nerves: Take lots of deep breaths and let out a huge sigh to relax your body and mind. Then, start to imagine good things happening to you as you deliver your mother of the groom speech for your son and daughter before your family and friends.
Don’t do it once. Practice this daily until it gets into your sub-consciousness so that it will be your potent defense mechanism when your mind starts to play tricks on you.
Do This And You Will Succeed
Do you remember the old saying that if you are not planning to succeed, you are planning to fail? To succeed at this, you first have to dream it, and then plan it out to make your vision a reality.
Having a solid plan in place helps you streamline your thoughts in a coherent manner. It also helps you craft a structure for your mother of the groom speech.
To make ideas flow in logical step, you may follow this simple plan. Start by creating a vision board for your mother of the groom speech.
A vision board is simply a projected outcome of how you want your speech to go. For example, you can write any of these words or phrases on your vision board:
I want my mother of the groom wedding speech to be funny, emotional, and inspirational.
I want to simply share stories about my son
I want to leave them with moist eyes
How do I start and end my mother of the groom speech?
Without a clear vision on your speech vision board, it would hard to direct your efforts in ways that satisfy your writing needs. Got the picture? Ok, let’s go on.
Those words (your vision for the speech) can be on a poster board, stick-it- notes, a plain paper like an A4 sheet, or on any other material.
Then, fasten your vision board to a prominent place in your home. Not only will this prevent procrastination but also ensure that you work hard to achieve your goals.
Now, let’s look at …
How And Where To Get Ideas For Your Mother Of The Groom Speech
A lot of times, good ideas mostly come to the curious mind and the best way to spark your curiosity is by getting your feet wet.
You can get your feet by first watching mother of the groom speech video clips. There are so many (best and worst) of such examples out there that it becomes pretty hard to figure out the right videos to watch for guidance and inspiration.
To give you a proof, you will find so many videos if you go to youtube.com and insert this broad keyword (mother of the groom speech) into the search box. These results will pop out:
I guess you can’t watch all of that due to time constraints. Hence, you should look for simpler and easier ways of getting great videos (like the one below) you can watch and profit them.
To save time and energy, you should look for videos that align with your vision for your mother of the groom speech.
For example, if you are thinking of doing a funny mother of the groom speech, you should insert the keyword’’ hilarious mother of the groom speech’’ and you will find a video like this:
Again, if you are thinking of doing a sentimental/touching mother of the groom speech, you may use that keyword and its variants. You can watch and learn from this example:
Do you see where this is going? Watching those videos give you an idea of how mother of the groom speeches are made.
Let me add that you can watch the worst videos if you have some time so you don’t repeat the mistakes those speakers made.
Let me ask you this:
Did you really watch any of those videos?
And did you learn a thing or two?
Is there anything in those video clips that struck a chord with you?
Would you like to model your mother of the groom speech after those videos?
If you just watched them for pleasure, then you go back and re-watch one or two and jot down ideas you feel might be very helpful for your writing needs.
Writing A Lovely Mother Of The Groom Speech Starts Right Here
Wouldn’t it be great if you could write your mother of the groom speech at this point? I wish we could do that. But, you have to go back in time to recall all those great moments you have had with your son and the whole family. This would make the writing process a breeze.
You see, memories are the heartbeat of all memorable speeches. Unfortunately, as we grow and age, we often forget about all those precious memories.
Sometimes, they are just lying dormant in your mind and you only need something to prop them up to the surface.
Since a good speech is a collection of happy memories, I want us to get as many memories as possible down on paper using these well-known methods:
Flip through your old journal/diary (if you have them) and write down his life’s events you would like to use for your mother of the groom speech.
Pore through old family photos and videos and other mementos to rekindle lost memories. As you go through those beloved belongingness and keepsakes, write down what each photo brings to mind and the memory they convey.
As an example, you can flip through his childhood photos and ask yourself what they remind you of? You can also scan photos of his teenage years and so on.
You don’t have to worry if for some reason, you can’t find his photos or you are really struggling to remember specific details. Your family members can be a source of tremendous help here.
Just talk to his dad, his brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, grandpa and grandma, and they will be happy to share some really fond memories that can embellish your words beautifully.
Family scrapbooks come in handy if you want to recollect very warm memories. So, can letters, notes and cards he sent you on important days like on your birthday, mother’s day, wedding anniversary, and so on.
Once, a mom asked to work on her mother of the groom speech. Whilst reviewing her information, I found a very touching letter her son sent when he was on the war front. I felt it might make her mother of the groom speech very heartfelt and I ended up infusing its contents into my draft which made her cry.
Here’s an excerpt of it:
‘’Fourteen years ago, you sent me heartfelt note. In that poem, you spoke so lovingly of the love we have for each other, the great sacrifices I have made for you and our shared ordeals on the battlefield of life. It really touched my heart and soul. I nearly drowned in my own tears.
We have been through thick and thick, but you’ve always stood by me and cared for me. You have been my love, inspiration, cheerleader, and rock.
All I can say is that you’re an amazing wonder and blessing to all who know you, and many who don’t. Thanks for always making my day bright. Only God knows where I would be with you . I love you so much ’’
Here’s a hint for you: After you have captured all those memories on paper, you will find yourself wondering which memory to use and what to discard and that can make the whole experience quite hectic.
To make things fairly easy, you can grab a sheet of paper and put down something like this:
Childhood memories---fill in the blanks with the correct info or family photos
Teenage memories---fill in the gaps with the right info or family photos
Landmark moments/memories(eg. high school and college graduation, ---fill in the blanks with the right info or family photos
It’s not finished yet. There’s more help on the way…
Mother Of The Groom Speech Examples And How To Use Them The Right Way
If you ask me or any mother of the groom wedding speech writer what the easiest way to get your ideas onto paper is, they are likely to respond with this definitive word: mother of the groom speech examples/templates.
The reason being that well-written mother of the groom speech examples and samples have so many ideas, words and phrases you can borrow and add to yours.
In addition to that, they may be used as models for guidance and inspiration.
After that, we will analyze it so that you can figure out how such examples can help you come up with the best mother of the groom speech ever.
The first thing to do is to pour heart and mind into reading the example I will be sharing shortly.
After that, please grab a pen and notepad and put down anything you wish to add to your presentation. Not verbatim though
Third, this should a word of caution:
Don’t copy it word for word because hundreds of eyeballs are glancing through this example this very minute and you risk being called a copycat if you do.
I remember years ago, someone asked me to edit his wedding speech. This person basically copied my examples word for word without even tweaking it a little bit. I think that’s so wrong and you shouldn’t do that.
Well, I can’t lay the blame on anyone considering that the overwhelming majority of mothers of the grooms find this rather lazy approach as the easy way out.
But, you don’t have to. You don’t want anyone to tell you to the face that you copied that example from the internet. Do you?
Just use it to create an original speech that’s entertaining and rich with his personal details.
Thank you all for joining us today to celebrate the union of two amazing souls, my son Jim and his beautiful bride, Janice.
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Esmile, proud mom of the groom.
Today is a day filled with joy, love, and a touch of nostalgia as I look back on the journey that brought us to this moment.
It feels like just yesterday that I was in the labor room during the Daytona 500 – yes, you heard that right! I couldn’t have chosen a more thrilling time to go into labor, and your dad, Dan, couldn’t have chosen a more exciting event to want to finish watching before we headed to the hospital.
‘’One more lap’’, he said, and I’m grateful we made it in time to welcome our little racer into the world.
From the very beginning, Jim was always an eager and adventurous child. At just 8 months old, he took his first steps, ready to explore the world and conquer it. I can’t tell you how many times he climbed out of his crib, always keeping me on my toes.
But those moments were precious, as I saw in him a determination that would shape his future endeavors.
Jim had a vivid imagination as a child, and he dreamed of becoming a firefighter or a Ghostbuster – a hero who could save the day.
While the Ghostbuster dream might have been a bit creepy, I’m glad he chose the path of a firefighter, selflessly serving his community and protecting others.
And let’s not forget his love for the drums – he could really make some noise, but hey, practice makes perfect, right?
One thing I always enjoyed was watching Jim play hockey – he had such passion and dedication on the ice. And when he wasn’t playing, I must admit, I couldn’t resist taking his Monte Carlo SS for a spin. It’s a mother’s prerogative, isn’t it?
Of course, Jim’s love for the water was undeniable, as evidenced by his boat ‘’Spot On.’’
He earned his captain’s license and became part of the Sea Tow team, making waves in his life and career. But life wasn’t just about boats and hockey for Jim – he had a big heart for his four-legged friends too.
His Dalmatian, Cash, was like his own child, and their bond was truly heartwarming. I like to believe that Cash is up there with your dad, looking down upon us today with pride and joy as they witness the love you share.
And speaking of adorable creatures, there was that Houdini-like hamster who managed to escape from its cage time and again.
It’s amazing how you both had similar experiences with your loved hamsters, Jenny.
Perhaps it was a sign of the adventures you’d share together. Janice, my dear, you have brought so much joy and love into Jim’s life, and I couldn’t be happier that he found someone as special as you.
When Jim missed the cutoff date for the fire department test, I was amazed by his determination to pursue his dreams regardless.
He became a paramedic and continued to make a difference in people’s lives, just as he will in yours, Janice.
I’ve seen the love you both share, and it reminds me of Jim’s favorite movie, Forest Gump. He always says you two are like peas and carrots – a perfect blend of unique personalities.
And let’s not forget the adorable mugshot story – a funny reminder of your wilder days, Janice.
But hey, we all have our youthful adventures, right?
And as a reminder, Jim uses that mug shot as his screensaver. I may have stumbled with a certain text message, but true love like yours can withstand any miscommunication.
As you take each step in this new chapter of
your life, I want to leave you with a few words of wisdom. May you continue to communicate openly, supporting each other unselfishly, and always standing side by side, hand in hand.
May your love grow deeper with every passing day, and may you find happiness in the little things.
So, let’s raise our glasses to Jim and Janice, two remarkable souls embarking on the adventure of a lifetime. May your love be eternal, your hearts full of joy, and your lives filled with beautiful memories. Cheers!
I hope you took away some great ideas from that example. I did. But, I want us to look at the structure of the mother of the groom speech since every word you will ever write center around it. Besides, it will help keep your thoughts on track.
If you did analyze the speech carefully, you will realize that the mother of the groom speech is organized around these bullet points:
Introduction
Body
Conclusion
First, let’s look at the first bullet point: introduction or what is usually referred to as the opening remarks.
It’s like the hook and bait of on a fishing rod. I am saying this because its job is to grab the attention of your family and friends and to draw them in to the body of your speech.
These are the core components of the introduction:
Greetings: Here’s an example:
I want to begin by saying what an incredible honor it is to stand before you all as the mother of the groom. Today is a day that has been long awaited, not just by my son Colin and his beautiful bride Nataly, but by our entire family. Your presence is deeply appreciated.
Short-self introductory remarks
This is another example: For those of you who don’t know me, I am Mitchelle, proud mom of the groom.
Thank the guests for coming
Here, you can thank the guests, the bride’s parents, your siblings, and your mom and dad for helping you take care of your son.
Please grab your notes and provide a list of people you want to express gratitude to and mention why you are thanking them. This example can give you clearer idea:
‘’ Mom was like a second mom to Mark. She helped me with everything. She did everything in her power to make life easier for me and reduce my stress during my tough times. She would keep him at her house when I was sick, while also making meals for me. She would feed him his favorite meals, brush his hair, read to him, and plant a flower garden with him. Her love was unconditional and absolute. ‘’
The other aspect of the introduction is the hook. The hook is that part of your speech that gives the wedding attendees a compelling reason to listen to you.
If you don’t do it well, they will conclude that your mother of the groom speech is going to be as boring as spending a very long time in quarantine.
Here are a few ways to make yours one to remember.
You can start with a little story about how and when he was born if it has a dramatic twist. To illustrate, Michelle was expecting to have a daughter and the doctors said she was carrying her boy.
As it turned out, she got a girl when her water broke. Such stories make really good mother of the groom speeches what they are. What’s your own unique story? Please write it down and share with the wedding guests.
Start by sharing a small story about who your son was when he was just a little boy. To show what I mean, this is how one person did it.
‘’I was always very thankful that I could be there for my son. My own father passed away when I was just six(6) years old, and that was difficult. So, when her mom was pregnant…’’
Don’t you think that would make everyone pay attention? You bet.
To strike the right emotional tone, you can use mother of the groom speech quotes or one-liners. The following mother-son quotes can help you do just that.
Sons are the anchors of a mother’s life.” – Sophocles, Greek playwright
Sons are the anchors of a mother’s life.” – Sophocles, Greek playwright
“There is an enduring tenderness in the love of a mother to a son that transcends all other affections of the heart.” – Washington Irving, author
Be strong out there, my son. Look for the love and kindness in others. Forgive yourself when you make mistakes, and enjoy the journey.” – Kirsten Wreggitt, author
“To be a mother of a son is one of the most important things you can do to change the world. Raise them to respect women, raise them to stand up for others, raise them to be kind.” – Shannon L. Alder, author
Let’s move on to the next pillar: the body
The body is the outline of the speech. It’s the flesh and bone of your mother of the groom speech.
But, here’s what I found quite disturbing. The overwhelming majority have beautiful stories about their sons, but miss the mark when condensing years of memories to crafting mother of the groom speeches.
The logical step is to write down the really good memories you would like to use. So, let’s down to it by first answering these questions:
What was it like when your son was growing up?
What are his great attributes or character traits? Is he very loving and giving?
When did he first mention the bride?
How has he become a better person since meeting the bride?
Here’s a little assignment to help you script the body.
Do you have answers to those questions? Ok…Read through the example once again for inspiration and use those answers to write a first draft. You may not like it on your first try.
But take comfort in Ernest Hemmingway’s quote: ‘’ The first draft of anything is shit’’
All you have to do is to go back and refine that messy draft until you say to yourself ‘’it looks great. I think I am good to go!’’
Do this before you think of popping the champagne. Let's look at this next thing:
What You Should Say About Your Daughter-In-Law
Don’t forget to write a few things about the bride. Here are some ideas to help you write something about her.
Write down how you felt when you first met her…don’t comment negatively even if you don’t like her
Mention how she complements your son or why they are a perfect match.
Mention how their relationship has blossomed over the years. For instance:
‘’They were both building and taking on challenges for something great, and I watched as they formed a friendship and love for each other that mothers always want to see for their sons. I appreciate you for handling my Rob like gold.’’
Now, you can pop your champagne.
Let’s look at the conclusion: Here’s an excerpt from the above template
‘’ May your love grow deeper with every passing day, and may you find happiness in the little things. So, let’s raise our glasses to Jim and Janice, two remarkable souls embarking on the adventure of a lifetime. Cheers! ‘’
On the face of it, this looks like something anyone can do with remarkable ease. It’s a rather ordinary way of wrapping up because we are used to hearing that said over and over again.
But, you can do much more than that with these tried and tested methods:
On your joyful wedding day, You begin a brand new life.
You'll share life's joy and pleasure; You'll have plenty of that, it's true.
But love is the real treasure For you both .
And if life hands you challenges, As it does to one and all, Your love will hold you steady And never let you fall.
Your wedding day is full of joy; Tomorrow you cannot see. But one thing's sure for the two of you: The best is yet to be.
By Joanna Fuchs
What about presenting a very lovely and meaningful gift to the bride and groom? Just imagine framing their vows and giving it as a gift. Have you ever thought about that?
You are because you are looking for tips and ideas and examples to help you write the best father of the groom speech ever.
Just bear with me for just a little while and I will share with you everything you need to know about writing a great father of the groom speech even if you don't know where to start.
Ok. Let's get started.
What Does A Father Of The Groom Say In His Wedding Speech?
Whenever fathers think of delivering their father of the groom speeches, all they do is to write a few stories about their sons and somehow hope that will get generous rounds of applause.But an exceptionally delivered father of the groom speech goes beyond that obvious approach.
Want to know more about the secret tips and ideas about writing a great father of the groom speech that will earn you the respect and admiration of your family and friends? We will get into that in a heartbeat.
But first picture this. Just think about how you would feel when friends and family and even total strangers come over to congratulate you and even request for copies of your story about your son and new daughter-in-law.
Or better still, picture this scenario. Your wedding speech was so good that a celebrity and other well-meaning individuals at your son’s wedding reception ask you to pose for a photograph with them.That would leave you with a profound feeling of excitement, honor and gratitude for a great job done, right?
Well, whenever John thought of writing a lovely father of the groom speech, he dreamed of all those possibilities and more.
Deep down in his heart, he felt that if only he could deliver his father of the groom speech with clarity and confidence, he would truly feel fulfilled as the groom’s dad.
But, how was he going to survive considering that he considered himself a terrible writer and speaker?
You see, the vast majority of fathers of the groom are a lot like John. They want to make their sons proud with their words, but they seem to be stuck in a rut because they just can’t find the right words that will highlight the depths of their eternal bonds of friendship as he starts the next chapter of his life with that special someone he can’t live without.
If you ever find yourself in a very spot, please breathe in and out and just relax because you have found a writing friend in me. As chapters of this post unfold, I promise to share with you proven and easy-to-follow tips and ideas that can help you go from having butterflies in your chest to having peace of mind like sunrise so you can easily write the best ever father of the groom speech.
Don’t Let This Sabotage Your Father Of The Groom Speech…Do This Instead
Before we look at how to pour your whole body, heart and soul into writing an amazing father of the groom speech, I feel it’s very necessary, though, at this point to address an issue that afflicts almost every father of the groom prior to speaking about their son’s wedding day. You have to know this, so, please don’t skip it over.
How did you feel when your son phoned you and asked you to deliver a few remarks at his wedding? Did your heart miss lots of beats? Did you feel a cold shiver down your spine? Or did you experience a sudden spike in your blood pressure?
If you experience any of those symptoms or more, then you have probably made these remarks before:
I hate being in the public eye…
I don’t have a natural aptitude for string words together like a master storyteller. Ok, I know what you are thinking.
Guess what? You are not alone. We (including world famous speakers) have all been there. When most father’s find themselves in this sticky situation, they tend to overthink it. They lose sleep about what to say and what not to say without even preparing for the task ahead.
Some, others, simply wing it thinking that they know their sons very well to come up with great stories on the fly. Not a bad idea if you are a great storyteller.
I have some fathers’ use this clever approach and I think it’s a great way to forge a strong bond with the wedding crowd if you are a naturally talented speaker. Such presentations are not only succinct and sweet but it comes from the heart. And that’s something I wish all fathers do.But, as you know, not so many fathers have a way with words.
This is what some fathers too and I think it’s the root cause of anxiety, tension, and nervousness. Due to family and work demands, some fathers put it off only to realize a few days before the wedding they don’t have a father of the groom speech in hand. Thus, settling for an ordinary speech.
Your son doesn’t deserve that, right? When it comes to writing a father of the groom speech, it’s more like a marathon and not a sprint. It often takes lots of preparation, practice and self-belief to build up your confidence and self-esteem.
So, let’s take this writing exercise like running a marathon and you will achieve your writing goals.
This is what I want you to do right away if you are still feeling anxious. Amit Ray said it best that if you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, and live in the breath.
So, please take a deep breath in and out to relax your nerves. If you take Amit’s prescription to heart, you will be taking slow but sure steps towards conquering your anxieties and also delivering a great father of the groom wedding speech with clarity and poise.
On the flip side, being nervous is actually a telltale sign of accumulated fears. Ok, I will explain. A friend of mine had an accident while learning to drive. He lost control of the wheels and almost killed himself and another person. He has since lost his zeal for car driving.
Now, most of us are like my friend. We have had series of speaking setbacks that we have repeatedly said to ourselves and others within our circles that it’s not our strong suit.
Sure, you might not have that the aptitude. I get it. But, you can dust yourself off and seize this once-in-a-life time moment to re-write your story and make your son proud with a touching father of the groom speech.
That takes us to the next chapter. I guess that’s your favorite part of this whole thing we are looking at. Ok, let’s look at it.
How To Quickly And Easily Write Your Father Of The Groom Speech
As the old age goes, proper planning prevents poor performance. By inference, proper planning leads to outstanding accomplishments.
From writing and reviewing hundreds of father of the groom speeches for my clients and others, I have seen most fathers make this classic mistake: they find some father of the groom speech examples and tweak it a bit to suit personal needs.
When I first started out as a father of the groom speech writer back in the day, I used to make that mistake too. Thank God, I am now an accomplished father of the groom speechwriter. But, it wasn’t always easy.
In the past, I didn’t know what I gotten myself into as I read several father of the groom speech templates and just modeled my speech after them. That gave me a bad rap and I run into several problems. As a result, I was labeled as a ‘’copy and paste guy. ‘’ Isn’t that sad?
Unfortunately, the vast majority of fathers seem to dabble in this unhealthy practice as well. Don’t get wrong. I am not saying that, that lazy approach is entirely wrong per se. There’s a time and place for that if you harness it properly for your good.
If all you ever do is to start writing down your father of the groom speech after studying a few father of the groom speech samples, you will end up with a not so great wedding speech for your son and daughter-in-law.
Let’s get back to what we were previously discussing. Do you still remember what I told you about proper planning being the secret to your success in the last four paragraphs?
Here’s the most important part. You first have to have to lay the foundation for your father of the groom speech in your mind considering that the battles of life are won in your mind’s eye.
So, this is what I recommend you do (I do that all the time before I put any speech together) right away.
The first thing to do is to create the desired and ideal outcome of your speech in your mind. Here are some questions to help you do just that.
What’s it that you want to say about your son?
How do you want your son to feel after listening to your words?
What do you want to say about the groom and bride?
How do you want your family and friends to feel after you are done? Teary-eyed? Happy? The best father of the groom speeches is often a harmonious blend of happy and sentimental emotions.
What’s my personality like? And what kind of father of groom speech (more on that later) does my personality type allow me to do?
One more hint: This mental exercise can set you up for success if you write everything down as if you have already achieved your pre-performance goals. Now that you have a clear direction on where this is going, let’s talk about some specifics of how to get there.
We can only do that by looking at how to build momentum for your father of the groom speech. This can only be possible if we first figure out how and where to get proven ideas for your toast.
The best way to inspire and create momentum as a father of the groom as you move forward with your speech is to ensure you are headed in the right direction.
I like to liken this to a chef who is preparing a sumptuous meal fit for a king. He can only deliver a finger-licking meal if he’s in the right frame of mind and has all the right ingredients in the right amount.
Similarly, you can only deliver a really good father of the groom speech if you have right tools to work with. But, most importantly, you need to put yourself in a focused and calm mood.
To do that, you have to go to youtube.com and insert the search bar ‘’father of the groom speech’’ and other variants of that keywords. As you do, several videos will pop up like this:
Of course, you can’t sift through all of them due to time constraints. Besides, not all of them are that good.
So, let’s go back to what I told you about creating an ideal outcome in your mind at the start of this piece. Do you still remember that? Ok, good. So, for example, if you are fun to be around, then you can probably do a funny father of the groom speech.
In this case, you can add that keyword into the search bar and watch a video like this to get you in the mood:
Again, if you are a very expressive person or have a knack for churning out great stories, you can watch a storytelling speech like this one to put you in the mood as well.
If you are someone who wears your heart on your sleeves, then you can look for a touching or sentimental father of the groom speech on that same platform. Here’s one I found for you from that domain to help put you in the mood.
Do you have an idea of what I mean by delivering a speech based on who you are? And did you notice how I kept repeating this phrase: ‘’put you in the mood’’
Let’s see exactly how it works. Putting yourself in the mood simply means putting one step forward if you have never made a speech your whole lifetime.
It also gives you a fair idea of how such speeches are made. What’s more, you can find ideas and tips you can work into your father of the groom wedding speech.
This is something you can do right now to get your momentum going: Scroll up the page to watch a father of the groom speech video clip. Then, put down in your journal or open up your document and type or write the kind of speech you would like to deliver. Will you do something funny, heartfelt, or narrative? That’s not all there is to it anyway.
If you have a creative streak, you can do bits and pieces of each style to make your father of the groom speech unique and memorable. Wouldn’t you love it?
How To Get Content Ideas For Your Father Of The Groom Speech
Next, let’s look at how and where to get content ideas for your father of the groom speech as that will form the basis for the content material.
Now, let’s look at where to get ideas for your speech.
Can you guess where those ideas are? They are all lying dormant in your mind. Fond memories of when your son was born, to when he was a little, to when he was growing, to his engagement can help you come up with great ideas for your father of the groom speech.
Well, if you don’t have a razor-sharp memory and have forgotten some very precious moments, then you can do this simple exercise to bring them back instantly.
It is often said that you shouldn’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Drawing inspiration from this quote, let’s do this now since it can help you to build and maintain your confidence as a ‘’father of the groom speech writer’’ Please, don’t put it off until another time.
First, they say a picture is worth a thousand words and I think family pictures tell a story. So, grab your old family photos (vacation, graduation, birthday, and so on ) and recent ones to help you remember all those great moments you have had with your son growing up.
Second, if you have a scrap book you can flip through it to rekindle those treasured memories.
Third, you can dig up letters or notes or emails for some reflection. Still on that, you can look for greeting cards he sent over on birthdays, father’s day, thanksgiving, Easter and Christmas Holidays.
Here’s a hint:
Go through those photos to rekindle lost memories and put down stories those pictures bring to mind. They should be memories you would like to highlight in your father of the groom speech.
Letters and the other stuff aren’t meant for reminiscing on past events alone but for also helping you recall who he was and what he stood for.
For example, if your son Jimmy wrote you a touching letter expressing his love and admiration on father’s day, you can use portions of that letter to talk about his loving and caring personality. I did this once for a mom and she loved every bit of it.
To illustrate, this is what I carved out of a long letter she sent over:
Daniel, I am so proud of you and how far you’ve come down the road of life. You have achieved a whole lot not only for yourself, but your family and in service of our country.
I remember when you were deployed to serve in Iraq the second time, we missed you so so badly and out of the blue, in January of 2010, you sent me a heartfelt poem.
In that poem, you spoke so lovingly of the love we have for each other, the great sacrifices I have made for you and our shared ordeals on the battlefield of life. It really touched my heart and soul. I nearly drowned in my own tears.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself as you review those pictures, letters, and notes.
What does this picture remind me about? Please write down your answers
Do I really want to use the stories that go with the pictures? Write down a yes or no to that.
Do you in anyway want to enhance your father of the groom speech with any of those photos? For example, you can use them as visual aids if you are doing a video presentation about your son.
Why do you need all of that? By doing this, you can vary your speaking style so you don’t sound like one of those boring guys!
After you have done all that, you then launch into the deep by figuring out how to tie the thoughts and ideas you have already written down in response to the above questions into a very touching father of the groom speech.
Let me say that if you are not very gifted with words, it can be hard to know where and how to start. If you don’t know how to get around it, you will end up with a rather incoherent speech.
To make the writing process is simple, painless, quick, and very memorable on the wedding day; you have to first study a well-written father of the groom speech example/sample closely and carefully.
I will share with you such an example. Afterwards, I will analyze it and back aspects of it up with the right examples so you can make sense of it all.
As you go about studying the father of the groom speech example, you should reflect on the following questions:
Are there aspects of the example you find interesting and fascinating?
Is there any way you can slot in the insights you got from reading it into your own writing?
Would you like to adapt the same style or you would like to come up with something else?
Do I like how it flows from the introduction to the conclusion(I will get to this in a heartbeat)
Without further ado, here it is:
Father Of The Groom Speech Example/ Template
Hello everyone. I’m Mike and I’m Eric’s father. On behalf of his mom Connie and I, we’d like to thank all of you for joining us in this very special celebration.
Erik came to us later in life than a lot of parents. So he wasn’t a surprise. He also came on his due date, which is very unusual from what I understand. So his actual birth was not unexpected either.
Still, as I was looking at this brand new miracle that had just entered into my life…I couldn’t help but think “I should have seen more movies. It’s going to be a long time before I get to see an entire movie, isn’t it?”
As a child, Eric was very kind, friendly and loved to entertain us with jokes. He had the mind of an engineer and was curious about everything. He used to look at his nookie as though he were trying to figure it out.
When he got his first bike with training wheels, he was so enamored with how training wheels worked that he tried to convince a neighbor to put training wheels on his road bike! Erik wanted him to let him know how they worked out.
Erik has always been a very good traveler. We took him to London and Paris to visit Connie’s sister when he was a little over a year old. He slept on the plane, didn’t cry, and I think even the other passengers were impressed! He even
climbed to the top of the Eiffel Tower when we got to France. Later, we got to go to Florida and see the launch of Atlantis. That was the final launch of the shuttle program, so that will always be a special memory.
He was a whizz at math. I remember a grade school teacher coming up to me and telling me that other children were coming to him for help with a math problem. That continued through college when he was a math tutor. Erik is always willing to help.
He was also a tremendous athlete in school. I remember this one sniper hockey shot that he made from midcourt.
Later, when I asked why he didn’t pass it on to a teammate he said that the teammate would have hit a pipe and missed the goal. I also have this (show baseball pic) greatest picture of all time. Erik sliding into home in baseball! It was fun watching him grow up and celebrating his accomplishments. It was also fun just to see him play.
He was very committed. He would always play for the entire season, even after others dropped out. Once he said that he was going to do something, well then you could take that promise to the bank.
He still is that way today. He’s a man of integrity, commitment, and honesty. That is why we are so happy that today he gets to make the ultimate commitment to someone who is also honest, smart, and loving.
Eileen, you are the best thing to ever happen to Erik. You are his best friend, his partner in life, and his one true love. We knew, well, we certainly expected, that you would be the one. Erik never brought women home unless he was serious.
You struck us as someone he felt more for than anyone right from the start. We are very proud of both of you and I’m so happy that our son has found someone that will bring him joy and happiness.
Tommy and Laura, you have raised a beautiful girl, inside and out. You should be so proud of her. And now we are family too! We look forward to more celebrations like this one in the years ahead.
Now is the time for advice for the couple. Erik, you need to learn the most important seven words any man can know if they plan to be happily married. Those words are and always will be “yes, dear.” “you were right” and “I’m
sorry.” The old adage, happy wife - happy life did not become an old adage because it isn’t true. It is very, very true!
Faith is important too. When you can’t see a solution to a problem when looking around, don’t be afraid to look up. God will be with you
always.
Also know that your support group, including me and your mother will always be here to assist, guide, or advise you.
I’m going to end with a movie quote. The most important value I have found is your integrity. That is something no one can take away from you. People try and test you hard, but it’s just a test, and sometimes letting go of some thingsthat looks like a really good thing, but compromising your integrity is not worth it in the long run.
So what I am saying is be true to your values and give yourself permission to “buzz the tower” every once in a while.
The two of you are heading into your greatest adventure, your greatest challenge, and your greatest accomplishment ever. Be kind to one another, and take care of each other.
I wish you all the happiness in the world. Let’s raise our glasses to Erik and Eileen! May you live happily ever after!
The Right Way To Use The Father Of The Groom Speech Examples
Can you remember what your brilliant English teacher said about the three parts of an essay back in school? Well, it’s been ages, but can you give it a whirl? You just give it a try. A wild guess would make me happy.
Please stop scratching your head…I will help you out. Here’s the answer: The three parts are: Introduction…body…conclusion.
The father of the groom speech example above has all these three parts. If you really want the writing of your father of the groom speech to go down well, you have to split your piece into these three main parts: introduction, body, and conclusion.
Your introductory remarks are like a magnetic force of attraction because it pulls everyone into your speech. So you should come up with a killer hook.
To help you do this, I am going to cull a small portion of it from the above template so you can get an idea of how to write a captivating opener. Here’s our excerpt drawn from our father of the groom speech example.
‘’ Hello everyone. I’m Mike and I’m Eric’s father.
On behalf of his mom Connie and I, we’d like to
thank all of you for joining us in this very
special celebration. ‘’
You see, there are two sides of the coin when it comes to writing a great opening address and you should always treat each side with the same care and consideration if you want your father of the groom speech to be very successful.
With that in mind, let’s look at the first side of the coin: the opening remarks
It should include these writing elements:
Greetings and short-self introduction
Expression of gratitude
State who you are and your role in the wedding. This is particularly helpful if you are doing father of the groom best man speech.
Here’s an example:
When my son asked me to be his best man, my heart missed several beats and I almost passed out. Well, I figured he could have been asked his best friend Mark because they have been friends for 30 years. But I realized that he saw me more than a dad and it brought to the fore our deepest respect and love for one another.
Got it, now?
The second part of your opening remarks is called the hook and I like it to a movie trailer. It has to inspire and engage your family and friends right out of the gate. Below are some practical ways to do just that.
First, you can tell a little story about your boy’s childhood.
Second, if his mom is not around or deceased, you can pay her a small tribute. Just don’t overdo it because your speech is loving tribute to your son and not a funeral speech. Never, ever forget that.
Third, you can make your opening lines witty by using any of these fathers of the groom speech quotes to help you sound smarter and more confident in your delivery.
These thoughtful quotes can help jazz up your speech. Please take note of the underlined quote because we will talk about it in our discussion.
“Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.”- Charles F.Kettering
“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.- Jim Valvano
“No love is greater than that of a father for his son.” ― Dan Brown
A son is the clearest reflection of his father in the world’’- Unknown
Now, let’s use the first quote to write a very short father of the groom speech.
When I look at how far my beloved son has come down the road, it reminds me of what my dad said when his grandson was born. As a new dad, I was struggling to raise a new family.
So, I sought his opinion on a few things and one of the things he said that stills run deep was: Mark, you should remember that one day your little baby would grow up to follow your example, not your advice’’
Did you notice how I infused the stressed quote into that short father of the groom speech? That’s just one way of using them to enhance a wedding speech.
As previously stated, the body comes after your introductory remarks? What do you say when crafting it? That looks easy, right? Hmm. That depends on a lot of factors.
Of the three aspects of your speech, the body is the toughest part to write. Here’s why. With so many stories about his life buzzing in your head like a swarm of bees, it can be pretty tough to separate ‘’the wheat from the chaff’’ so to speak.
But; it’s completely doable. How so? Let’s get back to the body of our speech so you can model your speech after it.
Before we look into it, there are a few things you should bear in mind before you craft the body of your father of the groom speech.
This Is How Long Your Father Of The Groom Speech Should Be
A question most fathers ask is this: How long should my father of the groom speech be? I am not here to give my personal opinion. My answer is based on my working experience of being a father of the groom speech writer for several years.
The length of your father of the groom speech should be like having your favorite meal. It should be enough to make you feel full. What does that mean? Ok, I will explain further.
I have written both long and short father of the groom speeches and in both instances, I made sure they were exciting and not boring. So, long or short is not something to worry about.
Simply put, your storyline should be engaging. But, if your son has asked you to speak for a few minutes (say five, seven, and so on), then your story should be within that time limit.
He won’t mind though if you beyond the allotted time provided your speech is lovely. I think sharing this case study will put this matter to bed. One time, I wrote a long father of the groom speech for this nice gentleman. He loved it but had a little concern about its length.
Well, we couldn’t narrow it down as he‘d wanted because he wanted to include everything about his son. In the end, he got rid of a few things in his speech. But, it was still a little bit long. To cut a long story short, he went with it and came back to say that his speech was a crowd pleaser.
Another time, I wrote a not so long speech for this grandfather of the groom and he trimmed it down to just one page and his performance was very outstanding. Did you see the difference? Long and short father of the groom speeches can work for you. You have to decide the route to take.
All in all, the content and style of your speech trumps everything else. Nonetheless, your speech is patchwork of every single detail of your son’s life and shouldn’t sound like a biography. If sounds like one, then you really need help.
Do you recall what I said about delivering your lines based on your personality at the outset of this article? Well, that is very vital when crafting the body of your speech.
If you are a funny guy, you may do a funny speech. If you get teary whenever you talk about your son, you can do a sentimental father of the groom speech.
On the whole, father of the groom speeches that blends humor, sentiments, and storytelling always seem to be preferred style the wedding crowd enjoy the most.
Having said that, let’s see how this extract (taken from the earlier example) can help you put down a decent story (the body) about your son without twisting facts.
‘’ As a child, Eric was very kind, friendly and
loved to entertain us with jokes.
Erik has always been a very good traveler. We
climbed to the top of the Eiffel Tower when we
got to France. Later, we got to go to Florida and…
He was a whizz at math. I remember a grade
school teacher…
He was also a tremendous athlete in school. I
remember this one sniper…
Do you notice anything that stands out from that summary? Ok, let’s get on with this. To compose the body, you could write down one or more of these anecdotes to get it right:
Put down memories about his childhood and pick at least two really interesting stories you would like to use.
Put down a few memorable details about his youthful years.
Here, you may talk or write about his…
First job…Was he liked by his boss? What was his work ethic like? Did he love that job? Anything about that job that makes him proud?
High school graduation and scholarly achievements…was he on the deans or honors list? Did he graduate college?
Volunteerism and sports awards received…was he on the basketball or soccer team?
If your son’s youthful years weren’t particularly eventful, you can highlight his admirable traits. Was he kind? Giving? Is he a person of faith?
Reckoning that their sons are the main focus of their wedding speeches, some fathers only talk about their sons. But, you shouldn’t have to do that. Talk about your daughter-in-law too .
This example can give you an idea about what to say about her:
Grace gives Mike strength and the belief in himself to go out and achieve all that she wants. She’s an independent, strong lady anyway, but she is happier with him beside her. They are pretty inseparable.
Let’s do this together (here’s a small assignment for you) : Can you write something about your son using what I have just shared with you? You can….so please go ahead and do it.
Let’s Look At The Closing Chapter Of This Post: The Conclusion
Whenever fathers think of rounding up their speeches, they thinking of writing it along these simple lines:
‘’Now is the time for advice for the couple. Erik,
you need to learn….
I wish you all the happiness in the world. Let’s
raise our glasses to Erik and ‘’
That’s okay as it’s a tried and tested approach of ending on a good note. But, when it comes to ending your father of the groom, memorableness should be the watch word because your closing lines are what your family and friends will remember most.
So, how can you end on a very memorable note? I am happy to share a few simple but proven ideas with you.
First, you can end with a witty quote. This quote can come from your own mind, movies, proverbs, and so on.
Don’t you think this quote will stick in the mind of your listeners if it’s used as your closing statement?
To love is to share life together, to build special plans just for two, to work side by side, and then smile with pride, as one by one, dreams all come true.
To love is to help and encourage with smiles and sincere words of praise, to take time to share, to listen and care in tender, affectionate ways.
To love is to have someone special, one on whom you can always depend to be there through the years, sharing laughter and tears, as a partner, a lover, a friend.
To love is to make special memories of moments you love to recall, of all the good things that sharing life brings. Love is the greatest of all.
Read this only if you want to deliver the best father of the groom speech ever. Are you really sure you can make your speech super memorable? If you are not too sure about this, there’s hope for you.
Glen wanted to make his only son proud with his words but he couldn’t do it because he had never given a wedding speech his whole life.
But, he knew that with our help, he would achieve his goal of having a standing ovation. He got his wishes granted and sent this note after the wedding was over.
Wedding not too far away? Or happening in less than 24 hours?Trust me, we can deliver!it doesn’t matter if your speech is today, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year,... we can make things work for you.
''The wedding was GREAT. There were about 120 guests. About 15 people came up to me afterward and told me I gave a great speech. I had to tweak it little because of my tardiness getting it to you but, it all turned out great. Thanks for all your help. I really appreciate it''- Phil Australia
Your son’s wedding is a very special milestone and you shouldn’t let him down in anyway.
That’s why we are here to help you give a wedding speech that will blow everyone away-even if you are an experienced speaker or you just hate speaking before an audience.
Yes, if you are expecting nothing less than a very special, beautiful, unique and memorable speech.
Yes, if you are overwhelmed by the pressures of work and don’t have the time to put together a very meaningful speech, so you can have peace of mind
Yes, if you want your family, children, friends, and wedding guests to shower you with very sincere compliments…just imagine how you will feel
Yes, if you are not good with words and you feel you’re not a natural writer and you are struggling to find the right words but still want to give a great speech.
Yes, you get so scared anytime you’re asked to say something before an audience and you really want to save yourself from any form of embarrassment on your son’s big day.
Yes, if you are not too eloquent or not too sure if you are on the right track.
Yes, if you absolutely hate speaking in public or feel this is not your thing but you want to make your son feel very proud
Yes, if you have a day or less to the wedding and you are worried that you might make some horrible mistakes
Yes, if you are a good speaker but you still want someone to look over or review what you've come up with!
Wedding not too far away? Or happening in less than 24 hours?Trust me, we can deliver!it doesn’t matter if your speech is today, tomorrow, next week, next month ,next year,... we can make things work for you
Just imagine leaving your entire presentation in the hands of skilled wedding speech consultants who will take away your pain of spending hours thinking hard and long about what to say and what not to say.
Also, envision being patiently guided to say something that will leave a favorable impression on the mind of your listeners.
And also imagine the thrill and feeling of excitement and pride you’re going to experience when the audience leap onto their feet and scream and shouts and even sing your praises.
Won’t you love that? I hope you do...
Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? We believe everyone deserves the best on their wedding day. Guess what?Before covid hit, we were charging a flat fee but not everyone could afford our services.
When the pandemic set in, couples were still getting married and most dads found themselves in dire economic distress.
We still wanted to help so we changed our fees to pay what you want/a fair price and that helped a lot.
That turned out to be a huge relief for most dads and they actually wrote to thank us for this kind gesture.
So, we decided to drop our usual rates going forward so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.
This is another letter a dad sent to us after we helped him deliver his speech(Please click on it to enlarge if you can't see it)
Oh Ok, How Then Do I Get Started Since I Want To Get On Board Right Away?
After that, we will send you a very short questionnaire to fill out via email! You only have to check your email a few hours after you have made your request.
Then, you fill out the questionnaire sent through your email and please have it sent back to us…
We will confirm receipt of it…If something is not too clear, we will ask you to clarify….
If not, we will send you a wonderful draft in a couple of hours if this on very short notice….If not, after a few days
Then, you look it over and tell us if you are okay with it or you want to amend or revise it till you are happy with it--although we always get it right even with the first draft
Then, we ask you to pay for it
Please note: The information collected through the questionnaire is only for the purpose of writing your speech. I wouldn’t even need it if I could read your mind. So, your information is very confidential and no one will know about it.
This is letter a dad sent to us after we helped him deliver his speech(Please click on it to enlarge if you can't see it)
Just a reminder of what you pay after it’s duly completed.
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? We believe everyone deserves the best on their wedding day. Guess what?Before covid hit, we were charging a flat fee but not everyone could afford our services.
When the pandemic set in, couples were still getting married and most dads found themselves in dire economic distress.
We still wanted to help so we changed our fees to pay what you want/a fair price and that helped a lot.
That turned out to be a huge relief for most dads and they actually wrote to thank us for this kind gesture.
So, we decided to drop our usual rates going forward so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your son’s big day is in the future.
Please note: Your speech draft comes with a proven and simple tip to master your speech or remember your speech just as you want it without carrying a paper with you.
Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!
''Hi Dan,
The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice). Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.
All the best,
Matt''
Please note: Don’t fill out this form if you’re a dishonest individual. This offer is for a limited time.
You don't have to worry about paying our per speech for now.
Forget about money and let’s write something for you. We believe in the values of honesty and integrity and we think you should be happy with our work first.
So, Here Are The Benefits You Get When You Get On Board!
A great speech written by our wedding speech consultants that reflects what you want to say exactly
We coach you on how to use your voice to make your speech very exciting.
We show you a simple but often overlook strategy to rehearse your speech even if you have a very poor memory. This method is used by great speakers like Obama and was used by Abraham Lincoln and his compatriots
The most effective way to get your entire speech into your head without memorizing your speech. Guaranteed to help you even if you have a very poor memory or your memory is like a gold fish…most of our clients still wonder where we got this idea from. This ensures that you don't read off a sheet of paper...
Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!
''Hi Dan,
The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice). Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.
All the best,
Matt''
Ways to include humor in your speech and what it takes to do so
Is the thought of writing a great mother of the bride speech is stressing you out? Please don’t worry. Just stick with me for a little while and I will share with you proven tips and ideas and examples to easily help you deliver a heartfelt mother of the bride speech.
How did you feel when your daughter called you out of the blue and asked you deliver a mother of the bride speech?
That probably might have sent a cold shiver down your spine as you wondered what you are going to say on her wedding day.
That’s the feeling most moms have when they have to write mother of the bride speeches. It can get quite nerve-wracking if you are not good with words or don’t consider yourself to be natural speaker.
Guess what? If you follow my simple but proven plan for easily writing a mother of the bride speech, you will go from feeling like a nervous wreck to becoming like an Oprah Winfrey behind the microphone.
Ok…I need this proven plan. But, where can I find it? Right here on this page, of course.
Before we get into the heart of it, let’s look at a potentially troubling issue for most moms and how you can take advantage of that to speak with poise and clarity.
Get it wrong and you will end up embarrassing yourself even if you have written the best ever mother of the bride speech. You might not know this. But, what sets wedding speakers apart has little to do with the content of their mother of the bride speeches. Confidence is, to a large extent, responsible for the success of your wedding speech for your daughter.
However, the overwhelming majority of mothers don’t have the gut to speak before the crowd because of one or more of these fears:
Fear of the unknown
Anxiety about recurring past speaking failures
Fear of perfectionism ensuing in low self-esteem
It’s absolutely normal to have all these fears and more prior to speaking in public because it’s in everyone to excel, particularly on a day like your daughter’s wedding day. Yours truly and all accomplished speakers and writers have these anxieties.
So, you shouldn’t dwell too much on your past mistakes or focus on imaginary fears. To overcome all those feelings, you have to trust in your own abilities and capabilities because no one is a better writer or speaker than you.
As a mother of the bride speech writer, I can tell you that building up your self-confidence is the first step towards helping you calm your nerves. That way, you can have the motivation to write your mother of the bride speech.
I am sure the question on your lips is…How do I build my self-confidence? It all comes down to adequate planning and executing it to the letter before you actually sit down to write or you will get stuck for ideas.
Here’s what the planning process entails:
Immerse yourself in a story or two before you start to write your script
Decide on the kind of mother of the bride speech you’d like to make
Gather content ideas for your mother of the bride speech
Make the most out of mother of the bride speech examples
Write and practice your mother of the bride speech
Let’s consider the first bullet point:
Immerse Yourself In Your Story Before You Craft Your Mother Of The Bride Speech
Sounds weird, right? Mmm…not what you think though…lol…If you have never made a mother of the bride speech before, then you have to consciously immerse yourself in the experience by first watching a couple of mother of the bride speech videos.
Here’s why:
It gives you an idea of what to say and what not to say
You are able to adapt a mother of the bride speech example you really like and copy bits and pieces just from watching it
There are many good ones you can watch and learn from. But, I think these are great ones you can some valuable insights from.
Here they are:
Mother Of The Bride Speech Video Example#1
Mother Of The Bride Speech Video Sample#2
Here’s what I learned from watching both video clips.
They are both hilarious, sincere and touching.
That’s not all….Let’s look at the next idea:
Choose The Kind Of Wedding Speech You’d Like To Do
The mother of the bride speech you choose should reflect your personality and experience. For example, if you love to tell stories, then you are better off doing narrative mother of the bride speeches.
If you are naturally funny person, then you can go for a hilarious mother of the bride speech.These are the kinds of mother of the bride speeches you can pick from.
Here they are:
Religious/Christian mother of the bride speech
Dramatic mother of the bride speech
Touching/Sentimental mother of the bride speech….Here’s a video example
Poetic mother of the bride speech
Narrative mother of the bride speech
Funny mother of the bride speech…Here’s a perfect example:
A little bit of all the above speech styles
Now, I have good news for you. If you are not a natural writer, then this handy writing tool will a valuable gift to you.
Do you have any idea what this must-have tool is? Mother of the bride speech examples. This tool contains so many lines and jokes you can plug into your presentation.
In addition to that, you can also use it as an inspiration for coming up with your script.
Take this mother of the bride speech as an example.
Here it is:
Mother Of The Bride Speech Example/Template
Hello everyone. Most of you know me. I’m Celestine, Tracy’s mom. I’m so happy to be here today, to see my youngest getting married, and to watch my family grow.
You can see that I have my share of trials and tribulation, but I am also blessed beyond anything I ever imagined. I got to be the mother of 5 wonderful children.
Tracy was the youngest. She was a gift, given to me during the hardest time in my life. I was hurt, healing slowly, and grieving my late husband.
A man appeared who had the same surname as my husband. He remembered us from a holiday and after our tragic accident, a lot of people offered him condolences, assuming he was related. But he wasn’t. He came to visit me and
told me about it. We weren’t together long, my heart still belonged to my late husband.
But he gave me a wonderful gift. That priceless gift was Tracy. She was a wonderful child. She was always fun, made us laugh, and was adored by her siblings. I suffered from migraines, and she would bring cold towels and put them on my head when she was only 2 years old!
As a teenager, she was popular and loved to party! Especially if music was involved. She would go to music festivals and outdoor concerts. There were so many times she came home covered in mud. I always wondered if she was sleeping in a tent or a pigpen!
As an adult she is still funny and smart. She is so well liked by her employer the Kerry Group. They like her so much that are probably thrilled that her name will be Mrs. Kerry now!
When she met Paul I was thrilled for her. He is so kind and treats her like a queen. He is everything a mother could want for her daughter. To his mom and dad, I have to give huge credit. You have raised a fine young man.
I am so happy to welcome him to our family! The two of you are about to embark on a wonderful new adventure. Please don’t ever forget how blessed you are. Always treat one another with respect and honesty. Don’t let bad
thoughts fester, and never let good thoughts go unsaid.
I have to take a moment to thank my other kids, They helped make her the fabulous woman she is today. I love you all so much.
And Tracy, I know that your brother and my husband are together in heaven looking down on you today, both of them proud and happy!
Let’s raise a glass to Paul and Tracy aka Mr and Mrs. Tracy! May they live happily ever after!
I love this mother of the bride speech example for three reasons. It’s simple, sincere and touching on many levels.
The worst thing you can ever do is to model your wedding speech for your daughter after that mother of the bride speech example without first figuring out how it was written. Most moms make this mistake. But, you don’t have to do that too.
This is what I recommend you instead. After giving the above example a quick read, you can read it a second and even a third time so that the contents can be seared into your sub-conscious mind.
Afterward, you should split it up and analyze it. To do that, you first need to create an outline or structure from the above example.
When you go back to read through it carefully once more, you will notice that the whole thing is built on this speech structure:
Introductory remarks or opening address
How it feels like to be a mother to the bride
She talks about her late husband
Mom shares a memory about her childhood
She mentions her teenage years and adulthood
Mother of the bride talks about the groom
She concludes by proposing a toast to the happy couple
With an arrangement like that, coming up with the right words and phrases wouldn’t be so hard. Using that as a framework, let’s start by analyzing Celestine’s mother of the bride wedding speech.
Let’s take it from the list bullet point…
The Introductory or Opening Remarks Of The Mother Of The Bride Speech
This is an excerpt.
‘’ Hello everyone. Most of you know me. I’m Celestine, Tracy’s mom. I’m so happy to be here today, to see my youngest getting married, and to watch my family grow. ‘’
Anyone can write this aspect of your wedding speech. But, I think some vital components could have been added to this section.
I am asking myself why the speaker didn’t thank family and friends who helped her raise her daughter after her husband’s demise. Anyway, I am not a mind reader.
For your presentation, you have to thank some personalities who have been a tremendous blessing in your daughter’s life.
To give you an idea, you can thank the father of the bride, her grandma and granddad, the list goes on and on.
Here’s an example….
There’s an African proverb that says, “It takes a village to raise a child”. Looking around, our “village” is here today. Life threw me / us some curve balls, and I can’t name every person, every act of kindness and support so many
people here have shown my daughters and me through the years, because we’d never get back on the dance floor, but I would like to honor and remember a few extra special people. I’d like to thank my grandmother Dixon, my mother and father, my brother and sister-in-law Dan and
Robin, my sister and brother-in-law Tam and Bill, Aunt Julie and Uncle Edgar, Aunt Evelyn, and Mel and Weis.
For your unconditional love, time, laughter, wisdom, advice, babysitting, encouragement, generosity, and sense of family continuity, we are forever grateful and have been incredibly lucky and blessed to have all of you in our lives, in good times and in bad.
This is my homework assignment: Write down a few words of gratitude for individuals who have helped shaped your precious daughter’s life over the years. Then, use it to write your opening remarks.
Let’s look at the second bullet point:
How It Feels Like To Be A Mother
You can take this from these angles:
How does it feel like to be the mom of the bride?
How does it feel like to be her mom?
How has she’s been a blessing in your life?
What does her wedding day mean to you or remind you of ?
Which of those sentiments strongly resonate with you? For example, if you wish to express your feelings about how it feels like to the mother of the bride, you can jot that down and use it to hook your audience into your wedding speech.
The hook should not only be succinct and engaging but also give subtle clues about what you wish to say. The hook could also be mother of the bride speech jokes, quotes, and other words of wisdom.
Now, this happens next:
She talks about her late husband
If your husband is deceased, you may mention it briefly. Remember, this is a happy occasion and you shouldn’t dwell so much on your loss.
I culled these lines from the above example.
‘’And Tracy, I know that your brother and my
husband are together in heaven looking down on you today, both of them proud and happy!’’
Let’s talk about the next point:
Mom shares a memory about her childhood
You can of course share more than one anecdote about her childhood if you want to focus exclusively on that phase of her life.
When you get here, you can highlight these aspects of her childhood:
Fun and fond memories
Her character traits. Was she adventurous? Loving? Caring? Had a care-free spirit? Pick one out and back it up with a good story.
Her thoughts about marriage. I remember writing Michelle’s mother of the bride speech and she asked me to insert somewhere that her daughter used to act like a bride when she was seven(7) and expressed interest in getting married early
Do you have a memorable anecdote that still sticks in your mind?
Let’s look at the next thing:
She mentions her teenage years/adulthood
This is quite similar to her infancy but this center on her transition into her teens. This period can be quite dramatic but you can still craft your mother of the bride speech from these underlying themes:
Your proudest moments like her 16th birthday party, when she got her driver’s license, her graduation, engagement, and so on.
Time spent together on vacation, getaways, camping, volunteering, etc
When she won an award for a particular cause
What are her accomplishments? Her first job, current job, grades in school, co-curricular activities?
Her support for the family, friend, and others...Is she the life of the party? And does she bring the family together on special occasions? Is she fun to be around? Does she bring out the best in others?
How does she make your life better? Another story that quickly comes to mind was when a mom of the bride wanted to badly include how supportive her darling daughter was when her beloved husband.
I think there’s something to this effect in the above mother of the bride speech example:
‘’I suffered from migraines, and she would bring cold towels and put them on my head when…! ‘’
This is my homework assignment for you: I have given you several writing ideas. What do you want to go for? Decide and write it down something and get a story or two to support your preferences.
This simple writing exercise can spur you on to coming with a draft mother of the bride speech.
We are not done yet. Let’s look at this too:
Mother Of The Bride Talks About The Groom
Never use this opportunity to say something negative about him or settle personal scores even if you feel he’s not a good guy for your daughter.
Focus on the positive side of things by talking about the fact you daughter loves her and you look forward to how they build their lives in the coming years.
If you are on good terms and have built a solid relationship with him and his family over the years, then you shouldn’t leave anything to chance.
That way, you can share your impressions of him from when you first met him, how you have seen their relationship evolve over the years to why you think he is worthy of her love.
Again, grab your pen and write down some few remarks about the groom, your son-in-law.
Here’s what I would say about him if I don’t know him well.
It’s obvious that Mike loves Kristin and I look forward to watching them grow in love as the year unfolds….
This ends it all….Guess what it is?
Your Toast Or Best Wishes
You can conclude your mother of the bride speech by proposing a toast to the happy couple and wish them well.
You can also share some marriage advice.
And have you thought about ending with a song? The wedding would be a blast if you end with this hilarious song if you are musically gifted. You can change a few things here and there to reflect your situation.
This is something to ponder about: Do you recall a special memory about when she was a little girl? Please write down lots of them and settle on your favorite. This can get you some motivation to get started.
P.S: Is the thought of giving you a great wedding speech keeping you up at night? It shouldn’t if you do what most moms do.
By following this simple plan that's guaranteed to help you write a great mom speech like the one you read above even if you feel you are not cut out for speaking in public or not a natural speaker.
Claire was quite skeptical when she came to us but we kept assuring what she will make her son and family proud-and this is what she sent over after the wedding was over.
'' Hello Dan, their wedding went very well. The usual stress beforehand for the couple organizing the event but all things to do went so smoothly. I also like to say that I'm so proud of my speech, almost got a standing ovation, lol! I'm so glad I've found you. I will definitely recommend you to my friends and family for future weddings. I wish you the very best.''- Claire, New Zealand
Want to know how she did just that? She got on board our wedding speech program and one of our talented speech consultants helped her out.
This is a letter a mom sent me after her wedding. (Please click on the image to enlarge it so you can read it)
Ok, Is This Offer For Me?
Yes, if you are expecting nothing less than a very special, beautiful, unique, and memorable speech.
Don’t have much time to write a perfect speech just as you want it because of work demands and other life's pressure or even sick? Then, let’s take care of it and the guests will definitely sing your praises--we have done it for so many others and it's your turn now!
Yes, if you are overwhelmed by the pressures of work and don’t have the time to put together a very meaningful speech, so you can have your peace of mind
Yes, if you want your family, your daughter, friends, and wedding guests to shower you with very sincere compliments…just imagine how you will feel
Yes, if you are not good with words and you feel you’re not a natural writer and you are struggling to find the right words but still want to give a great speech.
Yes, you get so scared anytime you’re asked to say something before an audience and you really want to save yourself from any form of embarrassment on your daughter's big day.
Yes, if you are not too eloquent or not too sure if you are on the right track.
Yes, if you absolutely hate speaking in public or feel this is not your thing but you want to make your son feel very proud
Yes, if you have a day or less to the wedding and you are worried that you might make some horrible mistakes
Yes, if you are a good speaker but you still want someone to look over or review what you've come up with!
Just imagine leaving your entire presentation in the hands of skilled wedding speech consultants who will take away your pain of spending hours thinking hard and long about what to say and what not to say.
Also, envision being patiently guided to say something that will leave a favorable impression on the mind of your listeners.
And also imagine the thrill and feeling of excitement and pride you’re going to experience when the audience leaps onto their feet and scream and shouts and even sing your praises.
Won’t you love that? I hope you do...
Wedding not too far away? Or happening in less than 24 hours?Trust me, we can deliver!it doesn’t matter if your speech is today, tomorrow, next week, next month ,next year,... we can make things work for you
Ok, I am Interested, What’s the Cost?
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, some daughters are still getting married and asking their moms to give speeches.
Nonetheless, not every mother could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your daughter’s big day is in the future.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your daughter and son-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your daughter’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.
''It was perfect Dan. I changed a few things in the speech. And I had several people come up and tell me how well done it was. I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for your help''- Marilyn, Canada
This is another note a mom sent me after her wedding. (Please click on the image to enlarge it so you can read it)
Oh Ok, How Then Do I Get Started Since I Want To Get On Board Right Away?
After that, we will send you a very short questionnaire to fill out via email! You only have to check your email a few hours after you have made your request
Then, you fill out the questionnaire sent through your email and please have it sent back to us…
We will confirm receipt of it…If something is not too clear, we will ask you to clarify….
If not, we will send you a wonderful draft in a couple of hours if this on very short notice….If not, after a few days
Then, you look it over and tell us if you are okay with it or you want to amend or reviseit till you are happy with it--although we always get it right even with the first draft.
Then, we ask you to pay for it. It's as simple as that!
Just a reminder of what you pay after it’s duly completed.
You simply pay what you want after you’ve got your beautiful speech.
Why? As you know, the current health and economic crisis has caused severe hardships for most people.
Precious lives have been lost, jobs wiped out and families displaced, leaving everyone wondering what the future holds.
Yet, some daughters are still getting married and asking their moms to give speeches.
Nonetheless, not every mother could afford our services even before the pandemic suddenly hit us.
So, we have dropped our normal rates so you can simply pay what you want after you have got your beautiful speech.
Please note: When life gets back to normal, this offer will be scrapped for good.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your daughter’s big day is in the future.
Even though we are going through this crazy time, if you do a poor job at it, your speech will be captured on video and your daughter and son-in-law and other viewers will forever remember what you said and would not attribute your poor performance to the fact there was a deadly disease in town.
So, please take advantage of it now even if your daughter’s big day is in the future by simply paying what you want after you get your beautiful speech.
''It was perfect Dan. I changed a few things in the speech. And I had several people come up and tell me how well done it was. I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for your help''- Marilyn, Canada
Please note: Your speech draft comes with a proven and simple tip to master your speech or remember your speech just as you want it without carrying a paper with you.
Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!
''Hi Dan,
The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice). Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.
All the best,
Matt''
Please note: Don’t fill out this form if you’re a dishonest individual. This offer is for a limited time.
You don't have to worry about paying our per speech for now.
Forget about money and let’s write something for you. We believe in the values of honesty and integrity and we think you should be happy with our work first.
So, Here Are The Benefits You Get When You Get On Board!
A great speech written by our wedding speech consultants that reflects what you want to say exactly
We coach you on how to use your voice to make your speech very exciting.
We show you a simple but often overlook strategy to rehearse your speech even if you have a very poor memory. This method is used by great speakers like Obama and was used by Abraham Lincoln and his compatriots
The most effective way to get your entire speech into your head without memorizing your speech. Guaranteed to help you even if you have a very poor memory or your memory is like a gold fish…most of our clients still wonder where we got this idea from. This ensures that you don't read off a sheet of paper...
Just see what someone said about that great tip that's proven to calm your nerves and help you speak with purpose, poise, and clarity!
''Hi Dan,
The speech went very well, I modified it a bit and practiced it as you suggested (great advice). Thanks for all your help and if I need a prepared speech again I’ll definitely contact you.
All the best,
Matt''
Ways to include humor in your speech and what it takes to do so